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  1. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    I´m 35 and TTC not for long, but every month seems sooo long, waiting for and preparing for just some hours ovulation. I see myself obssesed, reading a lot about fertility signs, what to eat, what not to eat...

    It´s like, 14 days of hope...then period comes and it´s like "oh..man..noooo". A bit of disappointment, and then waiting 14 days for ovulation to come. And like that, month after month.

    Then I don´t tell anybody, because it would be more pressure, people asking all the time. So it´s great this forum where we all can share.

    Sometimes I´m ok, but many other times I feel so worried, thinking that I´m too old, that it might never happen, but however I had never imagined my life with no children. But I have to be positive and not be obsessed, but...that is sooo hard.

    Now I´m in the "hope phase", waiting for my period NOT to come. And this time, I have a feeling, this is the one! Then I ask myself: "Why this time? What makes you have that feeling? You just want to feel it that way..."

    And so and so on :flower:
     
  2. IMISSCOFFEE

    IMISSCOFFEE Well-Known Member

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    i have spent all day doing nothing but ttc related.....a bit obsessed????
     
  3. ztaprincess81

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    I completely understand. We have not been TTC for very long, but it occupies every waking thought it seems like. I feel like I have control over every thing else in my life. It seems like if you work hard enough, you can acheive almost anything in life except for this. I hate chance!
     
  4. amylk87

    amylk87 WTT for No.1

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    Well i'm WTT so not yet trying, but i can tell you i KNOW i will be an obsessive too!
    Good luck and i hope you get your :bfp:
     
  5. The Catster

    The Catster Mummy of 2 girls!!!!!!!!!

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    Oh yes, I am obsessed....

    My poor poor wee, being dipped all the time!!!
    My poor poor husband, being made to perform mechanically!
    My poor poor sanity, put to the test around symptom watch time!
    My poor poor eyes, when trying to see lines that aint there!

    We all have the t'shirts!!!

    One day tho....not today maybe, not next week or next month, but one day we will get our sticky BFP!!!!

    xxx:hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  6. TrishyC

    TrishyC Mum of 2!

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    Not a chance that it's the age thing! We conceived our DD when I was 35 and DH 37... without too much trouble, so don't worry about that aspect!:flower:
    Now we are TTC#2 and hasn't been too long, so see how we go.

    Good luck and babydust to yooooouuuu!!!!:dust:
     
  7. BlackAngelP

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    DH gets so sick of me telling him about our one day baby!! LoL! He gets on my nerves telling me to "Stop worrying about it!". As IF, am I right? As for obsessed, I am always on ttc sites, reading about breastfeeding, babywearing, freebirthing, midwives, waterbirthng, and the likes of that! So yeah I'd say I'm obsessed.


    Jen :hug:
     
  8. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    Oh well, I´m obsessed about signs, ov day, intercourse, my age! But, I haven´t looked at anything else beyond that. When I get my BFP (when and not if), I know I´ll start obsessing about preganancy stuff :haha:

    x
     
  9. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    Thank you Trishy. Comments like yours actually give me hope, as I really worry about my age :hugs:
     
  10. Bingo

    Bingo Well-Known Member

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    Obsessed you say. I've already decided on my birth plan, all the items i.e. brand and colour etc. that I will be buying for the baby and the list goes on.

    I've not yet become a symptom spotter or tested because I get a show with my period for about a week before it arrives each month so I know when to expect it and also that it would be pointless to test so that side of things is yet to come. If I have to wait much longer (I've only been TTC for four months) then I'm sure I will begin doing those things too. Although I've convinced myself that this is going to be my month. God I hope I'm not disappointed!
     
  11. Guerita

    Guerita Well-Known Member

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    Hi Enrisa -
    I worry about my age too. I'm 36 and we're TTC no. 1 and this is our fourth month of trying and soon to be fifth month! It's frustrating because pretty much from day one, we've done everything we can to put chance on our side and .... nothing.

