Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[babyjan]

Button and Mrs W, it's a real period, heavy and painful! I hope from here on my cycles are regular

 

[brunettebimbo]

Well these are my opks. Right hand one is today, cd30. I'm so over this cycle now!!

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How long are your cycles usually? Do you chart?
I don't use OPKs because I've never had a positive. I must have a quick surge. Have you had a positive before?

Babyjan good luck with next cycle!

 

[Munchkin30]

My cycles are usually 29-31 days and I always get a positive! Ov cd 15-17. I also have a fade in pattern where they get darker and darker. I'm really irritable today so I'm wondering if AF is on her way and I'll just not ov at all, so long as something happens it's ok!!

 

[slg76]

muchkin, sorry your body isn't cooperating. I've been in your shoes. My cycle after my mc was 111 days! I know it's so hard to wait when you just want to be back on track. Hang in there; your body is working on it!

I think I'm CD10 today and no surprise my FRER was negative. Time to hurry up and wait some more

 

[Button#]

Good luck for next cycle BabyJan

Slg - that is early testing!

 

[tootyfruity]

Hi everyone, I still follow this thread as I can relate to so much that you have going on. Font think I've missed any of the conversation lol.

Anyway I have a question or 2 for whoever can help me, I have booked to see an acupuncturist in June, I checked that she works with ttc which she does.does it matter Where you are in your cycle as to when you have it done? And how often so you have it done? Is once a month ok? Thanks

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi tootyfruity. I imagine acupuncture is different in different places but with mine I just tell her where I am in my cycle (ie no bloody where!!) she can be more aggressive before ov and very gentle after ov if you're ttc. Mine does 6 sessions initially every week then I'm not sure after that!!

 

[tootyfruity]

Thanks munchkin, yes I imagine it is different in different places, wow. Once a week that could be expensive! It will be £38 per session for me. Now im wondering if it will be worth it.
I hope you're cycles get sorted soon! I know how it feels when you just want to get back to normal.

 

[slg76]

Hi tootyfruity!
Nice to hear from you. I haven't "seen" you around in ages.

I do acupuncture regularly. It is helpful to know where you are in your cycle because they can treat for each cycle phase (follicular, luteal). But, you can go anytime since they can also support your reproductive system in general. My acupuncturist saw me for a while once a week. Once I started cycling we spaced it out to once or twice a month (while I'm bleeding and right before ovulation). I'm sure each acupuncturist is different and I'm sure anyone who is any good will explain everything to you and work with your budget. I think it is absolutely worth at the very least going in for a consultation. I've had amazing results with my treatments!

 

[Mrs W 11]

I have acupuncture too. He told me it would take around 3 cycles to get my cycles regular and now I have done 3 cycles of seeing him weekly and he is happy the acupuncture is working he only wants to see me at the beginning my my cycle, before ovulation. After I have ovulated he prefers to leave my body to do its magic so we will see how that goes this month. I agree it's well worth trying but I think you'd need to be willing to commit for at least 3 cycles before deciding if its working or not.

Munchkin hopefully af is on the way if you haven't ovulated so that you can start a new cycle. Then you would be onto cycle 3 right? And hopefully your cycle will be getting on track and ready to ovulate.

I'm feeling really weird. I've had a horrible lower back pain all day which started yesterday. Is odd I saw my acu yesterday and mentioned I'd had a bad lower back pain during af so he treated me for earth rather than fire as it covers the kidneys. I wonder if that could be linked to the pain I'm suddenly having? He also said he was doing blood nourishing and I've been madly thirsty yesterday and today. I drank about 2 pints of water through the night. Generally though, I feel exhausted and drained, completely shattered. And I have heartburn. So I feel pregnant! And I'm not. Which totally sucks. I don't even want any wine

 

[Munchkin30]

Boo mrs w I'd totally stopped the wine since a week last Thursday and then I had a glass last night and it went right to my head!!
I'd say if nothing else the acupuncture relaxes me. It's a lovely experience and you feel great after, which I think is well worth the 40 quid!

 

[tootyfruity]

Hi slg i have been around but just not said much

I think i might contact her and see what see suggestes then its up to her to offer me something,
ive been worrying that things are not quite right with me (i get this often) i feel like there must be a reason why i havent got pregnant yet (im probably just thinking to much)
i went to the doctors the other day as i was worried i had an infection so have used pessary type things to 'treat' that, i have a horrible feeling that i have an infection in my uterus just because the miscarriage took so long to happen it makes snese, but im sure i would of had lots of symptoms if thats the case.
Although today i had some brown/red discharge i am cd 8 and af stopped 3/4 days ago. i may go to docs tomorrow to have swabs done as they didnt do that last time.

sorry for the essay, thought you guys may have some advise.

