Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Yukki2011]

Dear All,

On wednesday I found out I was having an ectopic pregnancy that night they performed emergency operation to remove the baby and I also lost my left fallopian tube.DH and I are deeply saddened and heartbroken I really miss the baby and I am battling guilt of even allowing the surgery to take place though I know baby wouldnt have survived I just cant stand the thought of giving the docs permission to end my babies life.I really just request your prayers right now.

Thank you for your support always.

Bree x

I am so sorry Bree. I will pray for you.

 

[minimoocow]

Bree so sorry to hear your sad news. Take some time to wallow and be sad. You will come through this but it doesn't have to be today. Don't feel guilty - I think the signing is just a formality when your life is also in danger (((Hugs)))

 

[minimoocow]

He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young (Isaiah 40:11, NIV).


As a little girl, I really did have a little lamb whose fleece was white as snow. I can remember the day my mother showed me the lamb and explained that she did not have a bottle with which to feed the stray lamb. I did. I agreed to let the lamb have my bottle if I could have the lamb. I have been fascinated by the unique relationship between sheep and their shepherd ever since.
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times…or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce at abnormal levels, creating toxins which cause sudden death. This problem was even more complicated for the shepherds of the Bible.
The type of shepherding referred to in the Bible is not the farming of fenced pasture lands but nomadic grazing. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat which means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass. Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to find and rescue them.* A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger. The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they will not last long.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can’t count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently! Remember, I am a sheep!
Psalm 40:1-3 “I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.* He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD” (NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness…until He rescues me. I try to satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul remains ravenous for what is good while stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don’t like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation.* A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep. When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that we can make it on our own or that the rules, the commandments of God, do not necessarily apply to us…just those other sheep. The longer I serve God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him.* When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
A good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me. I am so glad He was willing to lay down His life for every single sheep – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs like me. Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan and remember that we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.


Lord, I am so thankful that You are my Shepherd and that no matter how deep the valley or dark the pit, You have gone before me and made a way. Help me to understand that Your ways are higher than mine. Forgive me when I complain that the way You have made for me is harder than I want it to be. I surrender my life to you, Lord, my God and my Shepherd.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

Thank you for this . . . I have just got back from worming my sheep! (That's the truth!)

 

[beckysprayer]

So the doctor wants me to get blood work done to check my hormone levels. Heading to the lab now. As soon as I find out what the results are and I will hop back on here and let you know.

Thanks again for thinking of me and bringing this in prayer to our Heavenly Father for me.

Praying for you! I hope your blood work comes back with good results!

Ladies I need your help today. Satan is at work this morning in a few different ways. I need prayers to help to forgive some women who obviously aren't Christians and maybe to have God give me the words to redirect their attacks on Christian women.

Praying for you! It can be so hard to forgive some people, but we always feel so much better after we do.

Godsjewel - just prayed that you will be able to trust in him and that he will heal you.

I'm feeling a bit discouraged today. My DH has been out of work a long time, and we thought he was in with a very good chance of getting a job, but sadly that hope has been crushed today. It's another disappointment in a long long line of disappointments really. I know the Lord has a purpose in this period of unemployment, but it's hard not to get frustrated. Trying to trust in the Lord

Praying for your husband, that he finds a job soon!

Dear All,

On wednesday I found out I was having an ectopic pregnancy that night they performed emergency operation to remove the baby and I also lost my left fallopian tube.DH and I are deeply saddened and heartbroken I really miss the baby and I am battling guilt of even allowing the surgery to take place though I know baby wouldnt have survived I just cant stand the thought of giving the docs permission to end my babies life.I really just request your prayers right now.

Thank you for your support always.

Bree x

Oh Bree! I'm so sorry to hear this! Praying for you and your husband.

 

[Heather11]

Oh Bree I am so sorry to hear of your loss!! You are in my thoughts and my prayers!

 

[Heather11]

So the doctor wants me to get blood work done to check my hormone levels. Heading to the lab now. As soon as I find out what the results are and I will hop back on here and let you know.

Thanks again for thinking of me and bringing this in prayer to our Heavenly Father for me.

I will be praying for you love!

 

[Godsjewel]

Godsjewel - just prayed that you will be able to trust in him and that he will heal you.

