Feathers
Mum of 2
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I actually really dislike the pressure to breastfeed! DD had terrible feeding issues, ended up tube feeding because she simply couldn't suck. She needed medication in her food. After a week of expressing I was a wreck. It's not the same waking every 2 hours through the night to fasten on an expressing machine for a baby who isn't even with you. Although they weren't allowed to say it, I could see her doctors thought I'd made the right decision when we went with bottles.
And every time I went to Mummy and Baby meets I was the only one who bottle fed. I hated feeling like I'd let her down, I hated the fact that I was met everywhere with comments about breastfeeding being the best because we couldn't do it. I felt like a total failure as a Mum. Even my own Mum said 'I'd have never let YOU have formula, never ever no matter what.' Uh thanks Mum. No really, make me feel worse about it.
With DS I was determined not to have that pressure to breastfeed. I wouldn't say to the midwives I would DEFINITELY breastfeed no matter what. I wouldn't guarantee that DS wouldn't have a bottle. And when he was born I began to breastfeed and it worked this time. Different children.
But the thing that bothers me most is the way we feel the need to justify the decision to formula feed like I did there explaining DDs situation. Why should I feel the need to explain? Does it matter WHY we choose to bottle feed? Truth is it's no-one elses business at all. There are lots of up sides to formula feeding that breastfeeding doesn't have. I don't think anyone should have to justify their decision with medical reasoning / latch / supply difficulties. Simply stating you chose to formula feed should be enough and I don't think anyone should be allowed to question that decision or make you feel bad about it.
And every time I went to Mummy and Baby meets I was the only one who bottle fed. I hated feeling like I'd let her down, I hated the fact that I was met everywhere with comments about breastfeeding being the best because we couldn't do it. I felt like a total failure as a Mum. Even my own Mum said 'I'd have never let YOU have formula, never ever no matter what.' Uh thanks Mum. No really, make me feel worse about it.
With DS I was determined not to have that pressure to breastfeed. I wouldn't say to the midwives I would DEFINITELY breastfeed no matter what. I wouldn't guarantee that DS wouldn't have a bottle. And when he was born I began to breastfeed and it worked this time. Different children.
But the thing that bothers me most is the way we feel the need to justify the decision to formula feed like I did there explaining DDs situation. Why should I feel the need to explain? Does it matter WHY we choose to bottle feed? Truth is it's no-one elses business at all. There are lots of up sides to formula feeding that breastfeeding doesn't have. I don't think anyone should have to justify their decision with medical reasoning / latch / supply difficulties. Simply stating you chose to formula feed should be enough and I don't think anyone should be allowed to question that decision or make you feel bad about it.