Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[Kaites]

It is quiet! Hope everyone is having a good day Random question- anyone else feel like they still have "pregnancy brain"? Just wondering because I spent this afternoon grocery shopping- picking up the items I forgot to buy yesterday On top of that I forgot my friend's birthday this week.

Lk- hope the house quiets down for James

Any special weekend plans? Nothing exciting for us- my brother and DH's brother are coming over tomorrow night for beer and to watch some of The Pacific mini-series. I'll be somewhere else in the house since the guys always crank up the sound system

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

 

[Maffie]

Evening all, well had a day out shopping with mum and brother. Got a couple of new tops but couldn't find anything else i liked (well I could but nothing suitable for feeding in) So Noah got some more outfits. My mum does spoil him, he got an early Easter present too a 'book' that sings nursery rhymes.

We have OH's 2 sons over this weekend so I need to get tidied up while he collects them tomorrow, cant believe will only be the 3rd time they have seen Noah

OH is on his way home with a hire car and KFC hopefully then we have to go do the shopping.

Not exactly Noah's normal routine but he didnt sleep last night as wind was howling in the windo stupid landlord i'll have to bring him down into the travel cot and sleep downstairs if its blowing a gale tonight. I cant cope on 2 hours sleep again. It startled Noah every time and upset him.

Hope everyone is well and has a lovely weekend

 

[littlekitten8]

Random question but is anyone else still losing hair by the handfuls? Every time I wash my hair it looks like someone has been in a b***h fight in the shower with the amount of hair everywhere lol.

 

[Maffie]

I'm losing loads LK im just glad I have loads of it

 

[Mellie1988]

Sorry mainly lurk in here now adays....can't keep up with you all ! Lol

Just wanted to say that yes my hair is falling out by the handful too I have really thin hair to begin with, its so lifeless at the minute and awfully thin, hope it stops soon and my hair returns to normal...does anyone find that their hair is greasier than normal, or is that just me?

x

 

[aimee-lou]

Morning all,

How are we all?

LK - My hair loss has more or less returned to a normal level since going on my tablets. Before that I was going bald I swear...I'd fill a hairbrush in a day

Kaites - I have a bad case of baby brain. I'm trying my best to counter-act it as I'm trying to do official type things like job applications and the biggest word in my vocab is 'blah' lol. Oh as 'moo' as it's Earl's favourite word at the moment lol.

Earl's napping pretty much on his own now. He takes a little bit to drift off but no crying....just the odd re-application of a dummy. I've got to get him weaned off that next as it's a real crutch for him to get off to sleep....I don't really mind but there's a real chance that we'll be moving in with MIL at the beginning of June for 3 months, and I'd love him to be napping in his cot, without his dummy by then....Eeek, do know how to make life stressful lol.

As some of you may know I have some issues with my Mum and lets just say I think they're kicking off again, this time by her now me though. I called on Thursday to arrange a visit over the Easter hols....I'm taking Earl over on Easter Sunday. Thought it would be nice to spend virtually a whole day over there as Hubby is working 9-6 so I can be there 10.30-4.30 . Mum wasn't in, so I left a message with Dad and she called me back yesterday. She basically told me that she's fed up, her depression is coming back and she'll call me on Sunday 'for a chat'. Now I'm dreading Sunday....got that sort of 'what have I done' feeling, but at the same time I'm worried about her. Mum's had depression for nigh on 20 years and it comes and goes. She tends to immerse herself in life, then when it doesn't quite go to plan, she takes it really personally and spirals. I'll just have to see how it all goes. Strange timing though....My step-dad is 65 in a couple of weeks and is starting to claim his pension....I'm wondering whether it's suddenly hit her that she's got the next 10 years of being the sole breadwinner.

Anyway, Earl is currently squirming next to me fighting his first nap of the day, so I'd best be off to convince him. Have a lovely weekend ladies. Tomorrow is our first attempt at 'cot napping' lol....Hubby is away diving so we are all on our lonesome all day - perfect oportunity lol.

Oh and does anybody just get one of those moments when the emotion of being a mum, all of the events of the past 12 months, all of the plans you have for the future, and all of the wonderful things that have happened just hits you? I burst out crying, proper tears of joy while washing to pots last night as hubby was talking about getting a big square cake tin so he can have a bash at making a birthday cake for Earl in October......brought it all home, in 7 months, he'll be 1!!!! Sorry girls...obviously the hormones are having a ball today lol.

