Hi. My name is Jenn. I haven't posted on this site since I was long term TTC. It was like therapy for me so I'm hoping to get support again. I have 2 autistic children, Nathan (3) and Matty(2). Nathan is completely nonverbal (can only say mama, dada, Matty, cow, no, yes). He cannot maneuver his oral muscles so his speech consists of hums. Matty is beginning to talk but can't have a conversation. They are both in diapers, cannot do anything for themselves, and are in ABA preschool. I mentioned to a relative that I'm applying for a handicap placard for them and disability income. They told me autism isn't a disability or special needs....It mostly stems from faulty parenting. If my children can't talk, it's because i don't talk to them enough. If they don't listen, it's because i don't discipline enough. That autism is an excuse to lack in parenting. I feel guilty enough for feeling like i caused their autism somehow, and this cousin of mine made me feel worse. Anyone else deal with ignorant relatives? Do you consider autism a disability or special needs?