    We don't smoke, I've stopped drinking (but didn't drink much anyway) and DH has cut back, I eat ridiculously healthy apart from chocolate, I don't drink caffeine, actually I don't drinks soft drinks at all, my BMI is 21 (normal), I exercise a bit but not too much, I ride my bike to work, I do yoga once a week, I take supplements and we have sex at least 10 times a month and at least four of those in my fertile window. AGGGGGHHHH What else can we do???? :shrug:

    Sorry didn't meant to highjack your thread but needed to vent. Had a total emotional breakdown last night! :dohh:

    Anyway, all we can do is keep trying! Good luck to you :hugs:
     
  12. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    Bingo, good you are not obsessed about symptoms or testing. It can get crazy. From my point of view, I think it´s better not to think, this is my month, or not. The best is just keep trying, but not auto convince ourselves that this is the one month. Easier said than done though x
     
  13. Guerita

    Guerita Well-Known Member

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    Well it's pretty easy not to be obsessed with symptoms when you have none! And of course I have already tested twice! Who do you think I am? A woman of steely willpower? Not a chance!!!
     
  14. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    Hi Guerita,

    I totally understand you. You are doing great, perfect actually, there´s nothing else you can do. I know 4 months is not long, but I also know that every month seems sooooo long, and at the same time we keep getting older! Oh, I have those emotional breakdowns too.

    Have you been to the doctor? Not because there is anything wrong, just to see what they say. I haven´t yet, but planning to go soon.

    I´m almost 35. NTNP for 2 cycles, and actually real real trying for 1 cycle only. My cycles are 26-28. What about yours?

    I know it´s frustrating. If everything seems to be normal, why is it not happening?

    I quit on coffee, now I drink green tea, I try to eat healthy, I don´t exercise but walk lots, I´m taking supplements, I don´t smoke, drink about just half a pint of beer a week... My DH smokes, I so hates that, but there´s nothing I can do about it.

    Good luck and let´s keep in touch :hugs:
     
  15. Guerita

    Guerita Well-Known Member

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    Yes sounds like you're doing all the right things as well! I have decided that if we aren't successful after six months I will go see my GP and ask for a referral. And if he blows me out, then we will go to a private fertility specialist. There is precious little time to waste.

    My cycles are very regular at 30 to 31 days and my last three months of temping are showing that I am ovulating. So all of that is positive. And we did those home tests you can do to test ovarian reserve and sperm. And they were both normal. So all that is good. (trying to trick myself into some PMA here!).

    End of my cycle is this weekend (and am away with the entire in-law family! so no more testing!). How about you?
     
  16. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    I had my period yesterday. So on CD 2 now...

    This is my chart:

    https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/299927

    What are those home tests you can do to test ovarian reserve and sperm? Have no idea, but I´m very interested.

    Good, if you are out the weekend, you won´t be thinking about all this ;-)
     
  17. Megg33k

    Megg33k Going with the flow!

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    I can't even pretend to not be obsessed. If you've noticed any of the 18 million questions I've answered based on knowledge that it forever lodged into my brain because of my obsession, then you know how bad mine is. I know most of all there is to know about a woman's reproductive parts. Sometimes, I wish I didn't remember it all. I get txts about cervical mucus, and answer them like it's NORMAL! I'm obsessed!
     
  18. enrisa

    enrisa Well-Known Member

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    Megg, don´t feel guilty for being obsesssed. It´s normal, as it´s a very important thing, so we do want to know as much as possible, to do things as good as possible.

    So I´ll ask you when I have any question, hope you don´t mind x
     
  19. Crypto1976

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    It has taken over my every waking thought for 9 months. Its awful. No one suspects as I dont talk about it, as oh' last marriage ended after 6 years of obsessive ivf behaviour.
     
  20. Megg33k

    Megg33k Going with the flow!

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    That's fine, hun. Never hesitate to PM me. I'm on just about every day. If I don't answer immediately, I'm sure I will in less than a few hours! :)

    Being unemployed has its perks! :hugs:
     

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