I'm feeling a bit discouraged today. My DH has been out of work a long time, and we thought he was in with a very good chance of getting a job, but sadly that hope has been crushed today. It's another disappointment in a long long line of disappointments really. I know the Lord has a purpose in this period of unemployment, but it's hard not to get frustrated. Trying to trust in the Lord

Hi Sweetie!

My hubby went through the same thing a couple of years ago. Thanks to God, he now has a wonderful job and is making more money than he did before. God has a plan for him and I believe that the right job will come at the right time. God is an on time God.

 

[Godsjewel]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

 

[wristwatch24]

Today I was referred to a couple of verses in James in another book on Bible verses and infertility.

After taking the time to read the entirety of James 1, I came away with a completely different outlook on this journey.

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. " (James 1:2-4)

I know many of us realize that perseverance comes from pushing through the tough times, but I've never thought to relish in the tough times. I've thought "Just get through this and THEN I'll have joy." James tells us here to consider it JOY to face tough times. If trials and tribulations are what ultimately bring us closer to Jesus, we should take joy in them.

"If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does." (James 1:5-8)

This is where the light bulb lit up brighter than it ever has before above my foolish head. Of course I've asked God a million times for a child. For me to follow Him and what He wants me to do. But not minutes later, my mind begins to worry. Negativity sinks in and I doubt that my dream will ever come. I worry that it'll be another disappointment at the end of the cycle. That the Clomid didn't work. That I didn't eat healthy enough or I drank some caffeine and shouldn't have. But James reminds us that when we ask God for something, we need to trust in Him and not doubt Him.

Finally, later, James goes on to say:
"When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me.' For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone." (James 1:13)

I clearly remember the day I sat at my sister's house, talking to my brother. Angry after another period starting, and starting to doubt God's love for me, I said "I feel like I'm being picked on." I immediately knew that what I said was wrong. And James confirms it here.

"Don't be deceived, my dear brothers. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all He created." (James 1:16-18)

God doesn't owe us anything. We certainly don't deserve these gifts, either. It is by His grace that we receive them.

Lord in Heaven, I thank you for bringing clarity to me on a day that had me feeling so low and defeated. I pray that Your word through James will bless others who read it and bring the same clarity, confidence, and obedience to them as they have for me. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[HisGrace]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

Praise God it wasn't something serious. *that's my praise dance*

 

[Prayingforno1]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

Thanking God it wasn't anything serious!!!!

 

[Teach2]

With all of the hard times on this thread at the moment I'm reminded of the refiners fire. I think everything that happens is chipping away at us making us more Christ like remember often it is during the hardest times that we are closest to God. I'm praying for you all xxx

 

[xxx_faithful]

BETHANY DILLON LYRICS
Performed By Bethany Dillon

Who can hold the stars
And my weary heart?
Who can see everything?

I've fallen so hard
Sometimes I feel so far
But not beyond your reach

I could climb a mountain
Swim the ocean
Or do anything
But it's when you hold me
That I start unfolding
And all I can say is

Hallelujah, hallelujah
Whatever's in front of me
Help me to sing hallelujah
Hallelujah, hallelujah
Whatever's in front of me
I'll choose to sing hallelujah

The same sun that
Rises over castles
And welcomes the day

Spills over buildings
Into the streets
Where orphans play

And only you can see the good
In broken things
You took my heart of stone
And you made it home
And set this prisoner free

 

[xxx_faithful]

Thanks so much for the warm welcome.

My DH and I have been trying for a baby for almost 3 years. When we first started trying, we figured we wouldn't have any issues and we would be pregnant in no time, but it just didn't happen that way. We went to the doctor and he assured me nothing was wrong, and had no concerns.

We started on ferility drugs shortly after and they didn't do anything, but make me sick. I couldn't keep anything down! I was miserable and still not getting prengnat. After 4 months of treatments, the doctor decided to refer me to a IUI/IVF clinic. Long story short, my insurance didn't cover either and we couldn't afford them without insurance.

Since then our doctor has left the practice and so have we. We are seeing a RE now and she doesn't think I will ever get pregnant. I'm overweight (always been overweight) and she thinks that has a lot to do with why I'm not pregnant and not getting pregnant. She suggested surgery, which I was okay with, but my DH is completely against. So that's about where we are right now. I'm trying to lose weight without surgery, but it's really not working.

