{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[NDH]

Oh zay I missed your update! How awful to have cut your vagina on top of the yeast infection!

Leigh you actually have to have sex to have a surprise bfp on a relaxed cycle though . We haven't DTD since the night before I started spotting and today or tomorrow is the day I would expect to o.

 

[tcinks]

Zay, that sounds just awful ! I hope things get better for you.

Fleur...any update?

Natalie, that's kind of a bummer. But maybe a month off will do you/your body some good?

Kylee, so glad to see you back being your hilarious self! Sounds not fun but definitely if it is a pregnancy sign, I'm glad you're having it!

Seems like a lot of testing will be happening this week! I am planning to test Monday (I will only be 9ish dpo...I know I should wait but that test is just taunting me!) I had a dream last night I was pregnant and back at my midwife's office...and I haven't had a pregnancy dream at all since the miscarriage, so hopefully that's a good sign! Wishful thinking. Haha. No blatant symptoms right now, I feel my breasts every day and night to see if they are sore. Nope. Some random aches in my pelvic area , can't tell if it's normal premenstrual cramping or not. So just playing the he waiting game.

Saw my SIL and nephew tonight. I'd been doing really well, but it was honestly so hard seeing everyone fussing over them. And today is 2 months before my would have been due date. I should be having my baby shower right about now.

 

[tcinks]

Woke up this morning with slightly tender breasts and some pelvic twinges! I wanted to run straight for a test but dh wouldn't let me. But I'm sure I will tomorrow if these "symptoms" are still there. Feeling really good about this cycle!

 

[coucou11]

Lol Natalie - ok, good point!

Terrissa yay! Keep us posted - those symptoms sound exciting!!

 

[tcinks]

It's so interesting to me that so many of your DHs have like a limit on how much they want to have sex or don't like to initiate. Mine would have it multiple times of day if he could. But most often it's like 3 or 4 times a week. More if I'm ovulating and being the one pressuring him. Haha.

 

[NDH]

Its been a big point of contention for us for years. Not so much since we've had kids as I'm just too tired to care that we don't have sex as often as I would like I could definitely go for 5+ times a week and he can go two weeks without complaining sometimes

Anyway he ended up initiating last night and to my knowledge I haven't ovulated yet.

I had to cancel my appointment as I totally forgot Monday mornings don't work for me Planned to go to the walk in while DD2 napped, but she just screamed for an hour and a half I took DD1 with me and ran some errands. Got vitex and vitamin E (the one vitamin/mineral/macronutrient I don't think I get enough of from my diet, and I've read some good things about Vitamin e preventing miscarriages, and more fish oil since we've been out for a week or so and DD1 hasn't been going to bed well without it (having her fish is her favourite part of the bedtime routine lol. Crazy kid) Annoyingly the discount vitamin shop I usually go to has been replaced with a much more expensive health food store and it would have been $60 for just the vitex an vitamin E. I went to the regular chemist across the street and got all three for $45 as they have a buy any 2 vitamins had get a 3rd for free special!

 

[zaycain]

Thanks ladies, yeast infection is gone and the cut isn't bothering me. Ugh.. thinking about it makes me cringe.

I took a HPT and it was a BFN. I'm 10 dpo. Maybe it's early.. but now I don't feel great about this month. I'll test again on Thursday. Frustrated! I want to have my first baby before I am 35. Otherwise it's considered 'advanced maternal age' and high risk, which equals pain in the ass.

T - Exciting! Good luck.. I know the temptation to test! I hope you had a better result than I did!

Cou - Thanks I feel like it was a bad 2014. 2015 was supposed to start fresh but it seems like it just keeps going. Good luck with the progesterone. I haven't really been paying attention to that topic, but it sounds intriguing! I might have to look into it in the next few months..

Kylee - Good luck with the test tomorrow!

