Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[special_kala]

What sort of restraint needs to be shown? If a bit if extra flesh isn't the issue what is

For example you mentioned earlier a woman who left her boob out the whole time she got stuff sorted. I think that is inappropriate. Someone said a woman left it out to shock a teen, that's also inappropriate IMO. Someone in here said their child would bob on and off the breast lots of times and they would make no effort to block people's view from their breast until he was well done eating. I think that deserves a little more discretion.

Those people are such a tiny minority.

Willow would unlatch fairly regularly all I did was put my hand above the nipple so people walking by glancing down wouldn't see it straight on but I didnt rush to put my boob away. If someone saw a glimpse of nipple I'm not going to worry about it.

I'm not a fan of seeing thongs hang out peoples trousers so if I catch a glimpse I just look away. I'm not going to get offended by it.

 

[Dk1234]

I e only ever seen it once too. Admittdly i do t see many People nip where i am. but that's why I think nip is wonderful for the most part. And that's also why I can't understand why people have found my views so absurd in this thread because that's the only thing I've expressed an issue with.

 

[Dk1234]

What sort of restraint needs to be shown? If a bit if extra flesh isn't the issue what is

For example you mentioned earlier a woman who left her boob out the whole time she got stuff sorted. I think that is inappropriate. Someone said a woman left it out to shock a teen, that's also inappropriate IMO. Someone in here said their child would bob on and off the breast lots of times and they would make no effort to block people's view from their breast until he was well done eating. I think that deserves a little more discretion.

Those people are such a tiny minority.

Willow would unlatch fairly regularly all I did was put my hand above the nipple so people walking by glancing down wouldn't see it straight on but I didnt rush to put my boob away. If someone saw a glimpse of nipple I'm not going to worry about it.

I'm not a fan of seeing thongs hang out peoples trousers so if I catch a glimpse I just look away. I'm not going to get offended by it.

What you did is exactly what I consider the proper ammount of discretion. And if a man was walking around with his penis out I think I would be offended.

 

[RaspberryK]

Well I don't know what happened to my reply...
Don't know how anyone can compare having a shit to breastfeeding.
Can't remember what else I said lol.
Oh yeah, men in loin cloths, mmmmmmmmm show me the way!
attempting to cover while breastfeeding a distracted child only makes the child more distracted usually.
Why should breasts be seen as private in relation to breastfeeding? Its just a breast!
I know I was always more worried about someone seeing my fat post pregnancy belly than my boob!
X

 

[Dk1234]

Well I don't know what happened to my reply...
Don't know how anyone can compare having a shit to breastfeeding.
Can't remember what else I said lol.
Oh yeah, men in loin cloths, mmmmmmmmm show me the way!
attempting to cover while breastfeeding a distracted child only makes the child more distracted usually.
Why should breasts be seen as private in relation to breastfeeding? Its just a breast!
I know I was always more worried about someone seeing my fat post pregnancy belly than my boob!
X

I didn't compare taking a shit to BFing. And I am kind of upset that you are insenuating that I did. Someone said cows don't show discretion so why do we and I simply said that was a poor argument because I don't do a lot of things a cow does.

 

[RaspberryK]

Sounded like the old you wouldn't shit/piss/have sex in public so don't nip without being discreet argument but if it wasn't then it wasn't and my apologies if i've come across as putting words in your mouth and upsetting you
X

 

[Dk1234]

I wouldn't shit in front of people discretely not have sex. Completely different to nip

 

[meli1981]

why is it so hard for people to be considerate of others? its not just about nip, its about what you wear, or the language you use in front if children, or the smoking. if people were more aware of others i think society would be much better. oh and im pro nip, and pro nursing period.

 

[Scottish mum]

I don't care where I am, I will feed my bsby regardless.

I'm very pro NIP but that doesn't mean I stand there with my boobs out shouting "look at me its all natural baby" but at the same time I'm not going to use a cover beceause I refuse to cover up my feeding child.

I really don't see what's offensive or uncomfortable about a bit of extra breast on show?

The argument saying we should be discreet (though like I said above its not like bf mums just let it all hang out anyway) because other
people are uncomfortable with it
doesnt make sense to me. It
wasn't that long ago that black
people were banned from some
shops, interracial couples were
shunned in public as we're gay
couples. Should we have just said
"well they make people
uncomfortable so they shouldn't do
it"

I have big boobs and sometimes a bit more flesh is on display but unless your staring pretty hard I can't see how it's
offensive.

Mmm I'm pro breast feeding anywhere but not sure it's good to compare it to the struggles that gay couples have had to face and the equality that black people have had to fight for! Lol

 

[Natsku]

You should be considerate of others in things that can harm them. Like I think smokers should be considerate of non-smokers because second hand smoke is harmful. Swearing doesn't cause harm to others and neither does NIP even if some flesh shows.

