Anyone over 45 TTc ?buddies needed <3

[battyatty]

Hi there I am 46, will be 47 in a few weeks, my DH is 39. I have 3 kids youngest is 12, but decided a month ago I wanted to try one more time!

I dithered for a week about telling my doctor, I was worried he would laugh at me and tell me to go home and wait for a granddaughter! But I bite the bullet. Went in last week and he was so fantastic! He removed my coil and took my bloods for testing!
I went back this morning to get the results and everything came back amazingly brilliant! I was so happy I could've kissed him!
My FSH level is 7.3 and my LH is 4.7!

I have been monitoring my MC and BBT and it showed that I ovulated this morning! So the doc has arranged for my progesterone to be done after my next AF and he has also contacted the fertility clinic as it will take 3 months to get a appointment!

So to all you ladies go to the doctor! I understand, but wow it was so helpful!

So I am waiting for my next AF to start trying and would really love a buddy!

 

[BBbliss]

I'm 44 in a few weeks and the best thing I did was to go to my dr. As soon as I decided to start trying. I'm engaged and FH doesn't have kids. I removed IUD in April and had blood work done in May. All great!!! My dr wanted to stat me on clomid right away but I asked to try on my own first for a couple of cycles. I went in for an HSG A couple of weeks ago and found out my tubes are blocked. Now looking back I lost 3 months of time when I should have had the HSG right away, now I have an appointment with a specialist on Friday to see how I can get my tubes unblocked or if they will even do it given my age. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

Good luck to all you ladies may we all be blessed soon

 

[battyatty]

Sorry to hear about the HSG, all of this so new to me, I'm googling all the time to find out what all this stuff is about, I only found out about FSH a few weeks ago, never mind all the rest!

My first 3 kids were so simple, my first attempt I got pregnant on my first cycle and the other 2 while on the pill! Infact my third was a total shock, was breastfeeding my 9 month old and on the mini pill when I found out I was pregnant again!

This time is so different, I have a new partner and he doesn't have any, and I so want another baby with him, but my age, eek this is going to be a rollercoaster.

We are both scared of it not working and the idea of MC is terrifying! I have had 2 over the years!

But unless we try we shall never know, and as all my tests have come back so positive, I feel more confident!

 

[BBbliss]

Batty, I'm the same, I had to learn fast and have done so much reading these past 4 months its not even funny.

My situation is also similar, two kids is high school and a new man whose dream is to be a dad and I know he's going to be a great dad. It's going to take a miracle but we can do it!

 

[battyatty]

Well BBbliss I wish I was your age lol. Maybe we should buddy up when's your next AF?
What do you think?

 

[BBbliss]

Well BBbliss I wish I was your age lol. Maybe we should buddy up when's your next AF?
What do you think?

Lol, isn't that funny? I was tired of being the oldest on all the other threads. Thank you for making me feel young,

Us girls need to stick together
My AF is doe around September 7th. Still 10 days away, but with my tubes being blocked I stopped counting

Hey btw, one of my best friends has a friend who got pregnant naturally at 47 and was in complete shock, and shes a doctor!! with two sons in college.

 

[marathongirl]

Hi Ladies I just wanted to say hi and give you a positive story. I am turning 44 next month and had my rainbow baby in April at 43.5!!! I also have 2 older kids 11 and almost 10. It was a bit of a process but we finally did it after 2 cp's and 2 mc's. I am with a new partner and just knew we had to have one of our own. I'm cheering,praying, sending you Ladies all positive thoughts. Feel free to pm me or ask me any questions on here. I would love to be able to share what worked for me.

 

[battyatty]

Right I'm hoping my AF is due 10th Sept, not quite sure as I've only just had my IUD removed on the 20th Aug, so my cycles maybe all over the place!

If you want stories I have 3!

A good friend got pregnant last year at 47, she was so shocked! Another mother at my sons school just had a son at 46, and to top it off the receptionist at my doctors just had twins at 45!

So I know its possible, but weather with me, hey who knows??????

BTW how do you get your FF chart up in your signature?

So lovely ladies lets show these young-uns were amazing!

