frsttimemama
Trying again w/ Baby #2!
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How did you find that out Amelia? I know it's hard, but don't blame yourself. It's no more your fault than it was my fault that our baby's cord didn't attach properly and got ripped off when my water broke.. and after having 21 ultrasounds, we didn't know that I should have had a C-section. Not. My. Fault. Not. Anyone's. Fault. Just like this is Not. Your. Fault. You can't blame yourself. Things just happen without explanation sometimes unfortunately. I think that's what makes it the hardest is not having a reason or explanation as to why something happens. When I read about it, it says that that the extra chromosome could come from either parent, not just you. And it also said that like my situation, there is not an increased risk that it will happen again. It's a fluke thing that happens in 1-2% of pregnancies, just like my situation with velamentous cord insertion with placenta previa. There is no rhyme or reason. There's no way to know that the extra set of chromosomes came from you. Two sperm could have fertilized the same egg just the same as the egg could have had 2 sets of chromosomes. Nature is quirky. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I don't understand why things happen the way they do, and I wish I had words to make it better. The not knowing why is the worst part for me.