I thought all was going fine with my baby shower. Im not involved in the planning- I just gave my friends/mum a list of the people who should be invited (and if i thought they would actually accept so they had an idea for numbers).
Its all been done by fb- invites etc. My sister sent me a snotty text last night saying how upset she was that she is not involved in the organising of it. I said she could help months ago but as Im not part of it to contact mum or my friend. Last night she was trying to say its all about me and i havent considered her feelings........ hello! Im not organising anything! On top of that, were not particularly close, she lives over an hour away, she doesnt know who my friends are, she has no money coming in so couldnt afford to do anything anyway and I said for her to get in touch with them!!! I was so angry last night to receive such a crappy text and then she tries to argue with me saying its all about me and then 2 texts later she tries to use the guilt trip about her feelings and she wants me to be proud of her for once...... so now the baby shower is all about her?? wtf?
Rant over but last night i was fuming. I was just about to head out at 8pm to see my sister in the rehab centre who hasnt eaten a thing that day, and try and get her to eat. Yeah.... im always thinking about me obviously
I have enough stress with the baby and his brain problems, my two sisters, my day to day stressful job, and my hubbys work who are making him redundant just to reeemploy him at a lower salary.... but she felt the need to add to that stress when in my opinion i havent done anything.
how is everyone today?
Hunny your invites are amazing! So cool
Im starting to feel pregnant lol. Need to start slowing down and resting more. Laminate flooring goes down at the weekend- so happy about that
hoping i can start winding down in the next 3 weeks as Ill be handing my work load over slowly.
I didn't think it was too much to ask to have a small family and friends (of myself and dh) shower. Instead it has turned into a huge party with 20 people I barely know being invited as well because MIL wants them. I just know that there isn't going to be any room at the house and my nerves are shot because of it. Also my mom didn't invite her friends and actually had me take a few family members off of the list because she knew they wouldn't come, so why put more bother on me? MIL on the other hand has invited her friends. People I've NEVER met (because this friend of hers said she wanted to meet me?!). She also invited these distant family members that I have only spoken to in passing because they were angry that we didn't invite them to the wedding. I'm sorry, but I paid for my wedding myself, so I couldn't invite everyone under the sun and I wasn't paying for people I don't even know. So when they heard we were having a baby they asked (rudely) if they would be invited to the shower and MIL told them yes! I said 'why did you invite them, I don't even know them! You could have told them that it wasn't your choice as I was doing the invitations!' And she started crying about how she doesn't need the stress of telling people no and it's just so much easier to invite them....
I did my friends shower separately for this reason... this kind of thing is the norm when you're in an Indian family so I'm used to it. My 2nd shower is going to have about 75 people, 20 of which are close family/family friends and the rest are distant relatives who I barely know, mom/dad's friends and my sister's people (She invited her neighbor who I've never even spoken to!). You should ask the people who are important to you and DH if they can stick around afterwards for a little bit and maybe you can spend some time with them wihtout the chaos. Hope you feel better!