My DH and I have had a very hard time with this whole process. We have tried to adopt twice and both times failed. The guardians changed their minds and we were out of luck. The first one completely destroyed me... I suffered mentally! The second one, I knew not to get my hopes up, so when we got the phone call it wasn't as bad as the first one.

I have really went into a depression during this whole adventure. I have questioned God and my faith. I have laid in my bedroom floor and cried out to God to forgive me for all the terrible thought and have begged Him to take the desire for a child away, but for some reason He won't. That's me summed up. Oh, I'm from Cherokee County

Mel ! It is SUCH a pleasure to find you on here. I pray abundantly that you will find all the encouragment you need with us girls.

It is so awfully painful trying to conceive and for the amount of time you have, i can very much relate to your longing for a child and the frustration that comes with it. I have suffered chronic depression since i was a child and have been trying to conceive aswell, and it was like a wave that hit when i had my first m/c as i felt it slowly crept back for a moment there. My husband and I are also at the point that we couldnt afford IUI or IVF being in the public system so we have just joined health insurance and will continue trying on clomid med until we can use the private health benefits.

On the weight side of things, im sorry you are finding it difficult. It's almost as if you have to focus on several things at the same time. To lose weight, look after your hubby, AND conceive, like one isn't enough already! But on another note, it is totally achievable. Once you get to the point that your ready to change for good, you become too determined not to. I am happy to offer any advice at all that you are seeking (having been a Nutritionist) but just off the bat, i highly recommend ditching gluten =) that alone can drop weight fast.

My sister in law is 39yrs old and was told she had a 1% chance of EVER conceiving naturally. But she was determined. She tried and tried and tried until one day God was like 'Okay, you believe me enough to give you a baby i will give you just that' and 1 mth prior to IVF, she fell pregnant naturally. She has tried IUI, clomid, natural therapies everything- but one thing she didnt give up on - was the fact that God could give her what she deeply desired. Never ever listen to any Dr that says you cannot conceive. I have only one word for that and that is REBUKE. Rebuke those words and pray over yourself, your hubby and your home. Everywhere your heart goes, pray for blessing in your life and dont give up. Because he so very much loves you and wants the best for you.


XXX

 

[xxx_faithful]

Hi Godsjewel

I thought i would write you a message and say thankyou. Thankyou for for being obedient to God when he lead you into creating this forum. Without your love for God, us christian ladies wouldn't be gathering together spiritually and lifting one another up during our times of hardships and sharing times of joy.

Tell me a little bit about yourself. What do you find is the best way of connecting and staying at peace with God through the days of frustration? Is your current situation kept quiet between your friends? Are you on any fertility meds? Have you tried any alternate treatments etc? I would love to hear any testimony's or revelations in your life regarding fertility and your relationship with God. I recently read you had a dream you were pregnant. I LOVE that, I truly believe dreams are a way of God showing us what is yet to come and letting us know everything will be okay

Xx

 

[Godsjewel]

Hi Godsjewel

I thought i would write you a message and say thankyou. Thankyou for for being obedient to God when he lead you into creating this forum. Without your love for God, us christian ladies wouldn't be gathering together spiritually and lifting one another up during our times of hardships and sharing times of joy.

Tell me a little bit about yourself. What do you find is the best way of connecting and staying at peace with God through the days of frustration? Is your current situation kept quiet between your friends? Are you on any fertility meds? Have you tried any alternate treatments etc? I would love to hear any testimony's or revelations in your life regarding fertility and your relationship with God. I recently read you had a dream you were pregnant. I LOVE that, I truly believe dreams are a way of God showing us what is yet to come and letting us know everything will be okay

Xx

Hi Sweetie!

Praise God! Besides BFPs, there’s nothing more that I like to hear than when ladies are getting the encouragement they need through this thread. Funny thing is, I “talk” more on here than I do in person…lol!!!

As you can see from my signature, I’ve been on this journey for quite some time. The days where I start to get discouraged, frustrated, sad, mad, angry and all those other fun emotions, I do my best to focus on the things God has blessed me with. I’m in good health, I have a wonderful husband, a beautiful stepdaughter who I call my own, good family, I have a job, I can see, hear, smell, jump, run, speak, live in a country where I can openly serve my Lord and Savior. If you really take the time to sit and think about all the good things, all those other emotions tend to disappear.

