Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Mummy_2_One]

Thanks rquanborough, I love that song!

Hope I can jump in ladies. My DH and I have been so blessed with a beautiful little girl, but we've been TTC number 2 and have had 2 MCs in 4 months. I was angry at God for the first one, but I feel really at peace about this most recent one (only last weekend), and I just feel like I've been given amazing promises for another baby - in HIS time.

Is this the kind of thread where I can share some 'tactics'? We've successfully conceived 3 times out of 4 cycles trying since I found out a few helpful tips, and I'm keen to share if that's ok...? Before this method, we tried for 9 months for our daughter with no luck.

Hi

Yes please!!! I would love to hear some advice on how you managed to fall pregnant 3 out of 4 cycles. That would be much appreciated.
And maybe we can all share in a bit of our own advice which has helped with ovulation, regular periods, and even conceiving.

Xoxox

Hi faithful.

Ok, so I hope this doesn't affend anyone and it's not TMI...

The few things we've done, which I read on the blog of an amazing woman who's name I now can't remember (so I've been searching but haven't been able to find her site!), are:

* Know your body - check out this great website for details on knowing your body and trying at the best times. I was amazed to find out that your CM (cervical mucus) changes during your cycle and can help or hinder the process of conception.
https://www.thebillingsovulationmethod.org/
* Use a method of intercourse that has deep penetration.
* Straight after being intimate, have your husband help you get onto your back, prop up your pelvis with pillows, and cover yourself with a damp wash cloth. The less you move your stomach muscles while moving into this position, the better.
* Stay there for around 40 mins. The best time for baby making (I've found) is in the evening when you have time to do this, and when you've had the day to check for the right kind of CM before getting started.

And that's it... We've been very blessed to have conceived 3 times using these few steps (and when I learnt to read my body's own signs for ovulation). I've never used O tests either.

I pray that this info can make a difference for even just one other woman xx

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Sorry, this is probably the link that I found most helpful (and the site can be a little difficult to navigate)
https://www.thebillingsovulationmet...works/key-to-fertility-control-the-mucus.html

 

[stevens2010]

Just popping in to ask whether you lovely ladies could please bear me in your prayers. I feel incredibly overwhelmed this cycle, my AF is due on my wedding anniversary which is also our 2 year mark for TTC, I'm feeling under pressure as I've had 4 friends announce pregnancies and I'm just freaking out a bit. I can already feel that familiar feeling of doubt creeping in, making me wonder if it'll ever happen for us.

I know I should be turning to God but it's hard when you don't feel close to Him.

I feel so alone.

 

[Prayingforno1]

Just popping in to ask whether you lovely ladies could please bear me in your prayers. I feel incredibly overwhelmed this cycle, my AF is due on my wedding anniversary which is also our 2 year mark for TTC, I'm feeling under pressure as I've had 4 friends announce pregnancies and I'm just freaking out a bit. I can already feel that familiar feeling of doubt creeping in, making me wonder if it'll ever happen for us.

I know I should be turning to God but it's hard when you don't feel close to Him.

I feel so alone.

stevens2010 I think it is only natural for us to feel discouraged at times when we go through month after month without the miracle we've prayed for. I had a day like this last week and came across the following on the internet, I hope it is encouraging to you and I pray your strength during this rough time you are passing through, God bless you sister.

Believing God for anything in life grows and strengthens our faith. The more we wait for it, the more our faith can grow (no wonder Abraham and Sarah were such strong examples of faith-filled people!) God gave us an awesome promise in Mark 11:24- "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours."

One thing He doesn't promise is to give us what we've prayed for when we want it. We have to remember that God doesn't operate in the finite realm of time like we do. He sees things long term so to Him our prayers are already answered, even if we can't see it in the natural yet. We are to walk by faith and not by sight, so once we pray we should believe that it is done.

"We fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal." 2 Cor 4:18 The time we spend waiting to get pregnant is only temporary, but God and His promises are eternal. In the grand scheme of our lives, a few months or few years of waiting won't seem that long in the future when we're looking back.

When we accept Christ in our lives and decide to live for Him, it doesn't mean the rest of our lives will be on easy street. The Bible guarantees us that we will have trials and difficulties to deal with in life. Thankfully, God also gives us a promise that all our difficulties will ultimately end in our good if we keep seeking Him (Rom 8:28).

