Well I could understand why is no need for us from week 12 to week 20.But no us after 20 weeks??I mean really?I am not a doctor but how they will know if the baby is not strangulate himself with the cord at example week 25,30,34,38?how I would know that baby didn't changed position again?how I would know how big it is?it can change so much from week 20 until giving birth.And I don't trust this doctors, and I am in one of the most expensive hospitals in this region.
I don't know what to do.
I understand your worry. At 25 weeks or so they ask you to start counting the kicks. generally there is no need to count as baby is kicking the snot out of you - but should you notice a decrease in movements - you call the dr - You will likely get a scan. You know your baby is alive because its beating u up from the inside out. Also they can tell the position of the baby (most of the time, by feel). My dr's and OB's were always able to tell how my daughter was positioned. And they know your baby is growing on target as they will measure your fundal height - this is from your pubic bone, to the top of your uterus. Usually you will measure correctly. If you do not (too large or to small) they will likely investigate - which can include ultrasound. Finally when they "guess" the weight of your baby at a late u/s (like when people get them at 36 or 38 weeks) its a guess... can be out by 1-2lbs! big difference between a 6-8 or an 8-10 lbs baby at actual birth.
I understand your anger - and i would be upset that my hubby would be away and not able to see baby as well. Keep in mind MOST places do the entire scan (30-45 mintues) while your family waits in waiting room, then let them in for 5 mintues at the end to see.
What you experienced was pretty normal - although upsetting. If you are uncomfortable with your care, by all means switch! but i don't know that you are going to find a major upgrade in anything.
AS for counting the HB. My midwife and Dr NEVER have. They just say "baby is happy!" i have bought a doppler and i will count myself at home sometimes. but babies heart rates vary so so so much - its really not a prediction of anything (i suppose in the case of a super slow HB it could be tragic).
Its *mostly* the girls in the UK who get all the ultrasounds. They are able to book them privately. Im in canada - but its similar... the only "private" U/S are those done by 3d/4d places. Some people who have had Mc's get more, but it usually matters WHY the MC happened. i think many women who have a early MC and don't need medical intervention don't get extra ultrasounds (although some dr's might take more care). I think it really only those that had later or multiple MC's 
