{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[jlw617]

Hi Zay! I'm sorry about the feelings you're having, I can understand the age thing too, especially because I used to think anyone having a baby after 30 was old haha! My how things change don't let it discourage you and I agree with the other ladies, I think if you're comfortable with it, you should share your loss. I understand the about needing a break this site becomes a little obsessive for me even now I've thought about taking a break. I hope you continue to check in!

Fleur-that's awesome about telling your parents, did you do anything special to tell them? Glad you're feeling ok, I am seriously questioning having another one after this, haha I know that sounds terrible but I'm just too old for this morning sickness, it's killing me! I wouldn't change being pregnant for anything but man it's kicking my behind! We finally have a move in date set for next Friday but I've been having a lot of doubts about moving, we know the people who are going to be our landlords and they have been going back on some things that were made clear from the beginning so I don't know...

Leigh-when I used opks the last time before my bfp, I had the same thing happen, I used a digi and kept getting a smiley face indicating I was in my fertile window for like 4 days! but I never got the blinking smiley so I was worried I never ovulated, well apparently I was wrong but if you were bding then I'd say you're good! I used the progesterone cream starting at cd12 and yep I'm still using it now and plan on continuing to do so until I'm 12 weeks

 

[NDH]

So good to hear from you Say. So sorry you haven't gotten your bfp yet and your family is being insensitive. I've had lots of "so when are you planning #3?" Questions from people lately and I'm just being very matter of fact with them that its been the plan for a while but I've had three losses in the past 6 months. When no one outside my immediate family knew about the pregnancies I realized its silly to expect people to just know what I'm going through so I've decided to be open about it. Its hard but also very liberating. And amazing how many people then open up that they too have lost babies.

Terissa I'm so glad you have your rainbow in board to offer you some comfort on Ronan's due date. Its the first difficult anniversary to remember but its a bit less difficult when you know you're carrying a baby who would never have been if Ronan had been born

Whose would be due date is coming up next? Any in May? Mine is still about 7 weeks away.

 

[jlw617]

Mines in June Natalie, I know this is awful but I don't remember my exact due date, I think it's because with my losses I always remember the day I started losing the baby, it always sticks out in my memory, probably because it's so traumatic.

 

[coucou11]

Mine is June 10. And Jamie, I also remember when I started to lose the baby - such a sad and scary moment, obviously now burned into my memory because of what followed. Honestly, probably better if we could forget both of those dates! Be less of a painful reminder, and then we could just hope to hold onto the memory of the baby and not the pain of losing it.

I think Kate's might have been in May.

 

[NDH]

I don't remember the dates of my most recent losses as this year I can barely keep track of what day of the week it is let alone the date :/ Actually I do remember my second one it was 3 days before Christmas. It's just the most recent one I don't know - end of March is all I know. And I'll never know when exactly Mira left me since she simply vanished so its probably best I keep it vague.

 

[KTJ006]

Hi Zay!! Glad you popped on - we were wondering how things were. I agree with what the other girls said about possibly confiding in someone else who could help interfere with some of the questions being asked. Hang in there and take it one day at a time.

My due date was May 16th. Definitely no BFP by that date.

I'm in a big funk right now and basically hiding from the world. We found out our close friends and my daughters best friend are moving in July. My heart breaks for my DD. They have such a special bond and my DD was so comfortable at school with her. On top of that we found out the bully is attending her school next year. So now we have a bully and no best friend to adjust to. Parenting is so hard. I just want to keep my kids in our own little bubble that has no disappointments and stresses of the world.

 

[Fleur828815]

Jamie, can you stay put if you change your mind about moving? I’m having an easy pregnancy so far but 2 kids is my limit (anyway at 33 I don’t have time to have loads). We gave my mom a box with a ball of wool (she knits) and the scan picture underneath. She was peering at the ball of wool in confusion until she saw the pic My dad was also there but didn’t understand till my mom explained. DH’s parents don’t live in the same country so we just showed them the pic on Skype.

