Can smell weed from the neighbours, will LO be ok?

[BlackBerry25]

I would be more fine with H smoking the occasional joint, then going out and getting tanked, IMHO.

 

[aob1013]

Backed up by studies or not it's illegal and tbh i think you will find most people would judge your OH for it, myself included as i find drugs just vile ... and i am not sure how you allow drugs to be around your kids (i don't mean drugs lying about, i mean your OH doing it, how it affects people, and that they monry he spends on drugs could be better spent elsewhere, like say on your childrens toys, school stuff etc, you get my drift)

I am just genuinely lost that some people think it's ok ............. it's scary

Ok I'm back again. With a situation. Do you/would you take your child to a party - a wedding or something similar? Are there drunk people at parties? Is drink not the biggest factor in folk fighting, turning into vile people? Have you ever drank? Could that money not have been better spent elsewhere? You could too be judged for this. Forgive me if you've never had a drink though, I don't mean to presume.
People say they have a drink to relax. People smoke pot to relax too. I am NOT condoning it's use around children, but I also think children should not be exposed to alcohol use either. But it happens! That's life I'm afraid.

To the best of my ability, i will make sure while it's still in my control to keep my son away from things i find unacceptable.

Alcohol/cigarettes are not illegal.

So because alcohol is legal, it is acceptable to expose your child to the violence and aggression it causes? And although cigarettes and alcohol kill so many people each year, directly and indirectly, they are acceptable because they're legal. Yeah tell your kids that one lol

I never said it was acceptable? I find it unacceptale for my son to be around drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and anything else i see fit that i don't want to expose him to. While i have the control i will enforce it. My opinion on drugs is the same as cigarettes, and i have never really been a big drinker so i have no opinion on it really.

 

[BlackBerry25]

And I agree that you should enforce your beliefs on to your children, however you see fit. Being against weed, isn't like being a racist. It is fine to me, for you to be against pot smoking! That is why you are your kids parents, and it is your job to do what is right for your family.

 

[Janiepops]

And I agree that you should enforce your beliefs on to your children, however you see fit. Being against weed, isn't like being a racist. It is fine to me, for you to be against pot smoking! That is why you are your kids parents, and it is your job to do what is right for your family.

I completely agree with this
Just wish folk would stop judging others on their beliefs!

 

[aob1013]

I'm not judging you, i think you are all still wonderful parents regardless, i just disagree with drugs in general

 

[Eve]

Backed up by studies or not it's illegal and tbh i think you will find most people would judge your OH for it, myself included as i find drugs just vile ... and i am not sure how you allow drugs to be around your kids (i don't mean drugs lying about, i mean your OH doing it, how it affects people, and that they monry he spends on drugs could be better spent elsewhere, like say on your childrens toys, school stuff etc, you get my drift)

I am just genuinely lost that some people think it's ok ............. it's scary

It isn't illegal where I am, first of all and there isn't many people who judge my OH here in real life as they get to know him for who he is (something that isn't done much anymore) and he doesn't announce it to everyone he meets... and the good people he meets wouldn't judge him on one thing he does which doesn't affect them? It doesn't change who he is. If you met my OH you would like him, you would think he was so sweet and such a hard worker and great father. You wouldn't know he smoked it and depending on how you felt about it, you may never know he did. You are passing judgement on me as well because I choose to not be an uptight, overbearing bitch?! He did it when I met him, I do not believe in changing someone whom I fell in love with. I would rather him smokes a joint once in a while than beat me, be nasty to my children, not provide and make me live off the government. My children also do not go without. My OH works very hard and bought us a nice, new 4 bedroom gorgeous house on a cute desireable street My kids have lots of toys, clothes, books etc.. and Kayleigh has lots of nice things. My children have their future being secured and their education being taken care of. If my OH decides to spend 10$ a week of his hard earned money, that isn't taking from the kids. I think it's okay for a grown up to smoke it occasionally as long as their kids are well taken care of and provided for, and they have a safe and secure family environment. I don't see anything wrong with it and I sure wouldn't judge someone because of it,. like I said as long as their children were well cared for.

