Christening idea - Is this too cheeky?!?

[welshwarriors]

I would provide food but they can defo get their own drinks. I've been to many christenings where they have done that I never had a problem with it.

 

[flower01]

depends how u word it
if you say your going to a pub afterwards and they are quite welcome to join you then it gives of the impression that they will be paying for themselves but if you word it as please join us afterwards for a meal etc etc it comes across as you will be paying and could get embarrassing when the bill turns up!

 

[emerald78]

Why not find somwhere really cheap or do a deal but do not buy drinks. Invite only the bare minimum. Only v. close family and close friends.

 

[Lu28]

I don't think it's cheeky as long as you're very upfront in the invitation and say no offence at all will be taken if people can't make it. At the end of the day, it should be the christening that is the important bit, not the party that follows so I don't see why you should wait to have your LO christened until you're better off. I personally don't understand why christenings are turning into such big events, it's sort of losing the purpose - people shouldn't be coming for the party. Maybe say that you don't want any gifts, just their presence on your LO's special day?

 

[sobersadie]

I wud say its a wee bit cheeky, maybe u cud postpone it till you can afford even a simple buffet or something? If you do go ahead and ask them to pay for their own food then i wud say prepare yourself for quite a few people not coming. Im not sure i wud go to a christening that i had to pay for my own meal as i wud already have the expense of a present and outfits for my family to wear.

 

[Lazy Leo]

Hi honey, I didn't want to just reply to the poll and then run! I'm in the yes category too, but at the end of the day its up to you and I hope you find something that works for you. I know how hard it can be to draw that 'line' between who comes and who doesn't. My hubby is the youngest of 7 and he only gets on with 1 of them so for the sake of his parents we always have at least 10 adults plus their 7 kids to include in everything, even though we don't like their company.

 

[mrsraggle]

I don't think it's cheeky - at the end of the day people are coming to celebrate the christening, not to get food. Perhaps you could offer a drink to everyone who attends though?

People can always just come for the christening and not food, if they don't want to.

Just make sure it's really clear in the invite x

 

[FemmeEnceinte]

Mmm... I, personally, wouldn't do it. Seems a bit rude.

If you can't afford it, make it a small family meal after.

 

[bjl1981]

I'd buy a round of drinks maybe to take the edge off!!! If you word it like "we'll be going for lunch at X, feel free to come along and join us (unfortunately we cannot offer to pay for the meal, but the price of the carvery is reasonable)"

I think that makes it clear and most people who really want to spend time with you will appreciate this

The Christening isn't about food anyway and if that would put people of coming then they probably shouldn't come.

 

[purpledahlia]

I would do like someone else said, Have it at a time where people wouldnt want food. like early afternoon, say youd like them to join you all at 'x' for some drinks, put some money behind the bar or get a big discount on a bunch of bottles of cava for everyone to toast etc, And just say your going to stay on for food and anyone else is welcome to do so at their own expense. (but id provide some drinks after)

Also, a lot of pubs will put on a buffet if your going to be bringing them in a lot of profit on drinks, im sure they will definately offer you a buffet deal at a cheap amount per head. If they do, i wouldnt provide so many drinks, maybe 1 each to toast as they come in, cava and orange or something.

 

[Rachel_C]

I think it depends how you word the invitation. If you said that they were welcome to join you for lunch (and pay themselves), I personally wouldn't have a problem with that but as other posters have said, a lot of people would find it a bit rude. I would probably instead tell people that you're going for DRINKS back at the pub later and invite them back. I don't think people would expect you to pay for drinks, though if you could put a little behind the bar or buy a few bottles of bubbly/sparkling wine that would be nice. I'd also ask the pub if they'd let you take the Christening cake (if you're having one) and then dish it out there. I'd think the pub would be ok with that if you're all going back for drinks. I would probably slip a little 'info sheet' in with the invitation (with any directions etc people might need) and just mention on there that the pub serves food so that people know not to expect a meal but that they can get one if they like. Then when you're there, just 'decide' then and there to order some lunch for yourselves.

 

[Kiddo]

I wouldn't pay for people's drinks but I think it's nice to provide some food. Does the church have a hall you could use and just take along a wee buffet?