Natalie, my due date would have been 20 May, I’m dreading that day coming and I know DH won’t really understand because I’m pregnant again (which I’m SO SO happy and grateful for but I’m somehow feeling guilty about the first baby).

Katie, sorry that your good friends are moving Will you still be able to visit sometimes? Is there any way you can talk to the school so your daughter isn’t in the same class as that other child? That is one of the things I’m worried I won’t know how to deal with, other people hurting my kids.

 

[zaycain]

Thanks ladies. It's nice to have the support. I've actually told a lot of people EXCEPT for my husbands family, because they've always put the most pressure on it.

Maybe I'm being stubborn, but I just don't want them to know that we're trying. His mom had a few glasses of wine one night and pointed at me and said "YOU BETTER PRODUCE!" in front of everyone. (This is way before we were TTC). I love them, but honestly.. the more they push the more I want them to stay out of that area of my life.

Besides his other sister has been trying for over a year now and they won't stop asking her. She's totally open about it.. it's hard and she hasn't been successful.. so even if they knew I still think they'd poke and prod.

It was much easier to deflect until recently. Now I tear up about it.

My due date was June 6th. Like everyone else, I am really dreading that day.

Thanks again ladies.

 

[kdmalk]

Well....

I woke up extremely dizzy this morning and decided to stay home from work. Of course sitting around the house all day will cause you to lose your mind a bit. So by 11, I had convinced myself to go to dollar tree and just buy one test for each day until AF is expected. So I bought my 4 tests and came home. Put the 3 drops in and set my timer. Talked myself through the 2 minutes saying "you only have like a 50% chance of it showing up, even if you are pregnant, so don't get upset when you see a negative." And walked back in to see that second line. I carried it to the kitchen thinking I was crazy. Could still see it. .....and then I just sat there crying. Still not sure if it was joy or horror. I am completely terrified. Won't even call the doctor. And she wanted me to take progesterone. I am just afraid everything will go wrong as soon as I call. Is that crazy of me?

I'll attach the pic of the (only 11dpo). I Ho pe to finish the blanket today or tomorrow. Will post a pic this weekend. Now for the question.... I am flying this Sunday to a conference... They claim airport scanners are completely safe and don't penetrate anything but your clothes... What would you do? Opt out? And has anyone ever opted out before? I haven't, so don't know what to expect for the ol "pat down." Advice on this?

 

[kdmalk]

Now to respond to everyone-

Zay: glad to have you back. Perhaps you could have dh tell his family to lay off? Just a thought.

Jamie: Sorry this whole move has been so rough. What sort of relationship do you have with the new landlords? Perhaps sitting down and having a frank talk about the changes might help. if they are nice people, you would hope they would be receptive to a chat.

Fleur: so happy you announced! What a cute way to tell mom!!!

Leigh- have fun with your parents (as much as you can, anyway). I know mine cause stress too... But for a different reason. They always argue. Totally stresses me out. For the life of me I cannot figure out why they are still married. Lol

Terrissa: sorry about your due date having just passed. I know that will be very difficult for me as well. June 4 was my due date, so I am kind of starting to wonder how I will feel on that day. It would appear that I will be about as far along in this pregnancy as I got in the other when my due date comes. That will make it extra hard. Hope you were able to find some peace on Ronen's due date.

Kate- I hate that for your daughter. praying for an upswing for you and your family. I know you could use the lift right now.

Natalie- how are you? Have you started anything the naturopath recommended?

Hope I didn't miss anything. Have a great day, all!

 

[tcinks]

YAAAAAAAAY Kylee I am so happy for you!


I have no advice about the flying thing. I didn't know opting out was an option. But do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

 

[Fleur828815]

Oh wow, congrats Kylee !!!! SO SO happy for you ! Did you test again today? I believe you can opt out of the scan and ask for a pat-down, so do that just in case?

zaycain, unfortunately I’ve noticed that some people feel even more encouraged to spout nonsense and give unsolicited advice after you told them you’re struggling to conceive, have had a miscarriage etc. I would also get annoyed and teary about it if they kept hassling me. Could DH tell them that it’s a subject you’d rather not talk about as it’s sensitive?