When we experience difficulties in getting pregnant, we can hold on the joy that God is producing patience and character in us through this trial. "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love." Romans 5:3-5

 

[stevens2010]

Thank you, I really appreciate the reply.

I feel a bit better after a big cry and as silly as it sounds, a big cuddle from my dog! Funny how dogs can sense when someone's in distress and they offer comfort. Does that sound silly?

 

[Prayingforno1]

Thank you, I really appreciate the reply.

I feel a bit better after a big cry and as silly as it sounds, a big cuddle from my dog! Funny how dogs can sense when someone's in distress and they offer comfort. Does that sound silly?

Nope, not silly at all, by pup will come and rub up on me, lick me or just lay down next to me when I'm down think they have some kind of 6th sense lol

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Thank you, I really appreciate the reply.

I feel a bit better after a big cry and as silly as it sounds, a big cuddle from my dog! Funny how dogs can sense when someone's in distress and they offer comfort. Does that sound silly?

Not at all! They're better than people sometimes!

 

[Godsjewel]

Well ladies, I'm out for another cycle. Onto cycle 17. And I have a throat infection. I'm praying I don't have another horrible experience like last month.

On a positive note, I've managed to book an hsg for a week today. Any advice on how to handle it etc?

On an even more positive note, thank you Yahweh for giving me a husband, for my 16yr old, for delicious food in my cupboard, for hot and cold clean running water, a roof over my head, beautiful clothing, friends and family, silly daytime tv, chocolate and crisps I am buying today, paracetamol and hope for next cycle.

Remember me Father! My womb is blessed!!

Hi dear! About the hsg, I didn't feel a thing. The only hard part about my experience is I was laying there while the lady was trying to find the opening of my uterus to stick the catheter in there and was down below FOREVER!!! I told her she owes me dinner for being there so long
After many attempts she asked if I was comfortable to have the head OB come in, who is a male, I didn't care, I just wanted to hurry up and close my legs and get off the table. Finally, he made it work and praise God my tubes were clear.

 

[Godsjewel]

When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, "Give me children, or I'll die!"
Jacob became angry with her and said, "Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?"
Genesis 30:1-2

Men are so often the forgotten grievers in the infertility story. No one to give your name to. No heritage to share. For some, the family name will stop with you if there is no child. In Genesis 30, as in so many other pages penned by the Holy Spirit Himself, we find a hurting husband. Jacob felt the same way many men do today. At times men are asked to carry a double burden. While their hearts are longing for a child just as their wives are, they are given the job of keeping the wife’s feet at least somewhere close to the ground.

Women are typically more emotional than men and those emotions tend to spill out of every pore when baby hunger develops. Ranting, raving, tears, sleepless nights are so common for so many. But what about the men? They are expected to be the steadying force for the woman whose life is spinning out of control, but for too many, the ground is slipping away underneath them much like quicksand. “Keep a stiff upper lip! Be a man!” Guys, your emotions are important. Your hurt is just as real. God knows. God cares. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable with Him. He’ll never abuse this trust.

If you have ever felt the burden was just too heavy, that your shoulders are just not broad enough, you have an understanding brother in Jacob. Even though he loved his wife with his entire being, to the fullest capacity, the time came when his anger was kindled against her. Notice what he said to her. Can’t you just picture them? Rachel sobbing on her knees-again. Her heart broken-again. Jacob has done all he could possibly do but it wasn’t enough. He lashes out at her. “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?”

When a man loves a woman, he tends to want to make things better for her. A better life, a better house, a better car. If a woman has a problem, she’ll call her mother and talk it over but only after she has talked to her best friend from high school, her sister, and the lady at the dry cleaners. Then she takes the opinions of all of these, combines it with what the people on the internet have to say, mulls them over and just talking and hearing what everyone else had to say made her feel so much better! A man sees the same problem and decides to fix it. What does it take? How much does it cost? Okay-he’s done. If fixing infertility was only that easy! Jacob had done all he could, and I believe he just hit his breaking point.

