Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Godsjewel]

This made me sob. My husband has been a nightmare lately. He quit smoking 3 months ago and since then has turned into another person. He is angry all the time. He hates doing anything with the family. He is always accusing me of being lazy and overreacting. He yells at the kids for no reason. A lot of the time I just want him to go away. I have been very sick for the past 2 days with a nasty stomach virus and he keeps telling me its all in my head. I had to call my dad to take me to the hospital because my husband did not believe it was as serious as it is. Now he is angry that I had to take the time off work and won't be paid for it. I'm so frustrated and fed up and finished. He refuses to see a councilor and won't talk to anyone. I spend my life walking on egg shells and crying in private. He is not the man I married.

I'm so sorry my dear. I agree with the others ladies that have posted and I'm sure its got to be very hard to deal with but I'm glad he has taken the step to quit smoking, I've heard it's a hard addiction to kick.

Please remember that his mood swings aren't actually about you. No matter what hurtful things that he says or does when he's moody, you have to put up a barrier and remember that its not true, and its not your fault. You have to adapt yourself mentally in order to be able to handle this and I know God will give you the strength to do so.

I will be praying for you and your family

 

[Godsjewel]

AFM, well, on Tuesday I thought I had a positive test...colored band, very faint. Yesterday it was negative and my temperature dropped .3 degrees this morning. So, I'm pretty sure that if I was pregnant it was a chemical and I should get AF as scheduled. I'm sad, but hopeful that this is a taste of things to come and that I will have two beautiful dark lines to talk about soon.

Sorry hun. Your positive outlook is refreshing and just know that God has nothing but good in store for you.

 

[No Doubt]

Pro, sorry about the bfn, but you have a very positive outlook. I hope you are right will have two beautiful lines to talk about soon!

 

[Godsjewel]

The other night I was laying in bed with multiple things running through my mind and I was thinking how it's not fair that AF symptoms mimic pregnancy symptoms.

I thought it would be funny to see what you would like the symptom to be that would tell you that you're pregnant.

I'll start...

I think it would be cool if your toe nails turned purple or whatever your favorite color is, that way it can be hidden with nail polish or socks if you don't want anyone to know.

What would you like your symptom to be?

 

[ProfWife]

I love that concept!

Hmm...how about something funny...perhaps a craving for only baby named foods (baby corn, baby back ribs, etc.) so you'd have to figure it out?

 

[PrincessBree]

Ok me next~id love it to be like uncontrollable fits of laughter like belly laughter where tears roll down your face and your stomach aches Take the test and voila....pregnant lol xx

I actually started to laugh as i wrote this ....if only it were that easy!!!lool xx

 

[Godsjewel]

I don't mean to be a debbie downer, I have another update on my fil. The group of surgeons finally had a chance to meet after running several more tests and all of the surgeons thought trying to do a double bypass was too risky. They said even if the bypass was a success, he'd have to another one in 6 years. So his cardiologist got pulled in and it was decided that he will have an angioplasty (not sure if I'm spelling that right) but basically they will go in through the groin...again...with balloons and stints in the two arteries that are blocked. He will have to take meds for a year and go to a special clinic, change his diet and stick to a strict regiment, and reduce his stress level. The good is that he doesn't have to have open heart surgery, and they said he could go back to work in a couple weeks, although I don't think he should, but they said if his work is too stressful, he'll have to find something else or not work. The bad side is that this surgery is very risky. They said only two doctors in hospital know how to do it and his cardiologist just happens to be one. That has to be the hand of God working. As always ladies I thank you for prayers!

Thank you for keeping us updated. He is still in my prayers and I look forward to hearing a praise report soon

 

[No Doubt]

I'm trying to think of a good preggo symptom, but for some reason am having a hard time. I suck at this, lol. Oh, I got it, what if it was something that only our hubbs could see, like a reflection in our eyes or our eyes a different color only to him.

 

[ProfWife]

LOL - How about the HUSBAND gets the symptoms ;-) That's how we'd know it's not just AF/PMS!

 

[Godsjewel]

LOL - How about the HUSBAND gets the symptoms ;-) That's how we'd know it's not just AF/PMS!

Oh yeah....I love that idea

 

[VGibs]

LOL - How about the HUSBAND gets the symptoms ;-) That's how we'd know it's not just AF/PMS!

LOVE THIS IDEA!!!!!!!!!! All the bloating and morning sickness and constipation and back ache...Oh baby that'd be good.

 

[ProfWife]

I just told my husband...he said if there was anything he could do to take the pressure off me during this wait he would do it. Love him! :-D

 

[QueenKingfish]

I don't mean to be a debbie downer, I have another update on my fil. The group of surgeons finally had a chance to meet after running several more tests and all of the surgeons thought trying to do a double bypass was too risky. They said even if the bypass was a success, he'd have to another one in 6 years. So his cardiologist got pulled in and it was decided that he will have an angioplasty (not sure if I'm spelling that right) but basically they will go in through the groin...again...with balloons and stints in the two arteries that are blocked. He will have to take meds for a year and go to a special clinic, change his diet and stick to a strict regiment, and reduce his stress level. The good is that he doesn't have to have open heart surgery, and they said he could go back to work in a couple weeks, although I don't think he should, but they said if his work is too stressful, he'll have to find something else or not work. The bad side is that this surgery is very risky. They said only two doctors in hospital know how to do it and his cardiologist just happens to be one. That has to be the hand of God working. As always ladies I thank you for prayers!

