Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[eswift]

Kte ~ The library thing was just their reading fun session, but they run a book crawl thing here; certifcates and free book to boot... Just thought I'd meet someone... LOL CC's swim suit is made out of the same stuff as a wet suit, Very Non slippy!

 

[Kte]

I just got asked if my OH is on the scene (at work); what kind of question is that!!

 

[aimee-lou]

Colsy - Quickly answer your questions - meant to be finishing that application while Earl is entertained by Simon Bates lol

I'm not in any M/B groups as we're moving soon and I don't have access to a car.....seems a bit pointless now. But, I will be joining some once we're in Norwich and so will hubby.

Weaning - No difference whatsoever either way with his sleep. The main difference has been his temperament in the evenings. He's calmer, more relaxed, less frantic to eat, and a lot nicer to be around generally. No more grump-o'clock lol. He's starting on having breakfast as of tomorrow so we'll see if 2 meals a day makes a difference

Nope to the pooing at night, but then again Earl has always been a 'morning person' and with FF you don't get as much or as frequently anyway.

Yes, i've occasionally thought 'I'll pretend I didn't hear that' - usually if I'm cooking or something and I don't really want to be changing a dirty nappy right that minute. He's always got either Sudacrem or Vaseline on his bum anyway so we've NEVER had nappy rash, so 5 minutes isn't a problem. At night though, like I say, no probs there.

Errrrrm - I think that's everything...really must stop getting distracted. I've managed to vaccuum all but the stairs. Got to mop the kitchen and put a couple more washes through, then I'm done for the day Maybe I should be sleep deprived more often. Earl needs a nap at 12noon after his lunchtime bottle....think we may creep off up to bed for that one lol.

 

[aimee-lou]

I just got asked if my OH is on the scene (at work); what kind of question is that!!

Lordy - that's a sign of the times isn't it! lol

 

[colsy]

I'm not in any M/B groups as we're moving soon and I don't have access to a car.....seems a bit pointless now. But, I will be joining some once we're in Norwich and so will hubby.

Oooh, I will tell my OH this. He is soooo nervous of joining, as he thinks he'll be the only bloke and that they'll all think he's some kind of weirdo. I guess living in a rural area does make it a bit harder for things like that. If we were in Sheffield city centre, I think he'd be more inclined to try.

Weaning - No difference whatsoever either way with his sleep. The main difference has been his temperament in the evenings. He's calmer, more relaxed, less frantic to eat, and a lot nicer to be around generally.

Really interesting to hear that. Seems we all have that evening grumpiness, but v good to hear the food has reduced that period for you.

I've managed to vaccuum all but the stairs. Got to mop the kitchen and put a couple more washes through.

Seriously, HOW do you manage to do all this while Earl is awake? I can manage to pop the washing in, but vaccing and mopping?!! You're a better woman than I am. (Or maybe Earl's a more-easy-to-please baby than Monty, LOL)

 

[Kte]

COLSY: Glad Monty’s sleep has gotten better

A few queries for you all:

Does your baby poo in the night still? I really wish Monty wouldn't! Especially after he's just been changed! And do you ever pretend you haven't heard him pooing, cos you sooo don't want to wake him up even more? (Oh dear, bad mothers thread!)

Sorry, no Chloe seems to be poo free on a night time now. I wouldn’t be able to pretend as her bum is right next to my head! But I know what you mean. If I am popping her to bed and she has just had a wee I leave her. I leave her in her dirty nappy all night and just give her a right good clean in the morning.

Does your baby scream sometimes when you pop him into bed? I do mean scream, not just a little cry. It used to go right through me but I've got used to it now so I just sit there with my hand on his tummy till he forgets to yell any more and drops off to sleep. Sometimes this means he yells for about ten minutes. I feel awful for not picking him up, but I don't find this stops him any sooner, so it seems sensible to just let him get through it while he's still lying down.

Maybe have another word with the doc or HV? Unless you have and it feels like hitting a brick wall? Seems like you have a routine with it but it mustn’t be nice for you (and Monty obviously). Could some baby massage techniques work before you pop Monty down?

Last night's awakenings - midnight (feed), 4am (feed, change, feed, poo, change, feed!), then all the way through to 8am. So a LOT better than the past fortnight.

To those of you who've started weaning: did your baby sleep better or worse once you started weaning? It seems there are two groups of people who have strong opinions here - HVs say they'll sleep better, but parents who've actually done it often say it causes sleep regression, because all that food is troubling baby's tummy.

Not started weaning yet but I was wondering this too, I have heard similar things to you.

