{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[jlw617]

Oh Katie, that sounds fun anyways! Mmmmm chocolate cake! Yay for potty training, if we do have a boy, I'm going to be totally intimidated! You know I haven't thought about my would be due date really but it would have been in June...but I have found comfort in the fact that I will have this baby before my mmc date.

 

[tcinks]

Happy birthday Katie! Sounds like you had a pretty nice day And your kitchen remodel looks amazing! I want to redo our kitchen soon.

That can be a hard realization, but I'm trusting there's a plan for you too!

 

[Fleur828815]

Katie, glad you a nice time with your family although DH was away. Yay for your son using the potty also! It is very hard when the due date comes around, I totally understand how you feel

I had my 12 week scan this morning and the doctor says everything looks good and I’m at low risk for having a baby with Down’s syndrome etc, so he wouldn’t recommend the Harmony test in my case. I can still do it later if he finds any problems but I hope he’s right and everything will be fine. I would have been more reassured if he could see the nasal bone etc, the baby looks like it doesn’t have a nose at all but his equipment isn’t very sophisticated I suppose. All in all, I’m feeling relieved and will try to relax from now on (yeah, who am I kidding!).

 

[jlw617]

Katie, glad you a nice time with your family although DH was away. Yay for your son using the potty also! It is very hard when the due date comes around, I totally understand how you feel

I had my 12 week scan this morning and the doctor says everything looks good and I’m at low risk for having a baby with Down’s syndrome etc, so he wouldn’t recommend the Harmony test in my case. I can still do it later if he finds any problems but I hope he’s right and everything will be fine. I would have been more reassured if he could see the nasal bone etc, the baby looks like it doesn’t have a nose at all but his equipment isn’t very sophisticated I suppose. All in all, I’m feeling relieved and will try to relax from now on (yeah, who am I kidding!).

Awesome Fleur! Try not to worry! Is it age or something else that makes you think you're at risk for a baby with downs?

 

[kdmalk]

Kate, glad to see you had a relaxing birthday. Love the kitchen!!!! Looks so good!

Fleur, I'm sure everything is fine!

Nothing new here. Grass pollen is crazy high and I am snotting like a 2 year old. Lol. I did forget to mention that my chiropractor gave me Chaste Tree to help regulate my hormones and all that and said I would likely get pregnant while taking it. And I googled it.... And apparently she gave me vitex. So I plan to start taking it next cycle. Unless we decide to take a break, then idk.

 

[NDH]

Yep chaste tree, angus castus and vitex are all names for the same plant. My naturopath put me on it too, but I'm not taking it atm as I'm supposed to be on a break from ttc.

Interestingly another name for it is monkshood. It used to be given to monks to lower their libido as it has the opposite effect on men

Katie the kitchen looks great!

Fleur I'm so glad you had a great appointment.

 

[tcinks]

Oh Natalie that's interesting, never heard it called monkshood. How have you been?

 

[kdmalk]

Awfully quiet around here.

So close to being done with the blanket. Maybe I will actually get it done this week so I can post a picture.

 

[jlw617]

Awfully quiet around here.

So close to being done with the blanket. Maybe I will actually get it done this week so I can post a picture.

That's what I keep thinking Kylee! Yes post a pic soon!

 

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Natalie, glad to hear from you, interesting news from the Naturopath. Really glad you got to go in and see one, honestly I feel like even the act of doing that and focusing on getting healthy has a positive effect. I wanted to see one here but it was mega expensive and my husband is not really into that kind of medicine so we ended up not doing it. I might try to find a less expensive one though. I like her suggestion of Aloe Vera, I have heard that is supposed to be really good for you.

Kate beautiful kitchen remodel! Its so funny, I need to post a pic of out kitchen because I think we have the same backsplash tile, the same drawer pulls, and very similar white shaker cabinets!! Too funny. Also Happy Belated Birthday!! Sorry DH was out of town Sorry also about the prior EDD approaching, I feel you. Had this big plan to be pregnant again by then and now that's not really working out. Also my old EDD is my sister-in-laws birthday so it will be hard to just forget about it. Maybe I'll try to do something special instead to remember.

Jamie good luck with the packing!!! It is always such a huge project, no matter how much you prepare for it, it always seems to take twice as long. Are you guys getting movers? We tried to move once without movers and it was a complete disaster. My husband didn't finish the whole thing until 1:30 in the morning! Otherwise it sounds like you are feeling good

Fleur wonderful news about the scan! Yes, you should definitely try to relax and enjoy now. Are you starting to show at all? Probably not with a first pregnancy.

Terrissa hope you are feeling good too! When are you done with classes? Do you have any final exams to prep for? Those were always stressful times when I was a student.

