My ewcm appeared to dry up two days prior to (what I think was) o day this month as well. I'm told that's somewhat normal, as the ewcm is supposed to help the sperm through the cervix and you want that to happen a few days before actual o.
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From my readings and research and whatnot it's O day that it "usually" dries up. That's usually how my cycles go. The two days before I'm drenched in ewcm (seriously soak through numerous underwear changes) and then on O day it dries right up. This cycle is weird. Had a temp spike before what I thought was O day. Probably the estrogen surge, but I don't usually get that. Wonky wonky wonky cycle. Of course it would be wonky as I need this one to judge when to get donations next month. But I'm feeling better about getting them as OH has said she can work late and get a donation before coming home so I'll Nh every able to get dd to bed and light some candles and set the mood haha. Will be much easier without worrying about her coming in while we're doing it lol.
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This cycle just hates me haha. Doesn't help that my diet is out the window. The daycare parents keep bringing me cookies! Are a whole box of warm homemade cookies today. Don't regret it one bit. Diet will commence after Christmas.
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Wow, I feel like I've missed so much since I last logged in!
Cppeace, that's so awesome that you have such a huge temp spike that there's no question when or if you ovulate!
Kylasbaby, sorry to hear about the wonky cycle. Just when we start to think we have it all figured out, the body starts to play games to try and trick us. Glad to hear you're feeling more relaxed and have a plan about how the insem is going to go.
Savasanna, you're completely right about alternative ways to bring a child into the family triggering feelings but at the end of the day the biology not mattering at all. Our adopted daughter feels like 100% ours and has since the moment we laid our eyes on her. DH says that he forgets that she's even adopted most of the time. When it comes to donor sperm, the baby would be 1/2 biologically related to me, and it's that part that is making DH feel even more guilty about us not being able to conceive. If and when we do conceive with donor sperm, DH will be the only father, in my eyes, no matter whose sperm created the child. He and I have a really good relationship and a mutual respect for each other, and I think this is why I'm overthinking this whole thing. I wanted to make sure that he's truly ok with going this route, but I think in doing that I made too big of a deal out of it which ended up making him feel even more guilty. Today things seem a lot more relaxed and back to normal, and we even read and signed the donor contract.
Question for you ladies who have used a donor from the KDR...is there compensation of any kind for the donor? Our potential donor hasn't mentioned anything, just curious if he's going to ask for payment at some point or if it's truly a donation? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that a random stranger would be this willing to help us conceive.
Cppeace, that's so awesome that you have such a huge temp spike that there's no question when or if you ovulate!
Kylasbaby, sorry to hear about the wonky cycle. Just when we start to think we have it all figured out, the body starts to play games to try and trick us. Glad to hear you're feeling more relaxed and have a plan about how the insem is going to go.
Savasanna, you're completely right about alternative ways to bring a child into the family triggering feelings but at the end of the day the biology not mattering at all. Our adopted daughter feels like 100% ours and has since the moment we laid our eyes on her. DH says that he forgets that she's even adopted most of the time. When it comes to donor sperm, the baby would be 1/2 biologically related to me, and it's that part that is making DH feel even more guilty about us not being able to conceive. If and when we do conceive with donor sperm, DH will be the only father, in my eyes, no matter whose sperm created the child. He and I have a really good relationship and a mutual respect for each other, and I think this is why I'm overthinking this whole thing. I wanted to make sure that he's truly ok with going this route, but I think in doing that I made too big of a deal out of it which ended up making him feel even more guilty. Today things seem a lot more relaxed and back to normal, and we even read and signed the donor contract.
Question for you ladies who have used a donor from the KDR...is there compensation of any kind for the donor? Our potential donor hasn't mentioned anything, just curious if he's going to ask for payment at some point or if it's truly a donation? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that a random stranger would be this willing to help us conceive.
