Birth Announcements..does this sound ok to add?

[tweedy]

i'm doing the no kids rule, i would never bring my daughter to visit other babies, i thought it was common knowledge, my neices and nephews fair enough, but no other kids. my daughter will have a hard enough time adjusting to the new born, never mind having to see other kids with it. i also never offered to let people hold her, if she was asleep in her moses basket and people hovered a bit too long, i just said, if i was sleeping you would leave me be...and that was the end of that, if she was awake when people visited and they asked i would let them have a hold for about 2 mins, then i would take her back and tell them to get the kettle on. once i was fit enough to be out and about i was much more relaxed, but i hated people who assumed they could lift her...once my bil came in, the midwife had just been to do the heel prick test and i'd just got her settled, he came in sat down and said give her to me then, i laughed and said, i'm off for a lie down, let yourself out and went upstairs, he phoned my husband who was at the gym, and gave off about be being rude and luckily my hubby told him where to go. he wasn't invited back for about a month! and hasn't seen my daughter since her last birthday, so not like they are close.

 

[HappiestMom]

That sounds so much better than what my SIL did to us last year. She sent us all an email saying that unless we got a flu shot, we would not be allowed near her baby. WTF. That pissed me off because I'm not getting a flu shot just to be around her baby, especially since just because you get the vaccine that doesn't mean you won't get another strain of flu, or have some other illness. I understand her wishes to not let baby get sick but... ugh don't get me started LOL!!

maybe I'll just stand at the door and jab them with a flu shot when they walk in and spray them down with Lysol lol lol lol lol...

the main part of the kid thing is that its flu season and school is just back in and thats the WORST time for not only the flu and colds but strep throats..pink eye...etc etc...since they have been away from each other all summer and are just getting back into rooms with 20-30 other kids... and also the kids that would come are old enough to want to hold her and carry her and all that and I just dont feel like trying to nicely get them not to...

I would love to put no children at all but my neighbor that hosted my shower has two kids..one of them is obsessed with me and especially since Im preggie...but since she threw me the shower I feel like I cant say no...

idk..I might add that in with a note about since school is back in and its the germ season, please no children....just for now..dont get me wrong Im the oldest of 7..and a nanny..lol..I have nothing against kids in general its just not the right time of year for them...and IDK if Im going to have the patience or the energy to keep saying no to them...and the people with children that would come all have atleast 2-3 kids and young ones at that.....its not just 1...

 

[Sideways 8]

maybe just make sure that you have plenty of hand sanitizer around and ask that everyone use it (including kids) before handling baby. I imagine we'll do the same thing. And we'll be sure to use it ourselves before handling baby, in front of others, so they get the hint that we mean business!

 

[HappiestMom]

We would like time to bond as a family and kindly ask that those wishing to visit wait until Saturday October 29th to do so. You are welcome to come by anytime between 1 and 5pm that day. Also since it is germ season and the kids are back in school we ask please adults only at this time, and if you or anyone around you has been sick recently, please wait until a later date to visit. Thanks for understanding!


what about that?

 

[AngelBunny]

we wont be doing anything like this i think it's quite normal & healthy for a baby to come into contact with germs, & anyone who is really ill in my friends or family would most likely wait until they were feeling better before visiting anyway. we're also fine with visitors providing it's not all day everyday, but again our fam & friends call first so if needs be i'd just tell them we need some time to ourselves.. but if it works for you do it only you know what's best for your family xx

 

[Eternal]

Personally I wasnt worried first time and i wont this time, my son has never been "hidden" from germs and has only once been ill (he is 21 months). I wont be worried this time either, if someone is really ill they wont come, most people dont just turn up either so never had the problems of loads of people coming trying to hold my baby.

But do what your comfortable with.

I remember not minding people coming over at all, i remember my SIL coming over and saying how ill they had been or how ill the kids were and thinking, what are you thinking? my OH usually would say something though. No problems with anyone else, infact people would say, im not coming over as i had a cold or whatever.

I didnt enjoy having kids over though, my SIL wanted to hold my baby lots and her youngest was about 2 and would be climbing on her and kicking my son when she was holding him :'( i really felt uptight when kids were around my son, so i def would add something like that.

But as my son is very rough and tumble i am sure the twins will be used to having him around so again i am not bothered.

But at the end of the day, do what your comfortable with.

I loved having visitiors, most came bearing FOOD, which was a big plus for me, didnt have to cook for the first week!

 

[janeybaby]

If a friend of mine put that on an announcment card i'd be offended that they didn't think I was sensible enough to realise they need time to adjust and settle and that I would even consider visiting if I had been ill recently.

