littlestar85
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Anyone else starting to feel that AP/NP mums are made to feel like we don't belong in Baby Club? Or is it just me...
Yea I said I was proud of giving birth naturally without pain relief and was called ignorant and all of a sudden accused of that I supposedly feel like I'm better than others and that I supposedly meant that nobody can be proud of giving birth unless it's natural or something. Really obnoxious.
Same with Breastfeeding, alot of the ff ladies get easily upset when you say something about bf'ing..
I've seen it written on more then one occasion that those that parent the way I choose to are 'high and mighty', 'holier then thou' 'on their high horse' and lots of other such phrases. Apparently if you mainstream parent you can judge of those who don't, but if you dont, you have to keep your mouth shut about aspects of mainstream parenting that you disagree with,
if you aren't posing controversial or entertaining things you kind of fall by the wayside. And of course that makes sense because that's what people like to see.
It feels like if you're not a 'mainstream' parent, if you dare to say anything about why you do certain things or the benefits of them you get accused of thinking you're a better mum, but 'mainstream' mums in there are more than happy and encouraged to go on about why they do stuff with no such accusations. Even if something isn't 'natural' I'd much rather post in NP about *anything* because the ladies in here are so used to being judged that even when somebody comes out with something really awful, they have more tact and tolerance IMO.
You can never win! Then there was a whole chinese whispers scenario going on and people started saying i'd tried to scare people with tales of kids being decapitated?!?!? I didn't bother reading anymore. Leave em to it!! Sometimes a heated thread needs a scapegoat.
You can't really talk about AP without people thinking you are high and mighty. Its also very hypocritical - its like "fit in or we'll push you out"