 

[jlw617]

It's so interesting to me that so many of your DHs have like a limit on how much they want to have sex or don't like to initiate. Mine would have it multiple times of day if he could. But most often it's like 3 or 4 times a week. More if I'm ovulating and being the one pressuring him. Haha.

Haha Terissa, that's how mine is too! In fact since we finally got a positive on the opk, we've been bding 2x a day for the last few days, I am exhausted and sore lol! I am very hopeful this cycle...even though we were definitely trying before, I don't think either of us were so enthusiastic about trying as we were this cycle, I'm sure the mc plus not ovulating for the last 2 cycles had us both very anxious!

Zay-I'm sorry Hun I know how you feel about that...one thing I was at least happy about if I was to have another baby or not get pregnant for a while is if you are due to have the baby by the time you are 35 or older they "require" you to do a blood test (some women will pay out of pocket for it if they're not "required" to do the test because the test is also either 99 or 100% accurate in identifying the gender and its done pretty early in the pregnancy) obviously that's not the primary reason for the test but I was looking into it when I got my last bfp sorry that's probably not helpful to you but I know I'm doing my best to remain positive but I know the grief of not being pregnant yet can sometimes get the best of us

Natalie-I think the fish oil is a huge help in ttc, I haven't been taking my vit e lately, I feel like I'm already taking so many supplements lol! I really should start again though! Awesome for finding your vitamins for a lot cheaper!

coucou-thanks, I think I'm just desperate lol actually we never had his sperm "tested" I know this is going to sound weird but a lot of couples after having a reversal will actually use a microscope and kind of test themselves so dh and I get a sample and there is lots of info/formulas on the web for checking counts/motility...most people won't need to do this but after a reversal it's good to check every so often to see if his count/motility is improving or not boy I'm glad you can't see my face right now haha! Sounds like your body may be "resetting" in the last 3 years my body has done this about 4 times-all kinds of things obviously affect your hormones and I think our bodies are just like "ok we need to get back on track" and your cycle will reset if that makes sense, this last time I'm sure mine probably reset because I hadn't ovulated for two months, once when I had completely cut out all sugars my cycle changed then as well...hopefully it's a good sign for you

So I know this is super obvious but it was kind of like a revelation moment for me-the tww is not always a tww if your ovulation date is a little later right? I'm used to ovulating on cd14 but this time it was cd 16, I think haha-anyways I would still test on the 1st day of expected af right? I just found that interesting, that's all.

 

[kdmalk]

I made the mistake of testing my smu today. I was just feeling "sure" because of some (apparently imaginary) symptoms. Have only one test in the house ($ tree) and here we are with a

Feeling grumpy and stupid now. And with no more tests. AF expected tomorrow and with this test appearing to be negative, I suspect she will arrive.

 

[jlw617]

Kylee-I'm sorry, don't feel bad about the symptoms, pre af symptoms are so simulate to early pregnancy symptoms! Im sorry it's a bfn, seems like you have been on a roll though, maybe next month you'll get your bfp.

 

[kdmalk]

Just feeling frustrated because my early pregnancy symptoms have been so different from my normal pre-AF symptoms both times. I would have put money on it with the way I have been feeling. Now I know I obviously can't trust my body. Lol

 

[Fleur828815]

Thanks for the good wishes ladies I don’t really have news… Still no symptoms at all (unless an upset stomach counts as one lol), before AF I have more symptoms. I spotted a bit for a couple of days (brown) and I keep feeling like AF is about to come. I’ve started sleeping on my front on purpose hoping that I’ll wake up with sore boobs but nope, they’re fine. On Saturday (15 DPO) I had a big temp dip so I asked DH to hide my thermometer and pregnancy tests. I might go to a lab and ask for a blood test in a few days if there’s no change, I’d rather know what’s happening instead of getting my hopes up for nothing. I’m really not feeling positive though.

Leigh, hugs to you. Hope the bleeding was just one of those things and that the progesterone will help with this cycle. By the way, I also get sooo bored when DH and his friends talk about finance and stuff like that, I just zone out.

