Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[overcomer79]

I am pro NIP. End of!
I have bf anytime anywhere, if anyone really really thought about the reasons they are offended by breastfeeding they'd surely realise they're ridiculous?

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I think there is a lot of misinterpretation in this thread. I haven't read anyone who is "offended" by breastfeeding nor by NIP. We are all from different backgrounds but calling each other names (not you but yes there has been name calling in this thread) isn't going to help the cause.

 

[Natsku]

I am pro NIP. End of!
I have bf anytime anywhere, if anyone really really thought about the reasons they are offended by breastfeeding they'd surely realise they're ridiculous?

xx

I think there is a lot of misinterpretation in this thread. I haven't read anyone who is "offended" by breastfeeding nor by NIP. We are all from different backgrounds but calling each other names (not you but yes there has been name calling in this thread) isn't going to help the cause.

I think she's talking about people out there in the general public who are offended by NIP (or even just breastfeeding in general though I imagine that kind of person is pretty rare)

 

[RaspberryK]

I am pro NIP. End of!
I have bf anytime anywhere, if anyone really really thought about the reasons they are offended by breastfeeding they'd surely realise they're ridiculous?

xx

I think there is a lot of misinterpretation in this thread. I haven't read anyone who is "offended" by breastfeeding nor by NIP. We are all from different backgrounds but calling each other names (not you but yes there has been name calling in this thread) isn't going to help the cause.

I think she's talking about people out there in the general public who are offended by NIP (or even just breastfeeding in general though I imagine that kind of person is pretty rare)

Exactly what I meant !

One of my long term friends hates breastfeeding, says it's disgusting, says she doesn't want to see it etc so people with this opinion do exist!
The awful thing is that she's a teacher! id rather see a woman nip than her arse cheeks when she wears really skirt shorts
I do think it's a ridiculous view, from women -they have boobs, so are they offended by there own? Men - love boobs when no baby attached.........
It's nature, cows don't go to family rooms to fed their young, neither should we have to!
X

 

[Dk1234]

I mean that's not the best argument. Cows also shit in front of anyone too. Not saying people shouldn't feed in front of people but I just don't think that argument holds water. We don't live like people in Africa either. Personally I wouldn't want to see men walking around in loin cloths baring it all either. I just don't understand what's wrong with nursing in public with a little discretion if possible.

 

[Natsku]

There's nothing wrong with using discretion but there should be no rules about what is discreet or not. Mothers should be able to feed in whatever way is most comfortable for them even if other people think its not discreet enough.

And I wouldn't care if men walked about in loin clothes but I think they'd get a little cold here!

 

[Dk1234]

There's nothing wrong with using discretion but there should be no rules about what is discreet or not. Mothers should be able to feed in whatever way is most comfortable for them even if other people think its not discreet enough.

And I wouldn't care if men walked about in loin clothes but I think they'd get a little cold here!

I don't think there should be rules either necessarily. I just don't understand why people would actually want to be baring it all. And like I've said a 100 times, I think it puts people off BFing and that's counter productive in the goal to normalize BFing.

 

[Natsku]

There's nothing wrong with using discretion but there should be no rules about what is discreet or not. Mothers should be able to feed in whatever way is most comfortable for them even if other people think its not discreet enough.

And I wouldn't care if men walked about in loin clothes but I think they'd get a little cold here!

I don't think there should be rules either necessarily. I just don't understand why people would actually want to be baring it all. And like I've said a 100 times, I think it puts people off BFing and that's counter productive in the goal to normalize BFing.

I doubt there's many people that want to bare it all. There's people that have trouble or find it impossible to be discreet (or have wardrobe malfunctions) but when you see that person you can't tell if they are doing it on purpose or not but I think many people just assume its done because the mother doesn't care, or is trying to make a statement, or is an exhibitionist, but I bet the vast majority of times its either an accident or the mother simply cannot being any more discreet than she is being.

 

[Dk1234]

There's nothing wrong with using discretion but there should be no rules about what is discreet or not. Mothers should be able to feed in whatever way is most comfortable for them even if other people think its not discreet enough.

And I wouldn't care if men walked about in loin clothes but I think they'd get a little cold here!

I don't think there should be rules either necessarily. I just don't understand why people would actually want to be baring it all. And like I've said a 100 times, I think it puts people off BFing and that's counter productive in the goal to normalize BFing.

