Can I join you ladies?

[KatO79]

To be honest this isn't the first time. My sister is a single mother of two already. She doesn't know the father of any of the children, (yes she is one of those people all us ladies trying so hard hate) I even had temp custody of my niece once.

She's 13 weeks along and when she found out she freaked out about how she couldn't take care of another child and how she just couldn't be a mom again. I offered then. I also offered when she was pregnant and saying the same thing about my nephew. However nothing turned up on that. But she wrote me yesterday saying she had been thinking of this for awhile and felt that this is the reason she got pregnant at one of the worst times in her life. Me and Roger already discussed it somewhat. His response was "Well I was planning for triplets anyways." Which made me laugh a bit.

Today she said for sure though this is what she wants to do. I'm going to tread carefully and still discuss everything through with her and Roger but it looks like we'll be adopting next May.

Ok good to know that she's thought it through and it wasn't a spur of the moment decision Too bad she doesn't know who the father is of all 3 children, I always find that a bit sad for the children But it sounds like you're being smart about it HCas. I hope the process goes well should you definitely decide to adopt the baby I'm sure you'll give that baby a wonderful, loving home

But you'll still be trying for a biological child I assume Here's hoping you'll be baking a bean by that time

 

[HCas]

Haha yep still trying for our little Rainbow. the SIL made the joke that as soon as we make the adoption final I'll find out I'm pregnant and will have to plan a double nursery.

 

[KatO79]

Haha yep still trying for our little Rainbow. the SIL made the joke that as soon as we make the adoption final I'll find out I'm pregnant and will have to plan a double nursery.

Here's hoping

Hopefully you'll get your bfp before that

 

[HCas]

How have you been doing? Do you think you made it????

 

[KatO79]

How have you been doing? Do you think you made it????

I've been doing fine, thanks

We'll see in 7-8 days I'm trying to avoid symptom spotting as I always seem to find symptoms and get my hopes up too high each month only to have AF come by. The only things to report are heartburn (was very bad 4 dpo, maybe too much soda that day??), headaches starting today at 6 dpo, some very slight nausea (started today) and cramping most of 5 dpo and some today. I've also been tired and irritable. I've stopped checking CM very much as it's unreliable but it has been alternately white and creamy, tacky and watery when I have checked. Not even bothering with CP as that seems to be an unreliable ndicator as well so only checking it when I'm approaching my fertile days. But I'm trying not to read into anything to avoid disappointment

How are things going with you

 

[HCas]

I understand not symptom checking. I try not to every month.... try

We've been BDing every two days though to try and catch it. Its hard though, been feeling sick the past few days. Even had to pull over yesterday while driving cause I felt like I was going to get sick.

That worked out though cause we stopped at a thrift store and found a really expensive swing for $30

 

[KatO79]

I understand not symptom checking. I try not to every month.... try

We've been BDing every two days though to try and catch it. Its hard though, been feeling sick the past few days. Even had to pull over yesterday while driving cause I felt like I was going to get sick.

That worked out though cause we stopped at a thrift store and found a really expensive swing for $30

Yeah it's a bit hard not to symptom spot at all

Awww hope it's not anything serious and that you soon feel better But it sounds like a good plan with BDing every 2nd day when you're unsure of O day. I'd say every 2-3 days should be fine. Some go for every single day but that just seems like too much

Wow, sounds like a good deal with the swing We're currently living in an apartment but we'll soon need to start house shopping as we could use a bit more room when the baby does show up. We're not buying anything for our child yet so as not to jinx it but I do get sorely tempted when I see cute baby clothes We're going to have a tough time buying anything when we do get our bfp as we've agreed we don't want to know our baby's sex until I give birth. We though it'd be a fun idea since so many normally know beforehand and we want to keep the excitement up until the very end But I can see it'll give some slight issues later. Guess we'll have to stick with colors that work for both genders

 

[HCas]

Yellows and greens! Haha that's kinda what we're doing. We won't know the gender of the baby til closer to christmas so anything we buy will be yellow and green most likely. Though we probably won't be buying too much til we rearrange and clear out our room. We live with the in-laws and have the room that was converted to a garage. The nursery will take up on corner of our room until we can find a lace of our own and all

 

[KatO79]

Yellows and greens! Haha that's kinda what we're doing. We won't know the gender of the baby til closer to christmas so anything we buy will be yellow and green most likely. Though we probably won't be buying too much til we rearrange and clear out our room. We live with the in-laws and have the room that was converted to a garage. The nursery will take up on corner of our room until we can find a lace of our own and all

Yes exactly, yellows and greens. Maybe red would work for both as well and certain blues Although some might say that green is a boy's color But I'm not of the "girls must only wear pinks and purples and boys must only wear blues and greens" type although many here certainly do seem to go by that principle, including my soon to be ex-SIL She's really into that whole boys wearing "boy colors" doing "boy stuff" and girls wearing "girl colors" doing "girly stuff." But she also spoils them so won't be copying her parenting as she's turned them into unappreciative, greedy brats

Ok so we're not the only one with room issues although yours is more problematic as you have the baby on the way So I guess you'll be saving up for a house? We're lucky that with DH's paycheck and how much he can loan from his bank that we can afford to buy a house now, although it won't be very big. I can't really borrow money from my bank when I'm a housewife and not making any money But we don't need much, just a couple of bedrooms, 1-2 bathrooms, a couple of rooms (for an office and diverse things) and preferably a basement to have some of our stuff in. We could probably stay in our apartment until the baby is about 1 year old or so but then we'll be needing more space. But we were thinking of already trying to find a house so we don't move while I'm maybe very pregnant or we have the baby as it'd be a bit stressful I think.

