Bigger Babies Club

[Opal]

Hi everyone! My little girl is the 90th percentile. She is 7 months and weighs 19 pounds. I got the rudest comment the other day. One of OH's co-workers said, "Her head is huge! Wow, she must weigh more than my son and he is a month older than her!" Sounds innocent enough, but tone of voice, which was disgust, plays a part in it... I said, "Look who's talking about having a big head." I get so mad at the comments. I know I'm biased, but I just see my daughter as beautiful. She has a heart shaped face and cute cheeks! I wouldn't have her any other way... But I'm wondering, how do you mommies deal with the rude comments?

 

[aliss]

Hi everyone! My little girl is the 90th percentile. She is 7 months and weighs 19 pounds. I got the rudest comment the other day. One of OH's co-workers said, "Her head is huge! Wow, she must weigh more than my son and he is a month older than her!" Sounds innocent enough, but tone of voice, which was disgust, plays a part in it... I said, "Look who's talking about having a big head." I get so mad at the comments. I know I'm biased, but I just see my daughter as beautiful. She has a heart shaped face and cute cheeks! I wouldn't have her any other way... But I'm wondering, how do you mommies deal with the rude comments?

Aww Mine is almost 21lbs and is not even 6 months yet.

I haven't had any rude comments in person (although I hear things about 'overfeeding' online), I think some people just don't imagine that their comments might come off offensive!

 

[Kte]

:wave: Opal, welcome It's hard sometimes but I ususally just shrug it off, thinking something like 'you moron' in my head. I know my LO is happy and health and in proportion so I just try and ignore them, or come on here and rant afterwards lol. My combacks are always rubbish and most usually delayed so have no effect! Now LO understands a bit more, if someone gives her a negative comment, I usually just talk to LO and conteract it with a positive comment to her e.g 'Isn't she a biggie' so I say to her, 'aww, your beautiful aren't you, Mummy's little poppet' (one of her nicknames!)

 

[Opal]

aliss - I've heard comments about overfeeding too. Try as we might, my girl is just not interested in drinking during the day although she'll eat her solids. So she drinks a lot of her formula at night. My doctor wants me to cut her feedings at night, but I just can't do it since she hardly drinks during the day. He recommend we let her CIO, but I know she is hungry and tired...

Kte - Hi! Thanks for the welcome. I think what you do is just perfect. Poppet is a cute nickname! I think from now on I'm not even going to entertain a response to people. Because my daughter is in the 90th percentile, my doctor said he is "concerned" and would like to see her at 9 months, instead of 12 months (which is the norm here). Ugh, can you tell I don't like her doctor?!

 

[aliss]

Mine still takes a lot of milk overnight, he gets quite distracted in the day. As long as you are okay with it, the nights are your problem not his! I also got a rude "gotta toughen up & do CIO mom!!!" from the doctor. Ugh.

 

[Kte]

I still don't get how you can over feed a LO right now, I mean my LO some days she eats and eats and other days she barely touches her food, there is no way I could force anything she didn't want into her! Plus so long as they are getting the right amount of milk it shouldn't matter when really! My LO was still walking in the night at 6 months for a feed, it seems totally normal.

In the very beginning, around 2/3 months, she was putting on weight fast so I put her onto HB milk, they kept on saying they wanted to keep an eye on her for ages too bur she was perfectly fine. It was worrying and upsetting at first but I guess they also keep an eye out incase there is any other health issue, not just that you are overfeeding, which it can feel like they are saying. I think doctors are even worse at being sensitive when it comes to these things! It's difficult because of all the growth spurts they keep on going through. After a while my LO evened out on the same line and they were happy after a while. A lot of babies in here are in the 90's

I'd like to see them be made to wait when they are hungry too! CIO

 

[Opal]

I don't understand it either! My doctor thinks that we are essentially spoiling our daughter and that as she gets older, the only way to get her to sleep will be to nurse her and that whenever she fusses at night, she will expect to get a feeding. I just want to throw up my arms and say, "They are BABIES! Not tiny adults!" He tries to guilt trip me a lot. He thinks I'm forming her personality into that of a demanding and sassy little girl. Please. Easy for him to give "advice" when he isn't married, let alone have a baby of his own... *grumbles*

 

[juless]

At my daughter's first appointment when she was 2 weeks old, she weighed 12 pounds, 3 ounces. My doctor said something to the effect of "You can give her a pacifier as well". I guess maybe he thinks I soothe her with food? At her age though, she is just crying when hungry most of the time, so if I try to give her a soother, she usually spits it out and wants food. I was worried that maybe I was overfeeding her, but I don't think that's really possible at her age. She drinks till she's full and then stops on her own.