I doubt there's many people that want to bare it all. There's people that have trouble or find it impossible to be discreet (or have wardrobe malfunctions) but when you see that person you can't tell if they are doing it on purpose or not but I think many people just assume its done because the mother doesn't care, or is trying to make a statement, or is an exhibitionist, but I bet the vast majority of times its either an accident or the mother simply cannot being any more discreet than she is being.

But there are lots of people on here who have said they could care less who sees what. It's the attitude behind it. If people were trying to be discrete a d simply failed I think I could def tell the difference. When you show no attempt to block people's view or cover yourself when exposed that's what I'm talking about. I've said lits of times the odd nip slip probably would t be noticed by others.

 

[Natsku]

There's nothing wrong with using discretion but there should be no rules about what is discreet or not. Mothers should be able to feed in whatever way is most comfortable for them even if other people think its not discreet enough.

And I wouldn't care if men walked about in loin clothes but I think they'd get a little cold here!

I don't think there should be rules either necessarily. I just don't understand why people would actually want to be baring it all. And like I've said a 100 times, I think it puts people off BFing and that's counter productive in the goal to normalize BFing.

I doubt there's many people that want to bare it all. There's people that have trouble or find it impossible to be discreet (or have wardrobe malfunctions) but when you see that person you can't tell if they are doing it on purpose or not but I think many people just assume its done because the mother doesn't care, or is trying to make a statement, or is an exhibitionist, but I bet the vast majority of times its either an accident or the mother simply cannot being any more discreet than she is being.

But there are lots of people on here who have said they could care less who sees what. It's the attitude behind it. If people were trying to be discrete a d simply failed I think I could def tell the difference. When you show no attempt to block people's view or cover yourself when exposed that's what I'm talking about. I've said lits of times the odd nip slip probably would t be noticed by others.

Well can't speak for everyone but my attitude is that yes, I don't care if someone sees a nip slip or too much breast for their comfort. That doesn't mean I am purposefully trying to expose all that I can, it means that I'm not going to worry if something shows (or try and cover up if there is a nip slip unless my child has finished feeding) and I'm not going to care if someone gets offended because that is their problem and if they had any common sense they would not be offended.

 

[special_kala]

I don't care where I am, I will feed my bsby regardless.

I'm very pro NIP but that doesn't mean I stand there with my boobs out shouting "look at me its all natural baby" but at the same time I'm not going to use a cover beceause I refuse to cover up my feeding child.

I really don't see what's offensive or uncomfortable about a bit of extra breast on show?

The argument saying we should be discreet (though like I said above its not like bf mums just let it all hang out anyway) because other people are uncomfortable with it doesnt make sense to me. It wasn't that long ago that black people were banned from some shops, interracial couples were shunned in public as we're gay couples. Should we have just said "well they make people uncomfortable so they shouldn't do it"

I have big boobs and sometimes a bit more flesh is on display but unless your staring pretty hard I can't see how it's offensive.

 

[Dk1234]

So I have no common sense because I don't want to see your whole breast while I'm eating dinner? I just think that is so wrong. My breasts are private and I'd prefer yours to be too when in oublic. That doesn't mean I have no common sense, I know how BFing works, I love it It just means I have different views than you and for you to think that my views don't matter is exactly what I'm talking about. It has nothing to do with just BFing either. I think smokers with no consideration for others have the wrong attitude too which has been brought up earlier. I think moms who won't remove screaming children from a quiet environment like a restaurant have the wrong attitude. Just because a baby needs fed doesn't make no one else matter.

 

[Dk1234]

I don't care where I am, I will feed my bsby regardless.

I'm very pro NIP but that doesn't mean I stand there with my boobs out shouting "look at me its all natural baby" but at the same time I'm not going to use a cover beceause I refuse to cover up my feeding child.

I really don't see what's offensive or uncomfortable about a bit of extra breast on show?

The argument saying we should be discreet (though like I said above its not like bf mums just let it all hang out anyway) because other people are uncomfortable with it doesnt make sense to me. It wasn't that long ago that black people were banned from some shops, interracial couples were shunned in public as we're gay couples. Should we have just said "well they make people uncomfortable so they shouldn't do it"

I have big boobs and sometimes a bit more flesh is on display but unless your staring pretty hard I can't see how it's offensive.

No one has expressed a problem with a bit of extra flesh. We've discussed nipples and the whole breast. I don't think you should ha e to cover.

 

[special_kala]

A baby feeding has no effect on anyone though.