 

[slg76]

MrsW. I'm so sorry you are feeling so badly. Tbh, I get a little angry when I get pregnancy symptoms and know that I am not. I feel like it's rubbing salt in the wound. I hope your body straightens up quickly.

Tootyfruity.
I would say to follow your intuition. If nothing else you can rule out medical causes and put your mind at ease. Sounds like you need a full OBGYN workup. My cycle stopped after my mc. It took three months to get a period. There was nothing medically wrong per say and I didn't have any retained tissue or anything. I only got a cycle after I had an acupuncture treatment or two. I think my body just got sort of stuck. I know every month feels like forever when you are trying and not getting pregnant

 

[tootyfruity]

a full OBGYN work up sounds just what i need, but we dont get things like that here, i would only get referred if the gp KNEW there must be something wrong, i think ill see how i go for a few days.
it certainly is a journey this ttc but i gotta stay positive and b thankful for what i have for now.

 

[slg76]

Where are you fruity?

I would suggest exaggerating any symptoms you have. I hate it when doctors don't take patients seriously. I tend to "suck it up" and minimize things about myself. So, if I really need the doctor to take action I say my pain is at an 8 instead of saying it's a 4. Or I'm so uncomfortable I can't sleep or cramps everyday. Get what I mean? Sometimes you just know when something is wrong.

I went to the dermatologist two weeks ago for a little spot on my nose that wasn't healing. He said that he couldn't imagine it was anything other than a normal pigment change but he did biopsy it because I have a history of cancer. Sure enough, the biopsy came back precancerous. I think 9 out of 10 people would have ignored a spot so small but I knew it wasn't right.

 

[celine]

Urgh munchkin id be so frustrated at those opks

Hope you all had a good weekend, here we had mothers day and i had such an emotional day. My first loss was concieved last mothers day, my cousins unplanned pregnancy was born ton mothers day yesterday, she is doing well considering the circumstances, loving relationship but baby born with cleft lip & palate (like me)
At church i was meant to do the sunday school whoch i was fine with as we had intended to dedicate our baby to God on mothers day like we did our living kids two years ago. I didnt realize the sadness i had til i stepped in, i saw a baby born when i was due that first time and i broke down n tears.
Husband was serving in church as well, he was behond the computers doing multimedia but one guy said to him he needed to be with his wife today, this guy spoke to hubby briefly but he himself had a (further along) loss years ago, his 8 year old is actually a twin
So he sat with me as i cried and grieved that i had no baby to dedicate on mothers day.

Also on a better note i went out on Sat night and i am listening to a podcast to help me prep for this baby and i listened to two shows about miscarriage and stillbirth. It was quite good and they interviewed women who had experineced then, how they felt what you should say etc etc. the second part was abput pregnancy after loss which at times was sad as none of these woman were feeling happy go lucky. One woman had a baby then two miscarriages then a loss at 2,5 days old, then a miscarriage then finally a healthy baby. I cannot imagine going through all that. She explained how her baby didnt replace the other angels but rather he was now the joy walked alongside her grief.

One woman had had two perfect pregnancies before two or three losses and was again pregnant and hanging on. I resonated with her so much.

Well i hope you all have a great week x

 

[Button#]

Sorry you had a rough day Celine.

I've just had some spotting, really hoping it's the good kind and not AF starting.

 

[babyjan]

When will you test button?

I'm gonna try and be chilled out this cycle, not sure if using OPKs is still a relaxed approach or not? Also gonna try lessen the amount of time I spend on here as it only makes my obsession worse, gonna be hard cause when I'm on my phone I can't seem to keep away from here lol

Hopefully my plan works

 

[Button#]

I'll give it a couple of days and see what this spotting does before testing again.

I think it's good to try a chilled approach BabyJan. Only you'll know if using OPKs will make you more or less relaxed. I find it more relaxing as if I have a negative OPK and I'm not in the mood to DTD it saves me worrying I'll miss OV.

 

[tootyfruity]

I'm in uk slg, I know what you mean they really don't take us seriously! That really is s good job you got the spot checked out.
There's something to be said for our own intuition! X