 

[leoniebabey]

oooh can i join in
My LO was 8lbs 2 born on the 50th centile, he's now edging to the 98th
weighed 20lbs 10 at 25 weeks
i always get the how old is he ? oh 6 months, gosh really isnt he big!

 

[aliss]

oooh can i join in
My LO was 8lbs 2 born on the 50th centile, he's now edging to the 98th
weighed 20lbs 10 at 25 weeks
i always get the how old is he ? oh 6 months, gosh really isnt he big!

Mine is 20lb 26 weeks too I just tossed away a big bag of 9 month clothes and pulled out the 12 months!

 

[Opal]

I get kind of depressed looking at the bags, and bags, and BAGS of smaller baby clothes she has. She hardly wore them for long and I know most babies don't, but since she was bigger, she went through them even faster! I've tried selling them at shops near us but they won't take them as they are summer clothes (she was born in May). Argh!

 

[Kte]

Cute avetar picture Opal

I know what you mean about the clothes (2 boxes, 1 bag and counting!) but thankfully Chloe has evened off, so it should get better for you ladies! She has been in 12 months for a while now, okay she is 13 months but she was in them way before! Plus there seems pleanty more wear in them too

:wave: Welcome leoniebabay :wave: Cute signature picture too

 

[Windmills]

Daisy is now 28 weeks and weighs 23lbs 7oz. She's only gained 15oz in 2 months though so she's really levelled off now. She's just coming out of 6-9, I think she's got a week or two left in the sleepsuits

 

[aliss]

One thing that drives me mad about the suits is that I don't want him to wear 12 month clothing! It's all shirts, jackets, jeans, shoes, etc. but he's still a wee baby and I prefer to keep him in his sleep suits. Ugh!!!

 

[Kte]

I agree with that, the style does change a bit, hmm, Asda I think do sleep suits up to 12 months and I was given some too, I will have to check the labels, think they were from Next. There is pleanty of time to have them in 'grown up' clothing!

 

[Kaites]

I remember being sad about Emma outgrowing some 12 month yoga pants at 4 months (she was 20lbs at 4 months) when I added them to the enormous pile of outgrown clothing. My mum and I had gone outlet shopping while I was pregnant and thought we'd bought a year's worth of clothing but it only lasted Emma until she was about 4months old Like Kte said though, the growth does taper off (thankfully!) and Emma's been in 24month clothes for about 6 months now

Aliss- Carters and Children's Place both do cute sleepsuits up to 24mths (still have the feet attached like the younger baby ones). Carters also has lots of one-piece playsuits too.

 

[aliss]

Oooh thanks I think I will check out Carter's then.

 

[holywoodmum]

Bridget was weighed yesterday for 4 month check, 7.25kg now and 63 cm. lighter and shorter than her big sis was at same age and she started out heavier... ah well!

as for feeds, she's leapt to 50oz a day for a few days there, but down to 40 today... (this is after being on about 35, then a week of only 20-25 a day, then back to about 35) so yeah, whoever says you overfeed them is talking b*llocks they take what they need when they need it in my opinion!!

 

[leoniebabey]

Morgan is a big eater mind
for his dinner he has a full jar and a full bottle and still cries for more!

 

[juless]

I'm realizing that breastfeeding is actually filling up Rose somewhat, though I still top up with formula. She will take about 16 ounces a day of formula so hearing that some need 50 ounces I see how little formula she actually eats. I sometimes feel like my milk doesn't do a thing to help her feel full, but I guess it is!