Clomid club- any ladies on clomid please join x

[k4th]

It may be different in the U.S, but here the max they prescribe you is 6 months. Apparently it can be quite detrimental to take any more. Does anyone know why exactly? And is there really any harm in taking a couple of extra months? My dosage was halved so I have 4 months spare.
I've just finished my 6th round, and was thinking of taking two more months.

Hopefully someone can shed some light. Thank you xx

I'm in the uk & I heard 12 cycles of clomid/femera max. I had 6 of clomid & was then given 3 of femera that I didn't have to take. Personally, I'd just take them in your shoes - your decision

 

[lace&pearls]

hi everyone xxx

hope you're all ok

Fern - Like kath said, on the one hand it's fantastic that the dr gave you the all clear but on the other really frustrating for you not to have answers and to have been messed around in the past .. I agree you guys have a lot going on ltttc is stressful enough without adding on moving etc. hope you're ok xxx a date night would be brilliant I think too

swimmy hope you're ok, i thought hcg could take up to 72 hours to double? but I'm no expert at all xxx thinking of you xxx

jules - happy anniversary! x

arohanui sorry to hear you're in limbo it must be incredibly frustrating xxx

sorry to hear bfn nimbec xxx hope you're feeling alright xxx

congratulations babyjourney! x

 

[Fern81]

Swimmy - so many hugs to you hun. It really does suck and I'm so frustrated for you and all our other thread friends who have had good news turn into bad. Sorry hun and I'm keeping everything crossed that you get a sticky bfp either way, before the end of this year!

Nimbec - I really had high hopes for you this month with all those symptoms! Still hoping you surprise us with some good news.... I totally understand needing a break/moving on. PM me if you ever need to talk. Lots of hugs and love xx

Jules - Will you be ntnp or actively preventing while taking a break? Regarding the cervix questions: Well what I've had tested/examined include *no HPV present (papsmear) *cervix is not tilted or abnormally positioned (exam) *cervix is not occluded as with lap& dye as well as hsg the catheter could immediately be inserted with ease. Also; cervical function includes production of adequate fertile CM. I'm fine in that regard. If any of these anatomical or functional features etc prove to be abnormal then IUI is a good bet because then the sperm get to bypass the cervix. Seeing as tests so far show all is well in that area, and my husband's SA was above average, the dr ended up deciding that IUI will not increasing our chances THAT much and that it's up to us if we want to try it or not.

Yeah it is frustrating not to conclusively know what is wrong and to find out literally everything my previous dr did was wrong. One thing I do know for a fact is that I have endo (even Dr Dumb didn't get that wrong); I've been operated for it twice. When I was 20 I had HUGE endometriomas (chocolate cysts) removed from both ovaries. The one on the left was as big as a grapefruit. And I had stage 3 endo lasered in December last year (saw the pics so definitely endo present there!). (AGAIN, the dr should apparently have cut it instead of lasered it? That's what the new dr, who happens to be an endo specialist, told me.....). Apparently endo can wreak havoc with egg cell development especially if it grows on and into the ovaries. That's why my dr is concerned with my egg cell quality etc., which the IVF procedure will shed light on.

I am struggling with wrapping my head around the very real possibility that I won't be able to conceive a child by making love. Not that ttc with timed intercourse was very romantic but still. Well like I said I'm doing this for my husband. We've decided to start an IVF fund etc. Overwhelming.

 

[mommasboys2]

Swimmy not trying to get your hopes up but at 6 weeks my hcg was 9000 with nothing but a yolk sac, you should see a heartbeat if hcg is 2000 or greater. Went back 2 days later and my hcg was only 12000 so it was not doubling. They did another ultrasound 4 days after initial hcg draw at 6 weeks 4 days and there were 2 heartbeats and two babies although by a little over 7 weeks one baby had passed my hcg did not double like they say and we definitely should've seen something on the first ultrasound based on all the books. Fx that your lo is just getting settled in and you will get good news sometimes our babies do not grow exactly like the books say. I am now almost 35 weeks with our healthy sweet boy so it is very possible everything could be ok! Praying for you hun!

 

[swimmyj1]

Thank you im getting my labs rechecked in the morning but with an hcg as low as mine is im not very hopeful. I'll keep you guys updated

 

[jules87]

Nimbec, lots and lots of your way! Those BFNs hurt so bad.

Swimmy, I'm sorry to hear that your hcg isn't where the doctor wants it. Hopefully this one sticks anyway!

Kitty- I've read that Clomid increases your risk of cancer. I'm not sure if that is the reason doctors say only 6 months, or if there's another reason behind it. I've heard that over time the risks of clomid outweigh the benefit.

Fern- thank you for the thorough response. It sounds like everything on me is OK, since I've had all those things examined. So all we have is endo here as well, though mine isn't as bad as yours. It's interesting that you say endo on the ovaries can mess with egg development. I had some on one of my ovaries when they went in and lasered it.
I'm glad to hear you are starting a fund for IVF. I'll be hoping and praying for you! Hopefully that will give you a little bundle of joy!

AFM- AF in full swing. Blah. I've been thinking a lot about ttc lately and I think that I'm ready to let go. We wont be actively preventing but for now I'm done actively trying. I don't know how I'll feel in January, but I just don't feel like I can continue down this road anymore. I'm tired of the build up of anticipation, only to be struck down.. Then do it all over again. Anyway, I don't mean to be a downer... It's just where I'm at right now.
Our anniversary was great! DH surprised me with flowers and a wood pallet scarecrow (I still need to pain the face on it). He never gets me flowers, so the whole ordeal was unexpected and I've been smiling ever since.

Hope you ladies had a wonderful weekend!

