Cheers to BFPs in 2-0-1-6!

[broodymrs]

Cramps in early pregnancy are normal. I cramped until 8 weeks with ds. Try to relax ladies! I know it's stressful though.

I'm having a bit of a wobble myself tonight. That was yesterday's test I posted but today's pretty much looked the same. I'm having af like cramps on and off and just thinking I'm out now so might not even bother carrying on testing. Having a bit of a moment feeling sorry for myself we've set a deadline of 6 months so if I'm not pregnant then we're either stopping altogether or ntnp. Feel like it may never happen but I know I really need to be grateful for the one I do have.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Congrats Abe!! Definitely could see your lines. Were they darker today?

Broody: I had a hard time seeing your line, but it's hard with phone images sometimes. Maybe hold off a couple days and test again with first morning urine? Fx for you!

 

[abennion]

Thank you Etis. The FRER was from this morning. We're just waiting outside the clinic right now to see my family doctor.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Thank you Etis. The FRER was from this morning. We're just waiting outside the clinic right now to see my family doctor.

Fx!!!

 

[Angel5000]

abe - I completely understand. I'm keeping everything crossed for you! When you get the blood drawn make sure to tlel them to check your progesterone. I don't know what i would have done if they hadn't been checking mine all cycle!

When I saw the first "YES+" at 10DPO I actually sat down and cried (hysterically DH says) for at least 30 minutes. I had almost given up on naturally conceiving (this was our 14th month).

Doctors will probably date you by LMP until they do a dating scan. I don't know for a fact, but I know that when I scheduled with my OB they based it on LMP and planned my first scan for somewhere between 8-10 weeks from LMP.


Broody - why did you set the 6 months again? I can't remember. It can take longer than 6 months, even in a perfect situation there's only a 25% chance of pregnancy if everything goes perfectly.

 

[abennion]

So, started bleeding.... I think we're chalking it up to a cp. There definitely was a pink line this morning.

Ah well, at least we know now we CAN get our BFP, and we still have our appointment on Tuesday. Just sucks.

 

[Angel5000]

Oh Abe! I'm so sorry. You are right, at least you can get pregnant. That's important. Did your doctor take blood work or was that whAt the Tuesday appointment is for?

 

[abennion]

My doctor didn't even bother doing bloodwork because my urine test at the office came back negative. We go see an RE on Tuesday due to DH's morphology, completely unrelated to the CP.

 

[broodymrs]

Oh no abe. I'm so sorry. This seems so unfair. Like Angel suggested I'd ask them to check your hormone levels especially progesterone. Sending hugs to you hunny.

 

[broodymrs]

We set 6 months Angel as can't take the emotional strain for much longer! We've already been trying since Jan. I suppose in reality we'd assess at 6 months and possibly keep trying. Just feel like we went through it do much with ds and were so lucky to have him, don't want to end up ttc taking over our lives, relationship etc.

 

[abennion]

Oh no abe. I'm so sorry. This seems so unfair. Like Angel suggested I'd ask them to check your hormone levels especially progesterone. Sending hugs to you hunny.

Thanks ladies. We are trying to look at this loss as a lost opportunity to being this LO's parents. It still hurts to find out your pregnant and lose it all in one day though. DH has made me promise not to test early any more.

In regards to the testing they do a full panel of testing starting tomorrow. I'll have to wait to do my day 3 tests because tomorrow is day 3 of my cycle, but I can do all of the others. We are pretty sure it was just a bad swimmer though (we do only have a 2% chance of a regular shaped swimmer making contact with any of my eggs), but I guess we'll find out tomorrow afternoon. I'm just glad we were able to get our appointment back after cancelling it earlier yesterday.

 

[Sheece]

Oh im so, so sorry Abe xxxx hope you and dh are doing ok.

My oh is the same, he said today he doesnt want me to test until June! I think im about 3dpo now so that would be a very long wait, but goes to show how much early testing can effect them as well



Afm - i think im about 3dpo, but i gad a huge drop in temp yesterday - over 1 degree! Thats never happened before, so weird. Todays back up, so it rose 1.23 degrees (celcius) overnight!

 

[Angel5000]

Broody - that makes sense.


Abe - One thing about the early testing..... my DH also told me after our first CP to stop testing early. And I'm glad I didn't because even though the second CP killed me, it changed my diagnosis so that when we went to the RE he classified me as "multiple losses" instead of "infertility" and my insurance has paid for 100% of my testing since then (except our genetic tests, but that's because our RE uses an out of network speciality lab for that). If I hadn't tested early I wouldn't have had that second CP to put on teh paperwork and I would have had to pay for everything out of pocket. I know that sounds like a silly reason, but it also changed some of the tests that our RE ran.