I am on my 4th baby and NO ONE has just turned up without phoning before hand to ask if it is possible to visit or find out when is best to come. Like wise I would NEVER and have never just turned up to visit friends when they have had their babies..... Its common sense for most people and they don't need telling..... however there can always be those who think its ok to just turn up unannounced so its up to you. You know your own friends and if you think they would turn up on the off chance then its a good idea.

I have always just mentioned in convosations during my pregnancy that the first few days/weeks after coming home will be for family visits and to settle in with baby. That way I have made it clear to friends they don't need to all rush round without being rude lol

 

[tlh97990]

you may want to add something about calling first unless you just plan on spending those couple hours expecting people.

 

[Tampa]

I think this sounds really polite and reasonable actually. I have no idea how anyone could be offended... At the end of the day this is your newborn, and you know your friends and family best.

I do think you're exceptionally brave having them all in on one afternoon! That would be my idea of hell! But good on you - at least it's over and done with.

We're hoping to get baby out of the house to visit people in the first few weeks - other wise me and my oh WILL kill each other! Then others can worry about tidying their houses, making cups of tea and serving us endless quantities of cakes and biscuits. Having said that - who knows how we'll all feel? And how "easy" our babies will be?

 

[MyTurnYet]

We would like time to bond as a family and kindly ask that those wishing to visit wait until Saturday October 29th to do so. You are welcome to come by anytime between 1 and 5pm that day. Also since it is germ season and the kids are back in school we ask please adults only at this time, and if you or anyone around you has been sick recently, please wait until a later date to visit. Thanks for understanding!


what about that?

I think I would just change "germ" season to "flu" season. It makes it sound more serious, since flu is very serious for babies, rather than implying their kids are germy (which they probably are). I feel like your friends/family will understand. The reason I like this idea is that MOST people know not to come around a baby when they are sick, and no one actually wants to get a baby sick, but some people can be dumb. So I like the reminder. I don't want any kids around my baby at first, either. I understand exposing them to germs to build their immune systems, but not exposing them to illness, especially flu, when they are that delicate. That's why they don't usually even let kids in the hospital for visit, unless they are siblings.

 

[babylove719]

I think it's a pretty reasonable request. I don't think we'll have to worry about any visitors dropping by our house. I'm sure we'll get quite a few visitors at the hospital which is ok with me because it will pretty much be family only anyway. Then once we're home I'm sure the only visitors we'll get are close family like our parents... she'll meet the extended family for the first time on thanksgiving.

I'm also VERY glad that no family or anyone else I know has any young children because I would be wary of the kids being around and not just b/c of the germs. I was visiting my friend and her newborn last year and she had another friend there visiting who had brought her 3 year old. I have nothing against toddlers, I'm a preschool teacher, but this little girl was all over the place and as her mother held the baby she was poking and climbing around her and actually GRABBED at the baby's head (trying to see her not hurting intentionally) but I saw that and I would have totally freaked out if it were my baby!! WOAH

 

[highhopes19]

i didnt even think of this, thanks for reminding me.... no doubt my family WONT be understanding though

i think it sounds absolutly fine and reasonable hun

xxx

 

[HappiestMom]

thanks ladies...trust me I dont mind germs and my kid wont be sheltered but I just feel like the first few weeks of life arent the best time to just expose them to everything...im not afraid of dirt or bugs or playing outside..going barefoot..etc..but her being only a few weeks old and it starting to get that time of year Im definitely going to be careful... yeah I'll change it to flu season instead of germ lol..

 

[aliss]

Who cares if anyone gets offended!

I didn't do that and my LO had an ear infection at 7 days, it was a horrible horrible nightmare! I will be very stern about making sure people are 100% healthy & clean next time.

Good for you! If you don't stand up for yourself and your standards when LO comes along, people will try and push you around. Your gut tells you to keep sick people away, that's the mommy instinct already, never ignore it!

 

[puddycats]

i think thats a good idea, i will also be asking people to remove there shoes, as i have lamiate flooring i will not have time to do sweeping and moping everyday and with me giving birth in november no doubt it will be wet and knowing english weather snow! will be on its way, and im hoping to have a huge new rug by then as well.

 

[littlebabyboy]

sorry but....YOUR BABY YOUR RULES!!!!! to hell with everyone else!!!

 

[HappiestMom]

I ran it by hubby..I was worried he would say I was just being too mommyish and worrying too much already but he completely agreed..especially about the kids and even said to make sure we enforce our no shoes in the house rule (hes 1/2 korean lol) so now I feel much better that I have his support and he didnt accuse me of just being difficult...