Hello Ladies, may i join in ?
I have a slightly different story than the others. I have 4 children (ages 16-5) and the only one who lives with me is my youngest. My oldest pitched a fit and wanted to live with her father, and because of the things she was doing i gave her my blessing, she currently refuses to speak to me but i chalk it up to the fact she's 16 and hope one day she will wake up. My middle 2 live with my ex after some stunts he pulled, and to make a long story short i felt my kids were much better off with me, but he threatened repeated court actions (and had started to follow them up) and i felt like my children needed stability, so while he's not the best parent he's not abusive or neglectful and it was better than them being in court every few months...
So my DH looked for a new job, we packed it up and moved 1000 miles away (from all the drama and crazy) and we have tried to begin our life together with my 5 year old son. We have been TTC for 13 months and while i clearly have no problems, we have been struck with secondary unexplained infertility.
For the past 13 months we have been "trying" but not really doing much about it, and as we actively want a baby (as opposed to, hey if it happens we're ok with that !) then i dont feel i have much reason to be upset every month with i think im late and i start peeing on sticks only to be terribly disappointed when my period shows up later that day or the next . I have a prescription for both Clomid and Metformin, and i ovulated earlier this month than expected... As the Metformin gives me diarrhea i didn't think i needed to add that to my 103 fever and my newly ruptured ear drum, but since when my next cycle starts the end of the month we'll be using Clomid, i think it's time to buckle down.
ive seen people saying they're becoming too obsessed with charting and temping and so on and so forth, and while sex is times that doesn't mean it has to be a chore, my DH is NOT dying that he HAS to have sex with me every day for a week, and in fact he got none last week due to my illness, so he's excited
Sorry i got off track... .so my next cycle we're doing it all. I bought a Basal thermometer today and tomorrow i will be temping, i will be charting and paying for the FF app (unless someone can advise another app, perhaps where you pay one time and it's paid for and works well ?), i will be starting the Metformin again ASAP, ive been on my prenatal vitamins and i ordered both more Pre Seed and OPK's and soft cups, i will be taking the Mucinex as well.We will be doing everything we can in order to conceive, and really making sure we have the best possible chances.
While i can understand this is going to drive me slightly crazy, i feel it's the best way to "stack the cards in our favor" so to speak. We've done what needed to be done, testing etc so now the only thing we can do is WORK to conceive, instead of idly trying.
So when i was very young and had kids people told me "Well you got your kids out of the way now you can live your life when you get older" and for awhile i figured they were right, then i got divorced and reality set it, so here i am remarried and starting again.
Good luck to all