Do you all belong to lots of parent-and-baby groups, playgroups, baby yoga classes, etc. etc.? I've tried, but because of our issues with colic and grumpy baby syndrome in the early days I've not really got into the swing of it. However, I'd really love to, because I don't know many young people round our way (everyone we made friends with when we moved up here is older and/or child-free, because we met them at our village local!). I'm just wondering whether I've missed the boat a bit now ... we're heading towards the 6-month milestone in a month's time, by which time some things (like baby massage and yoga) are kind of too late for babies because they're too mobile, and also lots of mums are starting to return to work then and therefore not going to baby clubs any more. Also (and I know this is stupid and I should just deal with it, but it's hard to do so), we do still struggle sometimes with a grumpy baby, and I'm always hyper nervous that Monty will scream the place down when I join a new group. I know all babies cry and I should just accept it, but I get so worried about it that I start to get quite tense in the couple of hours before leaving the house, which of course rubs off on him and makes him worse anyway So just wondering whether you're all baby club veterans now and how you find them and whether you eventually got over the nerves of having the only yelling baby.

Nij goes to a Baby / Toddler group once a fortnight. He only started going a fortnight ago and there are people and babies / toddlers of all ages. I’m sure it is fine for you to still join now. If he’d of taken Chloe any earlier it wouldn’t of made sense as she couldn’t interact like she can now – so go for it! I’m sure they will be supportive if Monty has a grump day, I’d hope so, all out LO’s have a days like that.

Hope some of that helps x

 

[colsy]

Nij goes to a Baby / Toddler group once a fortnight. He only started going a fortnight ago and there are people and babies / toddlers of all ages.

Is Nij the only daddy there? My OH kind of wants to go but is nervous of all the scary women LOL.

 

[Maffie]

Going to come bak and read back in a mo (need to pump as I missed a feed while out)

Its my anniversary today too, its been so rocky recently I dont feel as excited as I probably should.

Went and treated myself today and i've had about a foot chopped off my hair (it was down to my waist) Will get a pic and post later.

 

[Kaites]

Does your baby poo in the night still? I really wish Monty wouldn't! Especially after he's just been changed! And do you ever pretend you haven't heard him pooing, cos you sooo don't want to wake him up even more? (Oh dear, bad mothers thread!)

Emma stopped pooing in the night around the same time she first starting sleeping through (~9weeks). If she's wet and has fallen asleep, I'll just leave her though.

Does your baby scream sometimes when you pop him into bed? I do mean scream, not just a little cry.

Emma does this when going through a growth spurt and I can't get her to settle in her own cot for the life of me. I'll try her cot, then the travel cot tucked right up to my side of the bed but in the end, the only thing that will work is co-sleeping. Luckily those types of nights only happen occasionally (3mth mark was the worst) so I can deal with a night of snuggles here and there.

To those of you who've started weaning: did your baby sleep better or worse once you started weaning? It seems there are two groups of people who have strong opinions here - HVs say they'll sleep better, but parents who've actually done it often say it causes sleep regression, because all that food is troubling baby's tummy.

Apart from some carrots that Emma fed the floor, I think it's fair to say we haven't started weaning yet since they were no where near her mouth, lol

Do you all belong to lots of parent-and-baby groups, playgroups, baby yoga classes, etc. etc.? I've tried, but because of our issues with colic and grumpy baby syndrome in the early days I've not really got into the swing of it. However, I'd really love to, because I don't know many young people round our way (everyone we made friends with when we moved up here is older and/or child-free, because we met them at our village local!). I'm just wondering whether I've missed the boat a bit now ... we're heading towards the 6-month milestone in a month's time, by which time some things (like baby massage and yoga) are kind of too late for babies because they're too mobile, and also lots of mums are starting to return to work then and therefore not going to baby clubs any more. Also (and I know this is stupid and I should just deal with it, but it's hard to do so), we do still struggle sometimes with a grumpy baby, and I'm always hyper nervous that Monty will scream the place down when I join a new group. I know all babies cry and I should just accept it, but I get so worried about it that I start to get quite tense in the couple of hours before leaving the house, which of course rubs off on him and makes him worse anyway So just wondering whether you're all baby club veterans now and how you find them and whether you eventually got over the nerves of having the only yelling baby.

