Anyone trying for #2 around cd 4?

[CastawayBride]

Congrats Sparky, great news!!!

Yes Twinks, the lawyer is having his OB look them over. If they agree that life saving measures was not in place they will take the case. Fingers crossed they will! It will not bring our son back but it will remind these doctors that they need to be accountable and do the best they can for their patients!

I am glad to hear there are some BFP's

I have a question castaway but if you feel uncomfortable to answer it I understand
What exactly do you think the doctors did wrong ? I am not saying they didn't do anything wrong . Just asking what's the case about ...

NO I don't mind sharing at all!

I was suppose to be followed as my son had a 2 vessel cord, they were not really watching though

I went to the hospital in June for reduced movement. They did an ultrasound but never told me the cord was wrapped around my son's neck. It sometimes happens in pregnancy which is OK BUT with a 2 vessel cord they should have monitored me, brought me back in to make sure he was released. He slowly was strangled until he passed July 15th.

On that day I called the doctor and asked to be seen, I just didn't feel him anymore. I got in and fought for a scan....they said they heard a heart beat he was fine. I knew it sounded wrong. It was over 200 beats/min. They gave me a paper and said I could walk to radiology (no patient transport).

once there and they realized he was wrapped in his cord, again no one told me. I was just told that I needed to go back and talk to the doctor. Again, told to walk.

I get back and I am told that they would need to do an ultrasound. I said have you contacted the cardiologist I have been followed by? Oh well no was their answer. The cardiologist came in and said I needed to go to a higher level hospital but there he would be in better care. I agreed as she said that he would be safer in the womb. I waited 3 hours for a transport, while my son was in cardiac arrest. Again, following these doctors being told to "Not worry".

Needless to say I got to the better hospital and he passed in the ambulance. No heart beat.

I have reviewed the hospital notes and found out that another level 3 hospital refused the transport as they knew my son would pass. If we knew the cord was compressing his breathing we would have delivered, immediately. In the ambulance the transporter said to me, "Why haven't they sent you via helicopter? You could have been to the hospital in 7 mins". That was my first tip off something was just not right.

We are heart broken that these doctors made such poor decisions. The one doctor even falsified her report saying I should have delivered right there...she was the one advocating for us to get to the level 3!

The saddest part is I begged for care, I would call and ask to be scanned and be told, "You do know baby's sleep in utero, right?" I was made to feel like a dumb "first time mom". Never, ever will I allow a doctor to rule my treatment again. Mothers know best.

At 20 weeks I felt this urge to change but was scared, I was half way through my pregnancy and my husband is very passive and said to wait it out. I wish I hadn't.

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

Congrats Sparky, great news!!!

Yes Twinks, the lawyer is having his OB look them over. If they agree that life saving measures was not in place they will take the case. Fingers crossed they will! It will not bring our son back but it will remind these doctors that they need to be accountable and do the best they can for their patients!

I am glad to hear there are some BFP's

I have a question castaway but if you feel uncomfortable to answer it I understand
What exactly do you think the doctors did wrong ? I am not saying they didn't do anything wrong . Just asking what's the case about ...

NO I don't mind sharing at all!

I was suppose to be followed as my son had a 2 vessel cord, they were not really watching though

I went to the hospital in June for reduced movement. They did an ultrasound but never told me the cord was wrapped around my son's neck. It sometimes happens in pregnancy which is OK BUT with a 2 vessel cord they should have monitored me, brought me back in to make sure he was released. He slowly was strangled until he passed July 15th.

On that day I called the doctor and asked to be seen, I just didn't feel him anymore. I got in and fought for a scan....they said they heard a heart beat he was fine. I knew it sounded wrong. It was over 200 beats/min. They gave me a paper and said I could walk to radiology (no patient transport).

once there and they realized he was wrapped in his cord, again no one told me. I was just told that I needed to go back and talk to the doctor. Again, told to walk.

I get back and I am told that they would need to do an ultrasound. I said have you contacted the cardiologist I have been followed by? Oh well no was their answer. The cardiologist came in and said I needed to go to a higher level hospital but there he would be in better care. I agreed as she said that he would be safer in the womb. I waited 3 hours for a transport, while my son was in cardiac arrest. Again, following these doctors being told to "Not worry".

Needless to say I got to the better hospital and he passed in the ambulance. No heart beat.

I have reviewed the hospital notes and found out that another level 3 hospital refused the transport as they knew my son would pass. If we knew the cord was compressing his breathing we would have delivered, immediately. In the ambulance the transporter said to me, "Why haven't they sent you via helicopter? You could have been to the hospital in 7 mins". That was my first tip off something was just not right.

