it doesnt sound bad at all krissi hun, many army wives say the same thing, the advice we're given is to stay honest with each other and give each other time,
maybe sit down with him and explain the routine as it stands atm and see where he can fit in or roles that you could alternate turns or adapt to fit,
hopefully by the time he comes home he's done enough healing to realise that you and the girls are more important and can put you and his own health above his cravings,
glad the apt went well hun