 

[Dk1234]

I don't care where I am, I will feed my bsby regardless.

I'm very pro NIP but that doesn't mean I stand there with my boobs out shouting "look at me its all natural baby" but at the same time I'm not going to use a cover beceause I refuse to cover up my feeding child.

I really don't see what's offensive or uncomfortable about a bit of extra breast on show?

The argument saying we should be discreet (though like I said above its not like bf mums just let it all hang out anyway) because other people are uncomfortable with it doesnt make sense to me. It wasn't that long ago that black people were banned from some shops, interracial couples were shunned in public as we're gay couples. Should we have just said "well they make people uncomfortable so they shouldn't do it"

I have big boobs and sometimes a bit more flesh is on display but unless your staring pretty hard I can't see how it's offensive.

Also to do with this, did you read my example about gay people? Ill use it again because I think it's pretty compare able in discussion if normalizing things. In a town that is very anti gay, they still exist, would it be better to have a gay pride parade and for gay people to go out making out in restaurants, coffee shops, etc? Or would it probably make it more normal if gay people just lived normal lives waked around together, held hands, kissed on the check those types of things. Same goes for normalizing BFing. When you go somewhere and show no restraint for where you are like. Public place it shocks people. This putting them off BFing and this making it harder for people to view it as normal. They view it as extreme.

 

[Dk1234]

A baby feeding has no effect on anyone though.

I was just using examples that were brought up earlier. But the thing is that some people don't want to see a breast in public. And by not caring about their opinion, I think we create a negative image of BFing in public.

 

[special_kala]

What sort of restraint needs to be shown? If a bit if extra flesh isn't the issue what is

 

[Natsku]

So I have no common sense because I don't want to see your whole breast while I'm eating dinner? I just think that is so wrong. My breasts are private and I'd prefer yours to be too when in oublic. That doesn't mean I have no common sense, I know how BFing works, I love it It just means I have different views than you and for you to think that my views don't matter is exactly what I'm talking about. It has nothing to do with just BFing either. I think smokers with no consideration for others have the wrong attitude too which has been brought up earlier. I think moms who won't remove screaming children from a quiet environment like a restaurant have the wrong attitude. Just because a baby needs fed doesn't make no one else matter.

How does seeing a breast affect you eating your dinner? Unless you think breasts are disgusting and they make you too sick to eat your dinner (which I am sure you don't think) then it has no effect on you and therefore if you had common sense you wouldn't care. You can look away - you can't stop hearing a screaming baby by turning away. With smokers, if its not a no-smoking area then the onus is on you to move away if you don't like - thats what I do.

Edit: I have to go to the shop now, hope this thread doesn't grow ten pages by the time I get back!

 

[Dk1234]

So I have no common sense because I don't want to see your whole breast while I'm eating dinner? I just think that is so wrong. My breasts are private and I'd prefer yours to be too when in oublic. That doesn't mean I have no common sense, I know how BFing works, I love it It just means I have different views than you and for you to think that my views don't matter is exactly what I'm talking about. It has nothing to do with just BFing either. I think smokers with no consideration for others have the wrong attitude too which has been brought up earlier. I think moms who won't remove screaming children from a quiet environment like a restaurant have the wrong attitude. Just because a baby needs fed doesn't make no one else matter.

How does seeing a breast affect you eating your dinner? Unless you think breasts are disgusting and they make you too sick to eat your dinner (which I am sure you don't think) then it has no effect on you and therefore if you had common sense you wouldn't care. You can look away - you can't stop hearing a screaming baby by turning away. With smokers, if its not a no-smoking area then the onus is on you to move away if you don't like - thats what I do.

Edit: I have to go to the shop now, hope this thread doesn't grow ten pages by the time I get back!

Because I don't think it's appropriate to bare your whole breast end of. You do, but everyone doesn't. It isn't disgusting but to me it is private. The act of feeding isn't, the whole breast is.

 

[Dk1234]

What sort of restraint needs to be shown? If a bit if extra flesh isn't the issue what is

For example you mentioned earlier a woman who left her boob out the whole time she got stuff sorted. I think that is inappropriate. Someone said a woman left it out to shock a teen, that's also inappropriate IMO. Someone in here said their child would bob on and off the breast lots of times and they would make no effort to block people's view from their breast until he was well done eating. I think that deserves a little more discretion.

 

[special_kala]

I have only ever seen one woman show her whole breast when feeding and that was at a children's centre.