 

[BBbliss]

Hi Ladies I just wanted to say hi and give you a positive story. I am turning 44 next month and had my rainbow baby in April at 43.5!!! I also have 2 older kids 11 and almost 10. It was a bit of a process but we finally did it after 2 cp's and 2 mc's. I am with a new partner and just knew we had to have one of our own. I'm cheering,praying, sending you Ladies all positive thoughts. Feel free to pm me or ask me any questions on here. I would love to be able to share what worked for me.

Marathon girl, congratulations! It's so nice to hear the success stories directly from the source. Please share with us what you think worked for you. Nothing here is TMI

 

[BBbliss]

Right I'm hoping my AF is due 10th Sept, not quite sure as I've only just had my IUD removed on the 20th Aug, so my cycles maybe all over the place!

If you want stories I have 3!

A good friend got pregnant last year at 47, she was so shocked! Another mother at my sons school just had a son at 46, and to top it off the receptionist at my doctors just had twins at 45!

So I know its possible, but weather with me, hey who knows??????

BTW how do you get your FF chart up in your signature?

So lovely ladies lets show these young-uns were amazing!

Yes you are right your AF may take a cycle or two to become more regular after IUD. What kind did you have? I have the mirena ... Well, after I found out my tubes were blocked I googled "mirena blocked tubes" and found out there's a class action suit against them from woman that say the mirena caused it. Just look into it if that's the case and maybe do an HSG and blood work right away. The blood work you can have done on the 3rd day of your cycle. I did mine on my first cycle after the IUD. It's good to know what's going on with your body. I also had a short LP on my first cycle and started taking vitex to help regulate my cycle and I believe it also helped with my menstrual cramps, my first couple of cycles were really painful. I hope you don't have any of the issues I did, on the other side of it I also read that you could become extremely fertile right after IUD removal my cousin got pregnant on second cycle after mirena.

For the chart, go to the web page and and find where they have "codes", from what I remember, copy and paste it on your signature. That should work

 

[battyatty]

Yes you are right your AF may take a cycle or two to become more regular after IUD. What kind did you have? I have the mirena ... Well, after I found out my tubes were blocked I googled "mirena blocked tubes" and found out there's a class action suit against them from woman that say the mirena caused it. Just look into it if that's the case and maybe do an HSG and blood work right away. The blood work you can have done on the 3rd day of your cycle. I did mine on my first cycle after the IUD. It's good to know what's going on with your body. I also had a short LP on my first cycle and started taking vitex to help regulate my cycle and I believe it also helped with my menstrual cramps, my first couple of cycles were really painful. I hope you don't have any of the issues I did, on the other side of it I also read that you could become extremely fertile right after IUD removal my cousin got pregnant on second cycle after mirena.

For the chart, go to the web page and and find where they have "codes", from what I remember, copy and paste it on your signature. That should work

I think I managed the chart lol

I've had some bloods taken (got my FSH and LH) and waiting for my next AF for the progesterone.

Yes I have had the mirena since 2001! Oh my I hope my plumbing isn't blocked!

Starting to worry about when I do start to try..... I've never really done anything like this before, when younger I just got pregnant, now at my age.............??????
Some days I am full of, it wont be a problem, my results have come back positive. Then other days I am terrified, what if I don't have eggs, what if, what if.........?
I have read threads and the lengths that some women have gone thru absolutely terrifies me!! How do they do it month in, month out?

 

[BBbliss]

Batty, I hear you... Every test I do I get so nervous and I also had all the what ifs you can think of, but its better to know soon! When I had the day 3 test done they also tested my AMH and I was so happy to at least know I have eggs! So at least one good thing on my favor, because that one to me personally would have been devastating, specially after all the reading I had done. I also had the mirena for about that long.

I just came back from my RE consultation and I feel much better and full of hope. He wanted to go strait to IVF but I said I want to try to unblock the tubes first and he said "ok" just like that. We had an ultrasound to determine my AFC and I had 23 follicles total and I know I just ovulated. So I'm good there, I know that's a great number. We schedule another HSG to confirm my diagnosis and if my tubes are really blocked he will do a cannulation the same day and I'll be good to go

I'm full of hope! It will happen

Your chart picture doesn't show. Just the "my fertility chart" part maybe it's another code or part of it is missing? Good luck!

