{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[jlw617]

Natalie, I agree that often times there is a reason hormones might be unbalanced...in my case I have a hard time absorbing different nutrients and will probably have to eventually have infusions later on in life like my mother, for right now at least for me, the progesterone gives me better results hormone wise than I've ever had. I really hope you're able to get some answers, usually cd1 is counted as the first day you have a good flow rather than just spotting, for me I usually have 2 days of spotting before I actually start. Hugs to you Natalie

 

[NDH]

I've seen CD1 counted both ways by reliable sources. And my spotting was more than just showing up on TP so could well be counted.

 

[jlw617]

I've seen CD1 counted both ways by reliable sources. And my spotting was more than just showing up on TP so could well be counted.

Gotcha, when I have spotting, it's literally just that and I only have it when I wipe.

 

[NDH]

Well after a three hour wait to see the Dr (I go to a bulk billing walk in clinic) I was unlucky enough to get the Dr I saw a few weeks ago when I thought I broke my 5th metatarsal and he wouldn't order an xray cause "nothing can be done anyway" and told me to guilt trip my 3 year old who caused it. He didn't think blood work was necessary today, surprise surprise... But does want me back midcycle to Check my cervix and will do blood work and an ultrasound then. I'm so not comfortable with a male Dr checking my cervix (especially this one) . ugh.

 

[Fleur828815]

Well after a three hour wait to see the Dr (I go to a bulk billing walk in clinic) I was unlucky enough to get the Dr I saw a few weeks ago when I thought I broke my 5th metatarsal and he wouldn't order an xray cause "nothing can be done anyway" and told me to guilt trip my 3 year old who caused it. He didn't think blood work was necessary today, surprise surprise... But does want me back midcycle to Check my cervix and will do blood work and an ultrasound then. I'm so not comfortable with a male Dr checking my cervix (especially this one) . ugh.

Sorry to hear that it didn't go well today. Can you ask to see another doctor? I suppose it's positive he does want to run some tests when you are midcycle. I also felt a bit weird when I first started seeing my male OB/gyn but I got over it quickly. Having said that, he makes me feel at ease so it makes all the difference.

 

[kdmalk]

Hi guys! I have read and I am all caught up. Sorry I have been MIA. Since I am trying to be less obsessive, I have been lurking on the Internet much less. It has been good for me, I think.

Natalie, so sorry you had another chemical. That really really sucks. There is no other way to put that.

Anyone else have anything?

I had my first meeting with my new doctor today. The wait was really long because it Is a very good hospital and everybody goes there! I can tell that is going to annoy me in the future because it was such a short wait at my old clinic, but I really like the new doctor.. so totally worth it. She ran a test on my thyroid today and is going to put me on vaginal progesterone next time I am pregnant and wants to give me an early scan. So that put me at ease. She also suggested that we take time off until maybe June and reset and relax. We probably will if we aren't pregnant right now... Currently 3dpo. We will see.

Helping a friend with some schoolwork right now so I can't type much more. Hope all is well with everyone!!!! I'll post again soon!

 

[NDH]

Sounds like a great Dr . Good luck with the tww.

 

[zaycain]

Hi ladies,

Natalie.. I am so sorry. I second Kylee. It sucks. Really really sucks. That advice about being more fertile surely is a crock of poo and does nothing but keeps our hopes up!

So I'm starting my two week wait. I think officially I ovulated yesterday. We have DTD 7 days in a row. Sheesh.

With all this pessimism I actually feel good about this month. I feel the same way I felt last time I got a BFP. I was so crampy that I had to get ultrasounds because I thought I had cysts. Turns out I was ovulating.

So I'm crampy and heavy in my uterus. I suspected I was pregnant two days after I ovulated cause of the cramps. So.. if I am still crampy by Sunday then I will have that in my brain. Someone will have to slap me. I better stay busy the next two weeks!

but of course.. who knows. Blech. Thankful for you girls to vent to!

 

[jlw617]

Well after a three hour wait to see the Dr (I go to a bulk billing walk in clinic) I was unlucky enough to get the Dr I saw a few weeks ago when I thought I broke my 5th metatarsal and he wouldn't order an xray cause "nothing can be done anyway" and told me to guilt trip my 3 year old who caused it. He didn't think blood work was necessary today, surprise surprise... But does want me back midcycle to Check my cervix and will do blood work and an ultrasound then. I'm so not comfortable with a male Dr checking my cervix (especially this one) . ugh.

Wow Natalie, sounds like an awful doctor! 😧 I know how you feel about the male doctor thing. I had a male ob with my first daughter and he was great but for one thing (this may be tmi) it hurt when he'd check me because his hands were large and I just don't know if I'd be comfortable with a male ob any more, I hope you get some answers though.

Kylee-glad to hear from you, so is this your first cycle post mc then? I know I hat you mean about being aggravated about having to wait, I hate waiting at the Drs office, hopefully it will be worth the wait for you.

Zay-oooh, I really hope all that cramping means something for you! I won't be in my tww until the 21st.