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No payment. The whole point of the site is it seems free. So they have to just want to help. Though if they have to travel far it's not a bad idea to offer gas money and fin yoy need a notary for anything you obviously pay that. It definitely is hard to wrap your head around. Have you asked the donor why he does it?
For example, our donor was married and his wife had fertility issues. She sadly passed away so now he has these embryos he doesn't know what to do with. He wants to help because he knows how hard fertility issues are.
For example, our donor was married and his wife had fertility issues. She sadly passed away so now he has these embryos he doesn't know what to do with. He wants to help because he knows how hard fertility issues are.
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Ok, we plan on meeting ours near where he lives so he won't have to travel far, but I was thinking of getting him some sort of gift card anyway.
That's such a sad yet sweet story that your donor has. Our donor said that he has friends that have struggled and had a hard time finding a donor, so that's why he decided to donate.
That's such a sad yet sweet story that your donor has. Our donor said that he has friends that have struggled and had a hard time finding a donor, so that's why he decided to donate.
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It's definitely weird. We can't help but not trust a guy for wanting to do this. But we have to put a lot of trust and faith into them. That's why I also wanted a donor who had helped others before with positive pregnancies. So he would know how it goes and I would be sure he didn't want contact. I figure if he has other kids he's helped make, why would he decide out of all of them that he wants contacts with mine? You know
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lol yeah my ovulation demands to be known right away lol
For all I have read/researched about donor sperm, generally you should never have to pay for the sperm, but hotel, gas, travel that kinda thing yeah. If you want to give a gift card that's totally up to you and cool.
Aww Kylasbaby that is so sad what happened to your donor. Maybe some day he can find a surrogate to carry he and his late wife's baby.
For all I have read/researched about donor sperm, generally you should never have to pay for the sperm, but hotel, gas, travel that kinda thing yeah. If you want to give a gift card that's totally up to you and cool.
Aww Kylasbaby that is so sad what happened to your donor. Maybe some day he can find a surrogate to carry he and his late wife's baby.
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Our donor did mention that he has donated to multiple successful pregnancies so far. I hadn't thought about it from a contact standpoint, but that does make perfect sense that he knows what he's getting himself into. This thread has made me feel a lot more comfortable.
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I would ask if e and put you in contact with some of the families. I wish I'd done that before we used him. I'm in contact with 2 families who had girls by our donor and all 3 of our girls have milk/soy protein intolerance and sleeping issues. Although they're also extremely intelligent lol. Wouldn't have used him had I known. We are using him for future kids despite three iasues because we now have a relationship with him and know he makes things easy and I want my kids to be full siblings.
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So here's my wonky cycle. I'm pretty sure I ovulated cd19. Opk was first positive 2 days before and my cm dried up as it does on O day and my O pain was the day before. But then my temp went down that day. And up today. Which would indicate a cd20 ovulation. But from when my opks went positive to when they went negative it should have been cd19. So I'm confused. And I had a temp spike before it went down which usually doesn't happen, but could have been an estrogen surge before ovulating.
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I was thinking that too, but that's too far from my first positive opk. Ovulation isnsupposed to be up to 48 hours after first positive. First positive was cd17 at night which would mean cd19 at night the latest. 6pm would have been 48 hours. So confused.
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That's certainly strange that all of your symptoms and tests point to day 19, yet your temps say day 20. I would go with day 20 for your planning for next cycle since it's better to have the sperm in there a day early than a day late.
Have you ever used preseed with your insems? I know you said you get a ton of fertile cm before O but wasn't sure if you used it your first time with the insem being 5-7 days before O. I've used it on/off in the past and am unsure if I'm going to use it this next cycle. I'll probably wait and see how much fertile cm I'm having on insem day.
Have you ever used preseed with your insems? I know you said you get a ton of fertile cm before O but wasn't sure if you used it your first time with the insem being 5-7 days before O. I've used it on/off in the past and am unsure if I'm going to use it this next cycle. I'll probably wait and see how much fertile cm I'm having on insem day.
