Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Tasha]

I gues a because I don't understand. If your baby doesn't like to be covered you could always put a blanket beside them to block people's view. Or go to a more secluded area or turn your body. I have no problem with nursing in public I a finally love to see it. And honestly I'm not talking about the odd nip slip because chances are no one will see that. I'm talking a out people with no discretion.

I dont see how a blanket beside them will block anyone's view?

There arent always more secluded areas avaliable and some times the situation doesnt allow you to leave where you are right at that moment. I mean say I was with all my LO's and the older two were eating their dinner at a cafe or whatever, I couldnt just walk off to a more secluded area and leave them unattended nor could I make my baby wait.

I dont know about else where but most places here are very open plan and so turning your body one way or another would just direct it towards someone else.

 

[Natsku]

I don't see why I should have had to turn my body away anyway. When I fed in public I enjoyed the chance for a sit down and a good people-watching session at the same time. And the more people see the odd accidental flash of boob, the more they will get used to it and the less embarrassed and offended they will be.

 

[Dk1234]

I gues a because I don't understand. If your baby doesn't like to be covered you could always put a blanket beside them to block people's view. Or go to a more secluded area or turn your body. I have no problem with nursing in public I a finally love to see it. And honestly I'm not talking about the odd nip slip because chances are no one will see that. I'm talking a out people with no discretion.

I dont see how a blanket beside them will block anyone's view?

There arent always more secluded areas avaliable and some times the situation doesnt allow you to leave where you are right at that moment. I mean say I was with all my LO's and the older two were eating their dinner at a cafe or whatever, I couldnt just walk off to a more secluded area and leave them unattended nor could I make my baby wait.

I dont know about else where but most places here are very open plan and so turning your body one way or another would just direct it towards someone else.

You kind of out it behind their head and it sort of a barrier inbetween them and everyone else. It doesn't cover them its more like a wall.

 

[Dk1234]

I don't see why I should have had to turn my body away anyway. When I fed in public I enjoyed the chance for a sit down and a good people-watching session at the same time. And the more people see the odd accidental flash of boob, the more they will get used to it and the less embarrassed and offended they will be.

You see that's where I think you're incorrect. It makes people think people shouldn't nip at all.

 

[sue_88]

As far as my opinion will go on the matter if I do get any negativity when NIP is that you can turn your body away from me..... I cetainly will no be disrupting my child's meal because you unfortunately feel uncomfortable if you see any boob.

 

[Dk1234]

As far as my opinion will go on the matter if I do get any negativity when NIP is that you can turn your body away from me..... I cetainly will no be disrupting my child's meal because you unfortunately feel uncomfortable if you see any boob.

That's the attitude I'm talking about. I think it brings more negativity than positivity to nip and nursing in general. And it just isn't an attitude that is conducive to living in a community. It's like I said I wouldn't let my baby scream down a public place. Like a restaurant, why should everyone else have to be uncomfy able because I don't want to get up and take care of my child. I just see it the same way. Why make others uncomfortable if you don't have to.

 

[sue_88]

As far as my opinion will go on the matter if I do get any negativity when NIP is that you can turn your body away from me..... I cetainly will no be disrupting my child's meal because you unfortunately feel uncomfortable if you see any boob.

That's the attitude I'm talking about. I think it brings more negativity than positivity to nip and nursing in general. And it just isn't an attitude that is conducive to living in a community. It's like I said I wouldn't let my baby scream down a public place. Like a restaurant, why should everyone else have to be uncomfy able because I don't want to get up and take care of my child. I just see it the same way. Why make others uncomfortable if you don't have to.

So my baby has to wear a blanket covering their head on a beautiful summers day?

Get a bloody grip. It's a boob. Prudes like you ruin NIP, not mothers feeding their young.

 

[Dk1234]

As far as my opinion will go on the matter if I do get any negativity when NIP is that you can turn your body away from me..... I cetainly will no be disrupting my child's meal because you unfortunately feel uncomfortable if you see any boob.

That's the attitude I'm talking about. I think it brings more negativity than positivity to nip and nursing in general. And it just isn't an attitude that is conducive to living in a community. It's like I said I wouldn't let my baby scream down a public place. Like a restaurant, why should everyone else have to be uncomfy able because I don't want to get up and take care of my child. I just see it the same way. Why make others uncomfortable if you don't have to.

So my baby has to wear a blanket covering their head on a beautiful summers day?

Get a bloody grip. It's a boob. Prudes like you ruin NIP, not mothers feeding their young.

