Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Godsjewel]

So what’s been going on with you ladies lately?

I sadly had a little breakdown on my birthday …I was really hoping that I was going to be blessed with a BFP, but instead got AF. I fell on my knees before the Lord in tears telling Him I can’t do this anymore and that I want more than anything to completely give it all to Him. I don’t want to go month to month thinking of ttc and all that other stuff, I want to keep my eyes on Jesus and be the best wife to my hubby and best mom to Taylor I can be. It’s hard sometimes to give it all to God and it feels like most of the time I do…it’s just those times where I try to grab hold of it again and try to do all I can to make it happen… and I can’t… I need to leave it in the hands of our Heavenly Father. I will no longer see a fertility specialist, take meds, do IUI’s, or track my ovulation. I want to be free of this and I know God will get the glory the day I am blessed with a child.

As for the doctors visit, she did a physical exam and said my ovaries and uterus feel fine and she doesn’t know why I’m spotting and having lower ab pain and since this is the first month that this has been happening, she wants me to wait a couple more cycles to see if it happens again. She said it could possibly be the endometriosis coming back. I asked if we should do an ultrasound to make sure and she said there was no need since she didn’t feel anything abnormal. I’m just praying that all these symptoms disappear and that my body will start to function the way God intended it to.

I’m so looking forward to hearing praise reports soon.

Thanks for posting this hun it's good to testify in faith about where the Lord has us.

For the last month the Lord has been speaking with me about being content with my life.Not looking at what I don't have but what I do have and giving Him praise for it,daily.I have realised how I base my joy in my circumstances rather than in the Lord Himself.And I continuously keep falling back into that.I guess He has been teaching me that He is enough for me,no matter what my life looks like.No matter how things turn out,no matter if I do or don't have the things which I want,He is trying to prove Himself to be enough for me.

I don't ttc anymore I concluded,like you that if He wants to make me pregnant then He will,because He has done much more with a 16 year old who has sex one time and becomes pregnant on accident (He is the ONLY giver of life).This miracle is on Him!

xx

yay! I can finally see your beautiful face...you are gorgeous Bree

 

[PrincessBree]

So what’s been going on with you ladies lately?

I sadly had a little breakdown on my birthday …I was really hoping that I was going to be blessed with a BFP, but instead got AF. I fell on my knees before the Lord in tears telling Him I can’t do this anymore and that I want more than anything to completely give it all to Him. I don’t want to go month to month thinking of ttc and all that other stuff, I want to keep my eyes on Jesus and be the best wife to my hubby and best mom to Taylor I can be. It’s hard sometimes to give it all to God and it feels like most of the time I do…it’s just those times where I try to grab hold of it again and try to do all I can to make it happen… and I can’t… I need to leave it in the hands of our Heavenly Father. I will no longer see a fertility specialist, take meds, do IUI’s, or track my ovulation. I want to be free of this and I know God will get the glory the day I am blessed with a child.

As for the doctors visit, she did a physical exam and said my ovaries and uterus feel fine and she doesn’t know why I’m spotting and having lower ab pain and since this is the first month that this has been happening, she wants me to wait a couple more cycles to see if it happens again. She said it could possibly be the endometriosis coming back. I asked if we should do an ultrasound to make sure and she said there was no need since she didn’t feel anything abnormal. I’m just praying that all these symptoms disappear and that my body will start to function the way God intended it to.

I’m so looking forward to hearing praise reports soon.

Thanks for posting this hun it's good to testify in faith about where the Lord has us.

For the last month the Lord has been speaking with me about being content with my life.Not looking at what I don't have but what I do have and giving Him praise for it,daily.I have realised how I base my joy in my circumstances rather than in the Lord Himself.And I continuously keep falling back into that.I guess He has been teaching me that He is enough for me,no matter what my life looks like.No matter how things turn out,no matter if I do or don't have the things which I want,He is trying to prove Himself to be enough for me.