Have a lovely day- hope the sun's shining like it is here.....off for a walk in a bit x

 

[Kaites]

Good morning!

LK- yep, losing lost of hair here too I've taken to brushing my hair before the shower so that I don't have to clean the drain out as often- disgusting job that!

Aimee- My vocab has expanded to include "goo" and "hrmmm" in various tones, lol Sorry to hear the phone call with your mum didn't go well I hope tomorrow's call goes better.

Anyone else's family turned all weird since you've had a baby? The reason I ask is that my in-laws used to invite us over to their place, call us, FB message us, etc pretty often but ever since I got pregnant and Emma arrived, they are pretty much AWOL from our lives. What makes it annoying is that DH has attempted to invite them over but they always seem awkward about it, like they don't want to say no, but they are fishing for an excuse to get out of coming over yet they complain that we don't stay in touch. Last night they finally called us (DH spoke with her, not me) and MIL sounded drunk (a pretty usual occurance) and the whole convo left DH feeling rotten (won't go into all the boring details but it's like we're having a some kind of stand-off with them now). Anyway, it's all become really strained with in-laws as of late and the only thing that has changed is the baby Just wondering if anyone has experienced something similar?

Well, time to find some breakfast Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

 

[Kte]

Hello All,

Quick visit, got my nephews staying over, they are on one of the COD games with Nij but I can see at some point someone will get bored. Plus all this giddy shouting is going to wake up Chloe!

LK - yep, I wash my hair and there is a wig in the bath and my hairbrush gets full too, not to mention the strands that just get everywhere during the day, found one in Chloe's nappy!

she awake .... havea good weekend all! x Will reply properly when I get a chance, lots of things to reply to!

 

[florabean1981]

yep, I'm losing hair by the brush full- it was one of the reasons I had my near-butt length hair cut off to just below my shoulders a few weeks ago. It's kinda gross & it looks really dull & flat

Kaites- everyone in my life is weird with me since I had harry. I have few friends down here anyway & only my sister lives in the same county as me family-wise, so needless to say I am stuck in the house most days just me & Harry... Luckily my sister visits often coz she's bored being a stay-at-home mum & likes to go out everyday... I do feel lonely though as I have zero social life & so far, every attempt i make at meeting new people seem to fall flat on their arse... Even my work collegues dont bother calling or checking in anymore... Oh well. At least Harry loves me, lol.

Got my final wedding dress fitting on monday. I am soooooo overdrawn in my account now though. Gonna take me months to get back into credit & start building up my savings again....

 

[aimee-lou]

Just a quickie - I weighed Earl last night and jhis weight gain has slowed slightly as I suspected. Heas 19lb 2 at 4 months and he's 20lb 4 at 5 months, so 4oz a week compared to half a lb lol.

How did the LO's cope with the clock change. I opted to not give earl his Dream feed in favour of just letting him wake up. I think I may continue in this vein as he woke at 4am (adjusted time) as normal, took 5oz then back to sleep til 6.30 as normal. Obviously I've lost an hour, and any hope I had of adjusting his bedtime has been scuppered but at least we can now safely drop a bottle!! Makes his consumtion a much more healthy 34-36oz a day

Kaites - I've had no end of trouble with my Mum. In-laws have been fab though. Weird lol. Mum seems to think she's a 3rd parent though, and questions every decision I make - even threatened to disown me for not trying to BF. Tbh I've had just about enough but what with her mental health problems I just have to get on with it.

 

[Maffie]

Quick morning as its busy with all the kids here, Noah is still asleep but he still had 1 feed in the night, Been awol as had bad headache yesterday and im suffering dodgy sickness last few days

 

[Nij]

Maffie I hope you feel better soon.

Well the boys are having a whale of a time, the youngest woke up at 12.30 (1.30 am new time) being sick - so took a while to sort that one out! Buit for some unknown reason I feel VERY hungover (without having a drink since the 31st of Jan!!!)

 

[Chaos]

Morning girls (and boy!)

Urgh, I'm bolloxed today. Yesterday someone had me up at SIX, then I had to clean the whole house, start a crock pot meal, go help my friend chaperone a bunch of tween girls roller skating (I think I broke a butt cheek!!) THEN go feed a friends cats, come home to make sausage rolls, brownies and other snacks for DHs mini gathering for his Bday (34) last night, and then people finally left at 230am this morning!