You're being very rude. I never said you had to cover with a blanket. You don't have to use a cover to be discrete. And no, you're wrong. And in a bubble.

 

[NellyLou]

Whether your breast feeding or not, it's people's attitudes that cause the issue. If you're breast feeding and expecting people to be upset about it, you'll put off that vibe. Just my opinion. A lot is perception and not what is actually happening.

 

[Dk1234]

Why is everyone implying I have a problem with BFing? I have been BFing for over 7 months and am 11 weeks pregnant and still BFing. Why am I considered wrong for thinking it is more polite to take others into consideration and be discrete about nursing. Am I less of a nursing mother because I don't wave my boob around when I do it.

 

[NellyLou]

I guess I mean if you sit whole nip and smile at people they will probably smile back, but if you're scowling because you expect people to dislike what you're doing, they won't smile at you and you may interpret that as them being against nip... When they actually just don't like your scowl.

 

[Tasha]

Surely we can debate this without calling names. DK is pro-NIP but I get that she sort of thinks of it as short-term PITA for us for a long-term gain of it being more accepted in society.

I am not sure I agree with that because honestly, 98% of women I have seen NIP have been so discrete that you wouldnt know and therefore when the accidental flashes eventually happen people arent seeing it as normal, because they arent aware it happens around them.

 

[NellyLou]

Oh my comments weren't aimed at you DK, just anyone who bfs in public

 

[Dk1234]

I guess I mean if you sit whole nip and smile at people they will probably smile back, but if you're scowling because you expect people to dislike what you're doing, they won't smile at you and you may interpret that as them being against nip... When they actually just don't like your scowl.

I have no problem with nip. Ill say it again. I love seeing people nursing in public. I don't assume people are against nip. And I certainly don't scowl at people when I nurse.

 

[Tasha]

Why is everyone implying I have a problem with BFing? I have been BFing for over 7 months and am 11 weeks pregnant and still BFing. Why am I considered wrong for thinking it is more polite to take others into consideration and be discrete about nursing. Am I less of a nursing mother because I don't wave my boob around when I do it.

Ooops, I was writing when you wrote this. I hope you havent read my posts as thinking you are anti BF/NIP. Not my intention at all, just sharing me experiences of how difficult it for me to nurse discretely. For me it really is a two hand plus baby resting on something job, so not exactly easy to make that discrete

 

[NellyLou]

I guess I mean if you sit whole nip and smile at people they will probably smile back, but if you're scowling because you expect people to dislike what you're doing, they won't smile at you and you may interpret that as them being against nip... When they actually just don't like your scowl.

I have no problem with nip. Ill say it again. I love seeing people nursing in public. I don't assume people are against nip. And I certainly don't scowl at people when I nurse.

I didn't mean you at all . I mean the people who are getting upset with you actually. Because they seem to assume when you say it's ok to be discrete that you don't want to see someone nip without a cover. But I think it's THEIR bad attitude which is making them think people are against nip when they're not. Does that make sense?

 

[Dk1234]

I honestly don't have a problem with differing opinions. And I understand it can be difficult. But attempting to be discrete is almost as good as being discrete. I'm basically speaking of people who want to draw attention or take no discretion in mind and could care less about those around them.

 

[Tasha]

I have no problem with nip. Ill say it again. I love seeing people nursing in public. I don't assume people are against nip. And I certainly don't scowl at people when I nurse.

I think she was meaning in general, not at you. Almost like a self-fufilling prophecy. You (general collective you not personal you) think people are going to be negative and they will cos you give off that 'vibe'.

 

[Dk1234]

I guess I mean if you sit whole nip and smile at people they will probably smile back, but if you're scowling because you expect people to dislike what you're doing, they won't smile at you and you may interpret that as them being against nip... When they actually just don't like your scowl.

I have no problem with nip. Ill say it again. I love seeing people nursing in public. I don't assume people are against nip. And I certainly don't scowl at people when I nurse.

I didn't mean you at all . I mean the people who are getting upset with you actually. Because they seem to assume when you say it's ok to be discrete that you don't want to see someone nip without a cover. But I think it's THEIR bad attitude which is making them think people are against nip when they're not. Does that make sense?

Absolutely thanks. That does make a lot of sense.

 

[Tasha]

Yeah I once heard a story of a lady leaving her boob on the table for ten minutes. Now obviously I dont know if that is true or not but if it is then I guess that is the sort of thing you are talking about.

If I am lucky enough to have another baby and then to BF that baby I wont NIP just because I am so rubbish at being discrete.