Whatever their case was, we see a marriage definitely affected by infertility. Theirs was a marriage that had survived pretty significant difficulties from the very beginning. Yet here we see a husband and wife in a knock-down-drag-out fight over the frustrations infertility brings to a marriage.

Perhaps your marriage has been affected by your struggle. The once joyful announcement of “We’re trying to have a baby!” has turned into bitter arguments over how far to take your medical treatment, just where the money will come from, or just when to stop trying. Sexual intimacy is no longer an enjoyable act of love one for another, but it is now a scheduled, mandated necessity to achieve a desired goal. God has placed such an importance on the marriage relationship that He considers it sacred. Don’t allow Satan through your infertility to destroy what God considers sacred and holy.

 

[Godsjewel]

One of my good friends told me about this book called, Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize. I ordered it online, got it on Monday and finished it yesterday. I would definitely recommend reading it. It boosted my faith 20 fold.

Here is a prayer that is in the book.

Father, we thank You that children are the heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is His reward. Children are Your idea Father, You thought up children, and family and home. You instituted the family in the Garden of Eden. You ordered children; You commanded them when You said to Adam and Eve, ‘Be fruitful and multiply.’ You said that the barren womb is never satisfied. Lord, the Word declares that I am wonderfully and fearfully made by You; therefore, I’m perfect and able to conceive and have children. You said that I would be a fruitful vine by the side of our house and our children like olive plants around our table. We are not ashamed but happy because our quiver is full of children (or arrows, as You call them).

Thank you, Father, that You designed and fashioned me to have children, that in the Bible barrenness was the exception, not the rule, not Your will, not normal, something against Your plan and purpose. And in your goodness and faithfulness, every barren woman in the Bible who was godly and believed Your Word became pregnant; You opened her womb and blessed her, and she gave birth to a precious baby just as I will. You make the barren woman to keep house and to be a joyful mother of children.

You said, Father, that because You are our God and we are Your people and have a covenant with you, that You will love us and bless us and multiply us and bless the fruit of my womb and that neither male nor female among Your people would be barren. Father, we are redeemed from the curse of the Law by Jesus and being barren is under the curse of the Law; therefore, we will receive from your grace and have children.

Father, no plague, no evil shall com nigh our dwelling. We are healed by the stripes of Jesus. Sickness of any kind is taken out of our midst. You said to ask anything of you in Jesus’ name and it would be done; and that if two of us on earth agree as touching anything it would be done. So we pray and we agree with You and Your word, Father, that we will conceive and bring forth a healthy, precious baby to your glory and honor. We pray all this according to Your Word and will. You said, This is the confidence that we have in you, that is we ask anything according to Your will, you hear us; and if You hear us, we know we have the petition we desire of You. We have it now. Thank you, Father, In Jesus’name.

NOW, TALK TO YOUR BODY:

Body, we speak to you in Jesus’ name: You will come in line and agreement with the Word of God. You will respond to His holy Word. You will function properly and perfectly, the way God intended you to. Every part, every organ of our reproductive system conforms to the Word and plan of God as we come together in pure, marital love. Body, conceive! Be pregnant. Cooperate with God’s plan: perfect ovulation, release of perfect eggs from the ovaries, through the fallopian tubes, penetrated and impregnated, fertilized by healthy sperm. Good solid attachment to uterine wall and nourished and protected for nine months (40 weeks) unharmed and unhindered. Grow to a perfect baby, spirit, soul and body. Your Word says, Father, that none shall cast their young, nor be barren amount Your people and the number of our days You will fulfill. This pregnancy will be fulfilled. We decree it in Jesus’ name and receive God’s best; we won’t settle for anything less in Jesus’ holy name. Thank you, Lord, that it is so and done to Your honor and glory. Amen.

 

[Just_married]

Well ladies, I'm out for another cycle. Onto cycle 17. And I have a throat infection. I'm praying I don't have another horrible experience like last month.

On a positive note, I've managed to book an hsg for a week today. Any advice on how to handle it etc?

On an even more positive note, thank you Yahweh for giving me a husband, for my 16yr old, for delicious food in my cupboard, for hot and cold clean running water, a roof over my head, beautiful clothing, friends and family, silly daytime tv, chocolate and crisps I am buying today, paracetamol and hope for next cycle.

Remember me Father! My womb is blessed!!

