Aussies trying to get duffered aged 20+ !!!

[Pauls_angel]

2mums - it is def cheaper than IVF... my friend has just fallen with her 5th cycle of IVF... cost her $8500 for the initial retrieval then $3000 for each insemination. She has had 2 retrievals and 5 inseminations so it adds up!

Hopefully for you though cycle 8 with be it!

 

[Melainey]

Hi ladies ... Still no show of Af but I reckon she is just late Either way I just want to get onto trying next month if this is not my month so I wish she would hurry up haha!

Welcome to all the newbies

(p.s I'm not aussie either hehe i'ma mongrel German/Irish) hehehe

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

Melainey - sorry to hear you feel that way! no good! but like you say, it's better to just know! haha it's really funny how few of us are actually aussies!!

angel - wow! I knew it was expensive, but I haven't really ever considered how much it adds up after each time! I bet she is over the moon!

 

[Trying2b2mums]

His GF is very secure and very happy with what he's doing, we haven't met her, but we have met all 4 of his kids, the older girls age 6 and 11, told us that they hope their daddy can help bc they think we will be great mums...so touching. So a very open, loving and understanding family. It is more a business relationship, but we are also facebook friends and get along really well. Both of our names will be allowed on the birth certificate, but unfortunately we still have to get a lawyer (another $500/hour) to do a proper adoption, dont ask me why after her name is already on the BC, but we do want to make sure we have covered everything so she has equal parental rights to our child, and especially if, heaven forbid, something happens in childbirth she will have full access and be able to legally make decisions and be in control. We've heard many horror stories. As for his involvement, there wont be any, no rights as the father, no mention of him on the birth certificate, we will maintain our friendship and be facebook friends, and he is of course open to contact when the child is older, but as for financial, emotional and physical support, that is not his duties. He is also open to helping us with a sibling in the future which is fantastic!!

Angel- it does add up, i hope your friend is successful soon! For us, if its not this month, we will try again -aug, sept, oct, and if it doesnt happen we will IVF next year, so fx wayyy crossed!!

Melainey- What makes you think she is just late??

 

[Pauls_angel]

Mum 2 Quigley... Yeah my friend is stoked - although she fell 3 months ago on cycle 3 and miscarried before her 6 week scan... her scan for this time round is this coming Friday - I am so badly praying that this month it will be a very sticky little bean for her and her DH!

Melainey... it's not over til it's over... really crossing my fingers for you!

2mums your donor sounds great... bummer about all the adoption costs but as you said it will be worth it for the bub to be legally both of yours! Really hoping you don't have to go down the IVF path!

 

[Melainey]

Wow that is a lot of money Trying2b2mums I REALLY hope you get your bfp this month!

I don't know I suppose I am just not being too hopeful because I don't want to be let down again for another month! So if I think the worst and I was to get a BFP it would be amazing but if I was to get AF it wouldn't be as bad? If that makes sense haha Also my periods are not always regular I am working off an average! I was so lovely to be blessed with pcos which makes it somuch harder to get pregnant bloody body!!

But weirdly enough my temps are continuing to rise with a .3 rise again this morning and are in the 37's at this time of the day! Which they normally are not this high! But again I amnot reading too much into it as I don't want to be let down again haha

to all you wonderful ladies (who keep me going everyday since I have joined) This forum has turned into an addiction for me hahahha

 

[Trying2b2mums]

I agree with Angel, Melainey- keep positive, anything is possible until shows up. fx for you too!!

A-Hoping your friend has a sticky little one this time around too. Must be exhausting for them, on all fronts!

Addition: Melainey, i understand your process, and the let down, and etc... But..temp rise and all, sounds promising!!! hoping for the best for you this month

 

[LLPM]

Wow everyone is in such different situations and yet we all want the same thing!! I love on here that it's about supporting each other and not a race!
I've had cramping this afternoon & tonight - its right above my pubic bone and like a dull ache. It doesn't feel like AF cramps though, I'm dying to know either way too Melainey, the waiting is a shocker. If this isn't my month that's fine but I'd like to get on with the next one! It's funny though, with the girls I found out at 14dpo with each of them and it's frustrating knowing that early because it's ages before you want to tell everyone (we told most people at 8weeks!) and also I remember thinking..."my goodness 36weeks till we get to meet out baby!" it ended up being 37weeks both times but anyway it felt like ages to wait! I guess the benefit of not finding out so early would be less time to countdown too! Hope we see some BFP's soon!