Today, up at 830, cause we have the inlaws and family round today for his bday, so started a pork roast in the oven, am now making sausage rolls and other things for snacks before dinner, taking the baby to a cute baby contest (proceeds go to a little girl here who was diagnosed with cancer at 1 month old, she had chemo and went in remission, but the chemo destroyed her heart, so at 4 years old (in Jan) she had a heart transplant.) You can read about it here: https://www.charlotteobserver.com/2010/02/24/1259219/3-year-old-beats-cancer-gets-new.html

Come home, feed the in laws and then fall down on the sofa! Phew.

So how is everyone elses weekend?!

 

[littlekitten8]

Hey girls and Nij. Well yesterday I was up at 5am, out of the door at 5.20am, worked 7.30am til 8pm, lightening quick change and then into a taxi and into town! It was completely mad but oh my god I had a wicked time. Was so nice to let my hair down and have a few drinks with the girls. Felt really good too cos was the first time I've dressed up. Wore a floaty knee length black dress with sequin details on it and high heels. Wore makeup for first time since having James (oh dear lol) so felt a million dollars. But no chat ups lol so ah well.

James has a few new tricks. He can say baaa. Not sure where the hell he has got it from lol. He can also suck his toes lol. Learnt that one yesterday. He is now able to get on his hands and 1 knee pmsl. Can't quite get the other knee up yet but getting there.

 

[Kte]

AFternoon all,

Chloe is having a quiet play on her playmat, I think she has enjoyed having her cousins over but is quite worn out now! SHe is just kinda lying there staring. SHe wouldn't sleep in her moses basket but I think she is okay just 'relaxing' on her mat. The boys played X-Box and Wii for ages yesterday - along with Nij, then we put on a film later on. I kinda had a hunch someone was going to be sick, we did feed them loads thinking about it! Everyone was fine in the morning except Nij and his phantom hangover. I took the boys to the park and then Nij joined us, we all sat on the see-saw which wasn't good as there was Nij and 2 nephews vs me, otherwise I kept on being the heaviest! No fair!! When we came back I found it so funny, here the boys are with X-box, TV, Wii, DS, (already done arts and crafty things) and so the best entertainment for them was - - - baby toys! Couldn't get enough of them, 11 and 8 they are lol! Good time but I am soooo tired now and got to start getting things ready for work. Boo hiss!

Kaites - Yep I still have pregnancy brain, I have been told by people at work thats it, it will never get any better!

What is it with crazy parents?!? I'm worried, what will we all be like in 20+ years? Both Nij and I have our fair share of crazy family antics and parents. But ours haven't changed really, I can't say my friends have changed much either but I don't really have many, not to sound sad or wanting sympathy, its just I had a cull during my divorce, found out who my real friends were. So I haven't noticed a change in my friends behaviour (sp ) iykwim.

Best go again, Chloe awake and a bit cranky bless her . . . clocks don't seem to have bothered her tho.

 

[Kte]

Flora ~ Enjoy tomorrow, hope the fitting goes well, not long now until the big day!

Geee EVERY TIME I pick up the computer today Chloe wakes up!!!!!

Got to go again . . . .

 

[Kte]

Morning all,

It's like the mad ramblings of Kte going on in here! Hope you all had a good weekend

LK ~ Glad you had a good night out Well done James!

Chaos ~ Sounds like a very busy time, hope it was good and you can have a bit of a relax today!

Eswift ~ How did the Christening go?

Maffie~ Hope you are feeling better soon, have you been to the doc's about your headaches? Are they something you just have to put up with?

 

[colsy]

Is it just me or are we all posting on here a lot less than we used to do? We seem to not hear from some of the lasses (and lad!) for a few days at a time now. I hope we don't all lose touch eventually, as we've been through soooo much that it would be such a shame to lose each other's support.

Well, what news do I have this morning? For two nights on the trot, Monty has woken for a feed just ONCE. It makes such a difference to me doing one rather than two feeds. You wouldn't think a single feed would make me feel any different, but oh my, it so definitely does. The ace thing is that he's fed almost halfway through the night (about 1.30am) on both nights, so I still have half the night ahead of me afterwards. Lush! And on both occasions, he's been so sleepy that he's not even had the other side. And best of all, no pooping as I put him back into bed I am sooo hoping that this is a change for the better and one that will hang around now for a while.