Hi dear! About the hsg, I didn't feel a thing. The only hard part about my experience is I was laying there while the lady was trying to find the opening of my uterus to stick the catheter in there and was down below FOREVER!!! I told her she owes me dinner for being there so long
After many attempts she asked if I was comfortable to have the head OB come in, who is a male, I didn't care, I just wanted to hurry up and close my legs and get off the table. Finally, he made it work and praise God my tubes were clear.

So glad your tubes were clear that's my only stress about it but I keep telling myself not to worry as it's a lack of faith. I BELIEVE even if this shows they are blocked the God is still able and willing to heal it & bless me.

You made me laugh about the dinner comment. I was at my gp for an unrelated thing last week and she wanted to examine me due to last months crazy bleed. Whilst she was down there with a torch (!) she said 'you must feel like the world and his dog has been down here. Agh!!! Lol!

Thanks for sharing your experience in such a positive way. I won't worry if it takes a while then. Maybe I should take a magazine? Haha! Read so many stories of ladies saying it hurt for hours after. Good to hear from someone like you.

Xxxx

 

[Godsjewel]

So glad your tubes were clear that's my only stress about it but I keep telling myself not to worry as it's a lack of faith. I BELIEVE even if this shows they are blocked the God is still able and willing to heal it & bless me.

You made me laugh about the dinner comment. I was at my gp for an unrelated thing last week and she wanted to examine me due to last months crazy bleed. Whilst she was down there with a torch (!) she said 'you must feel like the world and his dog has been down here. Agh!!! Lol!

Thanks for sharing your experience in such a positive way. I won't worry if it takes a while then. Maybe I should take a magazine? Haha! Read so many stories of ladies saying it hurt for hours after. Good to hear from someone like you.

Xxxx

Some advice would be to relax as best as you can and if you feel led to, take a couple of advil an hour before you go in, I have read that helped some women. I was very blessed to feel nothing as I have heard a variety of stories. I pray that you have a great experience like I did =)

 

[LillyLee]

Just wanted to share this today. I was talking to my mom about the forum and the inspiration that so many of the women on here have given me and I began telling her about various stories I have heard of long term TTC and the various disappointments and miscarriages some women have encountered that I was just in awe of their strength and faith in God. She told me she wanted me to share her story with all of you, and maybe it would be able to bring hope or healing to women suffering through understanding God's plans.

When she and my father got married they tried for 7 years to become pregnant. Finally, they were rewarded with a positive result and rejoiced in the fact that they were starting a family. After a few weeks my mom started to get pains on her left side and so she went in to her doctor. They found out that she had suffered an ectopic pregnancy and went into surgery to remove everything. Of course they were crushed, but a few months later became pregnant again. This pregnancy was carried to full term and resulted in my birth. After that she has had two more miscarriages and two more healthy children. She always states that God has given her six children to love, and that she just has to wait until she gets to heaven to meet the other three. What really touches my heart is when she tells me, “I was beyond upset and hurt when I lost that first baby, and for years I never understood why. But now I know that if God hadn’t taken that child, I would never have been able to have you (me) and you are my best friend.”

I know that at times I struggle to understand what God’s plan is for my life, and I have issues accepting the big picture when I can only see a partially completed puzzle but this cements the fact to me even more that of course God is right in everything. Every plan is perfectly thought out to its completion and even though we may not understand at the time why certain things are happening if we continue to have faith and trust in God’s timing eventually we will see all of his wonderful plans come to fruition.

 

[Godsjewel]

Just wanted to share this today. I was talking to my mom about the forum and the inspiration that so many of the women on here have given me and I began telling her about various stories I have heard of long term TTC and the various disappointments and miscarriages some women have encountered that I was just in awe of their strength and faith in God. She told me she wanted me to share her story with all of you, and maybe it would be able to bring hope or healing to women suffering through understanding God's plans.

