{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[jlw617]

Hi Katie, I'm sorry your ms is so awful,mine was really bad too this time around, the one thing that kept me encouraged was knowing that *typically* bad ms is a good indicator of a healthy pregnancy...I know it still isn't fun though :/ and yes my poor dh has pretty much had to do the majority of housework for pretty much the last year including packing our house almost entirely by himself when I was a couple months pregnant. I had a very laid back thanksgiving, how was yours?

Hi Zay! I can't believe you're in your 3rd tri already! I love hand me downs, we also had to hardly buy anything and our "big purchases" we got second hand quite a while ago so far the only thing we've had to buy since he's been born is more newborn diapers because he's so small I have a stockpile that I worked on while pregnant but I wasn't expecting he'd still be in newborns at 6 weeks old I can't wait for your little bundle to get here!

 

[NDH]

Good to hear from you Zay! Glad to hear things are progressing well and you have been gifted a lot of hand me downs to relieve the financial stress of buying new baby things.

Katie I'm glad there's still just one baby and all is progressing well so far

I have so far made a blanket, a hat, 2 pairs of booties and a cocoon in rainbow colors, and three wool covers. I started a pair of longies and then lost my crochet hook (and had already lost the sizes on either side... Lol) so I had to take a break from crocheting while I waited for more hooks (Im to cheap to buy locally where one hook costs more than I bought a whole set for off eBay lol) and I haven't got back into it yet as I had more pressing projects to complete first. So the past month I've been making quiet book pages for my girls for Christmas and a few other random projects.
And my eldest turns 4 next month and wants a ninja turtles party so I will also be sewing up turtle shells and masks for everyone as party favours .

 

[tcinks]

Hope everyone is doing well and has a wonderful Christmas!

Fleur! I've been waiting on an update from you for months!! How are you doing??

 

[kdmalk]

Just wanted to give a quick update!

E was born on 12/23 at 9:32pm. Almost 24 hours to the minute after my water broke. 7lbs 4oz and 20.75 inches long.

Would love to hear from everyone else!

 

[tcinks]

He's precious! Congrats Kylee! How was the birth? How has your first week of mommyhood been?

 

[NDH]

congratulations Kylee!

I am doing well - 29 weeks today and can't believe how close I am to the end now!

 

[KTJ006]

YAY Kylee!! He was early, right? I remember you having a January due date. He is soooooo precious!!

Natalie - glad you're doing well. Do you have an inkling as to the gender? You're almost at the end too!

Terrissa - how are you? How's the foster stuff coming along? How are you feeling?

How is everyone else? I'll be 13 weeks on Saturday. So far, so good. Slowly starting to feel better. Still taking things cautiously and trying not to think about anything.

 

[kdmalk]

My doc went back and forth between a c section like 5 times in 10 minutes because he was having heart rate drops with contractions. I started dilating really fast after sitting at a 3 all day, so he just didn't like that. Once the doc turned off my pitocin, he got comfy again so I was able to have a vaginal delivery.

Being a mom is definitely tiring! Being someone's sole source of food isn't very fun at 3am, but it is totally worth it. We sure do love our sweet boy!!! I struggled a bit with breastfeeding at the beginning, but we are all sorted out now.

Yes, he was early. My due date was 1/2... But I knew I wasn't going to make it that long as I got close to the end. I just had this feeling I wasn't going to make Christmas. Somehow that turned out to be right. Lol.

Happy to see everyone else is doing well. T, any updates on fostering?

 

[zaycain]

Kylee! Congrats! He's adorable. Why did you feel you were going to be early? Uncomfortable?

Did you take a breastfeeding class? I have one tomorrow so I can be prepared. I can't afford to formula feed so I really hope I can do it.

I'm 33 weeks. I feel good with minor ailments. Hemorrhoids and yeast infection. Fun stuff down there! I feel like i'm going to be late. Maybe I'm just hoping cause I want a leap year baby!

So good to hear from everyone else. T - How are you doing?

 

[tcinks]

I have been okay. Trying to figure out life right now. I feel like my faith is being put to the test. None of what I've planned is happening and I'm just in a place of waiting. Its been 6 months since Selah and I'm not pregnant again, when it happene so easily before. :/ Haven't heard anything from the state about foster care. You hear all about how there are so many children in need of homes, yet there are so many couples waiting to get licensed! Ugh. Anyway so since no kids are coming anytime soon , I think maybe it's time for me to look for a part time job. I can't count how many applications I sent in and haven't found a thing. I don't understand why it seems like I'm just stuck and everyone around me is moving forward in life. Both our sisters are pregnant and have young children, and the same with all our friends. We are just feeling so incredibly alone. I'm trying to stay positive but it's hard sometimes, you know.

Zaycain, your baby will be here in no time! Yay

 

[NDH]

Yay Zaycain! Not long to go. The breastfeeding class will be great - I've never attended one but I've demo'd at a few .

Katie I've felt boy from the beginning, but I recently fell in love with a girl name (Jubilee) and I'm now hoping for another girl so I can use it. Haha.

Terrissa great big hugs headed your way. Everything hoyve been through is hard enough in its own let alone to have your sister and SIL both pregnant at the same time too. I hope you're blessed with another bfp very soon, and I can't understand what's taking so long to become foster carers either - how frustrating!

 

[zaycain]

T - I was in that same boat last year. Everyone was moving on.. buying houses, moving up in their jobs, having kids.. being grown up and I felt stuck and stagnant, having gone through a bad car accident and a miscarriage. I couldn't figure out why God was holding me back.