 

[battyatty]

Yah i think this time I've figured out my chart! lol

I spent this morning looking into what tests I need to get and I think the 2 biggest ones are progesterone and AMH. My doctor has me booked for the progesterone, 7 days before O and 7 days after, but he hasn't mentioned AMH? So when I go for the progesterone bloods I will ask if he does AMH. Then I think thats nearly everything my local GP can do!

Its up to me and my fella to try and do our bit till we get the appointment with the fertility clinic, it's about a 3 months waiting list. They will probably do more tests and the such.
So for now just waiting to get started and see what happens!

Oh I am taking Vitex in tincture form, (yuck) my very good friend who is a herbalist started me on that straight away, thank goodness I only have to take it up to ovulation!
She has also told me to give it 3 months and if no joy she has loads of other things she can give me, but she did suggest red clover, so in the morning I'm going out to pick it fresh after the dew, to dry at home and take as tea. (I live out in the country so theres a huge supply)

 

[BBbliss]

I'm also on vitex, it really helped I believe. I'm having my progesterone checked and that will be the last thing I need to do. The AMH I believe is one of the most important ones because that, you can't change unfortunately. You could order the test any day of your cycle so you can request it at the time they do your progesterone. That way you can get a head start in knowing where you stand. Look into taking coQ10, studies show it improves egg quality. Even you you have a lot what really matters is the quantity.

It's so nice you can get the red clover fresh yourself. That's a nice treat

I see your chart! Yay!

 

[marathongirl]

Thanks for responding BBbliss. Where do I start? Dh and I started ttc ing in April 2011. I wasn't successful the first month and thought ok what now. I started opk's the second month and that still didn't work? How foolish was I thinking that if you timed bd just right you would automatically get pregnant!
The next month I researched and found an acupuncturist who specialized in infertility. I saw her every week for the next 2 months and started charting. My charts changed and I could see that the acupuncture was doing something. She definitely did different points depending on where I was in my cycle. I did get pregnant in September after having acupuncture weekly from June. Unfortunately that ended in mmc at 12.5 weeks in November. I was heartbroken and it took a long time for my body to heal and be ready again.
Over that winter I started seeing another TCM practitioner that believed more in herbs as my acupuncturist was on mat leave of all things. She diagnosed me with a cold uterus and I took a lot of warming or kidney yang herbs. She also told me not too eat anything cold or raw. I was used to eating a big salad and fruit smoothie everyday. I changed my eating and ate soup instead of salad and cooked my fruit into oatmeal everyday. I never, even now, drink cold water always hot or room temperature. I started noticing a change again. My digestion and elimination was much better. Like I was able to "go" everyday and this was a new thing. I took the herbs religiously or 4 months and then started feeling like I was getting too hot. I had always been a cold person up until this point. Oh yeah and she told me to cut way back on any exercise as well as this just uses your kidney yang. I am a marathon runner so this was tough but I did it. I tried to not exercise as much or as intensely.
By June my acupuncturist was back and I started seeing her again but only once a month or so. I did get a BFP in June that resulted in a mc at 6 weeks. I forgot to say that in January of this same year so after the first but before the 2nd miscarriage I went and saw a FS just in case. He did my day 3 bloods and all came back really positive. My FSH was 5.2 and I don't remember the rest. I saw him again after the 2nd mc and we had decided to wait 2 more cycles and then try a medicated IUI cycle. He said that it was a matter of getting a "good" egg and that with meds I would produce more follies and have a better chance of getting a good one. We didn't need it was I got my rainbow BFP in August. That cycle I was back to doing acupuncture weekly and I was doing herbs with another TCM practitioner. Her protocol was a bit different in that she boosted kidney yin during follicular phase and then a couple of days of something different around O and then a bunch of kidney yang herbs after O. I continued taking these herbs until I was about 8 weeks pregnant. I also took progesterone suppositories for 12 weeks once I got my BFP. I insisted on it with FS even though he tested progesterone and didn't think I needed it.
I really feel the Chinese Medecine and changing my diet helped a lot. I also don't eat dairy or wheat as a rule. I am not totally gluten free as I eat spelt and oats. I also cut way down on soy and changed to almond milk. I eat mostly organic as well.
I feel like I just continually looked for new things and every time I found something it gave me new hope. I never gave up and really tried to stay positive. I tried to meditate and just imagine myself being pregnant and having a baby. I really tried to take at least 10-15 mins a day to relax and do some deep breathing as well. All I can say is don't lose hope and be a sponge. Take every grain of info and think about whether you can use it or incorporate it into your regime. I know it can be overwhelming at times. I also tried not to make a big deal about O time with dh. I wanted our bd to be more natural and not just dictated by Ov time. We did bd pretty much the same all month long except for maybe a couple of extra times around O. I do realize that this can't always work if dh has sperm issues.
If anyone has any specific questions feel free to pm me I'd be happy to pass along any info that might help. Sorry for the long post Ladies

