Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[aimee-lou]

We use a dummy - he has it before a feed and to get him to sleep. He loves to suck and since we got him the cherry ones he happily takes them.

I love Earl to bits but even just 2 minutes peace when he's having a grizzly day ( like yesterday) can work wonders on your sanity. I also don't really work to the 'it's harder to get them off them'.....yes it may be difficult, but easier than a thumb and at the end of the day he's a contented baby and these help him.

 

[littlekitten8]

We use a dummy with James. Sometimes he just needs to suck to soothe himself. He doesn't always want it and will spit it out. He only really has it if he is very upset with tummy ache cos the sucking settles him and he wants more and more milk and then throws it up cos he confuses tummy ache with hunger. DSS had a dummy constantly and we took it away from him when he turned 2. We told him the dummy fairy was going to take it away and leave him a present so he got a big boy bed (Readybed as he is only here 2 nights a fortnight - they are a godsend!) and a nightlight/torch for his room. He thought that was brilliant and gave up his dummy willingly.

 

[Kaites]

Maffie- we only started trying a soother once Emma was a month old too but seems to have been too late- she has only taken it a couple times. We've tried a few brands too but she only likes her Tommee Tippee pacifer. Probably just as well she doesn't like her soother very much since they don't carry that brand in Canada, although my dad did say he'd be happy to do another "dummy run" back to the UK if necessary I wouldn't worry too much about using one if you wean him off it when he's still little.

Aimee-lou- lovely nursery! Sounds like the majority of your home brewing was successful We've got a batch of stout on at the moment- not my favourite but my hubby and brother outnumbered me for the decision on what to make

Well, had a horrid day with a very fussy baby yesterday and it's looking like today is going to be the same Only thing that seems to settle her is the boobie and hanging out in the laundry room (strange child I've got!). On the bright side, she slept from 11pm-5:30 and then again from 6am-9:30am so I'm at least well rested

Hope everyone is having a good day!

 

[eswift]

Maffie ~ Is noah constantly suckling on you during your long nights awake or just crying? If he's suckling, he may be trying to get you to produce more milk; as it's supply to demand system, maybe take a couple of nights before you're meeting his demand. Try not to get too discouraged... If a dummy works, try it... I've tried a couple of times with CC and she just won't take it; she just spits it out... I had no issues getting DS off his, just had to get use to him crying... Hope this helps. See if there are any NCT/sure start breast feeding groups near you, you're not alone; having someone to talk to may help..

Colsy ~ I have to admitte there was 3 of us at the breast feeding group, (2 popped in and popped out, so I guess that would make if 5) There was 3 members of staff there, NCT Breast feeding advice woman, health visitor and Sure start worker... I found it rather strange there being so few of us, but I'd consider going back, at least it got me out the house... LOL the staff were lovely, Advice that was given to one of the ladies seemed to make sense; I was told that the group they run in the local town has more women go. Might be worth a visit...

 

[jo_79]

I'm tempted to start using a dummy as Noah is a very sucky baby but oh is completely against it as he says it will be harder to get him off it at a later time.

Who is using a dummy and how do you find them?

I gave sam a dummy at 2 days old, he only has it to fall asleep then he spits it out and i move it out the way. Some nights he doesnt even want it. I gave my daughter a dummy too and she decided at 2 she didnt need it anymore.

 

[sam76]

Hello Ladies, sorry i havent been on for a few days, but as from my last post before the weekend, i was feeling low, as George was very unsettled etc, well, i think fingers crossed we have turned a corner!!!!! switch milk to the Hungry baby SMA, and we are also using Dentitox for his wind, and hes fab, still has a cry abit, but nothing like he was, and i feel 100% better as i said last time i was so down, George seems more settled and were made up hes settling again, sorry i havent had time to catch up on all the posts, but i hope all is well and all Bumpkins are doing well too

 

[Kte]

Evening all,

I'm tempted to start using a dummy as Noah is a very sucky baby but oh is completely against it as he says it will be harder to get him off it at a later time.