Jamie, belated happy birthday to your daughter! Sounds like you had a very busy weekend haha. Hope this will be your month! If I’ve understood correctly, the “2WW” depends on the length of your luteal phase (10-16 days, 14 days is average), it has to be counted from the day you ovulate. I think you have to chart your temps to find out the length of your luteal phase though.

Natalie, you still have all your chances if you haven’t ovulated yet. Those vitamins are really expensive, is $45 just for one month?

Katie, sorry to hear your DH has been having “issues”. So many of my friends have experienced the same thing with their DHs! They say they can’t deal with the pressure to perform at all, especially when they know how much their wives are hoping for a BFP… or if they feel they’re doing it “just to conceive”. And of course, some people (men as well as women) just have lower sex drives. Is there anything you could do that would get him in the mood? Lingerie, massage, music?

zaycain, you’ve been going through some tough times lately I am sure your friends are not sick of you, that’s what friends are for. So glad the cut isn’t bothering you. I cringed reading what happened! 10 DPO is still early to test so hope you’ll get your BFP on Thursday.

Kylee, sorry about the BFN. Could your SMU have been too diluted? It is possible for some couples to be more fertile together so I hope that it will happen really quickly for you even if you’re out this month. A friend struggled for years with her first, but with her second and third (not same partner), she fell pregnant within a couple of months each time (the baby was only 4 months old when she fell pregnant again). We are firmly convinced her and her DH just “mesh” more!

Terrissa, I’ve got everything crossed for tomorrow! Hoping for good news.

 

[NDH]

That's four months of fish oil (for our whole family) and 2 months of vitamin e and vitex for myself. Seriously the cheapest I have been able to find (which I don't feel like its a good thing necessarily as not all vitamins are created equal but I have been putting off researching brands that will be well absorbed and thought that for now I'm better off taking something at least.) Plus my regular vitamins are $30 a month... But cheaper ones just aren't worth it to me because they mostly just get peed out and not used by your body much/at all)

 

[coucou11]

Natalie what prenatals do you take if you don't mind my asking? I started taking Garden of Life ORranics Prenatal and Nordic Naturals prenatal DHA (after doing just a little research on the benefits of organic prenatals and wanting a DHA without heavy metals). But it sounds like you have done a lot more research so I would be interested in what you found.

Kylee I'm sorry about the BFN! You're not out yet though. I really feel you on not trusting your body though, it's very frustrating. Last month I though for sure I had it because I had really sore boobs which never happens to me. But alas, nothing. It does sound like you and your hubs are a good match though, so that bodes well for future cycles!

Fleur GREAT job hiding the thermometer! Wow that takes a lot of willpower. But it's so not worth it stressing yourself out. Hopefully the blood tests come back positive!!

Jamie how funny about checking out DHs sperm yourself, it actually seems like a great idea! Now I want to do it but I don't think my DH would go for it haha. Also I agree, the testing goes by your LP length - so if you ovulate on day 16, and you LP is normally 14 days, you should expect AF on CD30 (not CD28 like normal).

Zay so glad the yeast infection has cleared up! 10dpo is def early, you have plenty of time But yeah I know what you mean about advance d maternal age, I am 34 now so I am creeping up on that as well. I asked my doctor about it and she just laughed and said "Do you know how many 40 year olds I have in this practice having babies?" so that made me feel better. I think if you are healthy and don't have other risk factors, the age won't affect you much other than maybe they will push for more genetic testing.

Terrissa how are your symptoms today??

Kate I hope you are well!

My doc called back today, she said most of the time bleeding like that is innocuous and won't happen again, but if it does she wants to do an ultrasounds and check for polyps. So... not much of note there, just wait and see really. Hubby starts antibiotics today for a sinus infection so I've been obsessively googling whether that affects sperm production. Hoping to O on Thursday and then will start the progesterone, really really hopeful about it.

