Can I choose a c-section BEFORE ttc??

[tinkerbelle93]

I just wanted to say that I've have 2 babies both with shoulder dystoica. Me and dh wanted another but I was way to scared to have another vaginal birth so I went to my gp who wrote to the consultant at my local hospital who agreed to an elective section. So here i am 18 weeks pregnant, I've already seen the consultant and just have to make my mind up by 36 weeks weither induction at 38 weeks or a section. Now I have the dilemma of what to do x

Ah awesome, did you go to the GP before ttc or when pregnant? what did you say to them? Did you have to meet with the consultant or was it just agreed from the letter? sorry for the questions! I want to make the appointment soon but I feel awkward about going! But that is exactly why I want to go, so I can have the choice between the 2 options xx

It's was agreed by letter about a month after I went to the gp, we were tcc at the time. When I was 12 weeks I saw the consultant because of the previous shoulder dystocia and they were just advising me not to give birth at home. So I said I have already looked into my options and showed her the letter and she said oh well we won't refuse you and booked me in at 36 weeks to discuss what's going to happen. I have no idea what to do as both my babies have got stuck they've said it would be a tight squeeze. They said about induction but there is no evidence that this would stop the shoulder dystocia. I'm thinking if this baby was a little bigger like my second then it could be a scary situation x

Ah cool well that's given me a bit of confidence to speak to my own GP, did you request on the grounds of being scared/anxious about it happening again? It seems it goes one way or another.. either you will get refused and told to go away or they'll understand and agree without hesitation!

Aw I can understand that's a tough decision to make.. have you had a medical opinion of how likely it is to happen again? Just try to think carefully about the different scenarios and how you will feel afterwards xx

 

[ArcaneSpark]

Hello,

I have just had an ELCS due to a 3rd degree tear last time. I expected them to try and dissuade me but that didn't happen at all.

Overall the birth experience was so positive for us this time!

Good Luck!

That's great you had a positive experience this time were you automatically offered the section or did you request it?? I know that with previous 3rd degree tears you're sometimes offered one regardless but I only had an episitomy xx

I had an appointment 12w after my LO was born at the perineal trauma clinic for them to check the healing. At this point I knew there was no-way I wanted a natural birth again, so we discussed it and they said that they wouldn't have stopped me if I wanted a natural birth but also CS was an option.

At my 8w midwife appointment I told her I wanted a CS due to previous trauma and she put me under consultant led care, which badically meant one appointment after 12w scan and then one at 36 weeks to discuss CS and get booked in.

 

[hulahoop09]

I have primary tokophobia, I had it since my teens and before getting pg I spoke to a mw who said I would.be allowed a csection. I then got pg. Was referred to consultant and had support of gp, mw.and I also started cbt and my therapist supported me having a csection. The consultant wasnt v.sympathetic but she referred me to an hypnobirthing mw who said no way can I have natural delivery due to my phobia.and so I was allowed a csection.

And seeing as you have previous trumatic birth and had pnd etc I see it v.unlikely they woukd refuse hun. I told them point blank I want a csection and if they dont I will take out a 10k loan and pay private! Lol.

Xx

 

[x__amour]

Here in most US hospitals, they won't let you be induced or have an ELCS without medical reason unless you've had a prior section. I hope you find someone to work with.

 

[hulahoop09]

If you have been diagnosed as having mental health issues hun then keep pushing for it. Xx