Emma was a colicky baby too and can have a somewhat challenging temperment at times too. Because of the colic, we didn't start any activities until she was about 3mths. We started with yoga and she was definitely the fussiest baby there, lol. The instructor was great though and would take Emma from me and walk her around when she was getting fussy. On really bad days I would just BF her on my mat (lots of other mums were BFing too so I didn't feel weird about it) and participate when I could. I wouldn't worry too much about Monty being too old- half of the babies in yoga started the class at 6mths old and our baby massage class also had babies up to 11 mths old. Their mums just brought more toys to amuse them with and either a Bumbo to sit in or a BFing pillow to prop them up. I know you worry lots about Monty being the only crying baby- Emma was usually "the crying baby" in our classes too but generally, the more we've done an activity, the more she got used to it and seemed to cry less, so if it seems bad at first, it can get better I remember you saying that you signed up for baby yoga- have you started yet? Hope it goes well for both of you!

Maffie- Happy Birthday!! Hope you enjoy your day with Noah I have no idea how many bottles you'd need to leave your mum- maybe leave extra in the freezer for her to defrost if necessary
eta- happy anniversary too. glad to hear you treated yourself- you deserve a treat!

 

[colsy]

I remember you saying that you signed up for baby yoga- have you started yet? Hope it goes well for both of you!

Thanks Kaites. As for yoga, well not for want of trying, but we haven't made it to class yet. The first week it snowed and we couldn't get the car up the hill. The second week was the morning after OH blacked out on the floor so I was a bit worried about leaving him alone. The third week was yesterday and I was still recovering from my tummy bug. There's only five weeks in the course, so only two more to go. I think in a few weeks' time I will look back on this past fortnight and have a right laugh about the various calamities that we've had to deal with LOL.

 

[Maffie]

Colsy

Pooing Noah normally does every other morning (started this when he started sleeping through) Although having poo issues at the mo.

Baby groups keep meaning to and need to try as I know no one here.

Noah had a couple fo screaming sessions, but at night he used to cry in the cot but took a week for him to realise cot and dark means bed and sleep.

 

[Kaites]

Thanks Kaites. As for yoga, well not for want of trying, but we haven't made it to class yet. The first week it snowed and we couldn't get the car up the hill. The second week was the morning after OH blacked out on the floor so I was a bit worried about leaving him alone. The third week was yesterday and I was still recovering from my tummy bug. There's only five weeks in the course, so only two more to go. I think in a few weeks' time I will look back on this past fortnight and have a right laugh about the various calamities that we've had to deal with LOL.

I kinda of wondered if that was what happened Sounds like it has been a rough couple of weeks!

 

[Kte]

Nij goes to a Baby / Toddler group once a fortnight. He only started going a fortnight ago and there are people and babies / toddlers of all ages.

Is Nij the only daddy there? My OH kind of wants to go but is nervous of all the scary women LOL.

I think he said there was another Dad there but he was in the toddler bit so Nij was surrounded by women in the baby bit!

This is his post in our parent thread

Well I promised the vicar (the vicar is the group leader) when Chloe was christened that I would go to 'Busy Bees'(BB), and did intend to go two weeks ago, but problems with the car and waiting in for the media engineer kinda took preference.

Today even without a car and in the pouring rain Chloe and myself made the walk to the church to have some 'fun'. We arrived and after registering Chloe for the BB, we settled into playing with lots of new toys. Then Chloe decided that she wanted to show daddy up by crying and not settling (after trying everything - nappy, food, wind & sleep) but all the crying stopped once the group meeting started (singing and playing instruments) and they even sang a song to welcome Chloe .

The older kids then did some painting/drawing/adventures in the pop up tent/tunnel whilst the younger ones were either with their parent/carer or asleep - with the adults having tea/coffee and the kids squash & biscuits.

To finish the group did more singing with instruments - old songs like 'the wheels on the bus', 'if your happy and you know it' plus many more - was actually a good time, and even though I was the only daddy there with a baby I didn't feel out of place, everyone was very nice. Looking forward for 2 weeks time. We were made very welcome, and even had time to drink my coffee (one of the group leaders offered to watch Chloe for me whilst I had my drink).

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Chloe in the ball pool - she was very confused at first, but loved just holding the balls and pushing them down with her palms and then kinda dancing in them lol

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A fish rattle - was amazing to see her pick it up and hold it.

 

[Chaos]

Does your baby poo in the night still?

Yes, but we don't notice till she wakes up in the morning because she don't wake up in the night when she poos.

Does your baby scream sometimes when you pop him into bed?

Nope. I have a 5 minute cuddle with her and then lay her down whilst she is still awake. She'll spend 5 mins talking to her butterfly mobile and then put her self to sleep. I pretty much think this is down to us following the paediatricians word to the T from week 2 and getting a routine going, so she recognises cot = calmness and bed time. Or I just could be lucky haha.

To those of you who've started weaning: did your baby sleep better or worse once you started weaning?