 

[kdmalk]

Did I test again today? Of course I did. Lol. Progression from yesterday to today is great! I'll use my last test on Sunday before I leave, but I've just got a good feeling about this pregnancy. I think this little peanut is going to make it!

I did break down and call the doctor yesterday. My friend told me it was important that I get the progesterone. So I started "taking" that last night (suppository kind... Ew).

Here is a pic of my morning test. Feeling confident!!!!

 

[tcinks]

Great line!!! And I'm glad you decided to do the progesterone. When will your due date be?!

 

[Fleur828815]

Woohoo, that's a very dark line for only 12 DPO! Progesterone has helped lots of women, so stick little baby

 

[jlw617]

What?! Woot woot! Congrats Kylee!!!!!! I really felt like you were going to get your bfp soon!!!! Yay!!!!! Btw we attend church with these people and are casual friends I would say...things are getting worked out though, my dh talked with her dh and we signed and have keys now!

Katie-awww I'm sorry-that can be rough and it's so hard to see our children go through things like that

Fleur-what a sweet idea for your mom! Was she pretty excited once she finally found the picture? Thanks for asking about my moving situation, it has been crazy but it's finally working itself out! We are officially moving this next Friday May 1st!

 

[kdmalk]

Due date will be January 2! New Years baby!

First appointment will be May 15 at 6 weeks 6 days. If baby is on target, that will be the biggest we have ever grown a baby! Lol. Three weeks from today! Feels like forever!

 

[Fleur828815]

Aww a New Year's baby! You'll be starting 2016 with a bang! 3 weeks does seem like forever when you're waiting so impatiently for an appointment.

Jamie, I'm glad things seem to be sorted out with your landlords. Yes my mom is on a high since she knows lol, I'm being pampered.

 

[NDH]

Congrats Kykee!

Fleur what a sweet way to announce.

Zay they sound just charming


I can't remember who asked about the naturopath. I've not been taking the herbs she gave me since she put chaste tree (vitex) in it and I figured for a not supposed to be trying cycle it probably wasn't a good idea. :have: but I've been trying to eat more of the foods she recommended, and a few days after my appointment I cut out gluten completely from my diet (I did continue to eat porridge for a couple days, but have decided to cut that out too). I've been reading a tonne about the leaky gut-gluten-thyroid link and feel right now its important I cut it out entirely. I highly suspect I have Hashimoto's, which is an autoimmune thyroid condition where basically, eating gluten will trigger an autoimmune response and your body will then attack your thyroid because it resembles gluten. I've cut out all processed grains (ie flours) but I am still eating rice and corn and I've cut out sugar as well. Making bone broths and will be doing some fermented foods as well to heal my gut. I was hoping to start on my first kombucha brew this week but my SCOBY never arrived.

Also its only CD 20 today (I think) but I think AF has arrived. I have no idea of I ovulated even. I've been horribly crampy all week until yesterday so wouldn't have been able to feel an egg release. I'm also still fighting a cold I've had for a whole month now, and I've not been getting restful sleeps. Several times in the past couple weeks I've gone to bed between 9&10 (normally 11 is an early night for me) and still waking up exhausted on the morning. Thursday night I didn't get to bed til after midnight and then the kids had me awake from 4am... I went to bed before 9 last night and didn't get much sleep after 4am again but was able to doze until 7:30 at least.

I get my blood work results in Tuesday, meaning something was found. Its apparently not urgent, but of course I booked the earliest appointment anyway. If it was urgent I'm sure I would have been in yesterday.

 

[kdmalk]

Natalie, hopefully whatever they found is something easy to fix! And now you won't be wondering what tests they ran. Will be praying that it is something simple to fix and nothing scary.