KC- The main reason for swaddling is the startle reflex...To soothe that, you can put him on his tummy, then his arms cannot flail. If you are not comfortable with that, just quit cold turkey and he will figure out how to keep his arms calm. Sounds cruel, but it works. Might have a rough couple of nights, but then he will be fine. I sleep Connor on his back in the mornings, no swaddle, no blanket, or anything, and putting his arms over his head seems to help, rather than if they are at his side or on his chest.