I don't ttc anymore I concluded,like you that if He wants to make me pregnant then He will,because He has done much more with a 16 year old who has sex one time and becomes pregnant on accident (He is the ONLY giver of life).This miracle is on Him!

xx

yay! I can finally see your beautiful face...you are gorgeous Bree

O lol I wasnt expecting that as a response LOL,thank you hun!xx

 

[HisGrace]

Bree and Sarah I can totally understand where you're coming from. When I went on vacation this summer, I thought I had truly given it all to God. I was at a good place reflecting on all God had given me (a loving husband, a great job, a truly happy marriage, my health, wealth, the list could go on and on). I felt like I was being selfish so I asked Him to remove the desire if it wasn't for me and I gave it to Him (or at least that's what I thought). By the TWW of the next cycle, i was anxious again. Then I received a word on contentment, that released me from the guilt I felt at not being happy with what God has given me. It's a balance, and it's not easy. I have to consciously remind myself of the things I have when I start to get too anxious about TTC. I've not conquered it yet by any means, but I have faith that if children are not His will for me, then He will make it alright with me. Until that time, I will continue to have faith that He has children for me.

I'm done with the timelines I created for my life because they've all been smashed. I'm just trusting that the more He purifies me of the discontentment, the envy, and all the other sins I had buried so deep, the closer I will get to becoming a mother. No other struggle has brought me closer to God than the one with TTC. My faith has not been tested more than now with any other struggle. So whether he blesses me with children or not, this struggle has not been in vain for me and I trust it has not been in vain for you either. I have faith that it will happen and I rejoice now for our children. I rejoice for our husbands and our marriages. I rejoice for all the wonderful things He's already done and is doing right now in our lives. And I rejoice in this struggle because I am a much better person because of it. If God would have given my husband and I that BFP 17 months ago when we started trying, I would not have been the parent that I know I'll be after having experienced this struggle. So, I rejoice for this, and I keep the faith that the vision shall come to pass at the perfect moment and I listen for Him to lead me and direct me. If He leads me to surgery to remove the fibroids, then I'll do it. The doctors or the surgery won't get the glory; God will. If He leads me to IVF, then I'll do it, but but He will get the glory not the procedure. If He leads me to Clomid or any other drugs, then I'll do it, but again He gets the glory. Currently, I just don't feel he's lead me in those directions so I'm not going that route. The doctors may think I'm crazy to not follow their advice but I don't want to do this out of His perfect timing. So Bree and Sarah, if God is leading you to stop temping, OPKs, feet in the air, and all the other things we do to TTC, then it's for a reason. Maybe those things would have cause you to BD on the wrong day and caused the wrong sperm to fertilize the egg. He's miticulous He's leading you that way for a reason. Stand firm in your decision and listen. I love you all, and I pray this hasn't offended.

 

[Godsjewel]

Bree and Sarah I can totally understand where you're coming from. When I went on vacation this summer, I thought I had truly given it all to God. I was at a good place reflecting on all God had given me (a loving husband, a great job, a truly happy marriage, my health, wealth, the list could go on and on). I felt like I was being selfish so I asked Him to remove the desire if it wasn't for me and I gave it to Him (or at least that's what I thought). By the TWW of the next cycle, i was anxious again. Then I received a word on contentment, that released me from the guilt I felt at not being happy with what God has given me. It's a balance, and it's not easy. I have to consciously remind myself of the things I have when I start to get too anxious about TTC. I've not conquered it yet by any means, but I have faith that if children are not His will for me, then He will make it alright with me. Until that time, I will continue to have faith that He has children for me.

I'm done with the timelines I created for my life because they've all been smashed. I'm just trusting that the more He purifies me of the discontentment, the envy, and all the other sins I had buried so deep, the closer I will get to becoming a mother. No other struggle has brought me closer to God than the one with TTC. My faith has not been tested more than now with any other struggle. So whether he blesses me with children or not, this struggle has not been in vain for me and I trust it has not been in vain for you either. I have faith that it will happen and I rejoice now for our children. I rejoice for our husbands and our marriages. I rejoice for all the wonderful things He's already done and is doing right now in our lives. And I rejoice in this struggle because I am a much better person because of it. If God would have given my husband and I that BFP 17 months ago when we started trying, I would not have been the parent that I know I'll be after having experienced this struggle. So, I rejoice for this, and I keep the faith that the vision shall come to pass at the perfect moment and I listen for Him to lead me and direct me. If He leads me to surgery to remove the fibroids, then I'll do it. The doctors or the surgery won't get the glory; God will. If He leads me to IVF, then I'll do it, but but He will get the glory not the procedure. If He leads me to Clomid or any other drugs, then I'll do it, but again He gets the glory. Currently, I just don't feel he's lead me in those directions so I'm not going that route. The doctors may think I'm crazy to not follow their advice but I don't want to do this out of His perfect timing. So Bree and Sarah, if God is leading you to stop temping, OPKs, feet in the air, and all the other things we do to TTC, then it's for a reason. Maybe those things would have cause you to BD on the wrong day and caused the wrong sperm to fertilize the egg. He's miticulous He's leading you that way for a reason. Stand firm in your decision and listen. I love you all, and I pray this hasn't offended.

