Babies dad has decided he can't cope...

[mum2bxx]

Hi, I'm new here and 35+3 weeks pregnant with a little boy. I have a ds already who is 8 and recovering from a bone marrow transplant. My current pregnancy was a surprise to say the least and I actually had no idea I was pregnant until 21 weeks when it was picked up by the doctor.
I'm posting really because I need a safe place to rant. Babies dad has now decided he can't cope and wants nothing more to do with any of us. I don't know what to do, this is the first time he's said anything about it and when I say said I mean he sent me a text saying I can't do this anymore, I won't be coming home. That was 3 days ago and I haven't heard from him since. He's removed me from Facebook as well so I know it's not a mistake. Anyone else about to become a single parent of 2?

 

[KayBea]

i only have the one 2 yr old so cant really offer any advice on having 2 kiddies..

xxx

 

[Mummy1995]

No advice hun but how selfish I wouldnt contact him until your little boy is born, and then maybe ring him or send him a text with a pic of him, that might pull on his heartstrings and he may change his mind. Hugs xx

 

[lovejoy]

What a beep beep hole.

I have a 2 year old and a month old. My ex left when I was 7 weeks pregnant, hasn't met baby even thought I've offered and is playing daddy to his new girlfriend's son and looks like me wants a baby with her? I don't understand men anymore. You'll be fine, as I learnt I'm not the first and I won't be the last single mum on the planet and most times if the guy is a douche bag you and baby are better off without him. Your life will be better without someone who doesn't want to be around, is negative and adds extra stress to your life.

 

[Dezireey]

Same as me ( sort of ) the words ' I can't cope' with kids/ babies / whatever , was my ex's mantra. The lies he told me though were extreme. Like Lovejoy said, when the dust settles, when time has helped the sadness, the emptiness and you start to heal, you realise that 'hell yeah" you are better off without this person in your lives. Whenever I get bad days or weeks, I keep reminding myself what he did to me and to his child and realise that my life is a way happier and less stressful place now without him in it.

If he has a child and he is actually prepared to play father to someone else's child, what does that say about his character? If I went out with a guy who wanted to be Daddy to my son but not his own flesh and blood baby, I would kick him to the kerb, who does that sort of thing anyway?

You will realise one day that you and your children are better off without this man in your lives. And you will cope fine without him. Women are stronger than men..fact!

Hugs xx

 

[mum2bxx]

Thank you for the replies. I've since heard from a friend of his who came to pick up some clothes for him. Yes he's that much of a coward that he can't even pick his own stuff up... It seems he's decided to tell everyone that he doesn't believe that this baby is his. I'm devastated, I've never cheated on him and never would. I don't know what's happened to make him like this. I think it's just time to move on and concentrate on my boys, maybe he'll see the light once baby is here x

 

[Mummy1995]

Exactly what my ex did. He asked for a DNA test, I agreed and then he backed out! hes just trying to worm his way out. Offer a DNA test! x

 

[Ceejay123]

Sounds like a cop out to make himself feel better honey.

Men seem to leave then find an excuse not to make it their fault.

Any chance he's depressed ? X

 

[Live It Up]

My ex did the same thing and more. We have an 18 month old and I have a baby on the way in 2 weeks. He cheated once he found out about baby #2 and left us for the other woman.

 

[Natsku]

what an arsehole!

 

[babycrazy1706]

So sorry hun