Anyone NOT having sex?

[madseasons]

i feel so unattractive right now so going to sit on my oh really isn't at the top of my list

^^^^this

 

[Ashersmomma]

We haven't had much sex this pregnancy. Which is really different from my first pregnancy. I wanted it all the time and if for some reason we didn't that day, it was usually DH that said no!
For a while this time around it was just too uncomfortable for me. I just felt so tender all the time. A few weeks into 2nd tri, I started feeling pretty good and wanted sex fairly regularly. Now that I'm in my 3rd tri, I really want it, but with the hip pain and cramping, my body just can't handle it! And it's so frustrating!! I feel like a horn dog most of the time and I just can't do anything about it. DH is pretty understanding about it, but I know he misses it. I'm just hoping to have a few good days before she gets here so we can have some fun, since my OB says no sex for 6 weeks after C-section Of course I don't think we waited that long after DS.

 

[ThinkPositiv]

Zero sex here! Last time was time we conceived! Same with last pregnancy too! I am unnecessary Leary with so many miscarriages to have sex in first tri..... Then by the time I'm over that my hubby is worried he will hurt baby and can't seem to focus on things..... So nope, no sex. And this time with massive varicose veins in my ho ha, I wouldn't even attempt! Ouchie!

But,
We got back to it last time by about 10 weeks postpartum..... And by 6 months were back to 2-4 times a week..... Awkward at first but it works out!

 

[nikkie122]

I am with you ladies.. It has been quite awhile since we have. Once I started getting bigger DH was worried about the baby so he doesn't want to do it.. So it will be awhile before we do.. I miss it as well but at this point I do not feel attractive at all and don't know that I could manage to stay up long enough anyway.

 

[Kirsty3051]

We're still having sex at least once a week. I'm so big now, he keeps joking that I'm going to snap it off if I lose my balance. X

 

[KrissyKris22]

I feel so unattractive right now so going to sit on my OH really isn't at the top of my list

Hahaha this is hilarious.

 

[madseasons]

We're still having sex at least once a week. I'm so big now, he keeps joking that I'm going to snap it off if I lose my balance. X

That's great!!! I wish we were hahaha

 

[Dobsd]

We have barely had sex the whole pregnancy, maybe three times a month?! It has stopped completely now because I'm feeling too tired and big. He never instigates sex with me, so if I don't try it just doesn't happen Pretty sure he has lost all attraction for me!!

I am sure that is not the case, it is more likely that he knows how you are feeling and might be worried he will be rejected if he tries to initiate?

He didn't have the biggest sex drive before pregnancy but it has now just disappeared completely (as far as sex with me is concerned). I know he still watches porn and he still comments on women on TV, so it is still there... Just not for me

 

[MollyNorwood]

We have barely had sex the whole pregnancy, maybe three times a month?! It has stopped completely now because I'm feeling too tired and big. He never instigates sex with me, so if I don't try it just doesn't happen Pretty sure he has lost all attraction for me!!

I am sure that is not the case, it is more likely that he knows how you are feeling and might be worried he will be rejected if he tries to initiate?

He didn't have the biggest sex drive before pregnancy but it has now just disappeared completely (as far as sex with me is concerned). I know he still watches porn and he still comments on women on TV, so it is still there... Just not for me

Aww hun I am sorry I would have a massive problem with that if Dh was looking at porn and satisfying himself when he has a perfectly serviceable and available wife waiting in the wings. I know my DH would be very upset if I were doing that but rejecting him- which is not the case here. Have you tried talking to him about it?
Sometimes men find it easier and less of an effort to use porn rather than initiate with their wives mostly due to laziness, many dont see what damage its doing to their marriage

 

[Dobsd]

We have barely had sex the whole pregnancy, maybe three times a month?! It has stopped completely now because I'm feeling too tired and big. He never instigates sex with me, so if I don't try it just doesn't happen Pretty sure he has lost all attraction for me!!

I am sure that is not the case, it is more likely that he knows how you are feeling and might be worried he will be rejected if he tries to initiate?

He didn't have the biggest sex drive before pregnancy but it has now just disappeared completely (as far as sex with me is concerned). I know he still watches porn and he still comments on women on TV, so it is still there... Just not for me

Aww hun I am sorry I would have a massive problem with that if Dh was looking at porn and satisfying himself when he has a perfectly serviceable and available wife waiting in the wings. I know my DH would be very upset if I were doing that but rejecting him- which is not the case here. Have you tried talking to him about it?
Sometimes men find it easier and less of an effort to use porn rather than initiate with their wives mostly due to laziness, many dont see what damage its doing to their marriage

Yeah have spoken to him about it a few times. The thing is, if we are having sex, I really don't mind him watching porn... But when he constantly turns me down and still watches it, it's pretty upsetting.
Just hope it gets better at some point after baby is here!

 

[StranjeGirl]

None here! I had mild uterine prolapse so dr said no sex. We've only been intimate once because I was so sick in the beginning and then just started getting uncomfortable down there. I don't think my uterus is prolapsed anymore, but I am so swollen and uncomfortable down there that I couldn't even think of sex right now. Poor dh, but I think he understands!