It sounds like it's very possible it was a bad swimmer. For my 2 CPs we think that it could have been a combination of a bad swimmer and/or my low progesterone. None of my CPs made it past 13DPO, and my lines on my ICs were very light and never got even close to the darkness I have this time around, so I suspect bad swimmers. DH has 40% head deformities, which isn't horrible, but the doctor said was higher than he liked to see, and then I have very low progesterone so that doesn't help.

If you have only a 2% chance of a good swimmer getting there, did they say what their plan is to help avoid additional MCs based on that?Or are they waiting until after your testing to decide?

Good luck with all your testing! Keep us updated!

Sheece That is a very odd drop! FX you get CH soon!

 

[abennion]

I think the only way to 'fix' it is IVF/ICSI. I'm sure the RE will have a plan for us after all of our testing is done, but from what I've read on-line that's the only solution that seems to work. I'm already on a Canadian IVF board and there's a woman on there going to the same clinic as I am with the same prognosis (I think her DH has 3% normal morphology) and they've already got her on the waiting list for IVF/ICSI. They didn't even try anything else.

We found out earlier this month that DH is deficient in B12 and his good cholesterol is low, so we've put him on B12s. He just can't take fish oil to boost his cholesterol because it interacts wonky with his meds.

 

[Etisgonnab]

I think the only way to 'fix' it is IVF/ICSI. I'm sure the RE will have a plan for us after all of our testing is done, but from what I've read on-line that's the only solution that seems to work. I'm already on a Canadian IVF board and there's a woman on there going to the same clinic as I am with the same prognosis (I think her DH has 3% normal morphology) and they've already got her on the waiting list for IVF/ICSI. They didn't even try anything else.

We found out earlier this month that DH is deficient in B12 and his good cholesterol is low, so we've put him on B12s. He just can't take fish oil to boost his cholesterol because it interacts wonky with his meds.

I'm sorry to hear that it turned out to be a CP. What a rollercoaster of emotions. Though, yes the silver lining is that at least there's a chance you can conceive naturally. How does IVF work in Canada? Does your health plans cover it??

 

[broodymrs]

You could have ovulated yesterday sheece. I always get a big temp dip like that either just before or on o day.

Abe-sending you hugs Hun.

Strange how lots of us have low progesterone plus limited morphology. I'm sure it's modern lifestyle that does it.

 

[abennion]

I think the only way to 'fix' it is IVF/ICSI. I'm sure the RE will have a plan for us after all of our testing is done, but from what I've read on-line that's the only solution that seems to work. I'm already on a Canadian IVF board and there's a woman on there going to the same clinic as I am with the same prognosis (I think her DH has 3% normal morphology) and they've already got her on the waiting list for IVF/ICSI. They didn't even try anything else.

We found out earlier this month that DH is deficient in B12 and his good cholesterol is low, so we've put him on B12s. He just can't take fish oil to boost his cholesterol because it interacts wonky with his meds.

I'm sorry to hear that it turned out to be a CP. What a rollercoaster of emotions. Though, yes the silver lining is that at least there's a chance you can conceive naturally. How does IVF work in Canada? Does your health plans cover it??

IVF isn't funded by the Canadian government, it's all private. I know in Quebec and Ontario health care will cover the cost of IVF rounds (I think Ontario is limited to 1 round, Quebec 3). I live in Alberta, where we were going to have it funded by Alberta Health, however because of the downturn in the Oil & Gas industry our province isn't doing as well as it has in the past financially, and due to this IVF funding is no longer an option for the government.

Lucky for DH and I my MIL is extremely supportive, and is willing to help pay half of the costs of IVF.

 

[broodymrs]

That's great that your mil will help financially. Just read your ttc chronicles. Is there more than one entry? The one I have read is beautiful. Could easily be the start of a book, and so relatable too

 

[abennion]

There is just the one entry for now. I was planning on updating tomorrow after my appointment. I wanted to start a blog of the entire process for us, and then once we do get our BFP and it sticks I wanted to also start writing letters to it. Just not much has happened up until this weekend, so there was not much to blog about.

Thank you for looking at it though!

 

[Angel5000]

I just had my blood draw. The nurse says she'll have my HCG and my Progesterone results for me TODAY between 12-3pm. This will be the longest few hours wait of my life.


Abe - that's great that your MIL is able to help you financially.