When she and my father got married they tried for 7 years to become pregnant. Finally, they were rewarded with a positive result and rejoiced in the fact that they were starting a family. After a few weeks my mom started to get pains on her left side and so she went in to her doctor. They found out that she had suffered an ectopic pregnancy and went into surgery to remove everything. Of course they were crushed, but a few months later became pregnant again. This pregnancy was carried to full term and resulted in my birth. After that she has had two more miscarriages and two more healthy children. She always states that God has given her six children to love, and that she just has to wait until she gets to heaven to meet the other three. What really touches my heart is when she tells me, “I was beyond upset and hurt when I lost that first baby, and for years I never understood why. But now I know that if God hadn’t taken that child, I would never have been able to have you (me) and you are my best friend.”

I know that at times I struggle to understand what God’s plan is for my life, and I have issues accepting the big picture when I can only see a partially completed puzzle but this cements the fact to me even more that of course God is right in everything. Every plan is perfectly thought out to its completion and even though we may not understand at the time why certain things are happening if we continue to have faith and trust in God’s timing eventually we will see all of his wonderful plans come to fruition.

Reading this gave me goose bumps. Thank you so much for sharing this story and I'm so glad that God blessed us with you as well. These stories really help boost my faith

 

[PrincessBree]

Just wanted to share this today. I was talking to my mom about the forum and the inspiration that so many of the women on here have given me and I began telling her about various stories I have heard of long term TTC and the various disappointments and miscarriages some women have encountered that I was just in awe of their strength and faith in God. She told me she wanted me to share her story with all of you, and maybe it would be able to bring hope or healing to women suffering through understanding God's plans.

When she and my father got married they tried for 7 years to become pregnant. Finally, they were rewarded with a positive result and rejoiced in the fact that they were starting a family. After a few weeks my mom started to get pains on her left side and so she went in to her doctor. They found out that she had suffered an ectopic pregnancy and went into surgery to remove everything. Of course they were crushed, but a few months later became pregnant again. This pregnancy was carried to full term and resulted in my birth. After that she has had two more miscarriages and two more healthy children. She always states that God has given her six children to love, and that she just has to wait until she gets to heaven to meet the other three. What really touches my heart is when she tells me, “I was beyond upset and hurt when I lost that first baby, and for years I never understood why. But now I know that if God hadn’t taken that child, I would never have been able to have you (me) and you are my best friend.”

I know that at times I struggle to understand what God’s plan is for my life, and I have issues accepting the big picture when I can only see a partially completed puzzle but this cements the fact to me even more that of course God is right in everything. Every plan is perfectly thought out to its completion and even though we may not understand at the time why certain things are happening if we continue to have faith and trust in God’s timing eventually we will see all of his wonderful plans come to fruition.

Thank you sis,this touched me in such a personal way please thank your mom from me-I seem to be crying everyday and miss my baby so dearly.

When they took my left tube out they also went to check on the right one,and they removed some scar tissue from my right tube,and I remember thinking that God had allowed it all to happen so that the doctors could discover what was going on in my body otherwise I would have never known how badly my tubes were scarred.and how difficult it was for a fertilised egg to pass through all the scar tissue.

I am praying now everything is fixed it will make it easier to get pregnant (one tube or not I am believing God for that).

But dealing with this loss at times feels too difficult to bear.I am waiting on the Lord for my healing

Blessings to all waiting,praying,hoping,believing-this thread helps me to believe God for His promises xx

 

[xxx_faithful]

When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, "Give me children, or I'll die!"
Jacob became angry with her and said, "Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?"
Genesis 30:1-2

Men are so often the forgotten grievers in the infertility story. No one to give your name to. No heritage to share. For some, the family name will stop with you if there is no child. In Genesis 30, as in so many other pages penned by the Holy Spirit Himself, we find a hurting husband. Jacob felt the same way many men do today. At times men are asked to carry a double burden. While their hearts are longing for a child just as their wives are, they are given the job of keeping the wife’s feet at least somewhere close to the ground.

Women are typically more emotional than men and those emotions tend to spill out of every pore when baby hunger develops. Ranting, raving, tears, sleepless nights are so common for so many. But what about the men? They are expected to be the steadying force for the woman whose life is spinning out of control, but for too many, the ground is slipping away underneath them much like quicksand. “Keep a stiff upper lip! Be a man!” Guys, your emotions are important. Your hurt is just as real. God knows. God cares. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable with Him. He’ll never abuse this trust.

