Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[minimoocow]

Hello all,

Was listening to this on the way home

Will your anchor hold in the storms of life,
When the clouds unfold their wings of strife?
When the strong tides lift and the cables strain,
Will your anchor drift, or firm remain?

Refrain

We have an anchor that keeps the soul
Steadfast and sure while the billows roll,
Fastened to the Rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Savior’s love.

It is safely moored, ’twill the storm withstand,
For ’tis well secured by the Savior’s hand;
And the cables, passed from His heart to mine,
Can defy that blast, thro’ strength divine.


and it seems more relevant today then usual, maybe just because AF arrived this morning and I'm feeling very empty.

So, whilst our faith might be tested at the minute my prayer today is for those ladies TTC that don't have a faith - imaging how painful it must be to be feeling as we do and yet have nothing to hold onto. Using the song analogy - imagine being in a stormy sea with no anchor (Or on Godsjewel's plane with no idea whether the pilots on board!)

It must be a pretty scary and loney place so today I am keeping those ladies in my thoughts

x

 

[Heather11]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

So glad to hear it wasn't anything serious! and YAY for ovulating!!!!

 

[Godsjewel]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

So glad to hear it wasn't anything serious! and YAY for ovulating!!!!

How was your spa day sweetheart? Bet it was lovely

 

[Heather11]

FINALLY! they came today and the doctor said the bleeding is probably from ovulation, called ovulatory bleeding. Stinks because I am on my 6th day of bleeding, no fun! But praise God it wasn't anything serious.

So glad to hear it wasn't anything serious! and YAY for ovulating!!!!

How was your spa day sweetheart? Bet it was lovely

It really was so wonderful! Just what I needed!

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Thank you ladies. This thread is just what I needed today. I've been feeling really disheartened about this journey to baby number 2 and it's nice to hear positive Godly perspectives when all I feel is deflated. I was much happier to wait for God's timing on our first baby than I have been this time around (and we didn't have any miscarriages before our daughter was born) so it feels harder this time. I had been given amazing promises for my first as well when we had been told that we probably wouldn't fall naturally, so I never have up on God being faithful.

This time we've already been 'blessed' I know to have fallen twice (!!) in just over 3 months, but it's a while new level of heartbreak to lose those babies that you begin to make plans for...

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Whoops, I didn't mean to submit just then.

I need prayer for the waiting, and that I'll make it quickly through three depression I've been feeling over these beautiful angels that have been taken to be with or Lord. I need to be the best mother I can be to the little girl we have and I've been struggling with that (enter Satan to tell me that maybe that's why God won't give me a second one...).

And my husband doesn't understand... Thanks for the prayer xxx

 

[Mummy_2_One]

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[Godsjewel]

Psalm 119:105

Have you ever tried to walk through a house late at night when the electricity has gone out? It is pitch black and you can’t see your hand in front of your face. You might not even be quite sure of where you are in the room--until your toe finds the leg of your coffee table! Ouch!

Eventually, you find a flashlight. You click it on and the light floods the space around you. Where do you shine it? You shine its light on the floor just in front of your feet. It would be silly to try to use this flashlight to light up your entire home, or even a room on the other side of the house. You need it to show you where to take your next step. You don’t need to see what’s hidden underneath the bed in the guest bedroom. You just need to know where to place your foot so that you don’t stumble and fall.

God has promised that His Word will be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path. Infertility can be a very dark time in your life, filled with questions and very hurtful emotions. Why not search Scripture for God’s guidance? Jeremiah 29:13 says “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” There’s a little bit of light shining in the dark days when you don’t know what to do. Search for God, and He’ll be found by you.

Does that mean that He will instantly reveal His entire plan to you, complete with all the details surrounding the resolution of your infertility story? Not likely. Many struggling women have said, “If I just knew that God really was going to give me a baby, I could get through the darkness of this night! I could hold up under the pressure if I knew for certain that at the end I’d have a baby!” Remember that the flashlight only shows you the area right around you. It gives just enough light for you to take the next step. Sometimes God does the same. He doesn’t reveal His entire plan to you. He just illuminates your way enough for you to take the next step, to make the next decision, to get through the next day or the next hour. He knows you are traveling infertility’s journey. Through His Word, He can shine a light to this path and help you know what His beautiful plan is for you and your family.

Dive in to the Word of God. You’ll find help there. You’ll find encouragement there. Most of all, you’ll find God there.

~Author Unknown

 

[Godsjewel]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

 

[Mummy_2_One]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

This is beautiful... And it's already true for me for my daughter that we struggled for. Thank you for sharing. What an amazing challenge not to be complacent about having another child. So many of my friends have seemed so much less amazed and excited by number 2 and I had already recognised that I didn't want to be like that. I think in the loses we've experienced these last few months He's making sure of it.

Godsjewel, you wil be an AMAZING mother... x

 

[Godsjewel]

Whoops, I didn't mean to submit just then.

I need prayer for the waiting, and that I'll make it quickly through three depression I've been feeling over these beautiful angels that have been taken to be with or Lord. I need to be the best mother I can be to the little girl we have and I've been struggling with that (enter Satan to tell me that maybe that's why God won't give me a second one...).

And my husband doesn't understand... Thanks for the prayer xxx

I'm sorry you are having a hard time, I can't even imagine going through the pain of miscarriage. I know our God is a healer and the devil has been defeated. When those feelings of depression start to creep, start shouting the name of Jesus and giving Him praise. It may be hard at first, but choose to be happy for the joy of the Lord is our strength.

