Facts aren't the same as opinions
Although it may be more comfortable to sometimes dismiss a fact if it does not fit with your beliefs, that's a natural human trait that we all have and we all do it sometimes.
You could debate 'what are facts' forever though, as lets face it there is no "ultimate truth" in anything really, life is not that black and white ....
In which case, I thought I would just explain a bit more. When I talk about "facts" I am talking about a LOT of research, studies, theories, writing etc, which all point to the same thing and which has become a known in attachment psychology and even neurology. Also, behaviourists, or other ways of thinking, will have their own theories, research, studies, writing etc. The thing that makes the difference for me is that AT/AP has more and more physical evidence (so could be taken as "hard facts") about the effects on the brain of things like neglect, leaving to cry, but also extreme attachment problems. Yes they are extreme cases and you could argue wouldnt be general to everybody. But the brain studies do show how attachment develops physically in the brain, and that is general to everybody, so I think it is naive to dismiss thinking about it even in loving families when it comes to things like CIO/CC/"sleep training". Even if you believed that (say) a bit of CIO didnt have any effect on your babys developing brain, you should still know about the theories and research to make a properly informed decision, before deciding to go along with the very pervasive belief that "cc/cio works". Even if you believe there would be no consequences in their adult relationships, you should still know that it is a possibility before deciding whether to do it or not.
Others have said this already but I think the essence of AP is the basic attachment theory principle, which is that the infant forms a 'model' in his/her brain during the first year of relationships, based on the very first attachmetn relationship (usually the mother). This model is lifelong and will be hard wired into our brains from very early on. It will tell us how to think about other people, what to expect from them, how to behave with them, whether you can rely on them, and how you manage your emotions. So in a generally loving family, its not about developmental milestones, its about their lifelong pattern of how they see the world. It is also a fact (ie. according to what I said above about facts) that this is very difficult to change, especially past a few years old.
Here's an example of how the attachment relationship builds up :
Baby cries (in response to something in them that they need, or something outside)
Parent responds, by picking them up or being nearby (so you could argue that CC
could satisfy this)
Parent helps baby to calm down and work out what they are feeling "oh are you hungry? wet? tired?" etc and link their emotions to whatever it is
Baby is brought back to their calm state via the parents' response
The brain cells make these links and every time this is repeated the link is made stronger
So if you cry and your needs are met, you learn that you are loveable and worth attention, and that others are available and trustworthy and caring. You learn that your emotions can be labelled and managed.
If you cry and your needs are not met (or you are not comforted/held), you learn that you are not loveable and that others are rejecting and can't be trusted. So you grow up believeing that you have to be self sufficient, you cant rely on other people to be there for you, that your feelings are so big and overwhelming that no one can cope with them (not even you). You become over-sensitive (e.g to anxiety/anger) because those bits of your brain get more links sent to them.
Hope that makes sense. Bear with me! If you are a generally loving and caring and attentive parent (and lets face it, pretty much everyone on BNB will be by default), a bit of crying now and again (like when you physically cant help or cant get to them) will not be causing lots of damage, because you'll repair it by comforting them as soon as you can and they learn to trust that they will be comforted. All the psychologists I've come across have said don't worry, all babies cry, you very likely havent caused them any damage, as long as you've repaired it afterwards - so I doubt anyone on here has any reason to worry!
I've been thinking more about "sleep training" though and the reason I reckon you won't find any studies saying "CIO works to teach babies to sleep" is because you have got no way of knowing what is going on in their little brains until they get to adulthood, by which time there would be way too many factors to say for sure that X when you were a baby led to Y (unless theres clear cut abuse / trauma / neglect).
I thought I would also post some reading on attachment theory / attachment parenting, in case people are interested and want to read more. The best book (and most readable) is "Why Love Matters" by Sue Gerhardt. This has a great chapter about the cortisol/stress theory. There is also "What every parent needs to know: the remarkable effects of love, nurture and play on your child's development" (Sunderland).
Some other books (for those who might be interested):
Bowlby's "Attachment and Loss"
"Attachment and Adolescence - the influence of attachment patterns on teenage behaviour" (in "Teenagers and Attachment: Helping adolescents engage with life and learning" (Karl Heinz Brisch)
Anything by Dan Hughes (he mostly works with looked after children)
Solomon, M, & Siegel, D (2003) Healing trauma: attachment, mind, body and brain.
Ainsworth et al (1978) Patterns of attachment: a psychological study of the strange situation.
Schore, A.N. (1994) Affect regulation and the origin of self: the neurobiology of emotional development.
Stern, D.N. (1995) The interpersonal world of the infant.
I have lots of refs for studies but theyr mainly about trauma, looked after children etc, but pm me if you want them. One more general one though is Lott D (2003) Brain development, attachment and impact on psychic vulnerability. Psychiatric Times, 15(5), 1-5.
I think there are lots of good links on the Dr Sears site, there are also quite a few great ones posted on this thread!
Anyway, back on topic of the thread, I wonder what people think now about the title of this section? Do people still want it to be attachment / eco / natural etc? There is lots of talk about cloth nappies in here
so it would still need to be that right?
Sorry another long one but I don't get on here frequently so when I do I have to spill my guts