 

[BBbliss]

Marathongirl, I applaud you for your discipline you deserve your success. Thank you for sharing your story. I don't know that id be able to do ALL. I do try to drink room temp water, I have slowed down my exercises and I take tons of supplements. I do hot yoga and Acupunture weekly. I guess for me the diet is the hardest part.

 

[marathongirl]

Marathongirl, I applaud you for your discipline you deserve your success. Thank you for sharing your story. I don't know that id be able to do ALL. I do try to drink room temp water, I have slowed down my exercises and I take tons of supplements. I do hot yoga and Acupunture weekly. I guess for me the diet is the hardest part.

I have read your posts and it seems like you are doing most of it. It's so hard I know but all you can do is your best. We are only human. Do you drink coffee or tea I can't remember? I definitely have that up too and I still haven't started back even with a newborn. I did really cut back on sugar as well as my acupuncturist said it is hard on the spleen and I had some deficiency there too. I might think about replacing the hot yoga with yin yoga? More relaxing and not as depleting? Just a thought? The diet was really hard for me too and probably the last thing I changed. Even during my 1st pregnancy that ended at 12 weeks my acupuncturist was telling me to stop eating the cold foods but I couldn't. I was craving them. Does your acupuncturist tell you what he/she is doing? Do you really trust what they are doing? That's important as well. I know if you keep all of your hard work up it will pay off. Keep it up. I'm so rooting for you all!!!

 

[marathongirl]

I just read your siggy and noticed you've only been trying since May!!! It will happen for you I really believe it

 

[BBbliss]

Marathongirl, yes, I've only started TTC and I right away became obsessed with knowledge and I read everything I could, every time I heard of anything I researched it and I tried to fit all that I thought would benefit me, I also dropped a few things. Like you I drink smoothies almost everyday and that's how I get a lot of my greens and I still feel good about it. I have a cup of cappuccino every morning so there's my caffeine and diary. I gave it up for a month but then really missed it... The hot yoga is a bit depleting you are right but I only do it once a week, I feel it helps me eliminate so many toxins I otherwise don't suet much at all.

I also meditate regularly and I benefit so so much from it. My acupuncturist is very motherly and I do trust her, she's a bit strange but I think it's because she's very intuitive so I always hear things I need to hear every time I go.

I just noticed your baby girl was born the same wk I got engaged

 

[Delphine11]

Some days I am full of, it wont be a problem, my results have come back positive. Then other days I am terrified, what if I don't have eggs, what if, what if.........?

I so identify with that comment! I have optimistic days and then OMG days where I worry that I'll never get pregnant. It's nice to know that that's normal to be up and down like that.

It's been a few days since I posted here and I can't remember if I mentioned diet - I don't think I did. So - I'm trying to eat healthily (i.e cut out lots of the nutrition-free treats like biscuits and cake) but I don't obsess about it because I think that might cause stress.

I've changed to full fat milk as I read a study saying that that increases fertility; I try to eat oily fish two or three times a week; I eat a good amount of fresh veg and fruit; I eat nuts to up my fat intake as I read that women trying to conceive need to eat plenty of fat; I've reduced my caffeine intake to a cup or two of coffee a day and one cup of tea (I used to have double that); I still drink alcohol but, again, I've reduced that significantly; I sprinkle linseeds and pumpkin seeds on my cereal; and I've increased the amount of eggs I eat.

I do feel healthier if nothing else so that must help. I've read articles online stressing how important nutrition is, especially when you're older and TTC.

The idea of the 'golden egg' is one that makes sense to me. I'm hoping there's one there and all I have to do is catch it!