I agree with Lozzy and Claire ....
I try really really hard to word posts really carefully and almost never say anything I think might be 'controversial' or deliberately upsetting. Because of that I sincerely believe that if people take offence to what I am saying it is becauase of their own issues or attitude, not because I have worded things wrongly, and I can't do anything about that
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Saying that I only remember a handful of times where people have openly argued / stropped about what I have said, I think i got a bit careless on one thread once because I couldnt be bothered trying to pussyfoot around people anymore and someone accused me of "having a dig" when I wasnt at all, it was what they chose to perceive from what I wrote. Some people really do go looking for things to upset them or presume that anyone who says they do things differently is having a direct personal go at them
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(Like claire, I'm sure Ive been part of threads where its gone Me: "my baby wakes up loads at night" others: "we did CC and its the best thing we ever did, my baby is happy and has no problems at all" Me: "I could never let my baby cry" others: "oh get off your high horse, I had to let my baby cry because of x y z and we are both happy so how dare you tell me I am a bad mother" Me:
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In those cases, I really do think it's the reader's problem, not the writer's, if the writing is careful.
One of the FB pages I am on has a disclaimer that if anyone ever writes anything like "you are a bad mother because..." or "oh, so you are saying I am a bad mother are you?" they are banned! Bit harsh for somewhere like bnb perhaps but I thought the point was good!
it even happens with talk of nappies fgs ... someone from NP "I hate sposies / I love cloth" other "I use sposies, are you saying I dont care about my child"
Lets be honest though, when you have just had a baby who is capable of being so thoroughly careful and considerate at all times?