 

[tcinks]

Anyone do anything special for Valentine's day? I know a lot of people don't get really into it...but we do. Haha. Dh bought me an orchid and a plant I'd been wanting for our living room. Then we went out to dinner and a movie (we had gift cards from Christmas, otherwise it would probably have been pizza and Netflix at home...which still would have been fun ) Oh we also had a women's breakfast with ladies from my church , which was super nice.

I'm not tracking but should have ovulated yesterday or today. Been dtd almost non stop since Wednesday and it didn't even feel like a chore I'm just feeling really good lately and enjoyed some time with my dh. The romantic anniversary trip we had in December didn't turn out nearly as I'd hoped, but this weekend more than made up for that.


Good to hear from you Kylee! Glad to see you seem to be doing well with being less obsessive. I think that's definitely helping me. I hope you're pregnant this time Wyeth your rainbow baby and don't have to wait until June!

Natalie I can't remember whether or not you said, are you taking some time off or trying again right away?

Zaycain, I hope this is your month! Keep us posted

It'd be nice if we had a bunch of November babies .

How is everyone else?!

 

[NDH]

We won't be specifically trying but I hate the idea of condoms (plus I'm allergic to latex and latex free ones are more expensive) so we won't be preventing either. I won't be initiating this week that's the closest I get to not trying lol
Would be kinda nice to get a bfp next month and be due near Christmas (if I get a sticky bean) as I've seen some gorgeous photos of Christmas themed home births that makes me want one lol. Dd1 was due just after Christmas and my birthday is 2 days after Christmas so its a busy time of year anyway though lol.

 

[KTJ006]

Natalie - I hope you are feeling well. At my OBGYN, the majority of our docs are male. I've just become accustomed to having a male doc (they are all great!) and don't think twice about it. But I can totally relate because I was a little erked out about it at first, especially when it came to my yearly exam which included a breast exam....it's still awkward. Ha

Kylee - Glad you got into a good doc! The wait can be annoying, but I would stick with it. When I went through my MC and post MC issues, they would fit me in ASAP, which meant someone else had to get bumped or wait longer. Now whenever I have to wait, I try to think that they are likely helping someone else with an emergency. Makes it less annoying (for me).

Zay - keeping my fingers crossed for you! When do you plan on testing? We need some good news in this thread!

Fleur, Cou & Jamie - how are things with you guys?

Terrissa - glad you've been busy You guys definitely have some stamina! Haha. Your V-day plans sound nice and relaxing. We are not big Valentine's celebraters....mainly because I'm in marketing and I know all the hype that goes into it on the business side.

No news for me! My kids have been sick for going on 12 days. My oldest missed school all last week. She has yet to go this week because we got hit with some snow and everything shuts down when that happens. My littlest is now sick with what she had. The back is better - I managed to sneak in some runs this past weekend, but all that went out the door once DH went back to work. It's too hard to fit in exercise when it's just me and there's 2 sick kiddos. Oh well. Can't win them all! It's supposed to be seriously cold the rest of this week, so we will be bundled up inside! We are not big TV watchers, but we have watched more TV the past 12 days then we have the whole year. Yuck. Hope everyone else is well!!

 

[Fleur828815]

Kylee, glad you’ve got a good doctor who’s willing to give you an early scan etc next time. Pity about the wait but she sounds like she’s worth it! Did you get your thyroid test results back?

zaycain, how are you feeling? Good luck for testing!

Terrissa, sounds like you had a lovely Valentine’s weekend. It must have been good to just relax and send time with DH. Pleased to hear you’re feeling good also! DH and I don’t celebrate, much to his relief… He has enough trouble finding gift ideas for my birthday, our anniversary and Christmas!

Natalie, hope you are feeling better. First time I’ve heard of themed home births! Has it ever bothered you to have a birthday so close to Christmas? I always said I didn’t want a November-February baby but that would mean not TTC for the next 3 months! Not that I’m feeling very hopeful but I’d always wonder, what if I was supposed to fall pregnant one of those months?

Katie, sorry to hear that your children are sick. 12 days cooped up inside must seem very long, but thank goodness for TV! I wouldn’t want to go out if it was so cold, I’d stay stuck to the heater. Would the kids be interested in doing some Zumba / aerobics videos with you as an alternative to you going for a run?

Jamie, you must be about to ovulate soon? Happy BDing!

Leigh, how are you?

As for me, AF should be here any day now. I wish I could stop counting obsessively how many months it’s been till the miscarriage, how many months are left for a baby before I’m 34 etc. There have been more pregnancy announcements around me and I just want to hide from it all.