Amen, I'm in total agreement with you sweetheart. Thank you for sharing this. You are a blessing

 

[Praying4bump]

I was just studying my Bible and came across this verse. It really blessed me and will help me to get over my miscarriage. I think it can help out others that have miscarried and those who keep going cycles without a bfp.

Isaiah 43:18-19 says, "Forget about what's happened. Don't keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I'm about to do something brand new. It's bursting out, don't you see it?"

So forget about last cycle and all the other bfn's you've seen month after month. Go into this cycle with a new attitude, a renewed spirit. God is bringing life to this thread! Praise God!

Amen!

 

[Shellvz]

I have come to the same place. I have given up the striving and the struggling and the obsessing...

I am surrendered to what God has for me and feel really good about it. I stopped temping which was so easy to do - and slept so beautifully!

I have one more test - CD21 blood test on Monday 16th. So I began temping again to confirm ovulation before the blood tests my progesterone levels. As soon as I get my crosshairs I will stop temping again.

It feels so freeing to not come home from work to poas for OPK tests, wake every other hour to see if it was nearly time to test temp and constant reading into every symptom and temp shift.

I am so looking forward to crosshairs so I can stop again

 

[Heather11]

Distractions

Have you ever noticed that anytime you decide to spend time with God that something or someone gets in the way? Your crazy friend (we all have them) calls to tell you how her kids are making her nuts, or your cousin emails you her latest sonogram picture. Or perhaps you start your period again, and realize that your long sought after dream of pregnancy will have to wait for at least another month. All this happens just when you settle down with your Bible to find a few precious moments of quiet time alone with God. Instead of a few moments of peace with the Prince of Peace, you’re sobbing into your pillow again. Your mind isn’t on the goodness of God. It’s on the emptiness of your womb.

Satan’s primary battlefield is your mind. He would love to bombard your mind with so many distractions that you forget to focus on the realities of who God is. Just when you determine to walk in the truth that God is for you and not against you, Satan will remind you of how many of your school classmates have had babies, and many are pregnant with their second, yet you have none. He’ll whisper to your heart, “Does that sound like God is for you?” Don’t allow him to distract you with lies! Remember that Satan is the father of lies, and he uses them well.

People around us can cause distractions to your worship as well. People can be stupid sometimes! Plain and simple! They can say and do hurtful things that leave us scratching our heads in confusion. Why did she say that? Why did they do that? What did I do to deserve this? Anger starts to build and we get distracted from our worship again. “She knows better than that! She knows it just about kills me every time I hear her tell about her labor and delivery! She knows it rips my heart out! Why can’t she understand how hard this is for me? Why doesn’t she care about me more?” It really does seem like those around us should know better, doesn’t it? It seems like those who have loved us our entire lives should understand the hurts we carry, but so often they don’t. Friends and family members somehow can’t see inside our hearts and see the burdens and scars our hearts bear.

Infertility consumes us. It overwhelms every part of us. It infiltrates our emotions, our relationships, our finances, our intimacies. It becomes so much a part of so much of who we are. Without realizing it, we begin to expect people around us to understand what it’s like to be infertile. We long for understanding that we cannot even verbalize. I wonder if we are not holding people to a standard that only God Himself can meet? When we do so, we become distracted and shift our focus away from a perfect God and onto imperfect people.

If you find yourself angry or frustrated today, perhaps you have become distracted. Perhaps you have shifted your gaze away from a perfect God to imperfect people. It’s easy to do, isn’t it? Why not make a conscious choice to shift your gaze and your affections back to our perfect God. Look on Him. Tell Him how amazing He is. Talk about His wonders and His deeds. If you don’t know what to say, flip your bible open to the Psalms. David wrote many of the Psalms and he had quite a way with words! He’ll help you get started! Before long, you may find praise pouring from your own tongue.

Infertility is a lot of things. It is a physical, emotional, relational and financial crisis in a young couple’s life. It is an anvil on which many marriages are strengthened and some are destroyed. It is definitely a time of spiritual maturity. It can also be a huge distraction to prayer and worship. Don’t allow infertility to stand in the way of worshipping the God who gave His Baby for you. Instead, let it be the vehicle that carries you to the God who loves you, who has amazing plans for your life, and who rejoices over you with singing.