We are heart broken that these doctors made such poor decisions. The one doctor even falsified her report saying I should have delivered right there...she was the one advocating for us to get to the level 3!

The saddest part is I begged for care, I would call and ask to be scanned and be told, "You do know baby's sleep in utero, right?" I was made to feel like a dumb "first time mom". Never, ever will I allow a doctor to rule my treatment again. Mothers know best.

At 20 weeks I felt this urge to change but was scared, I was half way through my pregnancy and my husband is very passive and said to wait it out. I wish I hadn't.

Wow , that's horrible
I have no idea what would I do , right now I can only think about that I would do anything for the doctors to loose their job and never get I back !
That's why they are doctors to take care of you and make sure you r all right .
And don't tell you stuff about your baby ... WTF
I am just so mad right now .
Fortunately for me ( we had a SUA also ) it turns out ok.
I kept telling my doctor that I think my water is leaking and he kept telling me I am probably peeing myself .
I went to mu u/s a week later and they send me right away to the hospital to induce my labor because of low amniotic fluid .
I am kinda glad we had SUA because I don't even wanna imagine what would have happened if I would not have regular ultrasounds because of that umbilical cord .
Now I regret asking you because I feel so sick and mad , how can they let something like that happened .
I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience
I hope everything turns out well for you soon

 

[Fleur29]

Castaway - seeing it all written down really is so shocking. It sounds like you have a really strong case. I hope your lawyer agrees. Please keep us updated with how things progress. It seems very clear to me that they are very much liable.

Sparky - huge congrats on your bfp. How are you feeling? I have no symptoms apart from sore bbs and I felt a bit yakky earlier but probably just too much cake!

That's funny what you said re going out as I went out last thurs and had two large glasses of wine - oops. I did the same with my dd though and she is normal (ish) ;-)

I booked my doctors appt for Saturday morning so will see what he says re an early scan...

Twinks - lots of luck to you, hope you've done enough.

Hope everyone is having a nice Monday xx

 

[CastawayBride]

Yeah what we went through was brutal. I now have a high risk doctor who agrees that my son should be here today...he is so understanding and knows that the next time we are pregnant again I am going to be petrified! Fingers crossed we get our rainbow baby next cycle...

I am planning a butterfly release to remember our son on his first birthday, July 18th. I am going to order Monarchs and release them in our front yard with family and friends. We will have it catered and all...We miss him so much and he never took a breath. He was so big too for 31 weeks, almost 5 pounds and 16 inches long....just didn't have to be like this.

 

[Twinks]

Castaway it's heart breaking reading about all the silly mistakes that's any Christopher wasn't delivered quickly enough. I hope something happens as a result of all their terrible errors.
What a lovely idea to realise butterflies on his birthday. You really deserve your BFP and at least you have a doctor that understands and will now monitor you very closely. I'm really hoping you get your BFP immediately as soon as you're all clear to try.
Christopher's story is heartbreaking and I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. Fingers xd for tht BFP very soon xxx

 

[Dogtanian]

Castaway,i agree with Fleur,its so shocking to see it written down.
Im so sorry for all that you and your husband have been through.
No one deserves a sticky bean more than you.
Congrats on your bfp sparky.How long did it take you?
I am currently 8DPO and cant wait to test,its my first proper TWW!

 

[Fleur29]

Castaway, love the butterfly idea - that sounds so lovely. I'm so sorry for you losses, you really do deserve a bfp. Keeping everything crossed. How are you today?

Dogtanian - woop woop for 2ww! Will you test early? Any symptoms? I had none, just very sore bb's and af cramps from about 7/8 dpo. Keeping everything crossed for you all xx

 

[CastawayBride]

Castaway, love the butterfly idea - that sounds so lovely. I'm so sorry for you losses, you really do deserve a bfp. Keeping everything crossed. How are you today?

Dogtanian - woop woop for 2ww! Will you test early? Any symptoms? I had none, just very sore bb's and af cramps from about 7/8 dpo. Keeping everything crossed for you all xx

I am doing OK :thumb up: I am still bleeding, looking forward to stopping the bleeding and getting back with hubby :wink wink:

I am tossing around just throwing caution to the wind and going at it before AF. not sure what to do. I have heard so many people say that went right for it and were pregnant immediately. I guess I will go by what my body tells me....we are going away two weeks from now to celebrate our anniversary....may just say ehh go for it! lol I am going to start testing once week, starting this Friday to see if I get a negative test. I would feel more comfortable going ahead and doing the whatever thing if I was testing negative!

TWW Dogtanian, so exciting!!!!!!!

