Better not mention banned members or this'll get locked!
I was actually thinking about a certain someone and some of the things they said in relation to some of the earlier comments. I recall clearly a few times it being said that NP was harder but it was worth is because it was better for the baby and that just kind of put me in knots. First off because it was a bit high and mighty, but it's just not my experience. I certainly do a lot of NP things because for us it is the path of least resistance. Anything else would be fighting with my baby for acting like a baby IMO. Hear that? I'm a lazy mother!![ROFL :rofl: :rofl:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/rofl.gif)
But that's not what I came back in there to say.
I know how there can be a divide between BF/FF Natural/medical birth because more often than not those are things that aren't chosen. I don't like it when people say no one can make you feel bad, or own your choice. You don't really know until you've been there and those things no matter how much you rationalize it are not what you wanted. It's very sensitive and painful and the reactions to it are very emotional, not logical. The best thing to do it just say 'I know how hard it can be, it could have been me' and move on.
But a lot of the rest of the alternative parenting stuff has to be chosen. I mean you usually aren't being forced (emotionally, physically or medically) on to ERF/BLW/cloth nappy or conversely FF/TW/disposable nappy etc. ERF might have financial constraints, but those other things don't.
I think it kind of ties back to 'breast is best' advertising. Bear with me here. Like since BF falls in with alternative parenting (gah
) that all those other things are 'best' as well and hey, second best is fine because I couldn't possibly manage those other things. la de dah.![dohh :dohh: :dohh:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/doh.gif)
The rest of NP/AP is distinctly a choice to me and it seems really odd that people do get upset. I mean, they must feel it isn't right for them or they'd be doing it right?
I was actually thinking about a certain someone and some of the things they said in relation to some of the earlier comments. I recall clearly a few times it being said that NP was harder but it was worth is because it was better for the baby and that just kind of put me in knots. First off because it was a bit high and mighty, but it's just not my experience. I certainly do a lot of NP things because for us it is the path of least resistance. Anything else would be fighting with my baby for acting like a baby IMO. Hear that? I'm a lazy mother!
![ROFL :rofl: :rofl:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/rofl.gif)
But that's not what I came back in there to say.
I know how there can be a divide between BF/FF Natural/medical birth because more often than not those are things that aren't chosen. I don't like it when people say no one can make you feel bad, or own your choice. You don't really know until you've been there and those things no matter how much you rationalize it are not what you wanted. It's very sensitive and painful and the reactions to it are very emotional, not logical. The best thing to do it just say 'I know how hard it can be, it could have been me' and move on.
But a lot of the rest of the alternative parenting stuff has to be chosen. I mean you usually aren't being forced (emotionally, physically or medically) on to ERF/BLW/cloth nappy or conversely FF/TW/disposable nappy etc. ERF might have financial constraints, but those other things don't.
I think it kind of ties back to 'breast is best' advertising. Bear with me here. Like since BF falls in with alternative parenting (gah
![nope :nope: :nope:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/nope.gif)
![dohh :dohh: :dohh:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/doh.gif)
The rest of NP/AP is distinctly a choice to me and it seems really odd that people do get upset. I mean, they must feel it isn't right for them or they'd be doing it right?