Edit: I don't mean you shouldn't show consideration above and beyond that but I don't think you should have to suffer for it e.g. make your breastfeeding less comfortable

 

[meli1981]

i dont want my kids swearing! i find it incredibly offensive when someone is using innappropriate language around my kids! not just cursing but possible sexual language. i dont think nip is offensive whatsoever, but others might think different, and i would never want to be one driving people away. like i said before my baby was happy as long as she was getting fed, wherever that might be

 

[meli1981]

and im larger chested so its harder to be discreet which is why I move, but if i wasnt i wouldnt move. maybe ill try nursjng in moby wrap with the the next one! it covers everything and i can walk around too!

 

[Natsku]

i dont want my kids swearing! i find it incredibly offensive when someone is using innappropriate language around my kids! not just cursing but possible sexual language. i dont think nip is offensive whatsoever, but others might think different, and i would never want to be one driving people away. like i said before my baby was happy as long as she was getting fed, wherever that might be

Even though it is offensive to you it doesn't harm you (or your children) so you can't expect people to not swear in public just because someone that hears it might be offended. My dad gets offended by gay men kissing (he gets quite upset when he sees it on tv even) but does that mean they shouldn't kiss? No, it means my dad has to get over himself or look away.

 

[lovie]

I breastfeed in public and my son has a boob he struggles with so if it is time to feed from that boob there is a lot of wiggling and back arching and shouting from my son, when this is happening people can see my boob and my nipple but i need both hands to prevent my child from wiggling onto the floor.

I actually see public breastfeeding as very considerate to others, I live in sweden where people breastfeed very publicy and breastfeeding rates are very high, seeing women bf very openly gave me confidence to bf in public myself. In areas where bf is rarer I think that women bf-ing in public are helping make bf more normal.

I can understand that men maybe can't control their sexual feelings and are so used to seeing breasts as sexual in modern society so when they see a baby feeding they might feel strange but that is their issue and not something a woman should have to consider. I don't understand why other women find bf offensive, breasts don't look disgusting or shocking.

 

[meli1981]

i dont want my kids swearing! i find it incredibly offensive when someone is using innappropriate language around my kids! not just cursing but possible sexual language. i dont think nip is offensive whatsoever, but others might think different, and i would never want to be one driving people away. like i said before my baby was happy as long as she was getting fed, wherever that might be

Even though it is offensive to you it doesn't harm you (or your children) so you can't expect people to not swear in public just because someone that hears it might be offended. My dad gets offended by gay men kissing (he gets quite upset when he sees it on tv even) but does that mean they shouldn't kiss? No, it means my dad has to get over himself or look away.

i think it is harming my child. they could begin to talk like that, repeat it at school etc. this coyld create big problems. i think it harms them psychologically. you might be ok with it, but im not. but we are off topic a bit, because i dont think my children seeing someone nursing harms them.

 

[lovie]

i dont want my kids swearing! i find it incredibly offensive when someone is using innappropriate language around my kids! not just cursing but possible sexual language. i dont think nip is offensive whatsoever, but others might think different, and i would never want to be one driving people away. like i said before my baby was happy as long as she was getting fed, wherever that might be

But I think most people would agree that children should not be exposed to sexual language but the reason people don't like to see breastfeeding i assume is because they only veiw breasts as sexual. I don't think those offended by bf would say " i hate to see a baby eating it's just so inapropriate to see a small person happily enjoying a meal" if i think the reasons those people would be offended are fundermentally wrong i am not willing to change my behaviour to pander to their opinion. If I was gay i would't avoid public kissing because i might offend someone because i would feel like their opinion was wrong.

 

[Natsku]

i dont want my kids swearing! i find it incredibly offensive when someone is using innappropriate language around my kids! not just cursing but possible sexual language. i dont think nip is offensive whatsoever, but others might think different, and i would never want to be one driving people away. like i said before my baby was happy as long as she was getting fed, wherever that might be

Even though it is offensive to you it doesn't harm you (or your children) so you can't expect people to not swear in public just because someone that hears it might be offended. My dad gets offended by gay men kissing (he gets quite upset when he sees it on tv even) but does that mean they shouldn't kiss? No, it means my dad has to get over himself or look away.

i think it is harming my child. they could begin to talk like that, repeat it at school etc. this coyld create big problems. i think it harms them psychologically. you might be ok with it, but im not. but we are off topic a bit, because i dont think my children seeing someone nursing harms them.

Unless the swearing is directed at them (e.g. you little f****r) then its not going to harm them to hear it so you needn't worry. If someone swears in front of them and they start repeating those words just explain to them that they are adult words and only adults are allowed to use them and they will be fine.

 

[overcomer79]

I've asked my parents not to swear in front of my kids...if they had issues with it, then we wouldn't go back around. Thankfully they didn't. I really think a little consideration goes a long ways. But I'm too old fashioned to have an "I don't care about anyone else but my own" attitude.

 

[meli1981]

I've asked my parents not to swear in front of my kids...if they had issues with it, then we wouldn't go back around. Thankfully they didn't. I really think a little consideration goes a long ways. But I'm too old fashioned to have an "I don't care about anyone else but my own" attitude.

i feel the same

 

[Button#]

I don't think that gay couples should restrict their behaviour in places where there are homophobic people. If heterosexual couples can kiss each other on the lips why shouldn't gay couples. I also think gay pride parades go a long way to help others see gay people as normal fun loving people instead of threatening and dirty.