If you have ever felt the burden was just too heavy, that your shoulders are just not broad enough, you have an understanding brother in Jacob. Even though he loved his wife with his entire being, to the fullest capacity, the time came when his anger was kindled against her. Notice what he said to her. Can’t you just picture them? Rachel sobbing on her knees-again. Her heart broken-again. Jacob has done all he could possibly do but it wasn’t enough. He lashes out at her. “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?”

When a man loves a woman, he tends to want to make things better for her. A better life, a better house, a better car. If a woman has a problem, she’ll call her mother and talk it over but only after she has talked to her best friend from high school, her sister, and the lady at the dry cleaners. Then she takes the opinions of all of these, combines it with what the people on the internet have to say, mulls them over and just talking and hearing what everyone else had to say made her feel so much better! A man sees the same problem and decides to fix it. What does it take? How much does it cost? Okay-he’s done. If fixing infertility was only that easy! Jacob had done all he could, and I believe he just hit his breaking point.

Whatever their case was, we see a marriage definitely affected by infertility. Theirs was a marriage that had survived pretty significant difficulties from the very beginning. Yet here we see a husband and wife in a knock-down-drag-out fight over the frustrations infertility brings to a marriage.

Perhaps your marriage has been affected by your struggle. The once joyful announcement of “We’re trying to have a baby!” has turned into bitter arguments over how far to take your medical treatment, just where the money will come from, or just when to stop trying. Sexual intimacy is no longer an enjoyable act of love one for another, but it is now a scheduled, mandated necessity to achieve a desired goal. God has placed such an importance on the marriage relationship that He considers it sacred. Don’t allow Satan through your infertility to destroy what God considers sacred and holy.

Oh my golly goodness. Godsjewl you are so very right. Men are so often forgotten by tears of the woman over her womb. She yells and screams through her pain expecting her husband to come to the rescue, time and time again, and yes they do. Though little do we know, our man is hurting just as much.

You know God showed me that same message late last year. After miscarrying at almost 11 weeks there i was on the bathroom floor devastated with blood all around me too busy caught up in my own tears i did not even see that he was just as devasted as i was. Weeks had gone by and i was too busy to see he was crying, weeping from his heart. How foolish was i to think i was going through this alone, while he was right beside me holding my hand. He wanted just as much as I to hold our child in his arms and to watch her grow up to be our biggest fans.

God can be just like our husband, when we go through our pains and devastations we often overlook God is right beside us, watching us weep, watching us groan over our loss. He wanted just as much as we did to cherish our little one, and to watch her grow up to be God’s biggest fan.

Let us never forget our men in our lives, and truly cherish them through the grieving and the loss. They cry when we cry, and God weeps when we weep.


Xxx

 

[xxx_faithful]

Just popping in to ask whether you lovely ladies could please bear me in your prayers. I feel incredibly overwhelmed this cycle, my AF is due on my wedding anniversary which is also our 2 year mark for TTC, I'm feeling under pressure as I've had 4 friends announce pregnancies and I'm just freaking out a bit. I can already feel that familiar feeling of doubt creeping in, making me wonder if it'll ever happen for us.

I know I should be turning to God but it's hard when you don't feel close to Him.

I feel so alone.

Stevens2010 ..can i spare a moment to give you a hug? Sweety I'm so sorry you will be coming up to your 2 yr mark of TTC. I cant imagine how you must be feeling. I absolutely dreaded the moment i would have to face the day of my angel's due date. When i mean dreaded, i mean DREADED! I was anxious just thinking about it and was a wreck the week leading up to it. Though when the day came, I was actually relieved and wrote a list of all the reasons why life delayed my baby's entrance into the world. Keeping yourself busy does help a tad, but surrendering to God your thoughts and having that support around you leading up to the day is what gets you through. "Sometimes the anxiety of the event is more worrying then the event itself." I always found that quote comforting hehe...

 

[xxx_faithful]

Thanks rquanborough, I love that song!

Hope I can jump in ladies. My DH and I have been so blessed with a beautiful little girl, but we've been TTC number 2 and have had 2 MCs in 4 months. I was angry at God for the first one, but I feel really at peace about this most recent one (only last weekend), and I just feel like I've been given amazing promises for another baby - in HIS time.

