CIO Support Group

[ryder]

Ryder how long do you leave her crying beofre going back in?

It kinda depends on the type of crying... If she is just whining and once in awhile cyring I leave her, if she is actually crying I go in every 5-10 mins and rub her back and put her aquarium on.

Although, like I said, i've only had to do it a couple times, for the most part she is a good sleeper, even when her first tooth broke through, she has never been awake all night, just tried to stay up later then usual.

I dont think enforcing a good sleep routine is cruel or mean, I know its hard to hear them cry, but babies and toddlers need sleep... Even if they think they need to stay up LOL

 

[Always&4ever]

I'm gonna try tonight, il put her into bed at 8:30 and see what happens

 

[ryder]

Good luck! Make sure you have a nice wind down time before...a nds nuggle or whatever and make it nice for her... I will keep my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Always&4ever]

Well shes in bed, so fingers crossed x

 

[BlackBerry25]

Gonna stick with it tonight. She can scream and cry all she wants, she is not leaving her crib, and she is def. not leaving her room.

Good luck Jazzy.

 

[Always&4ever]

Still crying x

 

[rach321]

We've just done this with our LO to drop his night feed that he really didn't need we also always use cio for his afternoon naps. We successfully dropped the night feed after 3 days and he settles so much better for his naps now. It is hard and I spent of lot of time in tears myself the first night but we stuck with it - turn down the baby monitor or wear ear plugs so the noise isn't so raw. I give my LO 5 mins on his own then I peek through the door to make sure he hasn't flipped on to his front and if he's fine then I give him another 5mins then peek again - if he sees me he just gets more and more upset. To be honest the longest he has taken is 40 mins and I checked every 5 mins, sometimes it helps to write down the times that you are going to check on them and tick them off as you go.
You really have to commit to this method and it really helps if you have the support of your partner so you can keep each other from caving in. My LO sleeps pretty much right through now and if he does wake them he settles himself back to sleep in about 5 mins we would never have got to this stage without cio - he used to wake every 2-3 hrs every night. We started the cio when he was 5 1/2 months old.
Any questions please don't hesitate to ask.

 

[taperjeangirl]

Good Luck Jazzy hun!

It's all gone wrong already for us tonight, Daisy fell asleep when se was having her last bottle, so I put her in her cot half asleep and that's where she is now.

I wont lift her if she wakes now... Good luck to everyone CIO tonight

 

[Always&4ever]

Still awake but quiet

 

[taperjeangirl]

Thats great Jazzy!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I first tried it when she was about 6 months but I couldn't do it. She was in her own room by then. But I gave it another go and so she had her dinner, bath, bottle and then she had a cuddle before being put to bed at the same time every night. It was horrible hearing her sobbing. I would go in a couple of times and sit but not pick her up but just let her know I was there. It did take about 3 weeks but eventually she went in her cot and she played with her teddies until she got tired and she went to sleep all by herself with no fuss. I tended to go into the lounge and close the door (we were in a flat and the lounge was next to her room) and take the baby monitor in. If she cried for more than a certain amount of time I would go in, wait a few minutes then go out. As long as you know that they are fed and dry and they aren't ill or anything you know the only reason they cry is fpr your attention. When you give it to them they play on it so it gets much much harder. It is horrible to hear them cry and I know there are a lot of people who don't agree with it but I just think that kids need to learn to do it themselves. You and they will feel better for it in the long run good luck girls!

 

[Always&4ever]

Well she fell asleep at around 10pm, with me and my OH resting on her floor, once she was asleep she woke at 1:30am & and 2:30am but then slept until now (shes just woken up)

 

[cupcake]

glad to see a group was formed for this, we had a thread a while back and i see a lot of us are the same girls as then. its nice to have a guilt -free place to talk about this.
I still co -sleep and have had enough of it, actually had enough at about 9 months but I did try to get LO into his own cot at 6 months but it didnt work , probably coz my heart was not in it and i didnt persevere. I tried the Rapid Return method the other night, staying with LO and putting him back down each time he stood up, i must have put him back down over 100 times, he broke at one point for about 5 min but then he just started all the standing up all over again. he did cry a lot and after 1.5 hours of it, i couldnt take it anymore i nursed him and he fell asleep. I feel my situation is a bit unique coz he has never slept in his cot. When he sleeps with me he sleeps well only waking once. I did try once the CIO with going in every couple of min, he fell asleep after 40 min of crying and stayed alseep for an hour. I think that is the method i am going to use not the rapid return as he just cant go to sleep when i am in the room with him. I will be moving him to his own room very soon and starting again. looking forward to support here.

 

[ryder]

Good luck cupcake!!!!

Keep it up Jazzy! Consistency is key... What time did she wake up? I think if you keep it up she will settle and start sleep[ing better. Its great that she went back to sleep when she did wake up... did she cry alot then too?

 

[cjdcath]

I lasted 6 minutes yesterday!!!! Two visits from me too!!!It was bad, he was so upset his face was so puffy and he could barely open his eyes!!!!! Oh my goodness i felt soo bad!!! And that was just a nap....
However the nightime routine is getting harder to get him to sleep so maybe it is time.... who knows..... This definitely the hardest thing - harder than breastfeeding in the beginning - ouch!!!!

 

[taperjeangirl]

I lasted 6 minutes yesterday!!!! Two visits from me too!!!It was bad, he was so upset his face was so puffy and he could barely open his eyes!!!!! Oh my goodness i felt soo bad!!! And that was just a nap....
However the nightime routine is getting harder to get him to sleep so maybe it is time.... who knows..... This definitely the hardest thing - harder than breastfeeding in the beginning - ouch!!!!

I feel bad too hun, if we can get over that I think we will be home and dry!

Aw good luck tonight girls, daisy is in bed already as I was out this evening and her Daddy put her to bed, there is no way in this world he would let her CIO, he just wouldnt.
I dont think he would mind her still climbing into bed when she is 5 years old

 

[Jkelmum]

how old is old enough to do this ? lily will sleep 9pm until 7am but she sleeps in the room on sofa until we go to bed ..even if asleep when i put her in her cot she will not sleep unless we are in bed

 

[Tegans Mama]

A few of my friends started at about 10 weeks. Sometimes earlier.
I started with Tegan at 9 months, but I actually found that if I went back in she would cry even more, and get more wound up. The easiest thing for us was to put her to bed at the same time every night and leave her to it. Most nights now she just plays for a bit and then goes to sleep. Sometimes she'll cry, and its hard not to give in and get her back up.
But it really is so much easier.. Bedtime was getting out of hand, she was taking an hour + to go to sleep and it got to the point either me or OH was with her for that entire hour and then you literally had to sneak out of the room. Now I put her in bed and walk away. Its brilliant.

Oh, and she's been sleeping through since 8 weeks old..

 

[Jkelmum]

lily is 14 wks and sleeps well its just she wont sleep in her cot when we are out of the room i really would love my evening bk .

 

[taperjeangirl]

yep I think the younger the better doll, I am glad this has been brought up again as I am about to try round 2!

Daisy is a total nightmare to get to sleep so i have to do something, she has started waking up at god awful hours of the morning now too to play! ;dohh:

I think I will try tonight and see how we go!