 

[tcinks]

Kylee, sorry for the negative, but you're still not out yet!

I held off on testing today. Still feeling the slightly tender breasts and random pelvic twitches/bubbly feeling. I just have been my hopes way up and didn't want them crushed yet with a bfn. Haha. I'll test tomorrow morning. Dh and I are both so excited. Hoping for some good news.

Oh fleur, I hope everything works out and this is your rainbow!!

Natalie, I don't know much about what constitutes a good brand of vitamin. How can you tell which ones get really absorbed and which get peed out?!

 

[NDH]

Honestly I haven't researched in years and for months I've been confused about whether or not I should be continuing with them. Its probable that there are better vitamins on the market by now, and I keep reading about synthetically derived vitamins vs. Whole food derived ones, especially where folate is concerned.
Anyway, where to find out if a vitamin is a good one (aka high boavailablity aka absorbed by your body) consumerlabs.com is an independent testing lab. There is a subscription fee to read the results though, which I can't shell out for right now. There's also this site that ranks 100 different brands of multivitamins (not prenatal but honestly I have never used a specifically marketed prenatal. A women's multivitiman generally has equivalent vitamins for cheaper) but from what I've read it isn't actually basing it off cellular absorption. A significant number of vitamins don't even break down enough to be absorbed into the bloodstream, but one study I read a few years ago I can't find now was looking specifically at whether the cells then recognized those nutrients and used them, or if they were just filtered out, and even fewer vitamins (at the time. It was at least 10 years ago) did that to much of a degree at all. So another point in favor of whole food derived vitamins rather than synthetic as I think.
I'm thinking of switching to Garden of Life RAW prenatal, though need to do more research. Its one of the few I can find that seems to use folate rather than folic acid (though folic acid is listed on the ingredients they claim it is actually whole food derived folate). I still have almost two months worth of my regular vitamins so I'll try to finish researching before I run out.
Its really expensive here though - $80 for two months worth. I can order it cheaper from iherb in the states, for just under what I'm currently paying (though then I'm subject to crappy exchange rate which is horrible right Now and still falling) and cheaper yet if I buy multiple bottles so i might see if i can find anyone to share an order with, otherwise I'll be buying 8 months worth (for $20/month lol).

I read of a test to see if your vitamins are absorbed into your blood by sitting them in a glass of water for 24 hours and seeing how much dissolves, but water and stomach acid are vastly different lol so I don't see how anyone considers that a reliablele test. Plus many vitamins need fats to break them down (and in this case vitamins means specific micro nutrients not a vitamin brand).

 

[jlw617]

Rainbow light is a good company and makes good prenatals, they're food based and very easy on your tummy unlike most prenatals (they definitely don't make you constipated! They are vegan and gluten free and have probiotics and enzymes to help better with digestion-the one I take now is called prenatal one but I bought some other ones also by rainbow light that I'm going to take after these ones run out, they are called complete prenatal system, they're supposed to be even better

 

[zaycain]

So.. I took another HPT this morning. BFN.

Oh.. and on my way to a work presentation my husband and I got t-boned by a semi truck outside of the busiest toll booth in America. Thankfully the truck was going slow.. but the truck had no idea he was even hitting our Jetta until DH laid on the horn.

Everyone is ok.. it could have been so much worse so I'm thankful for that. It's scary, upsetting and I am just exhausted. When is it going to end?

 

[tcinks]

Oh zaycain, what an ordeal! So glad everyone is okay.

Thanks Natalie and Jamie, I'll look more into that.

Well ladies, I got the faintest this morning. It was on a brand I typically don't use, so I'm going to buy some of my usual dollar trees and test again.

 

[NDH]

Ohmygosh zay! Glad you are OK that would have been a terrifying experience!

I did read a lot of good things about rainbow light recently too, but they also use synthetic folic acid unfortunately. There aren't many that use folate, and I'm only going to switch vitamins for one that has folate rather than folic acid.