Who is using a dummy and how do you find them?

We give Chloe a dummy but to either settle her at night and then when she asleep she spits it out or if she has had a bottle and is rooting still. They usually help calm her down. She doesn't take to it always and is not fussed if she doesn't have one. Plus I would rather get her off a dummy then her fingers, which she tried to suck sometimes.

~ ~ ~

WW3 broke out at mine today, we didn't choose my Sister as one of Chloe's godparents for her Christening and it seems we have stepped on some toes. Poor OH got it in the neck from my BIL saying he was emotionless ~ OH had sent a text explaining why we hadn't asked her. The daft thing was I had edited the text and made sure the text was a nice one so really OH is being had a go at for no reason. Prob is OH doesn't want Sis and Co to have anything to do with us now with the way he was treated. Whilst this is going on Sis had no idea her hubby was on the war path for her and has made things a whole lot worse. Ah well, familes eh!

Right, off to get Chloe's things ready for bed time. Hopefully have more time to pop on tomorrow.

 

[aimee-lou]

Evenin' all....

It's official - I Love gripe water!!! (I don't mean I've drunk it lol)..... Earl is 4 weeks and 1 day btw so don't worry!

I'd had a feeling that it was making Earl's wind worse for a few days as he had been really upset on an evening and I was having to double up at night as a result.....well I gave in today and broke out the gripe water....well what can I say, it works so far lol. Earl likes the taste of pretty much anything but he will drink it off a spoon (I didn't have a syringe in which to give it to him!). It smells lovely and makes his burps smell the same lol

Time for tea for us - yummers! - then going to try a bath for Earl (Hubby is off tomorrow so once again, we have 2 of us to cope with a bad night) We're off into town tomorrow to get the shopping in and buy out Sainsbury's half price baby deals lol.

Hope we have a good night.

Btw.....Earl has his review for his potentially clicky hip in a couple of weeks. I've noticed his ankles and knees sometimes click when I lift his legs in a nappy change.....anyone else? It worries me slightly especially with his hip being bad at birth.

 

[Maffie]

I'd happily try a dummy but oh is adament he doesnt want to, I think thats due to past experiences with his other children.

Eswift he takes a full feed and I still have milk pouring out, my supply has always seemed to be more than I need. IYKWIM. Anyway he'll hold my nipple in his mouth to comfort himself, if he sucks he gets more milk which makes him over full then he's sick. Also if he sucks hard and fast my milk comes out fast and he brings it back lol he's greedy!

He will settle on oh but he seems to hate lying down.

 

[eswift]

Maffie ~ I couldn't get CC to settle on her back at all, she screams are has a right paddy; but if I swaddle her up and place her on her side, No screams! I know they say babe should be at the bottom etc; they change their mind all the time what's right and wrong. When DS was born it was place them at the bottom on their fronts. Give it a try, DS still sleeps arse up... You need your sleep... I have good nights and bad nights too... I have too much milk too... Spray everywhere if I touch them slightly wrong... LOL (I've left the plastic mattress cover on our bed, as I keep waking absolutely covered in milk...) Thank goodness it freezes... (I'm still confused as to some of the changes they've made; why is it that weaning is now put off until 6 months, it was only 4 months when DS was born (he was a hungry boy on baby rice from 3 months)

 

[Kte]

ESwift ~i heard its because their digestive system is not fully developed to take solids but dunno how true it is

 

[littlekitten8]

Yeah its because their digestive system is too immature to deal with solids. If you give a baby solids before they are ready then it can cause them to become very poorly. It sits in their digestive tract, ferments and poisons them. However every baby matures at a different rate and although the guidelines say 6 months now all the babies in our family have ended up being weaned at 4 months because they are hungry babies.

 

[littlekitten8]

Forgot to say...some babies get weaned early on doctors guidance due to severe reflux etc so alot of this 6 month thing is scaremongering.