 

[jlw617]

Fleur-Yes, praying this isn't a 3rd annovullatory cycle(sp?) I shouldovulate in about 3 days! I really do know what you mean about counting the months, worrying about age and on and on, when dh first had the reversal we planned on getting pregnant quickly, waiting another year or so and then having 1 more shortly before I turn 35 now the way things are going I've been contemplating having just this one if we ever get pregnant again...if I get pregnant right away (next couple months) I'll be 6 months away from 34 when I have him/her then I'd have to get pregnant right away if I want to have another before 35 which I'm not sure I'd be up to...oh well I just need to let go and let God! I really hope you get your bfp soon, and having winter babies isn't all that bad, I have a dec and feb baby

Katie-I feel for you! We went through a month of sickness in our house around Christmas! It was awful, I felt trapped in my own home lol! We also have had snow and frigid temps here as well, a couple days ago it was-20 with the windchill!!!! Hope your kids get better soon

Zay-any news yet? When can/will you test?

 

[KTJ006]

Fleur- totally understand. I'll say I'm not going to keep track, but my mind just does. So many people are pregnant right now. It still makes me sad that I'm not. DH and I were just talking about how I would have been fairly big at this point had I not MC'd. It's hard to not wonder "what if."

Jamie- hoping you don't have another annovulatory cycle!! I forget, are you chatting with a doctor about anything? I know it's hard, but don't stress about things! Stress can mess with TTC and throw everything out of whack. And you're totally right - the Big Guy will take care of the timing piece. It's hard to relinquish control - I'm very much a control freak. But we gotta realize that He's timing this stuff for a reason we'll one day understand

 

[KTJ006]

Oh!! I forgot to tell you ladies: when I was admitted to the hospital after my miscarriage (for my infection), I had an amazing nurse. I sent her a card, a gift and some donuts for her unit and. She got back in touch with me afterwards. We have been chatting often on through Facebook and her family and my family are going to meet up for dinner one night! She was seriously my angel through everything and it means the world that we are able to keep in touch. We also found out that we live about three minutes from each other. It is such a small world!

 

[jlw617]

Katie- thanks, I really appreciate it and sometimes though I know it's all in His timing, it helps to hear it from someone else especially someone who's in the same boat-I'm not really talking with the dr about anything yet...since we got pregnant 7 months after dhs reversal we know it was "successfull" but I really think the dr messed up on his left side (dh was awake for the surgery and said he could feel it and winced and the dr said "I wish you wouldn't have done that...") it was an awful experience and I feel like the dr is a scammer, it's only by th grace of God that my husband even has a count, although I know some of it is definitely on my side, I feel like the majority is probably on dhs side especially because we never had problems getting pregnant before he had the vasectomy.
How neat that you were able to keep in touch with that nurse, I'm sure she really appreciated the thoughtfulness you put into sending her something, nurses often do a thankless job so when you get one that is still able to show compassion, it makes a difference!

 

[Fleur828815]

Jamie, this just shows that we can make all the plans we want, it’s really not in our hands! If you have twins that would deal with the issue of being done by the time you’re 35! Hope you’ll ovulate this month. I didn’t for the first 2 months after the miscarriage, the 3rd month I was back to normal.

Katie, hugs to you, I was also thinking recently that I would be 6 months by now, it doesn’t get easier. Your nurse does sound like an angel, I know it’s a tough job but this is the kind of person who should be in nursing / healthcare.

My temp went up again this morning and FF said I could test today so I did it just to get it out of the way and out of my mind, I was pretty shocked to get a faint BFP. I’m not getting excited at all because I have literally zero symptoms and I know AF could still show up. I wish I hadn’t tested so early now! Don’t mean to sound ungrateful but I’m trying not to think about it as I’m not feeling confident.

 

[jlw617]

Jamie, this just shows that we can make all the plans we want, it’s really not in our hands! If you have twins that would deal with the issue of being done by the time you’re 35! Hope you’ll ovulate this month. I didn’t for the first 2 months after the miscarriage, the 3rd month I was back to normal.

Katie, hugs to you, I was also thinking recently that I would be 6 months by now, it doesn’t get easier. Your nurse does sound like an angel, I know it’s a tough job but this is the kind of person who should be in nursing / healthcare.

My temp went up again this morning and FF said I could test today so I did it just to get it out of the way and out of my mind, I was pretty shocked to get a faint BFP. I’m not getting excited at all because I have literally zero symptoms and I know AF could still show up. I wish I hadn’t tested so early now! Don’t mean to sound ungrateful but I’m trying not to think about it as I’m not feeling confident.

What?! Thats great news! and remember, every pregnancy is different, I know there are definitely a good chunk of women who don't experience symptoms at all or atleast not until much further along! Praying this one sticks for you! Thanks for the encouragement, I've been thinking about you and how you said you didnt ovulate your first 2 cycles but you were back to normal by your 3rd, I hope thats the case for me too and yes I guess twins would take care of that problem haha though Im not exactly sure I'll be praying for twins haha

 

[NDH]

Fleur, I don't think they were specifically themed, but many people who have homebirths have photographers too, and when everything is decorated for Christmas how can you NOT highlight that in photos?
I never really minded my birthday being so close to Christmas since my parents always made a big effort to separate the two days.

Eek I have my fingers crossed that this is your rainbow! We're overdue for some good news around here.