It didn't affect her sleeping at all, but then she's slept 12 hours a night from 9 weeks. It has made her develop this God awful whiney noise when she's hungry tho. It's worse than the cats meowing for their dinner!!

Do you all belong to lots of parent-and-baby groups, playgroups, baby yoga classes, etc. etc.?

I've been taking Autumn to playgroup since she was 2 weeks old. With in the last month she's started noticing and getting interested in other babies and kids. Plus she's more mobile now. I'm part of a Mums group on meetup.com. There are 50 of us. We all take turns in hosting playgroups at our homes, we also have playgroups at parks, swimming pools, local baby gyms. (We also have Mums nights in and outs, where we leave the kids with the hubby and go devour wine haha)

I don't think you've missed the boat. Probably the best time be honest, because as I said, they are starting to notice the world around them and are getting more interested in it.

 

[Nij]

I just got asked if my OH is on the scene (at work); what kind of question is that!!

No he isnt an actor he is a HGV driver! Idiots, who was that one of the scum students?

Nij goes to a Baby / Toddler group once a fortnight. He only started going a fortnight ago and there are people and babies / toddlers of all ages.

Is Nij the only daddy there? My OH kind of wants to go but is nervous of all the scary women LOL.

I was the only Dad in the baby part though there was a dad in the toddeler bit, but doesnt go very often. TO be honest, the women were very nice (a lot older than me like) and even took Chloe off me so I could have a quick coffee

 

[Kte]

I just got asked if my OH is on the scene (at work); what kind of question is that!!

No he isnt an actor he is a HGV driver! Idiots, who was that one of the scum students?

I hasten to add it was *still on the scene*; on the scene makes it sound like your a male 'escort' or something

It was an ex-member of staff. She took me by surprise lol.

 

[Chaos]

Morning girls,

Well Autumn just had her porridge and is now munching on a stick of celery before she gets her bottle. I read somewhere that cold celery from the fridge has an anaesthetic effect on their gums, so is good for teething. Something to do with the chemicals in it. I often wondered this because it makes my tongue numb when I eat it! Anyways, I crushed one end for her so it is kinda stringy and something to get her gums in to.

So, I don't know if any of you have heard of The Duggers over there. Its basically a religious couple who do not believe in BC and just keep popping kids out. They have 19 now (the last one is in NICU as she was born at 25 weeks)
Anyways, they pay for everything them selves, have built their own house .. no benefits or anything, but to save money they cut each others hair with clippers. So my husband in all his intelligence last night, decided at 11pm he was going to clip his own hair because it looked easy.

Yea, he fucked it up and went Brittany Spears on me and shaved his head.... .. .. ..... He's lucky his hair grows back fast haha. I've banned him from going near clippers.

Maffie ~ Happy Birthday. Sorry you're feeling crap. I'm assuming it's to do with the GS post?
Re feeds ~ Maybe 8 oz per feed, just so you're covered? Just keep them frozen, so then you don't waste any. I used to defrost BM in a bowl of warm water. It was fluid with in 5 minutes.
Oh I'm excited to see your hair! I did that a year or so ago. It was down to my butt, and I had it chopped to my ears, much to my husbands disgust haha.

Aimee ~ I'm excite for you to start BLW! You're gonna have so much fun. Take lots of pictures and post them here!!

Kte ~ What's "the scene"? .. ooooooH never mind .. as in still around? I was thinking it was a TV show or something haha. I don't do well first thing in the morning!
Great pics of Chloe in the ball pit. They are so much fun!

We're supposed to be going to the park today with some Mums, alas it's piddling hard today. Hoping it clears up enough for us to go!

 

[Kaites]

So, I don't know if any of you have heard of The Duggers over there. Its basically a religious couple who do not believe in BC and just keep popping kids out. They have 19 now (the last one is in NICU as she was born at 25 weeks)
Anyways, they pay for everything them selves, have built their own house .. no benefits or anything, but to save money they cut each others hair with clippers. So my husband in all his intelligence last night, decided at 11pm he was going to clip his own hair because it looked easy.

Yea, he fucked it up and went Brittany Spears on me and shaved his head.... .. .. ..... He's lucky his hair grows back fast haha. I've banned him from going near clippers.

We were watching that episode on Tuesday night too. Geesh- can't believe I'm admitting to watching that show My excuse is curiosity 'cause the granddaughter is a bumpkin too and 2 days younger than Emma. That's too funny about your hubby though- mine was interested in me cutting his hair next time too. Maybe we'll use your misfortune as a learning lesson and I'll keep sending DH out for his haircuts

 

[Kte]

Lol yeah Chaos, 'on the scene' as in 'still around'. Don't worry, forget mornings, my brain is like that 24/7 now Maybe Nij's sad attempt at a joke put you off anywhoo

Now I am being an idiot - clippers as in electric shavers? He didn't do the "whoops forgot to put the correct lenght thing on the end" and ended up with a '0' instead of a '3'?!!