Is this the kind of thread where I can share some 'tactics'? We've successfully conceived 3 times out of 4 cycles trying since I found out a few helpful tips, and I'm keen to share if that's ok...? Before this method, we tried for 9 months for our daughter with no luck.

Hi

Yes please!!! I would love to hear some advice on how you managed to fall pregnant 3 out of 4 cycles. That would be much appreciated.
And maybe we can all share in a bit of our own advice which has helped with ovulation, regular periods, and even conceiving.

Xoxox

Hi faithful.

Ok, so I hope this doesn't affend anyone and it's not TMI...

The few things we've done, which I read on the blog of an amazing woman who's name I now can't remember (so I've been searching but haven't been able to find her site!), are:

* Know your body - check out this great website for details on knowing your body and trying at the best times. I was amazed to find out that your CM (cervical mucus) changes during your cycle and can help or hinder the process of conception.
https://www.thebillingsovulationmethod.org/
* Use a method of intercourse that has deep penetration.
* Straight after being intimate, have your husband help you get onto your back, prop up your pelvis with pillows, and cover yourself with a damp wash cloth. The less you move your stomach muscles while moving into this position, the better.
* Stay there for around 40 mins. The best time for baby making (I've found) is in the evening when you have time to do this, and when you've had the day to check for the right kind of CM before getting started.

And that's it... We've been very blessed to have conceived 3 times using these few steps (and when I learnt to read my body's own signs for ovulation). I've never used O tests either.

I pray that this info can make a difference for even just one other woman xx

Hi Mummy_2_One,

Thankyou for your words of wisdom I love love LOVE hearing ways in which woman have been successful at conceiving.

*I also believe strongly at analysing and getting to know your body (ie: mucous) aswell. I also find 'maybe baby' an ovulating kit helps, one of those one off purchases that you can keep on using. It's much cheaper then continually purchasing ovulating sticks.
*Yes! i have heard going upside down helps the swimmers swim up the stream easier after sex
*I thought sperm was stronger in the mornings? though i often find we only have the energy at nights so nights work for us hehe
*Sorry what was with the damp wash cloth? im thinking theres a technical explanation behind it!

 

[xxx_faithful]

Just wanted to share this today. I was talking to my mom about the forum and the inspiration that so many of the women on here have given me and I began telling her about various stories I have heard of long term TTC and the various disappointments and miscarriages some women have encountered that I was just in awe of their strength and faith in God. She told me she wanted me to share her story with all of you, and maybe it would be able to bring hope or healing to women suffering through understanding God's plans.

When she and my father got married they tried for 7 years to become pregnant. Finally, they were rewarded with a positive result and rejoiced in the fact that they were starting a family. After a few weeks my mom started to get pains on her left side and so she went in to her doctor. They found out that she had suffered an ectopic pregnancy and went into surgery to remove everything. Of course they were crushed, but a few months later became pregnant again. This pregnancy was carried to full term and resulted in my birth. After that she has had two more miscarriages and two more healthy children. She always states that God has given her six children to love, and that she just has to wait until she gets to heaven to meet the other three. What really touches my heart is when she tells me, “I was beyond upset and hurt when I lost that first baby, and for years I never understood why. But now I know that if God hadn’t taken that child, I would never have been able to have you (me) and you are my best friend.”

I know that at times I struggle to understand what God’s plan is for my life, and I have issues accepting the big picture when I can only see a partially completed puzzle but this cements the fact to me even more that of course God is right in everything. Every plan is perfectly thought out to its completion and even though we may not understand at the time why certain things are happening if we continue to have faith and trust in God’s timing eventually we will see all of his wonderful plans come to fruition.

Thankyou so much for this!! Tell your mum thankyou

 

[rquanborough]

Hi guys

Just a quick update:

got me yesterday afternoon and I had lab confirm negative test results this morning so it appears it was just a very late cycle. Still having big problems with nausea though so not sure what is going on there. Have no idea at all when I will be due to ovulate this time round so not sure how to plan for it. Decided to try and temp this cycle so I get some ideas although it will probably be too late to sort anything out once I do know when I have ovulated. Must try and get DH to regularly. Might not be on until after I think I have ovulated though.

Best wishes to all of those who are still hoping for this month, congratulations to all of those who have and sorry for all of those with