Are you doing perineal massage?

[MandaAnda]

I'll be starting at 34/40, and I'll be doing it myself I imagine (unless I can't manage, then I'll ask DH).

 

[EmmanBump]

i just cant bring myself to do it, makes me cringe, so no lol

 

[QTPie]

If I thought it would get me sex, I'd tell my husband to start doing it now! LOL

What you want sex and can't get it???

QT

Yeah, my husband has... issues I feel lucky we were able to get pregnant at all!

Sorry to hear that...

Each and every pregnancy is a miracle - we are all so lucky

QT

 

[Claire788]

I'm really worried that if i get OH to do it he will get the wrong idea, then get disappointed he isn't getting sex, then sulk and then I'll feel guilty and end up promising him a blow job!

(sorry! ).

Husband will understand EXACTLY why he is doing it and where it is not leading BEFORE we start....

QT

ROFL thats exactly what I said. I did wonder whether it would feel erotic, but it doesnt, not in the slightest, rather uncomfortable, and somewhat embarrasing I found .. still "its all for the greater good" lol

 

[vinnypeanut]

Someone explain how you actually do it properly??xx

 

[Princess mama]

i brought some of that perineal gel from mothercare and been meaning to do it from week 34 but so far only tried once myself and its very awkard to try and do, trying to get oh to help me out but so far he's hardly suggested we try lol!

 

[Celesse]

Someone explain how you actually do it properly??xx

https://www.manbit.com/obstetspain/obnat21.htm

https://www.lotusshiatsutherapy.com/products/

Diagrams not for the faint hearted (or under age)

 

[redpoppy]

I haven't answered as both me and OH do it but nowhere near as often as we should. it feels horrible but I have to keep reminding myself that it's not as bad as tearing!!!! but it's so ouchy and uncomfortable. Should really get to doing it all the time.

I've been using standard almond oil.

I found out last week that my mum had a fourth degree tear with her first.

 

[redpoppy]

ROFL thats exactly what I said. I did wonder whether it would feel erotic, but it doesnt, not in the slightest, rather uncomfortable, and somewhat embarrasing I found .. still "its all for the greater good" lol

I'm actually surprised how bad it actually feels. like surely there shoudl be some nice nerve endings there to make the massage, and childbirth less stingy and painful. Stoooooopid evolution.

 

[Bee70]

Someone explain how you actually do it properly??xx

https://www.manbit.com/obstetspain/obnat21.htm

https://www.lotusshiatsutherapy.com/products/

Diagrams not for the faint hearted (or under age)

Oh my word!! I really didn't think THAT was what perineal massage was! I figured it was just rubbing some oil between the 2 holes... not that!!

 

[Mimi80]

Someone explain how you actually do it properly??xx

https://www.manbit.com/obstetspain/obnat21.htm

https://www.lotusshiatsutherapy.com/products/

Diagrams not for the faint hearted (or under age)

Oh my word!! I really didn't think THAT was what perineal massage was! I figured it was just rubbing some oil between the 2 holes... not that!!

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I was thinking the same. Just rubbing the oil wouldn't be so bad, but this...OMG, looks really scary.

 

[Maybebaby80]

I haven't answered the poll, got some almond oil a week ago but it is still unopened!

Def going to get hubby to do it tonight! I have tried but can't reach myself!!!

 

[katekatekate]

As gross as it sounds, anyone have a good website that shows you how to do it? I dont want to google it, they have porn about anything these days.

**Nevermind! I just read page 3. Ta. x

 

[kathylou26]

I knew I was supposed to start doing it at 34 weeks but kept putting it off, but I've been doing it for about a week and a half now, its not as bad as I thought it would be. I have to do it myself as I think that OH might get the wrong idea and it seemed a bit cruel somehow! Its a wee bit tricky though, not sure if I'm getting it quite right but its got to be better than nothing! I'm using olive oil, works just fine. It does seem to get a bit more stretchy and less stingy the more you do it, but I think a lot of it is getting you used to the sensation a bit so its not such a nasty shock when the baby crowns! I think I can imagine what thats going to feel like now, and its helping me prepare myself mentally. Although I read you're supposed to do it for 5-10 mins but can barely manage a minute, it makes me too breathless bending over LOL. Anything that may prevent me tearing has got to be worth a go though right?

 

[Pingu]

I have been told to start doing this from 35 weeks and to use grape seed oil. I am going to give it a try.

 

[21Rach]

i think if your sort of person who eats healthy exercises or did lots of exercise pre preg then u might not need to do it but if your like me and biggest workout is when you DTD lol then it can help to "prepare" yep i'm doing it, it's not easy at all, and i really don't wanna ask OH to do it, using the lube i got sent with my angelsounds doppler x x

 

[emalou90]

nah i'm not doing it. midwife said it takes a while after to 're-tighten it'.
so i'd rather tear/be cut than have to exercise afterwards hahaha x

 

[Kelz22]

Im not sure yet if I will bother with it.Might get the Oh to do it in a few weeks time.We shall see.lol.xxx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

I also know I should be doing it but can't bring myself to actually do it. xx

 

[digs]

I will be doing this, either myself or OH after the stories of being stiched up wrong, over lapping etc, my best friend has been unable to have sex for a year since her son as everything was stiched up too tight and now she has to have a op to cut and reshape! I would do anything not to go through that!

AAAHHHHHHH