Calling all BFP virgins!!! Perpetual "One Line Only" support group!

[MissyLissy]

Hey all! Calling all BFP virgins! I feel like I can't be alone.

11 months TTC and I'm STILL a BFP virgin. No mc, no chemicals (not that I'm hoping for this outcome). My period is always on time, if not early. Heck, I don't even get evap lines! I seriously cannot imagine what two lines would look like for me, and have even contemplated drawing in a second pink line just to see what it might feel like! Haha...yes, I'm lame like that.

My first 5 months TTC I didn't even ovulate at all and was also an OPK virgin. Thanks to my dx of PCOS combined with drug cocktails of letrozole and metformin I have at least been ovulating the last six cycles, so I have graduated from the OPK virgin-hood. I've also done three IUIs, but no dice! Stark white pregnancy tests all the time.

But still...that illusive BFP is still out of reach. So... Calling those in a similar situation! Lets start a group and wait out our virgin-hood together!

 

[Pirate]

I'll join! We're on cycle 8 of TTC. Went off of birth control five months before we started trying, but honestly there wasn't a whole lot of preventing going on during those five months. I started opks during cycle 7 and got a positive on CD 13 (I was giddy because its the first time I've ever seen two lines on something I peed on). I started temping this cycle just to confirm ovulation, so we'll see how that goes.

I've been in a real funk for a week or so and just am not feeling that hopeful. I'm going to start opks again on Monday or Tuesday so hopefully that will improve my outlook on things.

 

[MissyLissy]

Hi Pirate! :wave: I totally know how you felt about the positive OPK. When I FINALLY got a positive OPK for the first time (after about five months of NOTHING because my body refused to cycle normally) I ran downstairs like a maniac yelling for DH to look at that lovely smiley. You would have thought it was an Honest to God BFP the way I was acting. I was just so, soooo happy that my pee did *something* exciting and felt like I had at least Gotten over my ovulation hurdle.

But.... Six cycles with a clear ovulation pattern now (four because of letrozole and two natural) and I'm still waiting for a BFP...

 

[Pirate]

I was so excited that I put peestick porn pictures on my journal. I *think* I've been ovulating all along, but apparently my EWCM does not coincide with ovulation so the opks were good in that respect. Now I'm hoping to confirm that I do indeed ovulate (as opposed to just have the LH surge).

 

[MissyLissy]

It sounds like you are really ramping up your game! I bet you'll have your BFP soon. I've been temping all along (and confirming O the last six months), but I gave up temping this month after I confirmed my O. Analyzing my chart for any little bump or dip during the TTW will make you crazy. I'm considering putting the thermometer down for my entire next cycle... But I don't know. I do feel it gives me *some* control.

 

[Pirate]

I have a friend (on BnB) who temps for the 5 or so days around O just to confirm and then not for the rest of cycle. I'll probably revert to this too once I establish a normal temperature pattern. At this point I'm willing to do about anything to help us get a BFP!

 

[Hopeful1982]

Hello Ladies, glad I found this thread I too am a BFP virgin. Missy I too cannot imagine what it will be like to see those 2 lines!

I am also an opk virgin just never seem to time it quite right! We ttc for 16 months previously and in that time no positive opk or BFP. We took a 12 month break from ttc and we starting again 3 months ago and so far my cycles have not returned so just waiting now.

I have started temping again as that seemed to work for me before and did show signs I O'd. I have had some signs of O couple days back fingers crossed it was and AF will be here soon!

Fingers crossed we all soon get to see those 2 lines!

 

[MissyLissy]

Hi Hopeful! Welcome! I know how you feel about waiting for AF. So far, TTC is nothing but a lot of waiting.

Waiting for AF, waiting to O, waiting to test. But, of all the waiting I've done, waiting for AF when my body was stalled last year (thanks PCOS) was the worse! So I definitely sympathize. Crossing my fingers you get AF soon and can start trying!

 

[chimmi]

I'm a BFP virgin also.
Had my FIRST positive opk last wednesday and started singing "im laying an egg" grabbed the dog picked him up and span him Round !
Fiance was just as excited as I was when he got home half hour later he ran upstairs and took all his clothes off and jumped into bed haha. was so funny then i shouted "i feel FERTILE" god I hope the neighbours didn't hear!

I always imagine what it would be like to get a BFP.. I couldn't believe it

 

[Palladium]

Hi there! I've just hit 1 year TTC and absolutely nothing. I've had the faintest of shadows a couple of times, but I couldn't be sure there actually was anything there, I suspect it was wishful thinking.

I've been tracked the last few cycles and it's become apparent that I'm not ovulating regularly/well, so I expect when I go back to my doc next month that she'll start me on clomid, I'm hoping that will do the trick.

 

[Hatethewait85]

'Nother BFP virgin over here!!

I've been ttc for 2+ years and have yet to see that elusive second line! AF is ALWAYS early. She was late twice in the last two years and then arrived the day after I took a pregnancy test (BFN of course).

I tried temping but I sleep pretty poorly so I don't think it was very accurate. I took 4 rounds of clomid and had positive opk's each cycle. Switched to a fertility specialist in July and have taken letrozole the last 2 cycles. Currently in my tww after my second IUI and desperately hoping for a BFP in a few days...

Good luck to everyone!!

 

[MissyLissy]

Yay, more BFP virgins! Hopefully we can wait this out together and get some good news in this thread.