Other updates - Monty now gnaws his toes each time I take his nappy off. Really funny to watch. He really goes for it, and you gotta wonder how he knows not to bite 'em off. NOt that he's got any teeth to do any biting with, but you know what I mean. Got me slightly concerned that he may be carnivourous rather than following in his mummy's eco-friendly veggie footsteps!

He's learned a new noise, and I really hope he unlearns it soon. It's like a screamy screech noise and he LOVES it. Unfortunately, his daddy and I most definitely don't love the sound of it. It's horrible, just goes straight through you. He woke up and did it last night and we both thought he was screaming. Turns out he was just saying hello and please may I have some milk?

Final new thing for the week is arching his back. He lies on his back and then lifts his bum and back, a bit like doing a bridge or crab in gymnastics or yoga. It's OK when he's flat on his back, but when he's in his hammock, which is curved, he ends up pushing up loads and that sets the hammock spring going, so the hammock bounces up and down big time. Nice and soothing for him I guess, but we're hoping to move him into a cotbed in the next couple of weeks, so he's really going to miss the movement of the hammock that he's got used to. Reckon we may be in for a few big seshes once we make the change - not looking forward to it at all, but we got to do it at some point, whether it's now or in a couple more months, and it won't get any easier.

Right, OH is servicing the car and I'm about to do some work, but also sounds like Monty could be waking up. NOT a good morning nap - he should have two hours but he's had about half an hour. Ho hum. Guess the work may have to wait.

Love to you all xx

 

[Maffie]

Morning all, headache gone but AF here Kte ive suffered migraines since I was 9 not had a bad attack since before I was pregnant. Problem is I can take my medication while breastfeeding. Think was harder going as OH had to work saturday nightso I had Noah and OH's older boys they were all good and slept though.

Was going to go baby clinic and get Noah weighed but weather is horrid and need to buy a raincover for the pushchair so a day in snuggling I think.

 

[aimee-lou]

Mornign everyone -

Colsy - I know it does go quiet in here occasionally. I think the LO's are keeping us very busy now that they're starting to get more active and mobile - I know I have to keep a very close eye on Earl now that his grabbing has gotten to pinoint accuracy....nearly lost a can opener to him this morning- that could have been nasty But it's mostly jolly good fun.

With your permission ladies and gent, I would like to have a little bit of a rant. I am a little bit sick of hypocrisy which seems to be pretty prevelant recently. I am very happy (I hesitate to say proud because you know the proverb lol) with my efforts as a mummy. Earl is happy and thriving, my marriage is strong and I like to think that we're pretty much as good as we're going to get. I've chosen a path of parenthood that I'm comfortable with, followed Earl's lead on virtually everything and listened to mine and hubby's instincts on how to deal with things as and when they occur. I've used common sense, listened to the experts where appropriate and I like to think that I'm an intelligent and capable woman, person and parent (please feel free to correct me lol).

I therefore do not take kindly when people tell me I'm wrong for the ways I've done things, when people criticise me for my opinions, views or the facts as they stand. In the last 24 hours I've had a variety of people in my life tell me that I'm selfish for never trying to BF Earl, that I am stupid for not using cloth nappies, that I must be callous and NOT LOVE MY CHILD for letting him sleep independently. I've been told that I don't know what I'm doing and am ignoratnt because I choose to give Earl a sip or two of water. I've been told that I really should settle down and find a more suitable stable home and family for my child as he's the most important thing.

As you can tell, I've had enough. I have NEVER criticised anyone for their parenting style. I have tried my best to offer advice and reassurance to people who ask me what I consider my limited experience in these matters. I would never dream of telling people that their methods are wrong or that their choices are not correct for their child and lifestyle....so why do people feel the need with me?

There....soap box can go back now! lol.

I hope we're all having a good day. Earl is just napping on the sofa - his teeth are really bad today so I want to keep an eye on him. We've also got some ironing to do later so once he's napped, away we go dashing away with a smoothing iron while he plays in his door spinner lol.....it's definitely not a door bouncer

Anyhoo's - lunch time and I feel a spate of something violent on the wii to counteract my bad mood lol.