I cut Nij's hair lol. Don't think I will tackle Chloe's when she is older, that's too scary! I really need to check out some girlie hair styles for her. . . I was a tomboy when I was younger and so ended up with short back and sides! Seriously . . . but hey, anything was better than my mullet! Gee, thanks' 80s. Did mean I escaped those crazy perm's tho! Down side: have no clue if she wants a fancy hair do!

Kaites / Chaos ~ Not heard of that show, sounds crazy! 19 kids you say? At least they pay their way I guess, how on earth is the Mum's body holding together?

Maffie~ Does it feel strange now you have shorter hair? Looking forward to the pic

~ ~ ~
Here you all go for a laugh . . . (my old school teacher was after this the other day!) I was in year 4 so about 8 years old

 

[florabean1981]

happy b'day & anniversary maffie

chaos, so sorry to hear about your friend with cancer... poor guy's family too...

kaites, i will admit to watching the duggers too on discovery home & health. on the series over here, they've just had the 18th kid (jordyn) & anna is pregnant still. do you watch jon & kate plus 8? i have become sadly, hopelessly addicted to that, as well as little people big world. god i need a life!!!

colsy: in answer to your Qs. Harry willo scream EVERY time he's put down, unless he is swaddled. If i even loosely swaddle him, it works too & he is out like a light, but my god, if his arms are out, it must be either play time or food time & he will scream the place down to the point where OH comes running upstairs thinking something is killing us both!!!
re solids; Harry i think, appears to be sleeping no better, no worse, however I have noticed he is much more settled & for longer after he has had food, but I have also notivced he is SUPER hirsty afetr he eats, so he then has a good boobie feed afterwards & is very much content then for ages, so i put him down, surround him with a few toys & he will play, chew, dribble, coo & stuff & he's prefectly happy... heaven!
Harry very very rarely poos in the night. He tends to go within an hour of waking up in the morning, then again early evening. He is regular, lol. If he is wet in the night, i tend to leave him, unless he's really wide awake after his feed, in which case I'll burp & change him just to pass the time & interact with him & tire him out a bit more before him falling back to sleep. If he's dirty though, i do tend to change him, just coz it'll annoy me otherwise, lol.
re parent n toddler groups etc. I sometimes ton to the BFing group, but not so much these days as they changed the time to a morning one when Harry has his nap & i dont really wanna mess with his sleep as he clearly needs that midmorning nap still. I seem to keep missing the starts of the organised group things like baby massage, signing etc, so as yet, we havent really been to anything much at all. I am actually getting a bit stressed out by the fact I know no one with babies & i dont seem to be able to meet any in my area I worry that Harry is missing out on other baby to baby interaction because I'm too lame to talk to approach people or get my arse up in time for non-local groups!

so...... i'm not so 100% on BLW anymore. Harry has been having a teaspoon of baby porridge (about 8-10 mouthfuls for him) every morning after his feed, which he is loving. We have also given him little bits of rusks which he likes to suck the life out of... Then he started really chewing & biting on it... he gagged a couple fo times, which was kinda scary, but he wasn't at all bothered by it, so niether were we.
Last night, we gave him a little bit of sweet potato, which he wasn't particularly impressed by & only ate 3 mouthfuls before squinnying & clamping his mouth shut, which again, we were like, fine, he's had enough, no probs.
Thism orning I gave him a rusk again & he was chewing away & chatting to it all happy, but then he properly bit a massive chunk off & choked... as in really choked, couldnt breathe & had water coming out his eyes & snot from his nose as he was desperately trying to breathe. And I couldnt get the frigging claspy thing undone on the highchair & he started to turn a purpley blue colour & I was completely freaking out by this point. Had to whack the hell out of his back to get him to bring the chunk up & boy did he scream when it came out. He was unconsolable for ages & I was crying & it was just totally overwhelming. I dont think I can cope with seeing that happen again.... so i might just go with the purees n mashed up food until he's quite a bit older & i feel he can cope better with it. i know OH will think I'm a wuss, but my god, it was scary!

On a better note, Harry sat unaided playing with his spinning toy thingy for about 80seconds today, so I was well impressed. usually he manages about 10-15secs before falling forwards, bent double.

anyways, better go as I am dying for a cuppa n a biccy!