I know not everyone believe marijuana can be a good thing for some people, even though scientific studies show it can be very helpful in treating certain symptoms. I know lots of people wouldn't ever do it, and think it's bad. I know and understand that, it just bothers me when I feel like my OH is being judged by one small thing he does which doesn't and isn't hurting anyone...

does it not worry you that sooner or later your child will realise that your oh smokes pot? how are you gonna explain that? you cant hide stuff from your kids very long

No, when he is a grown up and my OH's actions will no longer have a large influence on my son and his choices it won't bother me. Finding that out as an adult isn't going to do any harm to him, lol... He is going to find out a lot more than that growing up. He is going to learn about starving children in Africa, murder, torture, child predators... I think those things are going to do more emotionally to him than his step father smoking the odd joint. I don't think he should know until he is an adult and I have already talked about it with my OH and how it will not be around them...

 

[xbabybumpx]

I can be pro whatever I want. I am more educated on the subject than you are xbabybumpx, and have personal experience, which you do not.

I don't think you should be into marijuana, nor do I think you should like it.

I just stated that I do. I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it in moderation, as is wine or any other substance that may alter your moods. At least marijuana is a natural substance, and not a poison, like alcohol is. You do not know me in RL, but other people on here do, and they know it does not effect my parenting or my relationship with my child at all.

I was wondering how the OP ended up approaching the problem. It is a problem for her, because she does not want the smell or smoke in her house. I was stating, I understand her POV, even as someone who occasionally smokes it.

you say i havint got experiance of pot like its a bad thing? And i think you'll find im the one thats educated on pot,hence why i dont smoke it

 

[xbabybumpx]

Backed up by studies or not it's illegal and tbh i think you will find most people would judge your OH for it, myself included as i find drugs just vile ... and i am not sure how you allow drugs to be around your kids (i don't mean drugs lying about, i mean your OH doing it, how it affects people, and that they monry he spends on drugs could be better spent elsewhere, like say on your childrens toys, school stuff etc, you get my drift)

I am just genuinely lost that some people think it's ok ............. it's scary

It isn't illegal where I am, first of all and there isn't many people who judge my OH here in real life as they get to know him for who he is (something that isn't done much anymore) and he doesn't announce it to everyone he meets... and the good people he meets wouldn't judge him on one thing he does which doesn't affect them? It doesn't change who he is. If you met my OH you would like him, you would think he was so sweet and such a hard worker and great father. You wouldn't know he smoked it and depending on how you felt about it, you may never know he did. You are passing judgement on me as well because I choose to not be an uptight, overbearing bitch?! He did it when I met him, I do not believe in changing someone whom I fell in love with. I would rather him smokes a joint once in a while than beat me, be nasty to my children, not provide and make me live off the government. My children also do not go without. My OH works very hard and bought us a nice, new 4 bedroom gorgeous house on a cute desireable street My kids have lots of toys, clothes, books etc.. and Kayleigh has lots of nice things. My children have their future being secured and their education being taken care of. If my OH decides to spend 10$ a week of his hard earned money, that isn't taking from the kids. I think it's okay for a grown up to smoke it occasionally as long as their kids are well taken care of and provided for, and they have a safe and secure family environment. I don't see anything wrong with it and I sure wouldn't judge someone because of it,. like I said as long as their children were well cared for.

I know not everyone believe marijuana can be a good thing for some people, even though scientific studies show it can be very helpful in treating certain symptoms. I know lots of people wouldn't ever do it, and think it's bad. I know and understand that, it just bothers me when I feel like my OH is being judged by one small thing he does which doesn't and isn't hurting anyone...

does it not worry you that sooner or later your child will realise that your oh smokes pot? how are you gonna explain that? you cant hide stuff from your kids very long

No, when he is a grown up and my OH's actions will no longer have a large influence on my son and his choices it won't bother me. Finding that out as an adult isn't going to do any harm to him, lol... He is going to find out a lot more than that growing up. He is going to learn about starving children in Africa, murder, torture, child predators... I think those things are going to do more emotionally to him than his step father smoking the odd joint. I don't think he should know until he is an adult and I have already talked about it with my OH and how it will not be around them...

if he smoked it when you met him,how do you know it hasint/doesint change him? As like you said he smoked it when you met him,therefore you dont know what he's like without it

 

[Eve]

Backed up by studies or not it's illegal and tbh i think you will find most people would judge your OH for it, myself included as i find drugs just vile ... and i am not sure how you allow drugs to be around your kids (i don't mean drugs lying about, i mean your OH doing it, how it affects people, and that they monry he spends on drugs could be better spent elsewhere, like say on your childrens toys, school stuff etc, you get my drift)