Kylee sorry to hear you are feeling under the weather / allergies are acting up! My husband gets bad allergies too and they can be killer. I'm curious, did your chiropractor say you could/should keep taking the Chaste Berry if you got pregnant? I think I might start taking it again since it got me pregnant the last time, but I'm concerned about continuing into any pregnancy.

I got a positive opk today so will probably O tomorrow, CD16 as expected. We dtd last night and maybe will tonight or tomorrow. I'm taking things pretty casual. Now the big question is whether I start the progesterone. I'm really leaning towards not starting it, just because I dislike it - it leaves a gross residue, and has some pretty lame side effects like extreme fatigue, sore breasts, and irritability. But then of course if I don't take it and have a short LP again I'll be kicking myself. Might try just this one cycle off and then give in and start using it. I've been drinking Fertilitea which has Vitex in it so maybe that will help a little. I should have just started with the Vitex after the miscarriage. Argh! Oh well, will no stress. will not stress. (my new mantra, ha).

 

[NDH]

Leigh I didn't realize we're cycle buddies!

My naturopath was $125 for the initial consult and is $55 for subsequent appointments. Its not cheap but not terribly expensive either. Drs who don't bulk bill here can easily cost that much for an appointment - I usually see bulk billing Doctors so don't have to pay out of pocket for much of anything.

I saw the Dr today. She had no idea what MTHFR was so I didn't get that tested, but she ordered heaps of tests - including lots of antibodies and clotting disorders. Pathology was still open so I even got it all done today. 11 or 12 vials in total. The downside is I didn't get to take note of the actual tests being run, and I won't get any results unless anything comes back abnormal so I may never know what exactly they tested for.
My last pap was only a year about though so the Dr didn't think that was necessary.

 

[jlw617]

Haha, love the new mantra coucou! I think we could all use it have you considered using just topical progesterone cream? It really made a difference for me and definitely didn't have the bad side effects you're describing, when I went in for a very early scan that my dr insisted on because I have having bad cramping focused on one side she said my lining looked really good, haha that's funny typing out but I really think it was due to the progesterone, just a thought
No we are not hiring movers, even though we've had the luxury of having packers and movers while dh was in the army, we've also moved enough times to be able to get it done, we are have a couple guys help from our church so that will be a huge help! Good look and keep up with your mantra!
Natalie, could you request the results? If you're paying for them, you should be able to get a copy of your results.

 

[tcinks]

Yes Natalie, I agree with Jamie, I'd definitely request the results! It always bugged me when I don't get results of tests I PAY for! But I actually set up an online account with the lab my doctor uses , so even if she doesn't tell me the results, I can go on there and look myself . They just started doing it but its been really nice!


Leigh, do glad everything is going well!

I had a follow up appointment with the specialist I saw after my miscarriage. Basically she and my regular doctor will be splitting the care, which is nice, as long as my insurance covers it all! So I actually am being seen every 3 weeks instead of 4 (and actually sometimes back to back weeks) which just makes me feel a lot better!

I'm thinking about getting a membership to the pool this summer. I keep hearing that swimming is such a great pregnancy workout but I hardly ever do it! And I'll definitely need a new swimsuit. Any of you ladies like to swim?

 

[NDH]

I'm not paying for any of it (I hope not anyway. I think the Dr would have told me if any of the tests weren't Medicare eligible, which is the public health system here everyone is eligible for) I can't afford to be surprised with a bill later anyway :/ we also don't have a way to view results online I'll have to make another appointment.

 

[tcinks]

April 21, 2015.

Well, it is officially the day I should be giving birth and holding little Ronen Immanuel in our arms. After work tonight, dh and I are going out to where we buried him and planning a cross that dh made. Maybe read through some of the cards people gave us months ago, too. So far, I feel fine. But I think now that I've reached this point where I *would* have had a baby by now, it might be harder to be around other babies. Before, it was just seeing other pregnant people. I don't know, I hope I don't get that way. Just trying to focus on the fact that we have been blessed with another one and hopefully this one will be to keep!

Hope everyone has a great day!

 

[jlw617]

Terissa, I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now, I know when June rolls around it's going to be rough for me, I am glad you have a little memorial for him though, my dh and I were talking a while ago and I was talking to him about how if I was further along, I would have tried to do something similar, it would have atleast offered a little more closure, he didn't understand at first but eventually seemed to understand why. Take it easy, God has been so good to us!

 

[zaycain]

Hi guys,

I've read through the posts and a lot has happened in the group! Thanks for the well wishes. Things have been up and down but at that point with the accident and life in general I just wanted to take a deep breath and not be so fixated on TTC. Of course.. you can't command yourself to feel a certain way.

Since then I've gotten two more BFNs. Yesterday being the most recent. No 2015 baby for us. I'm getting nervous because I'll be 35 next July and I don't want my first baby to be at advanced maternal age. It just sounds more stressful.

