C_baby
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Me and the OH are finally setting a date for next year! Yippee.
![Happy Dance :happydance: :happydance:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/happydance2.gif)
Because we are supporting 4 kids we don't have loads of spare cash so the budget is going to be pretty tight. I have found a great venue which where my SIL works and is owned by her Aunt so i'm getting a really great deal.
The problem is the guest list (surprise, surprise!) I was talking to SIL about my cousins wedding and apparently they are planning to invite us to theirs, which means i now feel i have to invite them to ours. Which is turn means I'd feel obligated to invite all my other cousins, which adds 11 adults and 2 kids not a lot but every penny counts. There is obviously other people I'd like to invite but have had to be really ruthless.
My SIL then said well why don't you let the extra people come if they want and pay for their own meals. She supposedly did this with her wedding (they got married at short notice when she fell pregnant) and she says people happily helped with the cost in order to attend.![saywhat :saywhat: :saywhat:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/saywhat.gif)
Now is this really cheeky? I can't decide if it's an outrageous idea or genius
. Would you go to a wedding where you had to pay towards your meal?
How on earth would you go about even suggesting it in the first place?
If it makes a difference i could pay some towards so would work out at £18 per person, for wedding breakfast, reception drinks and a hot food evening meal.
Edited to add -
It's clear that my post can be read more than one way -
My SILs suggestion was that if the people really wanted to attend to somehow make it known that although we could not afford to invite anyone other than those on the immediate guest list, they would be welcome to come if they wished to pay for their meals. Not to actually send them an invite and a request for the money.
![Wedding :wedding: :wedding:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smiley_wedding-1.gif)
![Happy Dance :happydance: :happydance:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/happydance2.gif)
Because we are supporting 4 kids we don't have loads of spare cash so the budget is going to be pretty tight. I have found a great venue which where my SIL works and is owned by her Aunt so i'm getting a really great deal.
The problem is the guest list (surprise, surprise!) I was talking to SIL about my cousins wedding and apparently they are planning to invite us to theirs, which means i now feel i have to invite them to ours. Which is turn means I'd feel obligated to invite all my other cousins, which adds 11 adults and 2 kids not a lot but every penny counts. There is obviously other people I'd like to invite but have had to be really ruthless.
My SIL then said well why don't you let the extra people come if they want and pay for their own meals. She supposedly did this with her wedding (they got married at short notice when she fell pregnant) and she says people happily helped with the cost in order to attend.
![saywhat :saywhat: :saywhat:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/saywhat.gif)
Now is this really cheeky? I can't decide if it's an outrageous idea or genius
![haha :haha: :haha:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/haha.gif)
How on earth would you go about even suggesting it in the first place?
If it makes a difference i could pay some towards so would work out at £18 per person, for wedding breakfast, reception drinks and a hot food evening meal.
Edited to add -
It's clear that my post can be read more than one way -
My SILs suggestion was that if the people really wanted to attend to somehow make it known that although we could not afford to invite anyone other than those on the immediate guest list, they would be welcome to come if they wished to pay for their meals. Not to actually send them an invite and a request for the money.