It turns out the miscarriage actually put me in a better position. Financially my husband and I aren't great right now.. but, because we are having the little one a little later, people have been giving us crazy hand-me-downs, offering childcare and my job is able to slow down at the right time. It's a little crazy how well it's working out and had we had our little pickle in June there would have been no way my business would have survived.. and even my marriage would have suffered, which is my worst nightmare.

I am no way saying that going through what you've gone through is a good thing. It hurts.. and it's super painful... but I hope this gives you a little hope.

*BIGGG HUGG**

How are you and hubby? Are you two doing well as a unit?

 

[jlw617]

Hi ladies! I haven't gotten on in a while, seemed like no one was getting on anymore...zay you're so close now! Make sure you post pics! Kylee-he is beautiful! Congrats!!!Terissa-keep your faith, I know it's tough, have you thought anymore about fostering? Katie-I hope you are doing well! Miss talking to you ladies!

 

[tcinks]

Hey! How are you? I've been missing everyone on here, too Anyone know what's going on with Fleur? She just disappeared!

I'm okay. It's been 7 months and still nothing. :/ We have talked more about fostering and I think we're giving it another month (dh REALLY wants to keep trying, but it's getting to be really hard on me).

I started a temporary full time that keeps me pretty busy , so I'm grateful for that. I don't have so much time to just sit around being sad.

 

[NDH]

Glad you're keeping busy Terressa. I can't believe there's still no news on the fostering front! I'm also sorry you're still waiting for your rainbow

I hope everyone else is well. Still plodding along over here. Pregnancy is very uneventful which is a good thing. I have my first and only ultrasound coming up next Thursday at 35 weeks to check placenta location and make sure it's not going to interfere with a homebirth, though they'll also do a quick check for major abnormalities as well. All I care about is the placenta site, but I couldn't get them agree to check *only* that.

 

[kdmalk]

I can't believe you will be 35 weeks soon, Nat! That's crazy! Hope the scan goes well and you are able to have your home birth.

And zay! You are early term! E was born at 38 weeks 4 days, so it's crazy to think you could have a baby at any time now. It all suddenly hit me around 37 weeks! Can't wait for an update in the next few weeks!

I have also missed everyone. I was thinking the other day that we have been the same group for over a year now! I really can't believe it has been that long. You ladies are amazing!

T, I will be hoping and praying this is your month. I am so sorry you are struggling to get pregnant again. I cannot imagine how frustrating it must be. Fingers crossed for a 2016 baby for you!!!!

Hi Jamie!!! How is Charlie?

 

[jlw617]

Charlie is doing good, I do have to keep reminding myself that he's a boy and was born a little early because he has been a little slower milestone wise than my girls but he still hitting them breast-feeding has definitely been a town but I'm so glad that I was able to this time!

 

[KTJ006]

Jamie if it means anything, our boy was definitely slower in the milestone front than my oldest. They just develop differently. And boy does he think differently too. He has quite the engineering mind and likes to figure out how things work. It's neat to see the difference between 2 genders.

T - don't lost hope! Remember it took me 13 months to even see a positive test! Looking back on it, I think I had a blood flow issue (which acupuncture helped clear up) and my body just wasn't ready. I know I've told you this before, but you birthed a baby...that is huge on your body! It truly needs time to bounce back as it went through quite an adjustment. You will get there!!

Glad to see some movement on this thread. I haven't popped on in a while - still trying to not think about things. We find out the gender on the 16th! I think if I get through that appointment ok I'll loosen up.

Anyone doing anything special for Valentines Day? I have never been a fan on the holiday. I'm in marketing so we look at it as a marketing scheme to get people to buy even more things they don't need...haha.

 

[kdmalk]

Hi, Kate! Glad to see you are doing well! Come back and let us know about your gender scan! Can't wait to hear!

We are doing nothing for Valentine's Day. Hubby got a bonus at work and we made the stupid decision to go buy ourselves Apple watches since they were on sale at Target. So we won't be spending any other money for a good long while! Lol. My parents are due to arrive in a few hours to come see Everett. They haven't been down in a month, so he is very different now and I am excited for them to see how huge he is! I also started working from home this week. I'll do that for about a month until he starts daycare on March 7. It's hard to get anything done! I planned to work 20 hours, but I barely got 18 this week. And that was a struggle. Maybe next week will be an improvement!

Ps- having a kid on your taxes isn't all it's cracked up to be. Well, for us anyway... We only got $1000 back this year. If we hadn't paid so much in student loan interest, we would have had to pay the state this year! Welcome to real adulthood! I guess it is just different this year because at least one of us has always been in school. But we both had full-time jobs all year for the first time last year and for whatever reason I guess we didn't withhold enough and when I put my info in, it ate like the entire return. I clicked the button that said "why did my refund go down?" and was rewarded with information that we probably moved tax brackets and had to pay at a higher rate for the first time. Sigh. Oh well!

Anything new with anyone else?

 

[zaycain]

Hi Everyone!

My princess arrived on 2/12 at 38+2. I swore it was just tough braxton hicks.. my contractions went from 7 minutes apart to 3 minutes apart in an hour. After 9 hours... and literally 2 pushes.. she came out. It was a great experience!

Swore up and down she was a boy though. Haha.

So.. nursing has been rewarding but challenging. We weighed her and apparently she's not eating enough from me alone.. so we are supplementing. Mostly with my own pumped milk but she needs some formula as well.

Also, Mommy Blues are no joke. I was crying 3 times a day until recently. My hormones have regulated.. but Im still a little fragile emotionally. Motherhood is scary!

How is everyone doing?