I am just genuinely lost that some people think it's ok ............. it's scary

It isn't illegal where I am, first of all and there isn't many people who judge my OH here in real life as they get to know him for who he is (something that isn't done much anymore) and he doesn't announce it to everyone he meets... and the good people he meets wouldn't judge him on one thing he does which doesn't affect them? It doesn't change who he is. If you met my OH you would like him, you would think he was so sweet and such a hard worker and great father. You wouldn't know he smoked it and depending on how you felt about it, you may never know he did. You are passing judgement on me as well because I choose to not be an uptight, overbearing bitch?! He did it when I met him, I do not believe in changing someone whom I fell in love with. I would rather him smokes a joint once in a while than beat me, be nasty to my children, not provide and make me live off the government. My children also do not go without. My OH works very hard and bought us a nice, new 4 bedroom gorgeous house on a cute desireable street My kids have lots of toys, clothes, books etc.. and Kayleigh has lots of nice things. My children have their future being secured and their education being taken care of. If my OH decides to spend 10$ a week of his hard earned money, that isn't taking from the kids. I think it's okay for a grown up to smoke it occasionally as long as their kids are well taken care of and provided for, and they have a safe and secure family environment. I don't see anything wrong with it and I sure wouldn't judge someone because of it,. like I said as long as their children were well cared for.

I know not everyone believe marijuana can be a good thing for some people, even though scientific studies show it can be very helpful in treating certain symptoms. I know lots of people wouldn't ever do it, and think it's bad. I know and understand that, it just bothers me when I feel like my OH is being judged by one small thing he does which doesn't and isn't hurting anyone...

does it not worry you that sooner or later your child will realise that your oh smokes pot? how are you gonna explain that? you cant hide stuff from your kids very long

No, when he is a grown up and my OH's actions will no longer have a large influence on my son and his choices it won't bother me. Finding that out as an adult isn't going to do any harm to him, lol... He is going to find out a lot more than that growing up. He is going to learn about starving children in Africa, murder, torture, child predators... I think those things are going to do more emotionally to him than his step father smoking the odd joint. I don't think he should know until he is an adult and I have already talked about it with my OH and how it will not be around them...

if he smoked it when you met him,how do you know it hasint/doesint change him? As like you said he smoked it when you met him,therefore you dont know what he's like without it

If it changed him, it did for the better now would you please back off? I'm done feeding into your wishes to fight and argue. Im happy in my life and love my OH We have a loving, stable home and that is that...

 

[aob1013]

Backed up by studies or not it's illegal and tbh i think you will find most people would judge your OH for it, myself included as i find drugs just vile ... and i am not sure how you allow drugs to be around your kids (i don't mean drugs lying about, i mean your OH doing it, how it affects people, and that they monry he spends on drugs could be better spent elsewhere, like say on your childrens toys, school stuff etc, you get my drift)

I am just genuinely lost that some people think it's ok ............. it's scary

It isn't illegal where I am, first of all and there isn't many people who judge my OH here in real life as they get to know him for who he is (something that isn't done much anymore) and he doesn't announce it to everyone he meets... and the good people he meets wouldn't judge him on one thing he does which doesn't affect them? It doesn't change who he is. If you met my OH you would like him, you would think he was so sweet and such a hard worker and great father. You wouldn't know he smoked it and depending on how you felt about it, you may never know he did. You are passing judgement on me as well because I choose to not be an uptight, overbearing bitch?! He did it when I met him, I do not believe in changing someone whom I fell in love with. I would rather him smokes a joint once in a while than beat me, be nasty to my children, not provide and make me live off the government. My children also do not go without. My OH works very hard and bought us a nice, new 4 bedroom gorgeous house on a cute desireable street My kids have lots of toys, clothes, books etc.. and Kayleigh has lots of nice things. My children have their future being secured and their education being taken care of. If my OH decides to spend 10$ a week of his hard earned money, that isn't taking from the kids. I think it's okay for a grown up to smoke it occasionally as long as their kids are well taken care of and provided for, and they have a safe and secure family environment. I don't see anything wrong with it and I sure wouldn't judge someone because of it,. like I said as long as their children were well cared for.