All my close friends know what I’m going through, but 99% of them can’t truly understand how I feel since they all got pregnant with no issues. It’s hard to talk to them about it since they say the things you don’t really want to hear…”Just relax, it will happen”, “maybe you’re stressing too much”, “just get your mind off ttc”…really??? I’ve made it a point not share my ttc journey with those friends. I have 2 good friends that have suffered through this journey and came out in the end with children. One of them, the doctor told couldn’t have children and just recently had her 4th, the other the doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with her and she was trying for 3 yrs and became pregnant. She said she focused on the story of Hannah daily and thanked God that what He did for Hannah, that He was also going to do for her. She also said everyday out loud that her womb was blessed. She had a baby boy.

I have had 6 IUI’s, been on 4 rounds of Femara and 3 rounds of clomid. I have endometriosis and have had 2 laparoscopies to take out cysts that were forming on my right ovary, burn off any endometriosis and scar tissue, one in 2009 and the other last October. Both times the doctors where very optimistic that I would get pregnant soon after since everything was “cleaned out”. They tell me they don’t see a reason why I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant.

There was this lady that came to my mom’s church and at the end of the service she said she felt led to pray for the women there that were suffering from infertility, my mom went up there and laughs when telling me this story because she’s like, “I’m a fifty something year old woman walking up to the front and people are looking at me like a crazy woman! Lol” She told the lady that she was standing in for her daughter (ME!), so the lady put her hands on my mom and started praying, a couple minutes later a lady came up to her and whispered in her ear, “babies”. Then my sis-in-law that was in the same service stood in for me as well and the lady told her, “someone in your family is going to be pregnant”. I think hearing that helps in strengthening my faith. I’ve said it many times before, I have asked God to take away this desire if it is not in His will for my life to conceive, but He hasn’t and I am believing it’s there because one day I will have the desire of my heart. For now, I’m blessed to have this forum to be able to share and receive encouragement on my not so happy days.

One day I will be able to share the news of a BFP, but for now, I'm happy to be able to witness God's goodness and faithfullness in this thread.

 

[Godsjewel]

And there arose a fierce gale of wind, and the waves were breaking over the boat so much that the boat was already filling up.
Jesus Himself was in the stern, asleep on the cushion;
Mark 4:37-38

Have you ever experienced turbulence on an airplane? I’m not talking about a little bounce here and there. I’m talking about the kind of rocking and rolling that has nothing to do with music, but the kind that makes you wish you had never watched all those disaster movies about downed aircraft. Want to know what comforts me most on a bumpy ride? Not the exit rows. Not the belief that a tiny two-inch strap of canvas could keep me safe if I go hurtling through the sky. It’s not even the fact that there’s a barf bag waiting to catch my cookies should I be forced to toss them. The most comforting thing to me on a turbulent flight is a bored, sleepy flight attendant.

Bored to tears. Yawning. Stretching. Catching her balance enough to glance at her watch. Why does this make me feel better? Because she’s been on rough rides before and she’s not the least bit worried. When I start to get nervous, all I have to do is to look at her and her expression lets me know that everything is okay. She knows the pilot is in control even if the ride is bumpy. Together they have carried so many gazillions of passengers before me and there are gazillions more to come. The flight attendant knows that the pilot knows what he’s doing.

It’s because of her faith in the pilot that I know I can trust him. I’ve been on many tumultuous plane rides, but I have never once stormed the cockpit to ask the pilot what he was going to do to ensure my safety. I didn’t question his ability or rail on his lack of concern. I never even considered the thought that he’d forgotten that there was a passenger in seat 10C. Why? I knew that he knew what he was doing, even if I did not. My lack of understanding of air currents or engine thrust didn’t diminish his ability to deliver me safe and sound to my destination. Even if he had explained to me how the engines worked and how this massive, mechanical bird could lift off the ground and sail away to nearly any destination on this globe, I wouldn’t understand it anyway. I didn’t have to. I just sat down, strapped myself in for the ride and trusted that my pilot knew where to take me and how to get me there. Then I asked a very bored, very sleepy flight attendant for a Coke!