But it sounds like you'll be having fun getting the nursery ready

 

[deafgal01]

Why have you not bought a house yet? Not to be nosy or anything. I already picked mine a few years ago and started paying down on it (so we did buy our house)...

 

[KatO79]

Why have you not bought a house yet? Not to be nosy or anything. I already picked mine a few years ago and started paying down on it (so we did buy our house)...

Don't know if this was directed at me or HCas

If it was at me, then DH wasn't much for getting a house until we were going to go through with TTCing so we got an apartment (we rent) in the city (moved to a larger one than what we used to have) as he enjoys being close to concert places and everything else living in a big city has to offer. Think he was also considering moving us to another country (since he wanted to try working abroad a couple of years plus it would be a lot easier for me to get a job in a country were connections aren't so vital in landing a job as it is here) so didn't want to be bound down by owning a house since it can be difficult to sell houses at the moment because of the economy. But now that we're TTCing and won't be moving to another country since we want our child to have some stability for a number of years, he's decided we better soon look at houses a bit farther from the city since those will be less expensive and we can get more house for our money. I've told him repeatedly the last few months he needs to let me know what areas he was thinking of plus what our max is that we can afford but he keeps delaying. Guess I'll have to get him to help me this weekend

 

[deafgal01]

Ah thanks kat. It was directed at both of you. I knew some people choose to wait like for reasons you stated above, and I know others who just cannot afford to buy yet. Makes sense.

 

[HCas]

We can't afford to buy a house ourselves. We'll be renting for awhile. Roger is a cook and I work maybe 4-10 hours a week at a fabric store (which once baby gets here won't happen anymore).

We are planning to move out in the next year, but its going to be a bit hard. We are living with the in-laws to help them out mainly and they aren't moving for at least another year while the SIL finishes high school. And we don't just want to leave them high and dry. Roger pays half the rent and bills here so if we left before his mom was at a better job they wouldn't be able to afford it.

My dad is offering to help us get a place near him though. So maybe once MIL gets the better job she's applying for we'll move over to a new city and all, with better schools and more jobs.

 

[deafgal01]

Sounds like a good plan, HC. Makes sense too.

 

[HCas]

How has everyone been doing?
Sorry I haven't gotten on the past few days. Been trying to get some work down

 

[KatO79]

How has everyone been doing?
Sorry I haven't gotten on the past few days. Been trying to get some work down

Been doing fine

I'm 11 DPO today so waiting to see if it'll be AF or a BFP in my very near furture. Knowing my luck, it'll be AF You get kinda negative after 15 failed cycles If it's AF, our last chance for a natural bfp will be the coming cycle (will be cycle #17) where I'll O 22nd-23rd of December.

Am looking forward to starting IUI in January as I'm becoming more convinced it's my CM that's the problem I get watery CM as my most fertile but maybe it's crappy watery CM that's not nourishing the or it's too acidic or something. Been using Conceive Plus the last 3 cycles and am planning on using it next cycle if AF shows up within the next few days (should be here Wednesday or maybe Thursday). Just ordered some more from the UK (as they don't sell it in Denmark), this time with the lubricant in pre-filled applicators as using the tube version with my extra Preseed applicators is messy and annoying If I do against all odds get a bfp this cycle, maybe someone here will want to buy the Conceive Plus pre-filled applicators from me (it's a pack of 3 pre-filled applicators) Otherwise will just take the loss but didn't dare not order and then need it Figured with people ordering Christmas presents, it'll take a bit longer to come from the UK.

 

[HCas]

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I go in tomorrow for the results finally. I can't wait. We are also going to pick up a crib I found for $10 XD

So do you have any plans for the holidays?

 

[KatO79]

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I go in tomorrow for the results finally. I can't wait. We are also going to pick up a crib I found for $10 XD

So do you have any plans for the holidays?

Thanks Hope you get good results, looking forward to hearing them

Sounds like fun with buying a crib, wish it was me

Nothing much other than DH and I will be spending Christmas night the 24th at my narcissistic mother's house (just us 3 as she's alienated everyone else in the family with her drama and selfish behaviour ) and spend 2nd Christmas Day the 26th at my in-laws. What about you?

 

[HCas]

Roger has to work Christmas eve and Christmas day 24-25th so we'll be hanging out around the house. However his siblings will be with their dad and his mom is going to spend time with her new boyfriend so we get to pretend like we're on vacation and have the house to ourselves. Christmas eve we will be going to my family Christmas party after he gets out of work though. That's always fun.

 

[KatO79]

Roger has to work Christmas eve and Christmas day 24-25th so we'll be hanging out around the house. However his siblings will be with their dad and his mom is going to spend time with her new boyfriend so we get to pretend like we're on vacation and have the house to ourselves. Christmas eve we will be going to my family Christmas party after he gets out of work though. That's always fun.

Awww too bad he has to work those days In Denmark it would most likely never happen since Denmark almost shuts down during Christmas. I think DH starts his holiday vacation the 22nd or 23rd and is off until at least January 2nd. But sounds good with your family Christmas party Hope you both have fun

I won't be having much fun at my narcissitic mother's place but I'm hoping she behaves reasonably well since it is Christmas. Don't think she'll say anything truely evil while DH is there though She'll just keep it small and complain how I've become a pescetarian 3 years ago (she was considering for years becoming a vegetarian though but has never been able to do it) and if I can't stop being difficult and eat meat again, how my shoes/hat/bag/purse are ugly, maybe that I've gotten a bit fatter since last time and the like. So it'll be way more fun at my in-laws' place a couple of days later

Let me know how it goes with your results, good or bad but of course hoping they're good