The part I bolded hits home so hard. I feel so alone in this journey and I thought my friends would be there for me and yet it seems like some of them are no where to be found.....are they letting me down or am I expecting too much of them?! These days it seems maybe a little of both!

 

[HisGrace]

For those of us actively TTC and are feeling consumed with thoughts of TTC, throughout your day when the issue comes into your mind, don't spend time worrying; spend time handing the issue over to God.

 

[uwa_amanda]

Hey ladies!!

It's been quite a while since I have posted on this thread...not sure if I have updated you on our situation, so here goes...

We stopped ttc in May after my last doctor's appt and my DH's most recent SA (not too peachy and questionable results). Tossed the OPK's, fertility meds, hid the thermometer (like I was really using it anyway lol), and everything. I'm not exactly sure where that leads us on our ttc journey and whether we are going to start trying again any time soon. For the first month, I was okay; second, okay; third month, had a mini-meltdown; now, I seem to be okay with it. I felt like I was spending too much of my time worrying over something that I truly had no control over, with or without the fertility meds and stuff. It was definitely a relief for me to have the strength to put all of that stuff down. I feel like God has other plans for us in this stage of our lives and will lead us back to eventually ttc again when His timing is right...not ours!

 

[HisGrace]

Hi uwa_amanda. Do you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders?

 

[Godsjewel]

The part I bolded hits home so hard. I feel so alone in this journey and I thought my friends would be there for me and yet it seems like some of them are no where to be found.....are they letting me down or am I expecting too much of them?! These days it seems maybe a little of both!

And that's exactly why I love this thread, because I know you all are here for me, to encourage me. It's hard to rely on our friends when they can't understand our struggle and I find the best thing to do is go to God with all your cares, worries and anxieties and He will bring a peace that passes all understanding.

 

[Godsjewel]

Hey ladies!!

It's been quite a while since I have posted on this thread...not sure if I have updated you on our situation, so here goes...

We stopped ttc in May after my last doctor's appt and my DH's most recent SA (not too peachy and questionable results). Tossed the OPK's, fertility meds, hid the thermometer (like I was really using it anyway lol), and everything. I'm not exactly sure where that leads us on our ttc journey and whether we are going to start trying again any time soon. For the first month, I was okay; second, okay; third month, had a mini-meltdown; now, I seem to be okay with it. I felt like I was spending too much of my time worrying over something that I truly had no control over, with or without the fertility meds and stuff. It was definitely a relief for me to have the strength to put all of that stuff down. I feel like God has other plans for us in this stage of our lives and will lead us back to eventually ttc again when His timing is right...not ours!

Yay! we missed you sweetie

I'm so blessed to know you're doing good and are in a good place. God has nothing but good in store for you and hubby.

 

[Godsjewel]

For those of us actively TTC and are feeling consumed with thoughts of TTC, throughout your day when the issue comes into your mind, don't spend time worrying; spend time handing the issue over to God.

Hi dear
That can be easier said than done sometimes, but that's exactly what we need to do.

 

[Godsjewel]

You have dealt well with Your servant, O Lord, according to Your word. Teach me good discernment and knowledge, for I believe in Your commandments. Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I keep your word.

Psalm 119:65-67

Do you realize that God can bring good out of your struggle with infertility? It seems that nothing good can come from this, doesn’t it? It seems that some days all you can possibly imagine is the hurt that comes from it. It hurts when someone asks you why you don’t have children yet, and you can’t think of an answer. It hurts when you run into a former classmate with her three children in tow, and you have nothing but the newest round of prescriptions in hand. It hurts when you start another period and another year without a pregnancy. It hurts when you must look your only child in the face and explain that you don’t know if she’ll ever have a sibling. It hurts when you’ve trusted a silent God through month after month after year after year of trying to have a baby, but He still won’t place a baby in your womb.

How can I seriously ask you accept that this same God can bring good from your as-of-yet unmet desire for a baby? It may be hard to see while you are in the midst of the fight, but I believe the day will come when you will be able to look back at your fertility fight with sincere gratitude. One day you’ll offer praise to the same God who took you by the hand and led you through the very difficult and dark valleys He is leading you through today, even if you cannot sense His presence at this moment.

Perhaps the answer is found in Psalm 119:65-67. Read it with me, my friend.