 

[aimee-lou]

Every person I know started weaning before 6 months in some form, even if it's just letting their LO mouth at carrot sticks and the odd mouthful of baby rice. I'm really interested in the whole Baby Led Weaning thing and will be doing some more reading up once I've cracked this whole bedtime, sleeping, eating, generally being a mummy lark! I still feel like I'm winging it most of the time! lol

Btw, Gemma (Littlekitten) good call! I was reading your post about giving James his dummy because he had tummy ache. It had never occurred to me but Earl does the same thing (mistakes tummy ache for hunger and just keeps eating) so tonight when he had finished his 6oz (Yes that's right he takes a minimum of 4oz per feed now, often finishing 6oz so I've had to start making up 6oz feeds for him! He's costing us a fortune in formula! lol) I popped his dummy in and we managed to avoid almost all of the screaming and frantic feeding we normally have between 6 and 8! Thank you so much!!!

Question for you all.....teething! I have been reading up as Earl has taken to mouthing at my shoulder (which I used to do as a baby apparently)....he's drooling loads and I know this is also a teething thing. The books are very vague about the whole things saying it can start anytime from birth - gee thanks for the guidance! lol - can any of the experienced ladies help me to help him if it is teething (could very well be he's a drooly baby! lol).

Thanks everyone, Earl is in bed so I'm off to watch a movie, drink tea and eat bikkies!!

 

[littlekitten8]

Aimeelou - Glad I could be some use. I suppose being a neonatal nurse has its advantages. I'm pretty sure James is teething already. Has been since 3 weeks. Chews on everything and if you rub your finger along his bottom gums there is a lump which is really hard.

Well I had to give up with the moses basket tonight. James is really unsettled and just screamed and screamed. Gave up and put him in his bouncer on vibrate and gave him his dummy about a million times. He has finally fallen asleep after 30 minutes of crying.

 

[eswift]

Morning All...

Aimee-Lou ~ Earl could be teething, DS had a full set of teeth by 4 months old... LOL We didn't have to struggle with the sleepless nights due to teething, he was so young we had a few sleepless night as expected at that age... But not many, as he'd been sleeping through from 2 weeks, in his own room from 3 weeks...

Kte & LK ~ I was given a bounty pack at the breast feeding group yesterday, and it said about the 6 month weening thing in there; you'd have thought that they'd have known about the digestive system etc 10 years ago... Oh well, see how we go... Oh sorry to hear about the fall out between OH, your sister and BIL; it can be so hard to please everyone... You can choose your friends and not your family! Hope things sort themselves out... OH & I haven't discussed god parents yet, gonna be a touchie subject... As his family have now't to do with us yet BIL is always trying to make out that their so close... LOL...

We had a relatively good night last night CC settled about 9.30pm, woke for a feed at 1am and settled by 1.30am OH alarm went off at 3am, as I need the car today we were both up then CC slept until we got back home at 5am and fed again then back asleep for 6am... (got 3oz of milk today already in a bottle... Increasing rapidly... No wonder she putting weight on...)

Hope you're all well... Best go change a nappy... Have a great day all xxxx

 

[Maffie]

Well OH was working last night and I was so tired that I cracked the dummy out, but couldn't bring myself to use it. After a feed at 1am Noah settled just after 2am then woke me just before 5am (result) I left him to cry but they were never proper cries. Then another feed at 5am and settled by 6am but he screamed so gave him a quick cuddle and popped him back down and he settled until OH phoned and woke me up just before 9am So all in all we did well. I was so tired by 2am I had no choice but to try the self settling. I'm such a proud mummy this morning and dont feel quite like death warmed upped.
I think I sometimes get up to settle him faster when OH is here as I worry about disturbing his sleep when he needs to work the next day

 

[littlekitten8]

I'm sooooo tired this morning. Didn't even get to bed til about 2am and then James was up for a feed at 3am. Didn't settle again til 5am and OH's alarm went off at 7.30am. So managed about 3 hours sleep. He woke for a feed at about 9.15am...took 1oz and then decided it was much more fun to chat to me and smile at me. Managed to get him to take another oz and then he was asleep so put him down on the bed where he promptly puked. Great. Put him back in his basket where he stayed for a whole 5 minutes before deciding he wanted more food. Took about 3 sucks and thought he would lay there smiling again. So put him down and he puked on my bed again!