There is no reason to be depressed when you have Jesus in your heart, a wonderful husband and beautiful little girl

 

[Godsjewel]

Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases.

Psalm 103:2-3 NLT

 

[Heather11]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

Love this!

 

[wristwatch24]

BETHANY DILLON LYRICS
Performed By Bethany Dillon

Who can hold the stars
And my weary heart?
Who can see everything?

I've fallen so hard
Sometimes I feel so far
But not beyond your reach

I could climb a mountain
Swim the ocean
Or do anything
But it's when you hold me
That I start unfolding
And all I can say is

Hallelujah, hallelujah
Whatever's in front of me
Help me to sing hallelujah
Hallelujah, hallelujah
Whatever's in front of me
I'll choose to sing hallelujah

The same sun that
Rises over castles
And welcomes the day

Spills over buildings
Into the streets
Where orphans play

And only you can see the good
In broken things
You took my heart of stone
And you made it home
And set this prisoner free

Thanks for posting this! I just checked out Bethany Dillon's music and I adore it! The song "To Those Who Wait" is also very appropriate for this thread:

"To Those Who Wait"

I am waiting on You,
I am waiting on You.
You say You’re good to those who wait.

My heart’s discouraged,
So I come to You expectant.
You say You’re good to those who wait.

Lord, today You know what I need to do,
But You can do more in my waiting than in my doing I could do.
So I won’t run anymore.
I’m waiting on You.

Oh, wretched man that I am!
Free me from my distractions.
You say You’re good to those who wait.

Then confession and repentance
Find me in the quiet.
You say You’re good to those who wait.
Now I know You’re good to those who wait.

Lord, today You know what I need to do,
But You can do more in my waiting than in my doing I could do.
So I won’t run anymore.
I’m waiting on You.

Oh, my soul,
Wait upon the Lord.
Keep your lamp filled with oil.
Oh, my soul,
Be not deceived!
Wait for Him.
Don’t be quick to leave.

Lord, today You know what I need to do,
But You can do more in my waiting than in my doing I could do.
So I won’t run anymore.
I’m waiting on You.

 

[MrsGreen12]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

I thank you soooo much for this. I've been truly struggling the last few weeks after losing my first baby to a miscarriage. It's so overwhelming, at times I feel like I have been actually knocked over with grief. I have no doubt that the Lord's plan is always correct and that He will bring me through this as He as done through so many other trials, but the loss of a child, no matter how early, is a pain to the heart and soul for which ONLY the Lord can provide comfort. And I can honestly say that these words you posted were have touched my heart like only that which is anointed by Him can and for that I am truly grateful.

God bless

 

[Godsjewel]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

I thank you soooo much for this. I've been truly struggling the last few weeks after losing my first baby to a miscarriage. It's so overwhelming, at times I feel like I have been actually knocked over with grief. I have no doubt that the Lord's plan is always correct and that He will bring me through this as He as done through so many other trials, but the loss of a child, no matter how early, is a pain to the heart and soul for which ONLY the Lord can provide comfort. And I can honestly say that these words you posted were have touched my heart like only that which is anointed by Him can and for that I am truly grateful.

God bless

I'm very sorry to hear about your angel.

God is so good, even when things aren't going the way we want or plan, He never leaves our side and always has something good in store for us. I am believing by faith that the next time you get pregnant, you will carry that precious child full term.

And He will love thee, and bless thee, and multiply thee: He will also bless the fruit of thy womb...Deuteronomy 7:13

 

[xxx_faithful]

I saw this on another thread and wanted to share...

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.

Oh my goodness. This is the sweetest thing i have ever read. Thankyou so much for sharing this with us all. This is so very true to all you special ladies xoxooxx

 

[xxx_faithful]

Thanks rquanborough, I love that song!

Hope I can jump in ladies. My DH and I have been so blessed with a beautiful little girl, but we've been TTC number 2 and have had 2 MCs in 4 months. I was angry at God for the first one, but I feel really at peace about this most recent one (only last weekend), and I just feel like I've been given amazing promises for another baby - in HIS time.

Is this the kind of thread where I can share some 'tactics'? We've successfully conceived 3 times out of 4 cycles trying since I found out a few helpful tips, and I'm keen to share if that's ok...? Before this method, we tried for 9 months for our daughter with no luck.

Hi

Yes please!!! I would love to hear some advice on how you managed to fall pregnant 3 out of 4 cycles. That would be much appreciated.
And maybe we can all share in a bit of our own advice which has helped with ovulation, regular periods, and even conceiving.

Xoxox

 

[Just_married]

Well ladies, I'm out for another cycle. Onto cycle 17. And I have a throat infection. I'm praying I don't have another horrible experience like last month.

On a positive note, I've managed to book an hsg for a week today. Any advice on how to handle it etc?

On an even more positive note, thank you Yahweh for giving me a husband, for my 16yr old, for delicious food in my cupboard, for hot and cold clean running water, a roof over my head, beautiful clothing, friends and family, silly daytime tv, chocolate and crisps I am buying today, paracetamol and hope for next cycle.

Remember me Father! My womb is blessed!!

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Thanks for your post Just_Married. It can be so easy to become complacent about all the amazing blessings we have in our lives when it seems like all we can focus on is the one thing we desperately want but don't yet have.

I'll be praying for you. x