“You have dealt well with Your servant, O Lord, according to Your word. Teach me good discernment and knowledge, for I believe in Your commandments. Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I keep your word.”

What was it like for you before you knew that having a baby would be one of the hardest trials you would ever have to face? How is it different now? For most of us, infertility brings a spiritual crisis. We cry out to God when baby hunger invades our lives. Do you search the Scriptures for answers? Do you seek the advice of godly counsel? Perhaps you’ve started going to church again when you had become slack in your devotion to God when life was easy. If any of these situations are the case, then infertility has been a blessing in your life! If the hardship that infertility brings to your life has caused you to seek out God in any way, then along with the difficulty it brings, infertility has also delivered a blessing to your life!

Anything that causes you to seek out God brings blessing to you. Any situation that drives you to your knees is good for you. Don’t misunderstand me--I know infertility is probably the most confusing and hurtful situation you’ve ever faced. However, along with heartache, infertility carries with it the blessing of being a catalyst in intensifying your relationship with God. Because of the hurt of infertility, you may call on God for healing. Because of the confusion infertility brings, you seek the wisdom of God. Because you recognize God as the one and only giver of life, you bow in submission and ask Him to place life in your womb.

When you reach the other side of your infertility story, and you are able to look back at how your story resolved, how do you think you’ll view God? Do you think you’ll have a different view than you had at the beginning of your walk with Him? As you walk through the hardships of infertility, you’re learning more and more about God and His character in ways you never could have learned any other way. Why would you ever want to stray from Him?

Before you were afflicted--before infertility tore your heart in two--you might not have been so determined to learn of God. You might not have been so desperate to know His plan for your life. Infertility forced you to call His Name in ways you never cared to before. Once you know God in intimate ways, why would you ever want to stray?

 

[beckysprayer]

I was just studying my Bible and came across this verse. It really blessed me and will help me to get over my miscarriage. I think it can help out others that have miscarried and those who keep going cycles without a bfp.

Isaiah 43:18-19 says, "Forget about what's happened. Don't keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I'm about to do something brand new. It's bursting out, don't you see it?"

So forget about last cycle and all the other bfn's you've seen month after month. Go into this cycle with a new attitude, a renewed spirit. God is bringing life to this thread! Praise God!

LOVE this! I am going to highlight this in my Bible right away. Thanks for sharing, that is a great verse!

 

[beckysprayer]

I'm praying for all of you. What wonderful testimonies to God's love and power are in store for all of you.

 

[uwa_amanda]

Hi uwa_amanda. Do you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders?

I absolutely do!

 

[PrincessBree]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMyZLYCxINo

This song has literally been on replay right here in my headphones at work!What a wonderful reminder that God is for us in this walk and not against us!He loves us so much and wants to show us that each day even in the hard times!He is so good to us!Love you ladies!x

 

[HisGrace]

For those of us actively TTC and are feeling consumed with thoughts of TTC, throughout your day when the issue comes into your mind, don't spend time worrying; spend time handing the issue over to God.

Hi dear
That can be easier said than done sometimes, but that's exactly what we need to do.

Oh, I know. I came across this and it blessed me so I decided to share it. I meant no harm. I know you and a few others are no longer actively trying. I meant that for those of us that are still actively trying and struggling with it. I came across it and thought this is exactly what I need to do instead of trying to fight the feelings myself. Im sorry if I offended you or anyone else. I honestly meant no harm. I pray you all stay blessed. Take care.

 

[PrincessBree]

Hey ladies!!

It's been quite a while since I have posted on this thread...not sure if I have updated you on our situation, so here goes...

We stopped ttc in May after my last doctor's appt and my DH's most recent SA (not too peachy and questionable results). Tossed the OPK's, fertility meds, hid the thermometer (like I was really using it anyway lol), and everything. I'm not exactly sure where that leads us on our ttc journey and whether we are going to start trying again any time soon. For the first month, I was okay; second, okay; third month, had a mini-meltdown; now, I seem to be okay with it. I felt like I was spending too much of my time worrying over something that I truly had no control over, with or without the fertility meds and stuff. It was definitely a relief for me to have the strength to put all of that stuff down. I feel like God has other plans for us in this stage of our lives and will lead us back to eventually ttc again when His timing is right...not ours!

Hey hun!wonderful to hear from you!nice to hear update from you hun and so glad that God is blessing you and dh!may He give you peace in your heart concerning your decision to wait on His timing xx