Do you realize that Jesus is simply not worried about your life? It’s not that He’s unconcerned, He’s just not worried. He doesn’t sit around wringing His holy hands wondering how He’s going to pull you through the trauma of miscarriage. He’s like the flight attendant who never blinks an eye when the plane bounces from cloud to cloud. When you find yourself getting scared because you feel so out of control since your baby died and you’re beginning to doubt that you will reach your ultimate destination, glance at Jesus. See the calm that He brings. No panicked look on His face. He knows the Pilot, and He knows that together you’re going to arrive safely at your destination.

~Author Unknown

 

[Prayingforno1]

Hi Sweetie!

Praise God! Besides BFPs, there’s nothing more that I like to hear than when ladies are getting the encouragement they need through this thread. Funny thing is, I “talk” more on here than I do in person…lol!!!

As you can see from my signature, I’ve been on this journey for quite some time. The days where I start to get discouraged, frustrated, sad, mad, angry and all those other fun emotions, I do my best to focus on the things God has blessed me with. I’m in good health, I have a wonderful husband, a beautiful stepdaughter who I call my own, good family, I have a job, I can see, hear, smell, jump, run, speak, live in a country where I can openly serve my Lord and Savior. If you really take the time to sit and think about all the good things, all those other emotions tend to disappear.

All my close friends know what I’m going through, but 99% of them can’t truly understand how I feel since they all got pregnant with no issues. It’s hard to talk to them about it since they say the things you don’t really want to hear…”Just relax, it will happen”, “maybe you’re stressing too much”, “just get your mind off ttc”…really??? I’ve made it a point not share my ttc journey with those friends. I have 2 good friends that have suffered through this journey and came out in the end with children. One of them, the doctor told couldn’t have children and just recently had her 4th, the other the doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with her and she was trying for 3 yrs and became pregnant. She said she focused on the story of Hannah daily and thanked God that what He did for Hannah, that He was also going to do for her. She also said everyday out loud that her womb was blessed. She had a baby boy.

I have had 6 IUI’s, been on 4 rounds of Femara and 3 rounds of clomid. I have endometriosis and have had 2 laparoscopies to take out cysts that were forming on my right ovary, burn off any endometriosis and scar tissue, one in 2009 and the other last October. Both times the doctors where very optimistic that I would get pregnant soon after since everything was “cleaned out”. They tell me they don’t see a reason why I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant.

There was this lady that came to my mom’s church and at the end of the service she said she felt led to pray for the women there that were suffering from infertility, my mom went up there and laughs when telling me this story because she’s like, “I’m a fifty something year old woman walking up to the front and people are looking at me like a crazy woman! Lol” She told the lady that she was standing in for her daughter (ME!), so the lady put her hands on my mom and started praying, a couple minutes later a lady came up to her and whispered in her ear, “babies”. Then my sis-in-law that was in the same service stood in for me as well and the lady told her, “someone in your family is going to be pregnant”. I think hearing that helps in strengthening my faith. I’ve said it many times before, I have asked God to take away this desire if it is not in His will for my life to conceive, but He hasn’t and I am believing it’s there because one day I will have the desire of my heart. For now, I’m blessed to have this forum to be able to share and receive encouragement on my not so happy days.

One day I will be able to share the news of a BFP, but for now, I'm happy to be able to witness God's goodness and faithfullness in this thread.

Wow you are truly an inspiration and I am so glad that I came across this site and message board when I was at my low point last week. My family and friends don't know we are ttc so it can be a bit rough when I want to talk to someone and don't want to lay it all out on my hubby. In the short time that I have been here, this board has definitely been an inspiration. I know everything is in God's hands and I am praising him in advance. Ask and it shall be given and as we have all asked him for the wonderful blessing of motherhood, I am 100% confident we will be rejoicing one day. It may not be in our our time but it's always in his time and right on time.

Have a blessed week everyone.

 

[beckysprayer]

*snip*

One day I will be able to share the news of a BFP, but for now, I'm happy to be able to witness God's goodness and faithfullness in this thread.

And we all look forward to that wonderful day! You are such a blessing and inspiration to all of us and the day you get your BFP will be a day filled with praise and thanksgiving from people all over this world who have been blessed by this thread!

 

[Godsjewel]

*snip*

One day I will be able to share the news of a BFP, but for now, I'm happy to be able to witness God's goodness and faithfullness in this thread.

And we all look forward to that wonderful day! You are such a blessing and inspiration to all of us and the day you get your BFP will be a day filled with praise and thanksgiving from people all over this world who have been blessed by this thread!

Aww, That made my heart smile