Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[meli1981]

and even if i was "allowed" why would i want to? im all for equality, not just for " womans" rights.

 

[Natsku]

while i agree that attitudes about bf need to be changed, im not out on a crusade to change the world. i just dont feel the need to broadcast to the world that im feeding my baby. i dont need people to notice what im doung to feel more comfortable in my decision.

And thats fine, do what you are comfortable with. I just want people to not judge the mothers who aren't as discreet as them, because we are trying to do our bit to make BFing more normal and that involves making it more visible.

 

[louandivy]

Geez I'm not saying it can't be debated but I truly would love to hear an explanation of how it isn't sexist because I just can't see how anyone could argue that?

 

[louandivy]

and even if i was "allowed" why would i want to? im all for equality, not just for " womans" rights.

What does that even mean?! As it stand society is patriarchal and not equal so women do need to argue their rights. How would it be unequal for men and women to both be allowed to go topless without feeling uncomfortable or obscene?

 

[meli1981]

while i agree that attitudes about bf need to be changed, im not out on a crusade to change the world. i just dont feel the need to broadcast to the world that im feeding my baby. i dont need people to notice what im doung to feel more comfortable in my decision.

And thats fine, do what you are comfortable with. I just want people to not judge the mothers who aren't as discreet as them, because we are trying to do our bit to make BFing more normal and that involves making it more visible.

i totally agree judements about bf need to be changed

 

[meli1981]

and even if i was "allowed" why would i want to? im all for equality, not just for " womans" rights.

What does that even mean?! As it stand society is patriarchal and not equal so women do need to argue their rights. How would it be unequal for men and women to both be allowed to go topless without feeling uncomfortable or obscene?

this a debate about bf in public not about sexism.

 

[Natsku]

It definitely is sexist that women can't go topless when men can. Some men have bigger boobs than me.

 

[meli1981]

why is it sooo important for everyone to go topless? i live in canada and believe me, you wouldnt be wanting to go topless right now!

 

[Natsku]

and even if i was "allowed" why would i want to? im all for equality, not just for " womans" rights.

What does that even mean?! As it stand society is patriarchal and not equal so women do need to argue their rights. How would it be unequal for men and women to both be allowed to go topless without feeling uncomfortable or obscene?

this a debate about bf in public not about sexism.

Its the sexist attitude towards breasts that makes people offended and uncomfortable by NIP so sexism is a part of this problem. If we (as in Western society) viewed male and female breasts as equally unoffensive then people wouldn't be demanding that mothers are discreet or even not feed at all in public.

 

[louandivy]

and even if i was "allowed" why would i want to? im all for equality, not just for " womans" rights.

What does that even mean?! As it stand society is patriarchal and not equal so women do need to argue their rights. How would it be unequal for men and women to both be allowed to go topless without feeling uncomfortable or obscene?

this a debate about bf in public not about sexism.

Its the sexist attitude towards breasts that makes people offended and uncomfortable by NIP so sexism is a part of this problem. If we (as in Western society) viewed male and female breasts as equally unoffensive then people wouldn't be demanding that mothers are discreet or even not feed at all in public.

Exactly this!

 

[meli1981]

can you explain to me how a womans and a mans chests are equal?

 

[louandivy]

Well obviously they are anatomically different but why is one seen as obscene in public while the other is purposely fine? How is there a legitimate reason for that?

 

[meli1981]

because one is sexual and the other isnt! just because they feed our babies doesnt mean breasts arent sexual. if its ok with you if men walk around with erections all the time then we should all go topless. but if a man touches yourbreasts, dont complain, because theyre not sexual, right?

 

[louandivy]

But men's chests are seen in a sexual light too?

 

[louandivy]

Ears, feet, necks and wrists are erogenous zones too. Should women cover up those?

 

[meli1981]

i dont get turned on by any of those things!

 

[meli1981]

a mans chest isnt sexual in the way that, kissing it etc would not result in orgasm( tmi!)

 

[louandivy]

I don't think kissing a womens nipples commonly results in orgasm, probably just as likely as neck kissing would. It doesn't matter if they turn you on or not, they are erogenous zones. Women's chests are a display of their femininity in the same way that men's chests are a display of their masculinity and I take offence in the attitude that their is something obscene about this part of my body. There is a reason why this taboo doesn't exist in so many parts of the world. The us and uk are just so prudish in such a Victorian way about sexuality, yet have no problem with the cheap objectification of women in the media. It's so weird.

 

[meli1981]

stimulating a womans nipples can result in orgasm, which is why it is used to jump start labor. i agree about sexism when it pertains to work etc, but not when it comes to our bodies. should we all start walking around naked?

 

[Natsku]

I don't get an orgasm from having my nipples kissed. Sadly