I'm just about at one year TTC. Today really felt like Fall here, and it reminds me of this time last year, when I had just begun TTC wnd was so sure and so optimistic that I'd be pregnant soon. Here I am a whole yer later and nothing. Nada. Getting to that one year TTC mark with nothing to show for it is hitting me harder than I thought. We've been tested up he wazoo (me=PCOS but I've been ovulating regularly for six months now and have/will ovulate on my own and DH= low morphology but extremely high count and motility which the RE told us should more than make up for he morphology). So why haven't I even had a bfp scare yet? At the year point with no hint of a positive I'm starting to think my body just isn't capable...

But, then I tell myself even though we've been trtying a year, it's really been only about six cycles in that time span... But still, sick of the waiting!

 

[Pirate]

We haven't had any type of testing yet because we're technically only on our 8th cycle of TTC, though the five months before we didn't really prevent that often. I hit the 12 month mark off of birth control this month and was pretty down about it.

I *think* I'm fine (no pcos, endo, etc.) because my cycles are always regular (28-32 days), periods aren't super heavy or painful, and I do get positive opks. I hope that nothing is wrong with hubs because I think he would take it harder than I would.

When I saw the doctor for my annual in March she said that if I wasn't pregnant by Christmas to come back and talk to her about testing. I honestly think we'll probably wait until February or March so that we have been trying a full year.

I feel a lot of pressure because of our ages (me: 32, hubs: 36) and because our insurance does not cover assisted conception at all. I just hope this happens soon!

 

[Bump4Me2013]

Another BFP virgin here! Sucks, but glad I'm not alone. I hope we all get our BFPs soon, it's getting disheartening.

 

[Hopeful1982]

Pirate - Im with you there on the age thing we keep been told were both getting on now (I'm 31 OH is almost 35)

We are just about to start testing OH has a telephone consultation tomorrow with the dr so that he can be referred for SA!

I need to have bloods but since coming off BCP 3 months ago not had AF yet, dr said I could go for bloods now but won't be a true reflection as she wants a 21 day progesterone done so I'm just playing the waiting game! At least OH can get his swimmers looked at in the meantime!

I do feel ever so periody this evening like its just around the corner FX it is!

Hoping soon as cycles are back that I can see that elusive 2nd line on my opks and then that so badly wanted BFP!

FX for us all!

 

[xQuinnx]

Hi all! Very happy to have found this thread! Just what I was looking for!
I am a BFP virgin, I can relate to what Pirate said about being giddy when seeing that second line on an OPK...however the only month I used them I got 7 in a row and only had spotting for a day! No period!
We've been trying for our first since Feb 13..since then I've had 2 periods and one day spotting...this month I don't have a BFP or a period so feeling majorly lame! I can't imagine what 'my' test with 2 lines will look like!

 

[MissyLissy]

I hear you all on the age thing! DH is 31 and I'm turning 31 myself in two weeks. We started trying on my 30th bday nearly a year ago because I hit 30 and felt the pressure. I never imagined a whole year later I'd still be staring at one line tests! I always wanted three kids, and already I don't see how that can happen without a major miracle.

 

[Pirate]

Our attitude is that we will be parents, whether it be naturally by giving birth or through adoption. We have already decided what ends we are willing to go to to get pregnant. If needed (and it's looking like a likely possibility at this point) we will go through fertility testing so that we can see if something is "broken" or if it just hasn't happened. I would absolutely take Clomid (or something of that nature) if it was appropriate and I would do two or three cycles of IUI (we would be paying out of pocket for IUI due to insurance). I am not willing to do IVF because I don't want to put my body through that (Note: I have no objections to IVF, moral or otherwise, and I think it's a great option for some people, just not me). Plus we would have to pay out of pocket for IVF and I would rather spend that money on adoption which I view more as a sure thing.

 

[sammyttc]

This thread made my day !! We have been trying for just over a year, and still, I have never seen a BFP. It seems like something that haunts me at night, but never actually shows it's face. For the first 6 months I peed on more sticks than I care to count.... but now I am finding I just know I will not see that double line, so why try? That being said, we go to the RE next month for our first appointment (Long waits !) and I have an ultrasound this Friday just to confirm everything looks ok. Hubby has had SA and everything is great! What a long and tiring process... and I know there are so many others who have dealt with this far longer than I have, and I respect them SO much.

 

[MissyLissy]

Well... I got AF today ladies. I start my letrozole on Thursday and begin protocols for my FOURTH IUI which will probably take place late next week or the weekend after. I was going to move on to injectibles this round, but my RE totally messed up timing last month (waste of $1,000 and an emotional drain) and I do respond well to letrozole so I'm giving it one more try. I really, really hope this is it. Once you add injectibles the price skyrockets to the point where you should consider just saving for IVF instead.

Pirate, I know what you mean about IVF. DH and I are starting to discuss what happens if these IUI's just don't work. It's hard to get a BFN. It's even harder after a monitered, medicated IUI cycle. I can't even imagine the pain and devastation over seeing a BFN after a 10-20K IVF round. But I don't know.... We haven't ruled it out if it comes to that...I just never thought it WOULD come to that and I'm just praying something works for me soon.

My husband is adopted, and we have always wanted to adopt anyway because of that. But at the same time, he has always wanted a biological child, because in his whole life he's never had that genetic link with someone. That part hurts the most for me with struggling to conceive. He is wonderful and patient, and would never blame me...but I can't help but feel like I'm letting him down month after month.

Anyway... CD1. Again. Really hoping this time will be different!