 

[Fleur29]

I hope the bleeding stops soon castaway. Did they say how long it was likely to last?

I know a LOT of people who got pregnant straight after a mc and went on to have healthy children. What is the reasoning behind delaying for a month anyway? Fingers x your tests start showing negative (not often that we say that huh!)

Xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Thank you for sharing castaway, it is just so awful to read how you and Christopher were treated and so sad that the medical professionals should have been able to avoid what happened. I too hope that your lawyer agrees you have a case. The butterfly idea is beautiful.

8dpo dogtanian, not long to testing now!!

I had a faint line on my opk today so hoping I ovulate tomorrow or the day after meaning I will be testing in 2 weeks! 2ww here I come!!

 

[CastawayBride]

I hope the bleeding stops soon castaway. Did they say how long it was likely to last?

I know a LOT of people who got pregnant straight after a mc and went on to have healthy children. What is the reasoning behind delaying for a month anyway? Fingers x your tests start showing negative (not often that we say that huh!)

Xx

Doctor said if it is heavy after a week to call but could last about 2 weeks!

Yeah...I think they say wait for more of a dating purpose. I think I will get some cheap ovulation sticks, As the CBFM would not work this close to a miscarriage, and just go for it. At least I can then tell the doc when I ovulated.

 

[Fleur29]

See I don't get that (delaying just because of dating purposes) - a friend of mine is preg and had a mc last month - she doesn't know her due date and the gp gave her a bit of a hard time, but if you're tracking using ovulation sticks then you can tell the date of conception pretty much and work out due date from that (266 days later in case you were wondering!!)

So if everything goes ok I say go for it in a couple of weeks if you feel up to it! Xx

 

[Fleur29]

Ps mrs w - that's exciting re opk! Fingers crossed you get a nice dark line in next few days and are dtd!! X

 

[CastawayBride]

I know Fleur, I guess b/c it makes it easier on them AND I am pretty sure it can stress people out if they think they are further along and such.

I wouldn't go at it alone, I would put down when we baby dance & back it up with ovulation sticks. They are 5 bucks for 20 on Amazon. lol

 

[Fleur29]

Haha a bit cheaper than the cbfm sticks then!!! Tbh the whole dating your pregnancy based on lmp is ridiculous anyway if you have better information - eg you've tracked ovulation properly. I technically will be 5 weeks tomorrow but I know I didn't ovulate until cd19 so really won't be 5wks along until Saturday!

 

[CastawayBride]

Haha a bit cheaper than the cbfm sticks then!!! Tbh the whole dating your pregnancy based on lmp is ridiculous anyway if you have better information - eg you've tracked ovulation properly. I technically will be 5 weeks tomorrow but I know I didn't ovulate until cd19 so really won't be 5wks along until Saturday!

I know, I ovulate super early so I am usually one week ahead of LMP. I am gonna just go for it at this point I feel like time is slipping away from me!

 

[Fleur29]

So much better to ovulate early and get more weeks under your belt!! (If that makes sense!)

Aw castaway don't feel like that - you're only 33, right? Still young! One of my friends is 40 and just fell without even really meaning to. Plus you know you're both very fertile so it's just a matter of time. This will happen for you sweetie. Sending you huge hugs xx

 

[CastawayBride]

So much better to ovulate early and get more weeks under your belt!! (If that makes sense!)

Aw castaway don't feel like that - you're only 33, right? Still young! One of my friends is 40 and just fell without even really meaning to. Plus you know you're both very fertile so it's just a matter of time. This will happen for you sweetie. Sending you huge hugs xx

Thanks Fleur, I guess since we lost our son I feel like we are starting all over. WE have talked about having 3 but I can't see that happening, unless we get super lucky and have twins.

 

[Fleur29]

I know. But sometimes it is good for someone to remind you of the facts and that is that you generally seem to fall pregnant very easily so there is no reason why you won't/can't have three kids!

I hope that wasn't a harsh talking to but I just don't want you to give up hope on what you want. You want three kids you have three kids I say! X

 

[CastawayBride]

I know. But sometimes it is good for someone to remind you of the facts and that is that you generally seem to fall pregnant very easily so there is no reason why you won't/can't have three kids!

I hope that wasn't a harsh talking to but I just don't want you to give up hope on what you want. You want three kids you have three kids I say! X

I know, just hard. I will have been pregnant basically 2 straight years for this little baby to be.

Say I take a year off then I will hopefully be pregnant for another year (isn) and that is if it all works out. I just don't know will try our best I suppose and that is all we can wish for. I will be happy with one healthy little one but really want to give our child siblings....I guess it will all work out. Would be nice if we are preggers by next month though lol