 

[Melainey]

Thanks so much ladies you give me hope xx

LLPM I agree with you there Only time I was pregnant i found out at 8 weeks and told everyone pretty soon after! (ended in m/c)so if I get pregnant again I will be holding off until about 12 weeks to tell anyone i was devastated the last time as were my family! BUt it is so hard not to symptom spot each month which makes you want to test hehehe ah well fx to all us wonderful ladies that we get our wish very soon

 

[Giddy]

Aww Melainey good luck. I hope it turns out that the witch is far, far away

I've felt nauseous all day but I'm only 2dpo so I'm guessing it's just from a dodgey dinner. Haha

 

[Trying2b2mums]

its all waiting isnt it, waiting to find out, waiting to tell people, waiting to see if it will stick, waiting to find out the sex, waiting to meet him/her or them!! Cheers (with water, hahah) to waiting together!!!
btw llmp- your cramps sound promising, how far off are you from 14dpo on this time around??

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

I'm sure this will be her time angel!

2mums - that sounds like a great arrangement. It's really nice to have everything out in the open too! there is so so much to think about!! I suppose you've had a long time to think about it!

Well after thinking about it, I find it to be a bit thing for his girlfriend, but I'm comparing it to my life right now, where I'm trying to start my family, and couldn't imagine being that selfless...but if I was at a different stage of my life, I think I would be happy fro my partner to do the same thing. It makes me feel good that I feel secure in my relationship!

see....endless good things come out of what you guys are working so hard for!!

 

[Pauls_angel]

Calling it a night ladies! May you all sleep well and may AF stay far far away for those of you expecting BFPs in the coming week! Nighty night! xx

 

[Melainey]

I agree 2mums and i'l cheers you to that

Angel- Thanks and goodnight x

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

LLPM - That's what I was trying to describe....cramps just above the pubic bone. lol

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

I'm gonna turn in too - I need to get some stuff done before bed! NIghty night!

Will be back in the morning to hear everyone's updates!!

good luck!

xxx

 

[Trying2b2mums]

Gnight angel.

It does take a special pair and woman to 'share' her partner/husband. But knowing that they/he are helping create what they already have has to be a warm feeling too. Very selfless, and there's always karma, good things shall come their way!!

more nighttime sticky to all us, and sticky eggs for angel

 

[Giddy]

Good luck everyone! Sleep tight and sweet baby-growing dreams to all of you.

 

[ginny83]

Trying: Thanks for being so open There is a mum in one of my mother's group that is in a same sex couple and the inquisitive part of me would love to ask her all those types of questions - but I'm too scared I'll offend her. But it's not because the baby has 2 mums, it's more because I'm interested because it's just different to what I've experienced.

After we had DS, DF and I have spoken about maybe helping another family out once we're finished having our family. I think I would consider donating eggs, but also don't really like the thought of the egg retrieval process so I'm not sure. Anyway, it's something for down the track.

Mum2Q: We having bee really lucky with out ttc attempts (not as lucky with the sticky bit). We starting NTNP in Jan this year, then actually started ttc in Feb where we managed to catch the egg that cycle. Then sadly at the end of April is when I found out the baby had died at my 12 week scan - it measured just under 12 weeks

DS was a surprise baby so never actually did any ttc for him. I actually thought at the time that I was a bit sad that we didn't get to actually "try" for him and go through the experience of expecting to test etc - haha how naive!

 

[Trying2b2mums]

Trying: Thanks for being so open There is a mum in one of my mother's group that is in a same sex couple and the inquisitive part of me would love to ask her all those types of questions - but I'm too scared I'll offend her. But it's not because the baby has 2 mums, it's more because I'm interested because it's just different to what I've experienced.

After we had DS, DF and I have spoken about maybe helping another family out once we're finished having our family. I think I would consider donating eggs, but also don't really like the thought of the egg retrieval process so I'm not sure. Anyway, it's something for down the track.

Mum2Q: We having bee really lucky with out ttc attempts (not as lucky with the sticky bit). We starting NTNP in Jan this year, then actually started ttc in Feb where we managed to catch the egg that cycle. Then sadly at the end of April is when I found out the baby had died at my 12 week scan - it measured just under 12 weeks

DS was a surprise baby so never actually did any ttc for him. I actually thought at the time that I was a bit sad that we didn't get to actually "try" for him and go through the experience of expecting to test etc - haha how naive!

I can't speak for all, but i'd rather give the knowledge out, than to have false preconceived notions out there. If you have a good relationship with her, Im sure she wouldnt mind sharing, sometimes its nice to be asked bc we feel so 'alone' in the process, it can be so different, we have no one to share with, no one that wants to know, bc its 'scary', etc.. But also feel free to ask me anything, i am very open, and its a bit easier as im sure most of us will never meet.
I'll admit to being selfish, i know i am being helped by a donor, but the thought of donating, and having a biological child out there without me is scary, i want them all, i know thats horribly selfish, as there are so many want to be mums, and gay couples that would love an egg to start a family...maybe, hopefully, my mind will change after i do have one of my own, but hey at least im honest. I would like to feel comfortable and to be able to pay it forward, some day.