Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[babyjan]

That's a good idea button, but as much as I try to forgot about even by limiting the time I spend on the ttc boards it's still soooo hard!

 

[Button#]

Tell me about it. I deleted all my subscriptions the other day to try and reduce the amount of time I spend on here. I think it's hard when you're looking after a toddler because there's a lot of times when your mind starts wondering. I go on auto pilot when I have to sing wheels on the bus for the 20th time and start thinking about TTC!

 

[tootyfruity]

Babyjan Ive been feeling exactly the same the last few day, I'm tww and I just dread the dissapointment now as it's always bad news and however much I try not to I always get my hopes up, I Also trying to distract myself but like you say my mind wanders, I keep asking myself why isn't it happenening!
Don't I sound like a moaner lol

 

[Button#]

Ok now I'm spotting early so I may or may not have OVd early. I'm going to temp in the morning just to see if I get a pre O or post O type temp and then just see what happens, bit confused.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Babyjan Ive been feeling exactly the same the last few day, I'm tww and I just dread the dissapointment now as it's always bad news and however much I try not to I always get my hopes up, I Also trying to distract myself but like you say my mind wanders, I keep asking myself why isn't it happenening!
Don't I sound like a moaner lol

^^ this. Is exactly how I feel.

 

[babyjan]

Ladies I feel bit silly, wanted some advice please

I just rang the dr to make an appointment to discuss my fertility, I have an appointment for Tuesday and for some reason I feel like I've made a mistake? But I'm just soo worried and feel as though something must be wrong? Arghh I don't know what to say.

Do you think it's right I see a dr if I have any concerns and will they even be able to do anything for me? I feel like I'm gonna go there only to be made to look like an idiot and be sent away.

I'm just feeling really stressed at the moment

 

[Mrs W 11]

Don't feel silly! I think most drs have a rule that if you're under 35 you need to of been ttc for at least a year before they will help and 6 months over 35. This makes me sad because for me it's been 6 months and I'm 34! (In August) if I was older I'd get help now.

I'm sure there's something wrong with me too but no one wants to
Listen. I hope you have more luck, it's certainly worth a try xx

 

[babyjan]

I just turned 23 in May and OH is 26, we got our son on our 2nd try so that's why I'm concerned but because I had one depo shot in November 2012 I think that's ruined my chances, it's now almost a year since my periods returned (they returned 9 months after depo in August 2013) and will be 2 years in November since the shot!

I was just talking to my mum and she's worried about me, I don't really talk about this with her other than say I'm scared I can't conceive and she just randomly mentioned another person asked her if I've had another and was shocked to hear I still got the one! This isn't the first time one of her friends asked even my mums Aunt suggested I go see a gynaecologist!

I don't like discussing this with OH either as he always gets angry and blames me for going on bc, we had lots of disagreeing and he didn't want me ruining my body and suggested I go on the pill for a bit.

So I only have you ladies to vent to x

 

[Button#]

Don't feel silly. They might tell you that they can't run tests until a certain time but at least then you'll come away with a date in mind that you can go back. That'll give you a focus and something concrete to count down to. I have heard of Depo lasting in your system for a long time so it may be simply that the effects are still wearing off even if your periods have returned. Also GPs vary by area so yours might be able to get the ball rolling earlier.

If I were you I'd temp for a cycle or two just so you can see it in front of you that you are ovulating. Not too long as I think it would stress you out more (it did me!) but it also gives you a bit of data to check against. For example I was worried I had OV'd early so temped this morning and my temp was too low to be a post-O temp so that put my mind at rest.

 

[Button#]

Oh and I know what you mean about how it was easy first time around. I've had to talk myself out of being convinced something is wrong several times as I conceived on my second cycle with DS.

 

[babyjan]

Thanks ladies!

Excuse me for being so over dramatic earlier but I've calmed down now lol! I might even cancel the appointment by Monday! Does anyone else's gp receptionist ask what appointments are for? I find mine annoying! Why do they always need to ask WHY?! It's not like I asked for an emergency appointment! I don't know, but is that normal for them to ask and do they have to know why you need to see a dr?

I felt weird telling the receptionists that I wanted to see dr regarding my fertility then she asked if OH is registered with the same gp, I didn't even tell him about the appointment as he gets mad whenever this topic comes up

Button, I did think about temping but I just thought that would make me obsessed and crazy, I think for next cycle I will just forgot about the stress or at least try to then if nothing happens I will start temping x

 

[Button#]

Yes my receptionist asks as well. If I don't want to tell her I say it's personal. My drs have a triage list where they'll speak to you over the phone and then give you an appointment if they need to see you. There's a list of things which you will get an appointment straight away for without going through that process, includes patients under 2 and pregnant women with bleeding etc so they probably ask to try and give priority to people who need it.

 

[Button#]

Oh and be as overdramatic as you like, that's what we're here for!

 

[tootyfruity]

Babyjan don't feel silly. I went to see my doctor after 6 months of trying (we're now at 8 months) and she said to wait till we've tried for year, I'm 30 my dh is 35 (although she didn't asked his age) she said as I have regular periods and I'm 'young ' I shouldn't have a problem.

Our receptionist don't asked why we're booking the appointment which I'm glad about lol.

We Also conceived our second month ttc and the miscarriage last year which is Also why I feel something is wrong. I just think the miscarriage messed me up a bit.

 

[minties]

I'd be saying a firm "none of your business" if any receptionist asked me!

When I had my first miscarriage in 2009, the receptionist asked me what I was at the doc for, I muttered "pregnancy related", the slip I handed her from the doctor cleared had miscarriage on it. She congratulated me and it was really embarrassing and upsetting.

I would just say "health issue".

 

[Future-Sailor]

Hello girls! How's everyone doing...

Feeling v low at the moment.....AF is due to arrive next week and I am in PMS hell....my whole body aches....don't think it's going to happen this cycle....

I'm considering using an OPK - which ones are you girls using? Which one would you recommend?

x

 

[Button#]

Sorry you're feeling down future sailor.

I use cheap OPKs off amazon. I think the seller was home health, don't know the brand.

 

[george83]

Hello girls! How's everyone doing...

Feeling v low at the moment.....AF is due to arrive next week and I am in PMS hell....my whole body aches....don't think it's going to happen this cycle....

I'm considering using an OPK - which ones are you girls using? Which one would you recommend?

x

I hope you lovely ladies don't mind me gate crashing your thread but I just wanted to say I've always used superdrug opk's and find them amazing. They are expensive but they usually have an offer on them (if you go to buy them and they don't try again a couple of days later) I've always used them to track my cycles before trying and they've always helped me.

Good luck ladies, I wish there was a million tonnes of baby dust I could drop over you all, can't imagine where you get your strength from x x

 

[Zephram]

Can I join this thread? It's not exactly that I can say we're struggling given that this is only month two TTC, but since our first LO was a surprise - we weren't trying, it was literally one oops and I was up the duff - we have never been through the TTC process before. I guess I'm freaking out a bit that it didn't happen first time again (mega unrealistic expectations, that's what an oopsie pregnancy gives you!), plus my OH has a lowish sex drive, so I'm worried about him doing his part. And I'm still bf'ing number one and no idea when I ovulate, so I'm basically going to have to ask my OH to DTD for the next 4 or 5 days straight to cover the ovulation possibilities! Not sure how he's going to take that, ugh.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Welcome zephram! I'm sure your bfp won't be too far off x