The angioplasty, while still risky (as ANY surgery is), is MUCH less invasive than an open-heart procedure and may just be the answer to all of our prayers. It sounds a lot like what happened with my (step)Dad, who has made a full recovery (not even on HBP meds!). With him being part of what sounds like a cardiac rehab program, if he sticks with it, the outcome can be much better than with the "slicing and dicing". I will be praying for that!!!

 

[QueenKingfish]

Ooh! I would have to say something completely unrelated to AF/PMS... I'd want my belly button to turn purple or something - so it wouldn't show to everyone, but DH and I would know and be able to giggle at it.

AF update: Boy is my uterus angry that there's no baby in her! haha I'm feeling much better than I was on Tuesday. Yesterday my mom and stepdad came through town on their way home from Seattle (post-cancer check-up for mama - all clear still! PTL!) and we got to visit for a little bit. Then, I dropped DH off at baseball practice and went shopping - got a FAB dress for Resurrection/Easter Sunday (a size smaller than I thought I'd have to get) and resisted ALL other purchases! I'm very proud of that last part, because there was a PERFECT blue handbag to match my new dress (WAY out of my budget) that was REALLY hard to leave at the store, not knowing if she'd go to a good home.

Yesterday, DH went to the next county to take a Sergeant's exam with another trooper who is going through infertility. He came home and started asking questions about different procedures the other couple has gone through. He was really surprised about all of the different steps and options there are. The only thing we've ever really talked about are the treatment options I'm going with right now, so I think his eyes have been opened to everything others have had to do and why I need a little reassurance from time-to-time.

 

[Godsjewel]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_vMXx6O7bM

Be encouraged today that God has not forgotten you and what He has promised will come to pass.

I posted this back in August, it's so good that I wanted to post it again.

 

[Godsjewel]

Yesterday, as I was tucking myself in bed, I heard a knock on my door. Taylor opened the door slowly and then walked towards the side of my bed. She was bawling her eyes out and couldn’t speak a word. My husband followed in behind her and said that Taylor has something she wants to tell me. I’m lying there staring at her asking her over and over what’s wrong and why is she crying. I told her to spin around 3 times, touch the ground and hop on one foot, she did it and laughed…I was trying to get her to calm down so she could speak.

Here is what she said….

“I was on the computer and listening to K-Love (a Christian music station) and when the music stopped, a lady was talking about how she couldn’t have a baby for 3 years, so she adopted a little boy and now she’s pregnant. (Tay starts crying again) That made me think of you and how you feel because you want a baby really bad. I was going to tell you earlier, after we said our bedtime prayer, but I didn’t want to make you sad. After you went to bed I started to feel like I was going to cry, so I went and told dad what happened and he said I should come and tell you.”

How precious is that?!?

I told her that I don’t know the reason why things happen or why our family hasn’t been blessed with a little one yet, but I do know God has a good plan for our family and His timing is perfect. I also told her that it’s good to hear stories like that because it builds our faith and that God still does miracles and He isn’t a respecter of persons, so what He did for that woman, He can do for me. Then we prayed together asking God to touch my body and provide us with a baby in His perfect timing and also for all the ladies on the thread. She knows about BnB, that I talk to ladies on the computer from all over that are praying and believing God for a baby.

After we prayed, I thought to myself…Lord please let this IVF cycle work, not only for me, but for Taylor. I want her to be able to experience this miracle and know that God really does answer prayers.

I’m still doing really well in this waiting time and I know it’s because I’m covered in prayers from you all. I can’t thank you enough for you love and support and pray that I can continue to be encouragement through whatever this journeys outcome may be.

 

[No Doubt]

Oh, goodness...that just made me well up. What a precious little girl. God is still in the miracle business for sure!

Lord, I just pray that you would bless this family. Bless them collectively and individually from the tops of their heads to the soles of their feet. Lord be in the midst of them and provide all of their needs, may it be physically, mentally, emotionally, or spritually as only you know how to do. And we will continue to bless your name and give you praise, in Jesus miraculous name. Amen!

 

[No Doubt]

They just started on my fil's surgery about a half hour ago. They are concerned that there is too much blockage to get through, but with this being the only option they are going to try it. I'm more nervous than I thought I would be. I know that God is working there in the OR. Lord I lift him up to you. I will update when the surgery is over. Thanks again ladies!

 

[Godsjewel]

They just started on my fil's surgery about a half hour ago. They are concerned that there is too much blockage to get through, but with this being the only option they are going to try it. I'm more nervous than I thought I would be. I know that God is working there in the OR. Lord I lift him up to you. I will update when the surgery is over. Thanks again ladies!

Looking forward to a good report!

 

[SuperwomanTTC]

Sarah - That made me cry. Taylor is such a blessing!

No Doubt - Praying for your FIL and for you!