 

[Chaos]

Morning girls,

whoooooooooooey, lil miss is having a growth spurt. It started on Tuesday at 330am! She woke up for a feed and did not want to go back to sleep. She wasn't grumpy or anything, just awake. Well come 7am I'm pissed and tired. Then because she's getting tired, she gets grumpy. So all day she was grizzly and pissed. She was demolishing 4 ounces, so upped her to 5oz. By the time the DH got in I was knackered so I handed her over. I actually fell asleep on the sofa last night and just woke up, seems the DH took her feeds during the night even tho we knew she'd be up most of it and fussy and he has to work today He's a good bloke

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving here. We gotta go spend the day with the in-laws and eat turkey. Don't get me wrong, they are nice folks, Its just a pain in the arse to travel an hour away with the baby etc and its going to disrupt her night time routine.

Aimee ~ Autumns Moses basket is the same .. she has maybe 2 inches left in length in it lol. Its strange to me because 8 weeks ago when I put her in there she looked totally lost!! It also makes me sad because it means soon she has to go in to her own bedroom and her cot
Earl is adorable and his nursery looks great. I know what you mean regarding getting more pictures of you/DH/LO together. I take so many of Lil Miss, that I never think to get ones with us in, the only ones we have are the hospital ones and the professional 7 day old ones with us.

Eala ~ Glad the 6 week checks went well

Eswift ~ Whats "CC"? I've been trying to work it out for days and can't haha. I bet its something really simple. Way to go on the weight gain, that's awesome!!

LK ~ Isn't sleep just totally wonderful. Who would have thought 12 months ago, we'd all get excited over 5 straight hours of sleep? lol.

Colsy ~ Regarding your going out post. Some days I have no choice to go out when she's pissy. I just put her in the car seat and by the time the car get moving she is calmed down. I figure she'll get used to it, otherwise I'll never get out the house!

Maffie ~ Sorry you had a bad night We use a dummy. Autumn isn't reliant on it and half the time spits it out after a few sucks, Or if I put her in the crib with it, she'll suck it till she's dozing off and then spit it out. She can go to sleep with out it.

Sam ~ I'm glad things have started to improve

ok I hear movement upstairs, I best go investigate!!

 

[Kte]

Afternoon all,

Chloe is nice and settled today so far but the wind is driving the cats mad! Argh can never win lol!

Little Kitten ~ Oh dear! I got Chloe ready for bed, took her up and she puked all over herslef. Not as bad as the bed admittidly, I had that one the other night and was not happy as I had to change all of the bedsheets. It went everywhere! Hope James gives you a better night tonight.

Aimee Lou ~ Wow thats interesting about teething, I never knew that. Chloe sometimes gumms my shoulder but I just thought it was part of her 'I'm hungry' actions.

Maffie ~ Glad the night went better for you and Noah

Eswift ~ Thanks, unfortuanltely it is pretty much WW3 with my sister now. My sis sent me a rather horrible text message then tried to call at 10pm knowing full well OH goes to bed early. More importantly I had just settled Chloe after 3hrs of trying so I was glad it didn't wake her up again! Your right, can't choose you family. Daft thing is now she wants nothing to do with us, she has gone from being upset she isn't involved in her life as a god parent to not wanting anything to do with us . . . bit extreme. I'm still confused with it all, I guess time will figure it out, I am far too tired to be dealing with it all. OH wanted to cancel but I told him no way! Who knews Christenings would be so controversial!

Its good CC wansn't too disturbed by you getting up for OH, I always worry that when my OH gets up that Chloe will get used to it and always get up at that time. She is hit miss at the moment tho, I think its just a fluke if she wakes up for a feed at the same time.

Well off to get out Chloe's play mat for a bit before OH gets home and I am sure she will want her 'dinner' first!