 

[swimmyj1]

jules - my DH and I took a break for a few months. It was nice just going back to being a couple and enjoying time together. Because TTC was really taking the romance out of our relationship. It was so nice that he brought you flowers you are not being a downer. This is what we are here for to vent to.

AFM - Hcg up to 149. still not hopeful but at least it doubled this time. I really suck at this waiting game. I just want to know if this is viable or if I should just let this one go.

 

[Fern81]

GL Swimmy! Hold on! xxx

I guess I'm supposed to O sometime but I have not been tracking temps AND I have had no EWCM where I normally have a lot for a couple of days pre-O. CD 15. I might start temping from tomorrow again, however since my temps have started being really low post-O with an extremely slow rise, it doesn't really tell me when/if I have ovulated. DH and I will just dtd every day now for 4 days, after abstaining for 3 days (as per dr's advice 2 cycles ago). Maybe I won't O or just have weird CM this cycle because of the hsg?

Ladies I really don't want to try anymore, I wish I could just move on with my life but now DH doesn't want to stop trying. I'm over this, I've made my peace. I still want to travel, properly fix up the house, buy a new car to replace my ancient wagon, and continue my studies (as I decided months ago) but if we have to save up for IVF none of that will happen soon, if ever!!! This morning I thought that I just won't mention IVF again and maybe he will forget about it lol. My sister is quite shocked by my attitude BUT I have been working at acceptance for MONTHS and every month letting go has become easier and easier (why would she understand? She is super fertile). If not for my husband's wishes I would have happily moved on.

Is it so wrong of me? I believe that if you decide to keep trying forever and never give up, great. But that's not me. I want to enjoy my life and let go of this depressing ttc failure.

 

[swimmyj1]

no there is nothing wrong with making peace with it. Honestly I'm a little envious of your will to slowly let go and realize there are other things in your life you want to do that will make you happy. I say stop trying for a while, concentrate on yourself and your relationship with you husband. Laugh, travel, drink wine lol. Leaving things up to fate can sometimes feel like a giant weight has been lifted off of you.

That's how I have been feeling, I've been so focused on my hcg levels and panicked i'm going to mc like my doctor said I will that i've been making myself sick and have made insane plans in my head (that i'm honestly ashamed to admit). I had to take a step back and realize it is out of my hands what will happen will and i need to concentrate on just being happy and living one day at a time.

(last long story sorry) my aunt and uncle have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. They tried for years before conceiving her but my aunt is still angry and hateful with the world for not giving her a big family. It's ruining her marriage and i can see in the future it ruining her relationship with her daughter, because she just has put so much expectation on her. Its sad and frightening how much ttc can ruin your life if you let it.

Sorry i think i was venting more than anything sending you lots of hugs hun. I hope you stay in touch

 

[MommyTTC2]

Hey i got off my last pill of provera 6 days ago. it was my first time using it. were TTC but my AF aint come yet. im cramping pretty bad but mostly on the right side, and my cervix is down a little farther than normal but still not even a touch of blood. im beginning to get worried because it took 3 years for my first child and its taking 4 so far for another but if my af dosent come, its hopeless anyone else have this problem needing just a little bit of hope, also i have a cold so i wondering if im not just cramping from that... please help

 

[Fern81]

Swimmy I'm still HOH for you hun. Thanks for the kind words.

Well since DH still wants to ttc so much I have to keep trying for him atm... will see where this leads and if we stop trying in a while or if we still keep going for IVF or WHAT. Don't know if I will O this cycle, it's been weird after the hsg. However we are dtd daily for 4 days so that counts as trying lol.

Mommyttc - It can take up to 10 days for AF to start after provera, as far as I know? Hoping you don't have to wait much longer.

Hugs to everyone xx

 

[MommyTTC2]

OKAY GUYS! HELP PLEASE! i have been off my provera for 7 days now... i have checked my cervix several times today because i have seen on here that the mucus change cant be a sign along with some women get blood when they check... so i checked tonight and i got a little spotting... should i get my hopes up that its my AF coming FINIALLY! or do you think its just where i have been checking my cervix

 

[swimmyj1]

Mommy- are you really pushing on ur cervix or just feeling for it? For me usually if I'm having some spotting I know she is on the way.

 

[MommyTTC2]

i was just checking it but this morning there is nothing again... so worried this medecine wont work because i dont know what else to do

 

[Fern81]

Mommyttc2 - So sorry to hear that you are still waiting! Maybe your dr can prescribe a month's birth control to help bring on AF? Shame hun, dunno!! xxx

Any other news ladies? Lace&pearls how is the pregnancy?

AFM- cd19 and no O in sight. The hsg probably threw off my cycle. Although; my cycles have been getting weirder and weirder and more unpredictable the longer I go without clomid!

Hugs to you all and I hope everyone has a good week ahead. x

 

[Fern81]

Has anyone ever had very sensitive/sore/red nipples for a few days WITHOUT ovulating? My temps are still very low and I'm still having EWCM so I haven't O'd yet. However, my nipples are sooooo sore! Like they normally feel the day of/directly after O. ??

 

[MommyTTC2]

well ladies i FINIALLY got AF tonight i start my clomid... so nervous for the side effects and even more nervous that it wont work prayers please!

 

[swimmyj1]

Hcg didn't double even in 5 days so it's going to be a mc. I'm hoping my dr doesn't make me wait to long before giving me clomid again

 

[mommasboys2]

So sorry swimmy sending lots of hugs your way!

 

[Fern81]

Uh nooooo Swimmy hun sending you so many hugs . Wish I could reach over the ocean and spend a day eating cake & pizza and drinking wine with you and all our other thread friends who got bad news recently.
I really hope & pray you can heal really soon hun. xxxxxxxxxx