Life in general has been up and down... but much better than when I last left off. I'm getting more and more sensitive to the "When are you having kids" or "Abby needs cousins!" talk. If I get another one of those I told my DH to run interference because I might just cry. No one knows about my MC .. and no one knows that I'm TTC.

Natalie - I read your story. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through. The naturopath seems fascinating.

Kylee - It's really hard to not let the monthly disappointment get to you. I think you and I are on the same cycle.

Preggos - Congrats to all of you! I hope your able to relax this time around. I can only imagine how scary it all can be!

Terrissa - I'm sorry about your anniversary, but happy for your new little gift. I hope you can enjoy as much as possible.

I'm sure I missed a lot.. but I'll try to stay more in the loop. CD 1 is going to start for me any day now.. so I'll keep you posted.

 

[tcinks]

Zaycain, I'm so sorry Could you not tell some of your family what you've been going through? They might be a little more understanding and not bring up those questions anymore.

 

[coucou11]

Hi all-

T - I'm so sorry things are so heavy. I know we all feel it with you, and no matter what happens (new pregnancies, new babies, new life chapters) our losses will always be with us. April 21 will always be Ronen's day to you, and he will always be with you. I hope it was good to go to where you buried him and just be there with him for a bit.

Zay - I'm so sorry for the BFNs, and for all the difficulties. I do think that you should tell someone, even just one person. They can run interference with the rest of the family that way, and just tell people to cool it. I want to scream at people sometimes when they ask such insensitive questions. Don't worry about being 35 though - there have been several articles recently challenging the myth that older pregnancies are somehow more dangerous, or that the chances of getting pregnant are lower (see https://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/06/29/the-crumbling-post-35-pregnancy-myth.html). There are so so many ways to get pregnant these days, you will find yours and it will be amazing. Glad to see you back here anyway!

Nat - cycle buddies, how fun! Whether we stay that way depends on what I decide about the progesterone of course, haha. How long is your normal LP? Let us know if you decide to go in and see the test results - would be interesting to know what they ran. I plan to wait until August and then if I'm still not pregnant (which will make one year of trying, not counting the MC) I'm going to go to my doctor and do the same. How are the girls these days?

Jamie - thanks! I do think that progesterone cream is a good idea. I can't remember, did you use it all through your cycle or just after O? And still after you had the BFP? I think I might just use the stinking progesterone suppositories this time around (I have them anyway, might as well) and then try something else next cycle - cream or taking Vitex again or something. Who knows. How's the packing? So nice that you have people helping you with the move, that at least will make things go more smoothly.

Kylee and Fleur - hope you guys are well!

AFM, I had some mixed signals this time around - my opk was very positive on Sunday but then still pretty strong on Monday afternoon, which is highly unusual. So now I don't know if I O'd on Monday or Tuesday. We BD'd Sat and Mon night so the timing isn't perfect but it's ok. I didn't want to force it last night, all part of my new no stress plan - if it happens, it happens. Not going to try and plan everything perfectly because that obviously hasn't been working. That's all that's new here really! Been trying to plan some playdates for my daughter, and my parents are coming into town for a week on Friday, which is .... haha, I am at a loss for words. They are nice and love spending time with my daughter but they cause some stress in the house and my DH doesn't get along great with them, so it's never super relaxing. Oh well.

Oh T, I meant to tell you, I swam all my life (still do when I have the chance, but it's not a quick workout so I usually just run these days). But I swam through my first pregnancy and its great, I would recommend it!

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, the due date was always going to be hard even if you’re pregnant with your rainbow baby How did it go last night? I’m also dreading my due date coming around next month and feeling guilty, weird. Being seen regularly by the doctor and the specialist must be really reassuring. I don’t like swimming but I might go back to aquagym classes soon. I’ve also started going to the gym again, the coach has prepared a “pregnancy” workout programme for me.

Kylee, hope the Vitex helps ! Have you finished the blanket? Don’t forget to post a pic!

Leigh, your new mantra sounds good. It’s hard to know what to do for the best but I hope the Fertilitea will regulate your LP and you won’t have to take the progesterone. Fingers crossed for a BFP this cycle! Hope your parents’ visit isn’t too stressful for you and DH.

Natalie, 11 or 12 vials!!! I don’t see why they wouldn’t give you a copy of your results even if they’re normal, or at least tell you what they tested for. Do ask them.

Jamie, how’s the packing going? Do you have a moving date?

zaycain, I second what the others said, is there a close friend or relative you can talk to? It’s so insensitive to ask people about TTC when you have no idea what they’re going through! Don’t disappear again unless you need a break, we’re here to hold your hand virtually.

Not much to report here, still feeling OK mostly. I’ve not been sleeping well so I’m a bit more tired than usual, apart from that I can’t complain! We told our parents over the weekend, everyone is very excited.