I know not everyone believe marijuana can be a good thing for some people, even though scientific studies show it can be very helpful in treating certain symptoms. I know lots of people wouldn't ever do it, and think it's bad. I know and understand that, it just bothers me when I feel like my OH is being judged by one small thing he does which doesn't and isn't hurting anyone...

does it not worry you that sooner or later your child will realise that your oh smokes pot? how are you gonna explain that? you cant hide stuff from your kids very long

No, when he is a grown up and my OH's actions will no longer have a large influence on my son and his choices it won't bother me. Finding that out as an adult isn't going to do any harm to him, lol... He is going to find out a lot more than that growing up. He is going to learn about starving children in Africa, murder, torture, child predators... I think those things are going to do more emotionally to him than his step father smoking the odd joint. I don't think he should know until he is an adult and I have already talked about it with my OH and how it will not be around them...

I hope you aren't calling me an uptight overbearing bitch by the way.

The rest of what you said, i disagree with. Not judging you, just disagreeing. I would rather my OH spend his money on his family rather than drugs. If it isn't illegal where you are then that's a whole different kettle of fish.

 

[BlackBerry25]

OP did say she never smelled it before from their house, so I am sure it would be acceptable to leave them a note or speak with them, rather than get the police involved. The police could cause someones life to be ruined. I don't think they are judging your husband or myself or my OH, they just don't agree with weed. I don't agree with alcohol, doesn't mean I hate those who drink.

 

[aob1013]

It really wouldn't bother me if someone's life was ruined because of something they legally shouldn't be doing

 

[xbabybumpx]

funny you said its legal in canada,beacuse another poster on here from canada said it was ILLEGAL

 

[BlackBerry25]

Just like people who drink aren't necessarily all alcoholics or drinking and taking care of their children, the same can be applied to people who smoke. To my family, alcohol is the same as drinking poison. It once was illegal too. I think views will change, and have changed a lot in Canada for instance, regarding weed, over the upcoming years.

 

[xbabybumpx]

Just like people who drink aren't necessarily all alcoholics or drinking and taking care of their children, the same can be applied to people who smoke. To my family, alcohol is the same as drinking poison. It once was illegal too. I think views will change, and have changed a lot in Canada for instance, regarding weed, over the upcoming years.

personally i hate drunk people. I hate how it changes people into someone else

 

[Tiff]

They decriminalized marijuana in Canada. That doesn't mean its okay to smoke it, or buy it. If you are caught doing either then it is against the law. The only thing I *think* is okay is you are allowed to have a certain amount on your "person". Anything more than the amount and you are considered possession with intent to traffic.

Canada also endorses Medicinal Marijuana use, but you have to go through a panel of doctors, are only legally allowed to buy it from Government supplies and if you are caught smoking it out in public without your user card you are in huge trouble.

 

[JASMAK]

If you live in NB, it is not legal to smoke pot (as everywhere else in Canada). They may not charge you if it is under I think 30g, but it is still illegal. They will confiscate it, and I think there is potential to charge you. Also, if you are high on weed, and driving, that is considered "impared" driving and that could wind you up in jail if it is related to an accident where a death is involved, or serious injury.

 

[Jchihuahua]

I was all psyched up to go round to speak to him after work today, he is a nice enough guy most of the time, but he was sitting out the front with about 8 other blokes drinking a can of special brew so I decided it wasn't the best time . I own my house which is a lovely house but on a rough estate so I could complain to the housing association who own his house I guess. I wouldn't call the police as I don't feel that he deserves that and also it would make our lives harder. I never really intended on getting into the rights or wrongs of cannabis I just wanted to know if the smell contained fumes that could hurt my little girl, make her stoned or whatever. The smell is gone now so I just hope it was a one off.

 

[BlackBerry25]

I hate drunk people too. You can drink a glass of wine with dinner and not be drunk, and you can smoke a joint and not be stoned. I don't think she is saying her OH is sitting around with a bong on the coffee table, getting high every night.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'm an awesome drunk but I have never smoked, nor wanted to smoke weed. I've been offered it plenty of times. I don't know why, maybe because I don't know how I'll react with it. If someone wants to smoke weed then as long as they aren't bothering me with it then I don't care. But if I could smell it from next door or whatever it would piss me off. Same as if I could always smell fag smoke. What people do in their own time is up to them but I don't want it up there in my face while they do it